Giving birth is a special event in a woman’s life.  Giving birth changes her role in her family from a wife or lover to that of a mother.  While you’re managing the children, the house, husband, and career, things can become overwhelming.  Moms strive to not lose themselves in the midst of all of it. Many of us, including myself, have seen our moms leave behind everything just to manage the kids and other domestic responsibilities.  They forget about themselves, their hobbies and who they are.

During my parent’s era, moms gave up a lot to give their children a better upbringing.   That was the norm. However, today we have lots of help from technology and loads of information at our fingertips that can help us keep track of our domestic chores while managing our work and self-integrity. By following these simple tips for new moms, women can prevent becoming their own worst enemy.  They can also learn to keep their passions and charm alive while being a great parent.

1. Hire help: The first principle to implement is to hire a babysitter or a weekly maid of. Being a mother will likely take all of your time. According to Happy Worker’s Mothering fun facts, moms have to stop 210 times in a day to attend to their toddlers! So if you are in that position, you deserve to have a day off.  Learn to relax or go off with your girls for a spa day.  Furthermore have dinner or drinks.

2. Have me time: To prevent yourself from becoming lost, you need alone time where you can be at peace.  Take the time to just contemplate on yourself and your life. This is the time where you think about your present and your future.  So, me time will allow you to realign with the person you are under all the different robes of responsibilities that you have to wear.  Furthermore, use this time to get in touch with your passions, inner desires, hobbies and interests. There may be times that you will have to say no to your boss, the nosy neighbor, your children and/or husband.  Let your husband take care of the kids. If you are happy, healthy and enthusiastic about your own life, you can be a good role model to your children.

3. Don’t multi-task: Women often embrace the multi-tasking label. However, scientists have revealed that no matter the gender, multi-tasking is not that great. Our brain’s wiring is such that we are much happier when we see a task right up to its conclusion. Multitasking has been proven to be bad for the brain impacting productivity and is more draining as it takes more energy to get back to the initial task.

4. Take care of your physical health: When you are physically stressed, it affects you and your family. If you don’t take care of yourself, you may become low on energy.  Also, it can grow into other complications and chronic illnesses. Find an exercise that you enjoy and one that will give you time to think.  For example, cycling or walking your dog will allow the mind to relax while you work your body. If you have gained extra weight, plan a workout to lose it in a healthy way. There are many online tools and mobile applications that will help you plan a weight loss regime according to your needs. Remember, just like you take care of your baby’s body you should also take care of your own. Have a morning pampering routine, indulge in intense exercises regularly, and rekindle any lost sexual intimacy with your partner.

Many mothers often end up judging themselves when they put their needs before the children. You are a caregiver, a guardian, and a parent.  However, you are entitled to take care of yourself too. So, don’t criticize yourself for being disorganized or inadequate.  You have been doing enough already, and a little self- love is not only good it is necessary.  We hope our tips for new moms have been beneficial.