Today, I’m sharing tips on how to boost your self-esteem. So, do you need a self-esteem boost? A self-esteem boost is a great way to become empowered again and renew your faith. At one point in my life I saw myself as an attractive, sexual, and vibrant woman. I looked in the mirror one day and I realized that I had bags under my eyes, more gray hair, and I looked tired. I wondered what had happened. When I looked back over the years I realized that I had lost myself. I had lost myself while I worked diligently to be a good mother, I was divorced and was pulling double duty with most things.
I had become a wife, mother, taxi driver, nose wiper, chef, CEO, house keeper, medicine dispenser, CFO, and it all led to exhaustion. Being a mother has been my greatest joy. But, it requires so much. Even when we think we can’t do it anymore or we have nothing else to give, we reach down and find more and do more. As women we can become so entrenched in our roles that we can loose ourselves along the way. We wake up one morning, and wonder what happen to our self-esteem.
So, I had my house remodeled several years ago. My main focus was the master bath. I have a huge garden tub that I wanted to refresh. Additionally, the shower needed a makeover. So, I decided to install a rain shower head. And, I tiled around the vanity, shower and tub.
I stood in stores for hours looking until I found the perfect tile. I even had a seat constructed in my shower so I could carefully shave my legs, and a heated ceramic tile floor installed. After the project was finished, I surrounded my tub with beautiful candles and spa towels. It was my favorite room in the house. It’s funny, I can’t remember the last time that I soaked in that tub. Let alone sipped a cup of tea and enjoyed the flicker of the flames on the candles. You may be wondering what I did to get back on top.
How to Boost Your Self-esteem:
1. Know that you’re important – You’re an entity in your home too, and it’s okay to love yourself. Make time to do the things that you enjoy such as having a glass of wine, scrapbooking, reading, cross-stitching, watching your favorite TV show, or playing a computer game. Whatever you enjoy, take time to enjoy it.
2. It’s okay to not respond to every need that everyone else has – Trying to please very one will wear you out, lead to stress, and health problems. Remember you need your rest too.
3. Accept responsibility for where you are now – Don’t blame your kids or your husband, you have the power to say I’m tired I need to rest, I need help or I need time for myself and take it.
4. Become determined and self-reliant – Do what you can around your house, rather than sitting around waiting on your husband or significant to do everything for you. Take the stress off yourself because you’re waiting for someone to complete a project for you. It could also take the stress of your husband or significant other too. This includes painting a room, building those raised garden beds, painting the deck furniture, cleaning out the garage etc. There’s some great bloggers out there that can show you how.
5. Stop trying to take on everything – There are no shortcuts in life, it can be brutal at times. We must learn to let things go, take a deep breath and exhale. Set priorities and learn to walk away when things get overwhelming. Tomorrow is another day, you can get it done then.
6. Budget your money and treat yourself – If you are a SAHM, get a pay check for your work inside the home. Purchase a bouquet of flowers for yourself or treat yourself to a manicure, pedicure or facial. Not your thing, buy a new dress and have a monthly date night with your husband or significant other. It will recharge your batteries!
It’s important to reclaim your self-worth and start treating myself like the queen that your are. I have learned that it’s okay to make myself number one occasionally. Being mom, wife, and grandmother are wonderful roles, but we should never loose ourselves. They aren’t inclusive of who we are. We hope that you have found our tips on how to boost your self esteem helpful.
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For someone that lives with a chronic illness and is emotionally sensitive, these are great tips!
This is one of my favorite posts from last week's linkup. I will have it featured during this week's linkup at http://www.beingfibromom.com The linkup starts tonight at 8 pm EDT. See you then!
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Thanks for stopping by Buba4Turtle. The tips are near and dear to my heart. They helped me turn my life around and now help me stay on track. I hope a few of them will help you in some way. Thanks for featuring my posts.
Great pointers! Spending an evening with old friends helps, too. It validates that you are a person worth knowing all those years and are worth spending time with.
Hi Kc. Yes, spending time with friends is an excellent tip. I need to spend more time with my friends. We've been friends since we were five, 50 years. Wow!