Building Confidence in Yourself

March 10, 2020 by 3 Comments

Today, I’m sharing empowerment tips on building confidence in yourself.   Are you the kind of person that always wants to please everyone around you? That’s great, but it can also mean that you aren’t making yourself a priority.  Not making yourself a priority can  cause its own problems. First, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to put yourself first in life.  And, making sure that your needs are met is important.  Some people feel selfish when they do.

 

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Building Confidence in Yourself:

 

Consider Yourself  When Making Decisions

It’s always important to consider yourself when making decisions and going through life.  Ask how your decision will affect your mental and physical health.  Will it help relieve stress or cause?  Your mental health is as important as your physical health, and must be considered at all times.

 

Have Faith in What You’re Doing 

Having faith in your goals and the things you’re doing is important.  If you don’t believe in yourself who will?  Having faith will lead putting the time and energy into the steps that you need to take to achieve your goals.  When people see that you’re focused, they’ll respect that.  Most importantly, your children, family and friends will also see that you are making yourself a priority, and that is a great thing.

 

 

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Building Confidence in Yourself Requires You to Learn to Say No 

Learning to say no is so important.  It may take practice and may feel harsh at first, but you will eventually become more comfortable with your decision.  Saying no lets people know that you have your own life.  Give a simple explanation such as I’m busy or I already have plans and move on.  Don’t feel bad or continue to apologize for saying no.

 

Put Your Needs First

It’s sometimes necessary to put your needs and feelings above others.  When you sacrifice your own well being for others, it can leave you feeling exhausted.  For example, if you’ve been involved in an accident or other incident where you received a personal injury, don’t feel guilty.  Get the smartest personal injury attorneys in town to fight your case, and stop feeling guilty about the interests of those that caused your injuries.  This includes family and friends.  Take care of you, so that you will be able to take care of others.

 

Have Confidence in Yourself

Having more confidence in yourself and becoming a confident mom will change your outlook on life.  Becoming confident is not about being arrogant.  It’s about making sure you value yourself and your priorities.  Putting other people’s lives, goals and projects before your own can affect your confidence negatively.

 

Putting yourself first can be difficult.  But, there are ways in which you can start doing more to put yourself first.  Unfortunately, it may feel  strange at first. But, don’t feel guilty.  Just say no, follow my tips above and continue with your goals.

 

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How to Become a Confident Mom

February 6, 2020 by Leave a Comment

Today, I’m sharing empowerment tips on  how to become a confident mom.  In an ever-changing world, it is not easy staying on top of things. As a mother, you may feel a need to know everything there is on how to protect your children. You can run yourself in to the ground trying to stay on top of a full-time job, looking after the children and all the trials and tribulations that come with life.  Furthermore, you may want to maintain a social life.

Unfortunately, doing everything is impossible.  So, the more you try to do the more you will start to fray at the edges. Taking on too much will mean you forget about you.  And the longer this goes on, the more run down you will feel.  You must learn how to focus on what is essential.  Once you accomplish this, you will learn how to become a confident mom.

 

 

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How to become a confident mom:

 

Look after number one

You can’t live your life constantly running around after other people. You have to find time for you. This means taking time out of your day to have a quiet moment. You may find that doing a little meditation will help you.  It will enable you to think more clearly, and it will reduce stress. You can use it to discover the priorities in your life and what isn’t.   Also, looking after yourself means you need to eat healthily.  So, swap sugary food for more fruit and vegetables.  Exercise, it’s a great stress reducer.  And, it will help you to lose weight and keep it off.  Investing in a new wardrobe may also give you a much-needed boost too.  As a mom, if you are confident you can make better decisions for you and your family.

 

Say no to other people and focus on you 

No is a magic word!  If you start to say no you will unload stress.  Especially, if you feel you  are being taken advantage   Saying no will allow you to have more time to focus on things that will benefit you.  For example, starting a hobby.  Start by making a scrapbook.  Check out this scrapbooking website for ideas.  If you can think more creatively, you will be better equipped to deal with big events.

 

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Prioritize

If you can focus on what’s important and learn to say no, you can begin to streamline your life.  Cut out all the things that are a waste of time. We all do things that are unnecessary.  So, take control of the small things.  The more significant life events will become easier to manage.

 

Follow your instincts

No one knows your life and your family like you do. The world can be a confusing place if you allow it.  As a result, follow your gut.  If you do, you will feel better and more confident as a result.

 

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12 Motivation Ideas for Women

May 23, 2019 by Leave a Comment

Having confidence or self-esteem issues? You’re not alone. Today, I’m sharing tips on motivation ideas for women.   First, stop wondering how to empower yourself and start implementing our these empowerment and motivational tips.  Yes, start thinking about that.  Unfortunately, we can lose ourselves when we become wives and mothers.  We wake up wondering what happened to us?  Where and when did we lose who we were as a woman and human beings.

Shamelessly, I lost myself years ago and became a shell of a woman.  Being functionable was about all I could manage to do each day.  I was simply going through a routine day after day.  Finding myself again became a priority, and I vowed never to loose my way again.  I am happy to say that I reached my goal and have never looked back.  I focused on this Bible Verse, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:13 (NIV).

 

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Additionally, I changed my habits and thought process.  Your attitude and your thinking is everything.  I realized that I was just as important as those that I loved and took care of.  And, I was just as deserving of love, time and attention as they were.  Furthermore, I realized that we all have a purpose.  But, unless we take the time to meditate and take care of ourselves we could miss our calling.  How to empower yourself  should become a priority in taking back your life.

Here are a few motivation ideas for women:

 

  • Learn to say no – Some where I read that No is a complete sentence.  Actually, I liked the concept and adopted it.  Saying no doesn’t have to be a long drawn out explanation.  Just say no.  You will find it empowering.
  • Start speaking up – Next, speak up.  If you don’t nobody will hear you.  Learn to voice your opinions, wants and needs.
  • Enhance Your Education – Education is power.  Take a few classes, which could lead to the degree that you always wanted.
  • Have a fixed income – Furthermore, get a part time  job or learn to make money from home.  Contributing to the household or being able to treat yourself and your kids is an exhilarating experience.
  • Remove yourself from domestic violence –  Furthermore, learn your value.  If you are being abused in anyway, you must remove yourself from the situation.  Come up with a plan to get out with your children safely.  Call 1-800-799-7233 for assistance.
  • Stop any harassment or shaming – Don’t allow anyone to make you feel bad about yourself or bully you.  Speak up, and take any necessary action to eliminate the behavior.
  • Set standards for yourself – Most importantly, when people see that you have standards and don’t lower them, they raise to your level or leave.  If they choose to leave, let them.
  • Adopt a positive attitude – Also, people gravitate to those who have a positive outlook on life.
  • Assess your friendships and Associates – So, take a look at your friends and relationships.  Are you associating with those who you strive to be like or have the same goals and ambitions as you?  If not, you may want to change your circle.
  • Start taking care of yourself – Eating right and exercising is imperative to feeling good about yourself and improving your health.
  • Learn the meaning of respect – Most importantly, learn to respect yourself.  When you do, others will respect you too.
  • Renew Your Faith –  Last, learn to believe in something or someone other than yourself.  Having faith to get you through the turbulent times in your life and giving thanks when you’re blessed is important.

 

Finally,  learning how to motivate and empower yourself is a choice.  You can remain in your current situation unhappy, feeling weak and abused or you can take your power back.  Each of us are where we are because of choices that we make.  Let that sink in for a few minutes.  Only you can make the changes needed to reach your goals, raise your self-esteem and become physically and emotionally.  Nowhere is it written that we have to lose ourselves because he have a job, husband, kids, not where we want to be financially, gained weigh.  Whatever you have going on you can change it.

You must learn to play the hand that you are dealt or you will get played by life.  Get in the game, and start taking small steps to making changes in your life.  Motivation ideas for women is a good start.

Also, you may also like:  Repairing Strained Mother Daughter Relationships or Keeping Your Emotional Health.  

 


 

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6 Tips To Boost Your Self Esteem

May 14, 2019 by

Today, I’m sharing tips on how to boost your self-esteem. So, do you need a self-esteem boost?  A self-esteem boost is a great way to become empowered again and renew your faith.  At one point in my life I saw myself as an attractive, sexual, and vibrant woman.  I looked in the mirror one day and I realized that I had bags under my eyes, more gray hair, and I looked tired.  I wondered what had happened. When I looked back over the years I realized that I had lost myself.  I had lost myself while I worked diligently to be a good mother, I was divorced and was pulling double duty with most things.  

 

 

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I had become a wife, mother, taxi driver, nose wiper, chef, CEO, house keeper, medicine dispenser, CFO, and it all led to exhaustion.  Being a mother has been my greatest joy.  But, it requires so much.  Even when we think we can’t do it anymore or we have nothing else to give, we reach down and find more and do more.  As women we can become so entrenched in our roles that we can loose ourselves along the way.  We wake up one morning, and wonder what happen to our self-esteem.

So, I had my house remodeled several years ago.  My main focus was the master bath. I have a huge garden tub that I wanted to refresh.  Additionally, the shower needed a makeover.  So, I decided to install a rain shower head.  And, I tiled around the vanity, shower and tub.

I stood in stores for hours looking until I found the perfect tile.  I even had a seat constructed in my shower so I could carefully shave my legs, and a heated ceramic tile floor installed.  After the project was finished, I surrounded my tub with beautiful candles and spa towels.  It was my favorite room in the house.  It’s funny, I can’t remember the last time that I soaked in that tub.  Let alone sipped a cup of tea and enjoyed the flicker of the flames on the candles. You may be wondering what I did to get back on top.

 

How to Boost Your Self-esteem: 

 

1.  Know that you’re important – You’re an entity in your home too, and it’s okay to love yourself. Make time to do the things that you enjoy such as having a glass of wine, scrapbooking, reading, cross-stitching, watching your favorite TV show, or playing a computer game. Whatever you enjoy, take time to enjoy it.

2.  It’s okay to not respond to every need that everyone else has – Trying to please very one will wear you out, lead to stress, and health problems. Remember you need your rest too.

3.  Accept responsibility for where you are now –  Don’t blame your kids or your husband, you have the power to say I’m tired I need to rest, I need help or I need time for myself and take it.

 

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4.  Become determined and self-reliant – Do what you can around your house, rather than sitting around waiting on your husband or significant to do everything for you. Take the stress off yourself because you’re waiting for someone to complete a project for you. It could also take the stress of your husband or significant other too.  This includes painting a room, building those raised garden beds, painting the deck furniture, cleaning out the garage etc. There’s some great bloggers out there that can show you how.

5.  Stop trying to take on everything – There are no shortcuts in life, it can be brutal at times.  We must learn to let things go, take a deep breath and exhale. Set priorities and learn to walk away when things get overwhelming. Tomorrow is another day, you can get it done then.

6.  Budget your money and treat yourself  – If you are a SAHM, get a pay check for your work inside the home. Purchase a bouquet of flowers for yourself or treat yourself to a manicure, pedicure or facial. Not your thing, buy a new dress and have a monthly date night with your husband or significant other. It will recharge your batteries!

It’s important to reclaim your self-worth and start treating myself like the queen that your are. I have learned that it’s okay to make myself number one occasionally.  Being mom, wife, and grandmother are wonderful roles, but we should never loose ourselves. They aren’t inclusive of who we are.  We hope that you have found our tips on how to boost your self esteem helpful.

 Please leave us a tip on how you boost your self-esteem. We may want to incorporate your tip into our routine.

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How to Build Confidence in Your Relationships

April 13, 2019 by

Are you built on a solid foundation?  Recently, I had a conversation about being successful in relationships and in life.  I remembered a quote from many years ago, “If it’s not build on the right foundation it won’t stand.”  I always believed the quote was so fitting, especially when it pertains to relationships.   I started thinking about the many people that I’ve encountered over the course of the years.  Some of my relationships/friendships have withstood the test of time and some were temporary.  I know that those that didn’t last weren’t build on the right foundation, at least not for me.   Today, I’m going to share a few tips that will help empower you and teach you how to build confidence in your relationships.

 

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I see my house, me, as having 3 major components. The first is my foundation. My foundation is what keeps me standing.  It’s what allows me to bend, but not break. It’s what allows me to be able to weather storms when they hit. My foundation is my values that I’ve worked to develop over the years.  My values change, but they have always allowed me to remain steadfast and not waiver.  These tips will teach you how to build confidence in your relationships:

  • Assertive – I have learned to assert myself over the course of the years.  I’ve worked on speaking my mind, but doing it in a tactful way.
  • Open-minded – I’ve learned to accept people for who they are. They may not think the way I do and they may not live their life the way I do, but I’ve learned to let people be people.  I don’t need to socialize, be friends or have a relationship with them.  People are going to be who they are and I just don’t expend time and energy trying to change one thing about them.  I don’t sleep with them nor do I depend on  them for my lively hood, so they can kick rocks.  I just remove myself and continue with my life.
  • Faith – It’s important that I believe in someone other than myself and I never waiver from my Faith.
  • Self-Reliance – Self-reliance is important to me and one that I don’t waiver from.  I want to be able to sustain me and mine, and never have to rely on other people to keep a roof over my head, feed, cloth or sustain me in anyway unless it’s my husband.  Since I don’t have one, I work to take care of me.  I have the ability to do just that, so why should I take advantage of other people to do what I can do for myself.  If I’m going to teach others to be self-reliant, I must practice what I preach.  This tip is imperative when thinking about how to build confidence.
  • Honesty – Another value that I will not waiver on.  I believe that a person’s word is their bond.  If you can’t live up to your words, it falls into the same category as being unreliable. You can’t be trusted, so what’s the point.
  • Diligence – Remain steadfast and never give up.  This attitude will lead to you achieving your goals and ultimately your success.
  • Resourceful –  You must build resources in order to be successful.  In my opinion, you build resources so you can build comrade and create great things together or assist one another in reaching a common goal.
  • Real – The only fake thing that I like is the gel coating on my nails.  Other than that, I’m real and will remain real for the rest of my life.  If you can’t be real, you can’t show people who you really are.  You can count on what I say, and you can count on it being the truth.  At least my truth.

 

My second level is my frame.  I’m robust!  I’m thick enough where I can’t be snapped.  Within my frame is my goals, my decision making skills, my education and training.  Basically, my repertoire. My skills for survival and success.  The lessons and skills that I use to raise and assist my family as well as mentor and lead others.  I work continuously to enhance these skills.  The world changes constantly, so it’s important that we all stay on our game.

Education is the key to success.  It doesn’t have to be a formal education, you can educate yourself through on-line courses.  Furthermore, I believe life is the greatest teacher.   There are many who have been successful without a college degree.  Additionally, you don’t have to have a 4 year degree to be successful either.   You can obtain an Associates and do great things in your life.  It’s all about your ability to seek and obtain.

Most importantly, my frame includes my personality and how I see the world.  My approach to life and my belief system.  I have set high standards for myself.  And, I work everyday to maintain what I have accomplished and continue to reach for what I haven’t.

Last is my frame out.  How I present myself, my frame and my values to the world.  You can acquire education and possess skills, but if you can’t put it together for the benefit of yourself, your family and make a contribution to society what good is it.  I’m thankful that I have worked toward everything that I have.  It empowers me to assist others in receiving theirs as well.   When you feel good about yourself, the sky is the limit.

How to build confidence in your relationships is something to ponder?  What is your foundation built on and what do you include in your frame out? Everyone doesn’t have to be built on the same foundation nor do we have to have the same frame or frame out.  That’s what makes us individuals.  Just make sure that your foundation is solid and it won’t crack when you encounter a storm.



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Staying True To Youself When You Become A Mother

February 28, 2019 by Leave a Comment

Today, I’m sharing tips on how to stay true yourself.  One of the biggest challenges for new and experienced mothers is the struggle to retain a sense of self.  In fact, it can seem incredibly difficult staying true to yourself when you become a mother.  But, empowering yourself if you have a family to take care of is a must.  Fortunately, there are some strategies you can use to help with this.  Yes, you are mom, but you are so much more as well.

 

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Staying true to yourself:

 

Outside Interests and Hobbies

One thing that can help in staying true to yourself when you become a mother is to set aside some time for regular hobbies and interests.  Furthermore, look for hobbies that take you outside of the home. In fact, this is important for moms that choose to stay home full-time to look after their kids.   Without additional interest, their lives can quickly be over with housekeeping and childcare tasks.

Furthermore, don’t see attending a book club, an art class, or the movies once a week as a luxury.  Instead, see it as a vital way to balance your responsibilities and life.  Always remain true to your own personal identity and needs.

 

Challenge Your Brain 

While taking care of your kids can be incredibility fun and rewarding, many women that are used to having high powered career miss the challenge and mental stimulation that work provides.

In fact, there are activities that you can get involved in that can counteract this mental boredom. One is to work part-time.   Something that allows you to strike a balance between taking care of the kids and having adult conversations and interactions.  Of course, working part-time is also a good way to bring extra income into your household.  And, it ensures your career stays on track too.

Another idea is studying for nursing degrees online.  Not only is it high level, the reward are great.  It will provide the mental stimulation you crave, and you can fit your studies around your family responsibilities.  Online courses allow you to have the best of both worlds, and stay true to yourself.

 

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Non-Mommy Friends

It’s a fact, having another mom as a friend can be a real lifesaver.  After all, who understands being woken up in the middle of the night five times for a feeding or the trials and tribulations of potty training?

However, when your goal is to stay true to yourself as a mother, it can also be useful to spend some time with your non-mommy friends.  In fact, it tends to be people that you have met through school, college, work or hobbies that best remind you of pre-mommy persona. Something that can be incredibly refreshing if you feel as if your identity is being swallowed up by your role as mom.

 

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How to Find Balance in Your Life When You Become a Mother

January 27, 2019 by Leave a Comment

Motherhood comes with a myriad of emotions and expectations.  Society pressures women to become fantastic mothers.  However, there are effects that most of us do not anticipate.  As a result, you may wonder how to find balance in your life once you become a mother.

The role “mother” or even “wife” causes us to overshadow other aspects of our womanhood.  If you feel you have lost yourself and can only talk about yourself as either a mother or wife, it’s time to step back and start empowering yourself again.  Assess how you got there, and than figure out how to find balance in your life again.

 

 

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It is all about the kids

Until children are able to take care of themselves, a mother is left to pour into their life constantly.  Furthermore, they require nothing in return. This one-sided relationship can leave a mother with no energy for herself.  There is a beauty in the selflessness of motherhood.  However, just because you become a mother doesn’t mean you stop being a women or having needs, wants and desires.

If you feel you are missing something in your life, think about what changes you can make. That does not automatically mean diverting attention from your children.  But, you can find pockets of time where you can be alone before the kids wake up.  This may mean getting up a little early or making time for yourself while they’re in school or after bedtime.   Most importantly, find something to do that you love.  It could be pottery or volunteer work.  Make it about you.

Your career was a big deal or still is

When you meet someone, after asking their name, what question do you ask next?  If you ask what they do and they are a CRA tax audit Hamilton professional what feelings do you get?  Society has conditioned us to place a high premium on what we do in life.  When you become a mother, things change.  When you are devoted to your children you can become bored and lonely.  You may find that you are unable to relate unless you’re talking about your role as a mother and your children or husband.

However, it is vital to remember that your career is not what defines you.  Just as you are not the total of who your children are.  Challenge yourself to find commonalities that don’t make you feel awkward.  Own who you are and wear it boldly.  You aren’t here to impress others, just be the best you that you can be so you can find balance in your life.

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How to Learn More About Yourself

October 1, 2018 by Leave a Comment

Learning more about yourself is always a good thing.  It can enhance your career prospects or help you get insight into how you can be a better person.   During your journey, you may end up unearthing a skill that you never knew existed.  Most importantly, you may be able to use that ability to help your future.  However, you must enter into the world of  self-discovery in order to learn more about yourself and become self-empowered:

 

 

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 Push yourself out of your comfort zone

 You’re never going to unearth any skills that you may have lying under the surface if you don’t find a way to bring them out.  As a result, you have to start finding your way into alien territories and push yourself to enhance. 

Quite simply, this means stepping out of your comfort zone and trying something new. This could mean doing taking on different tasks at work set to taking on new and exciting challenges with friends.  For example, such as entering an Escape Room.  An Escape Room is where you can play games and solve puzzles with others.  Each room has its own storyline.  You have 60 minutes to search for clues and solve the puzzles to earn your freedom and escape the room!  It’s an opportunity to find make new friends and to do something different.  Taking on new tasks allows you to offer your skills or assistance on a new project.  Think about your knowledge and skill and put them to use.  Doing so will help you learn more about yourself.  

 Adhere to your body clock

 You may have been told from a young age that “the early bird catches the worm.”  But, you don’t necessarily have to get up early in the morning in order to be successful.  Everybody’s body clock is different.  For some people, getting up later or even during the day is just more natural. So, if you feel like getting up early does nothing at all to help you to be proactive then try getting up a bit later.  

 Listen to your gut

 Start listening to those gut feelings you get in certain situations.  It’s your intuition raising red flags so you can assess what’s happening.  Most of the time it’s a warning about something or someone.  If something doesn’t sit right follow your instinct.  

 Finally, take heed and implement these steps into your life so you can learn more about yourself. 

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5 Things About Single Parents You Should Know

June 30, 2018 by Leave a Comment

Today, I’m sharing parenting advice on things about single parents you should know. Being a single parent is tough. It’s all the trials of parenthood, but the load is double and carried whether by choice or not. Furthermore, if a parent is single due to a separation or divorce there’s income to worry about as well.

According to Miller & Steiert, P.C., a family attorney in Denver, “Child support is determined here in Colorado by the calculation of each party’s gross income.  This includes the calculation of the amount of overnights that each party has with the children or child, the amount of money that’s spent for daycare, for health insurance, for extraordinary expenses.”

 

 

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Even if an ex-spouse is required to pay out child support, getting an ex-partner to fork out payments might be a source of stress, too.  So, there are a few questions single parents wish you would stop asking.  Here’s the rundown that will keep your next conversation with a single parent from going into awkward territory.

 

  1. Stop asking if they’re ok.

The most well-meaning question of them all, but single parents have heard it from every person in their life.  They don’t need to hear it from you too over and over again.

“I don’t know how you manage it when I can barely manage my kids with a partner.” This might be your attempt at a compliment, but it won’t sound as such to the person you are talking to. Instead, it might come across like you are boasting about being in a relationship.

Empty compliments bring nothing to a relationship. If you want to compliment the other parent, or if you truly admire them for the way they are handling their children, get specific. And then ask them how they handle certain situations that you find difficult. You might walk away with some tips that might work for your brood.

 

  1. Do not compare your weekend alone with their situation.

You find out that a mom you see regularly is a single mom.  You immediately feel like you can relate since your partner is away for the weekend. Do not go there.  It is not the same.

Managing on your own for one weekend does not compare to the workload that a single parent carries daily. Avoid voicing a comparison of your situations.  Unless you want to ruin all chances of a friendship or a friendly acquaintance.

Making good mom friends is hard enough. Your chances of gaining a buddy will be higher if you avoid this unintentional gaffe.

 

  1. It is none of your business why or how they became  single parents 

It is natural to be curious. But asking why and how a person became a single parent may feel intrusive, and downright rude.  Occasionally, you might come across a parent who does not mind sharing her story.  But as a rule, do not ask. When they are ready and feel comfortable they will tell you their story. Until then, talk about the things you have in common. Not the things that make you different.

 

 

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  1. Don’t try to set them up with your friends 

You have their best interest at heart, but just because they are single doesn’t mean that they are looking for love. Many women today are choosing to experience motherhood on their own.

The impression you give when you try to set someone up is that their life must be sad and lonely without a partner.  You are showing a narrow-minded view, and your statement suggest they must be miserable without a husband or a wife.

If the single parent asks for dating advice or makes it clear he or she is looking, then that’s the green light for you to trot out your single friends.

 

  1. Be helpful, parent to parent 

If it seems that interacting with single parents comes with navigating many potential landmines, it’s not.  You are both parents.  They get exhausted and want to ship their kids away to a grandparent just like you. They have parenting issues with their children, just like you.

So, if you really want to help talk to them parent to parent.  But do not offer advice because they are a single parent. Offer because they are a parent—and parenting is tough—single or not.  No further qualification necessary.

 

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9 Tips for Repairing Strained Mother and Daughter Relationships

June 11, 2017 by Leave a Comment

Mother and daughter relationships are sacred.  Both will be affected if there is a breach or tension.  If you are the daughter or the mother, these nine tips may be helpful in repairing strained mother-daughter relationships.  The first three tips will be helpful when there is a profound breakdown in the relationship.  The rest of the tips will help both of you relate to each other positively.  Lets get to the tips so you can become empowered in your relationships!

 

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However, both of you need to have at least some desire and willingness to work towards genuine reconciliation. If the relationship has become toxic, it may be best to refrain from further contact. It’s imperative that you protect yourself from further damage.  Assess your relationship and decided if you want to repair your relationship.  If so, use these mother and daughter relationships tips to help you move forward:

  1. Make a date to meet together…

First, call your mother or daughter and ask if the two of you can meet for coffee and chat. Depending on your circumstances, decide whether a public place such as a restaurant would be more convenient than meeting in one of your homes.  Don’t include other family members.

  1. Talk things through thoroughly…

Decide what you want to say before you get together. First, thank your mother (or daughter) for meeting you and assure her of your love. Tell her how much the relationship means to you and that by all means you would like to be reconciled with her again. Take ownership of whatever your part may have been in the breakdown. Be honest about whatever the issues are. This is not the time to let your ego get in the way.  If you really want the relationship to be restored it will require a degree of humility.

  1. Decide to go forward…

Both of you will need to make the decision to go forward together. That means putting the past behind you and letting go of whatever caused the break down.  You need to see the future as a blank page waiting to be filled with new stories and experiences in your unique relationship.

  1. Practice forgiveness…

When you have both decided to rekindle the connection, you need to be prepared to navigate the way.  Forgiveness is essential if you want to make any progress.  Remember, forgiveness does not mean that you are condoning or minimizing what happened.  Instead, it means that you decide to let the matter go.  As a result, you can let go of   torment and bitterness.  Forgiveness should be given and received regularly by both parties.

  1. Be realistic and clear about your expectations…

Unrealistic expectation cause disappointments and damage emotions. Sometimes for an adult daughter it is difficult to realize that her mom may not always be available to nurture or rescue her.  Furthermore, she may not be able to meet her needs on a daily basis.  And for moms it can be a shock when their daughters want to fly out of the nest and make their own way. Both of you need to adjust to what it means to have an adult relationship, with clear and realistic expectations.

  1. Learn to listen carefully…

Often the words you say is not what you’re really thinking and feeling. That is why it is so important that you learn to listen carefully. Try to reflect back what the other person is saying so that you can be sure you understand what she means.  At first your mom may sound overly critical.  However, when you realize how worried she is about your safety you may be able to recognize her love for you.

  1. Learn to communicate carefully…

Don’t expect the other person to be a mind reader.  We need to communicate carefully and clearly.  Be gentle as you speak your heart . Harsh words pierce deeply and can leave a painful wound, even if you didn’t mean it that way.

  1. Make time for each other…

One of the most common complaints from mothers is that their adult daughters no longer have time for them. However, it can work both ways. It takes wisdom to find the balance of knowing how much time to spend together.  How much is enough, and how much is too much. Too much togetherness can cause petty irritations to surface. Yet,  not enough togetherness leads to isolation and a disconnection.  So seek to find the healthy balance of what will work best for both of you.

  1. Know your boundaries…

Boundaries are essential for any good relationship.  This includes mother and daughter relationships. If there has been bitter arguing or name calling, make it clear that you will leave if that restarts. Once you have set a boundary, be ready to enforce it for your own mental and emotional health. With perseverance and love it is possible to repair and maintain the powerful and precious mother and daughter relationships.

Author Bio:-

Sylvia Smith is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.

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