6 Reasons Learning to Forgive Is Good

 

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I’ve endured many hurtful events in my life.  They actually started in childhood.  Growing up in an alcoholic home, having an emotionally unavailable and abusive mother, being called names by others, teen pregnancy, and divorce added to my pain.   I remember being called names because of color, my hair, or because I was skinny.  There were times when I just didn’t feel loved or cared for.  On an emotional and psychological level, it leaves your hurt, angry,  and depressed.  It also causes you to lose your confidence, self esteem and faith.

Even at this stage of my life, a few of my relationships are rocky.  However, I have acquired the tools to deal with relationships and situations so they don’t cause emotional damage in my life.  For example, I have learned that forgiveness is a powerful tool to have in your arsenal.  I have learned that forgiveness is key in getting rid of baggage that most of us carry through life.

As a matter of fact, learning to forgive is the first step to empowering yourself.  It’s the first step in taking back what is rightfully yours, that is your life.  You have the right to live your life without being a victim in its entirety.  Without forgiveness, we continue to hold on to things that bind us to the hurt and pain that we endured.  There’s a saying, forgive and forget.  I won’t ever tell you to forget it, but I will say let it go and move on.

Why, because learning to forgive is a freeing experience.  Remove the weight of the burden you have been carrying for years with forgiveness.  Learning to forgive also provides the following benefits:

Moves You Forward – Once you learn to forgive, it frees you to move on with your life.  So, remove the shackles and the weight that once held you down.

Helps Heal Emotional Wounds –  Emotional wounds can be just as damaging as physical wounds.  I played the hurtful words that were said to me over and over again in my head.  It was like a broken record.  The words seep into your soul, and if allowed they will become your voice.

Empowers You – Forgiveness returns your power back to you.

Renews Your Faith – Forgiveness helps to re-establish your faith.  If you’ve left your church, return and join a bible study group.  Feeding your soul is important in your growth.

Forgiveness is About You – Forgiving your abusers/victimizers is not about them.  People don’t forgive because they believe their abuser is getting off the hook. Wrong!  You forgive so you can let yourself off the hook.  You free yourself from the secrets, shame, hurt and pain.

Brings a Sense of Peace –  Once you’re free from the people who hurt you, you will find peace.  Forgiveness allows a calm to enter your life, and it clears your head to make rational decisions for you and your family.

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Why Am I Thankful For the Stumbles In My Life

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Thanksgiving is upon us.  This time of year I slow down and take inventory of everything that I’m thankful for and why I’m thankful.  I strive to give thanks throughout the year, but I know that I don’t sing praises as often as I should.  When I started to write my list this week, I found that I was thankful for my stumbles.

Most people would find stumbles a strange thing to be thankful for.  The definition of stumble is to trip or momentarily lose one’s balance; to almost fall.  There have been times when I’ve stumbled and was able to catch myself or regain my balance.  Other times, I hit the dirt, floor or whatever was beneath me.

So, why am I thankful for the stumbles in my life. Because the stumbles have contributed to who I am and where I am today.  Stumbling is a part of the journey in this thing called life.  Those stumbles and failures caused me to have to get back up, brush myself off and try again.  You can’t reach the finish line of life without stumbling along the way.  When I look back on my stumbles,  I think about my attempt to walk in high heels.  When I first started wearing them, I had to practice walking in them.   I practiced, and eventually I became a master.  As a matter of fact, I can still wear them.  They may not be 4 – 5 inches at this point in my life, but I can still rock 2 – 3 inch heels.

I can also relate my stumbles to learning how to walk. I don’t remember learning to walk, but I do remember my daughter. When she was first learning how to walk, she stumbled a lot.  However, she reached a point where she figured out how to pull herself up and made another attempt at walking.  She saw the goal, and she was determined to reach it.  Sometimes the goal was a doll, a treat or me reaching out to her.  She saw walking as a means to get from Point A to Point B.

As a result, she learned to hold on to the tables, chairs or sofa.  Whatever she could grab to steady herself when she needed to, she took advantage of.  If there was nothing available, she learned to stop in her tracks so she could steady herself before she proceeded.  Eventually, she was able to reach her goals without losing her balance.

The same technique applies to life’s journey.  Another reason I am thankful for my stumbles is because our walk through life requires us to stumble so we can grow.  We become stronger in our purpose and learn along the way.  It requires us to assess our goal, steady ourselves when we become unbalanced, or pick ourselves up when we hit the ground.  Why am I thankful  for my stumbles?  Because they have helped me learn the following:

Endurance – Staying the course until I reached the goal.

Strength – I am thankful for never giving up, even when I thought I couldn’t go on.  My stumbles strengthen me and have made me a stronger person.

Compassion –  Being able to relate to other’s struggles and misfortunes because I have stumbled, has taught me compassion.

Empathy – Over the years I have learning to understand and relate to the feelings of others.  When you stumble, there are tons of emotions that go along with the struggle.  I learned that I wasn’t the only person who has stumbled or who is stumbling.  As a result, you learn to listen and empathize with others.

Determination – Adopting an attitude of never giving up.  Determination is needed to live, love and learn.

Knowledge – Learning from the stumble.  Why, how I regained my balance, and how I reached my goal in spite of the stumble(s).

Appreciation – You learn to appreciate everything you have because of the stumbles and struggles.  You learn to embrace them all, because they are a part of your story.

So, why am I thankful for my stumbles?  Many of us are embarrassed or ashamed of what we have gone through in life.  Because I am thankful for my stumbles, I no longer feel ashamed.  I encourage you to also embrace your stumbles and struggles.  They are a part of your story.

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Ask yourself, why am I thankful for my stumbles?  Make a list of them and be sure to give thinks for your journey.  You can download the worksheet here.  You may also like:  6 Tips to Boost Your Self-Esteem.

Why Putting Color In Your Diet Is A Good Thing

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First, did you know that fruit and vegetables that are brightly colored are packed with nutrients.  This includes green, orange, red, yellow, purple and blue products.  Brightly colored fruits and vegetables contain the most phytochemicals.  Phytochemicals, also called phytonutrients, are natural compounds that that are found in plants. Most importantly, phytochemicals also have antiviral, antibacterial and antioxidant benefits.  Putting color in your diet is a good thing.

Consuming nutritious fruits and vegetables, passes benefits on to us. This includes watermelon, tomatoes, peppers, strawberries, and the list goes on.  Furthermore, phytochemicals protect us against various ailments.  In addition, they help us to maintain good health. These nutrients regulate detoxification of enzymes and hormone metabolism.  Also, they stimulate the immune system.

Additionally, we should consume at least 5 servings of these fruits and vegetable every day. They can help to slow down the aging process.  And they help to reduce the risk of diseases such as high blood pressure, heart disease, and stroke.  Other risks they help reduce are cataracts, osteoporosis, urinary tract infections, and cancer.  In addition, making fruits and vegetables a part of your everyday meals, supplies nutrients essential to good health.  Fruits and vegetables reduce our calorie and fat intake.

Getting your daily recommended amount of fruits and veggies every day can be difficult. Fortunately, there are some strategies you can adopt to help achieve your goal.  Keep a range of brightly colored fruits and vegetables in your refrigerator.  Prepare them in advance to use in various dishes and stir fries.  You can also snack on vegetables such as carrots and celery with a healthy dip like hummus.

Drink pure fruit juices instead of flavored drinks and sodas.  Also eat fruits for dessert. When making a sandwich, go easy on the meat and include some veggies like lettuce, tomatoes, and peppers. You can also enjoy fresh fruit and vegetable smoothies for breakfast instead of filling yourself up with carbs.

For more information on the amazing benefits of eating a spectrum of colored fruits and vegetables, take a look at the infographic below.

Colours of Healthy Eating

 

Final Thoughts

We hope that our article on putting color in your diet was inspirational.   Eating a variety of different colored produce every day is an excellent way to take care of your physical and mental health.  So, include a few of our recommendations with each meal or snack.  We suggest that you consume some fruits and vegetables from each color group.  Last, you will soon be on the path to better health and start to see visible results.

 

Bio

Olivia writes on health and food at Everynutrient.com!  You can find her article on the yoli diet and other articles on health and fitness for people from all walks of life. Every Nutrient focuses on effective changes that you can make to live a healthy and fulfilled life!

 

17 Ways Moms Can Relax and Refuel

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As moms, nose wipers, chauffeurs, chef, referees and a host of other positions there are times that we need to refuel.    Often, we don’t take the time to regroup emotionally and or physically after our everyday responsibilities.  Being a mother becomes a most important position, and we give it our all.  We usually neglect our health, walk around sleep deprived, eat poorly, and forget that we need to feed our spirit.

Also, there’s nobody to blame, we just don’t make ourselves  a priority.  Our life simply becomes habit.  It’s equivalent to the alarm going off at the same time every morning.  We can learn to make ourselves a priority. Here’s a few ways moms can relax:

  1. Have a Spa Day – First, make an appointment to have a facial or pedicure and manicure.  I love having a facial as much as I love getting a pedicure and manicure.  Have a limited budget,  spend the afternoon soaking in the tub.  Burn some candles, diffuse your favorite oil, play some relaxing music, and enjoy a cup of tea or your favorite wine.  Also, check out The Ordinary Serum Reviews to learn more about their Ordinary Skincare Serums.  Home facials are just as glorious as the salon’s.
  2. Take a long walk – Second, hit the walking trail or take a long walk around the neighborhood, park or other scenic route.
  3. Go for a long drive – Next, grab your favorite CDs or turn on your favorite radio station.  Enjoy the scenery and just clear your head.  A change of scenery is a good thing.
  4. Spend the day watching your favorite movies – So, I love watching old movies.  Grab yours too, along with  your favorite snacks and a box of tissues for those heart wrenching movies.  Just enjoy the day laughing and crying.
  5. Order take out  – Curl up with a good book or movie.
  6. Catch up on those free Kindle ebooks or your magazines – Next, curl up in front of the fire, relax on the deck, or under a tree and read a good book.  Not interested in reading, flip through your favorite magazines.
  7. Treat yourself – Furthermore, treat yourself.  Order your favorite latte, ice cream, sushi bar or whatever your favorite may be.  No sharing, this is just for you.
  8. Spend the day at a museum – Check out the art museum or whatever museum is close to you.  Spend the day admiring artwork or history.
  9. Take a bike ride – Pull out the bike and take a ride through the park or on your favorite bike trail.
  10. Do crafts – So, if you have a hobby spend some time working on it.  If you don’t have one, now is a good time to start one.  They’re great stress relievers.  Crochet that scarf or hat, finish a scrapbook or sew a new dress.
  11. Set up a girls night – Whip up a few appetizers and cocktails, and laugh until your heart is content with the girls.
  12. Catch up on the sermons at church that you’ve missed or read the bible – Great way to renew your spirit and relieve some stress.
  13. Hike – Furthermore, grab you hiking gear and hit the trails.  It’s great exercise and clears your head.
  14. Sleep – Here’s an idea, put your best sheets on your bed and stretch out under your favorite comforter.  Take a long and much needed nap.
  15. Shop – Go shopping for bargains at your favorite stores.
  16. Skype/FaceTime – Fix your favorite beverage and chat with a friend.
  17. Talk a walk on the beach – Last, clear your head and enjoy the ocean breeze.

Most importantly, taking care of yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually is a must.  Because we are committed to our families, we must stay healthy in all areas of our life.  So, we hope that you found our list of ways moms can relax helpful.  Also, being healthy requires us to clear our mind, rest and stay focused.  Just as important, pick out one thing off the list each week.  As a result, take a few hours for yourself and don’t feel guilty.  Finally, be sure to tell your friends about our list of ways moms can relax too.  You will start the week relaxed and refueled.

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5 Fashion Tips for Busy Moms

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Most moms spend a considerable amount of time taking care of the needs of her family, and in the process she ignores her own needs. She just doesn’t have the time or the energy to perk herself up on a daily basis.  Deep down all moms want to look and feel great. Luckily, it’s easy to look great in less time and without any drama with our tips! Below are a few of the most fundamental fashion tips for busy moms:

#1 Keep it Simple

Have you ever wondered how celebrity moms manage to look so trendy?  They ae just as busy in their personal and professional lives as you, but they always manage to keep personal appearances.

The secret lies in their simplicity. They love keeping their daytime look simple without looking untidy. Keep your look simple, from makeup to accessories to clothes. Don’t overdo any of your pieces. Opt for stylish basics, they really do go a long way in the life of a busy mom.

#2  Add More Solids In Your Wardrobe
Most women don’t want to wear a dress to the office because she knows that she cannot wear it again for several weeks. We think that someone at work might notice the last time that it was worn.

Therefore, it is recommended that you invest in solids.  Solids are less remembered than prints. A good black jacket will be a blessing here.

#3 Put Some Thought Into Your Bag

The kind of a bag you carry speaks in volumes about you. Go for a bag that suits your personality and taste. Don’t forget to explore the world of clutches. Look for designer clutch bags, particularly the Crystal Clutch Bag.  This clutch is perfect for formal occasions or girls night out.

#4 Simple Shoes

Busy moms should opt for comfortable shoes only. They don’t have to be tennis shoes or rubber flip flops. Canvas skimmers are a good option to indulge in.  They come in varied colors and prints, from florals to plaids. They are also inexpensive and comfortable.

#5 Apply Natural Makeup 
Most busy moms don’t wear a lot of makeup, especially if they spend the majority of their time at home with the kids. If you do decide to wear makeup, use only natural-based products. Keeping a basic makeup kit will come in handy.  A tinted moisturizer with zinc induced SPF,  lip gloss, and mascara will do a great job in keeping your skin healthy and glowing.

Don’t forget to apply a concealer around your nose and eyes before stepping out.  Applying these basics will take five minutes or less.

It is very easy for fashion to take a backseat in a busy mom’s life; however, don’t let fashion overwhelm you.  Look for ways to boost your look and confidence by employing various fashion tips into your daily life.

Author Bio:
Sloane Beck is a fashion blogger by interest and a creative designer by profession. She lives and breathes fashion which reflects in her brand – Alysse Sterling, a line of stylish women clutches. “Live, laugh, and let your style be expressed” is her motto for life.

Guest Post – 5 Time Saving Skincare Tips

 

Skincare Tips For Busy Moms

 

Even though motherhood is one of the most beautiful things in the world, it can be very stressful.  Sleepless nights often take their toll on your skin and the area under the eyes.  We all know that a lack of sleep can make you look tired and dehydrated.  There’s good news, you can stay healthy and gorgeous no matter what. Here are five useful tips on how to accomplish that and save your precious time:

 

Tea Bags to the Rescue

Every mom’s worst enemy is puffy dark circles.  Caffeinated green tea bags is the solution.  They do wonders for the under eye area.  Just soak them in hot water for a few minutes, and let them cool to room temperature before squeezing out the liquid.

Next, close your eyes, place the bags on them, and voila!  The caffeine will increase your circulation, and help get rid of the puffiness. Add a touch of concealer later on and you’re good to go!

 

Don’t Forget to Moisturize

Moisturizing should be an essential step in every woman’s skincare routine.  This is true for both young moms and those over 40. As soon as you reach a certain age, you really can’t over moisturize. Keep this in mind, and don’t skip this step at any cost.

Additionally, eye and face cream should be applied every night after cleansing. It’s important that you extend skincare routine to your neck and décolletage. These areas, too, need to be hydrated and well-nourished. In order to save time, get a tinted moisturizer instead of foundation and use it on daily basis.  Lancôme Hydra Zen Anti-Stress Moisturizing Cream  is an excellent moisturizer. 

 

Keep Your Skin Care Products at the Nightstand

The fact that you are a mom now doesn’t mean that you should ditch a skincare routine which works for you. We know that you often feel exhausted, and that using all those cleansers, toners, creams, and masks can be really time-consuming.  Keep moisturizers, toners and creams on your nightstand.

 

DIY Homemade Masks Do Wonders

Depending on your skin type, you can make a perfect face mask using the ingredients you already have in your kitchen! Banana is amazing when it comes to moisturizing, whereas milk provides a fresh and rejuvenated look for your tired skin. Plain yogurt is very handy, too, since it cleanses skin and tightens pores. When it comes to eggs, yolk is fantastic for dry skin, whereas egg whites do wonders for oily type.

However, if you are not keen on mixing all those ingredients all by yourself, you can always choose Natural Clay Face Mask  are fantastic for every skin type. 

 

A Good Self Tanner Will Do the Trick

Sun-kissed skin has always been very attractive, and healthy glow is surely one of the things you want in your life – especially during summer. However, exposing your skin to harmful sun rays is not the best idea, especially if you hate re-applying sunscreen every two hours. You can always choose a moisturizer with self-tanning components, which takes only 5 minutes to apply and provides a gorgeous and vibrant look to your skin. Facial self tanners are also a good idea, since these will give a golden touch to your face.

The role of a mom doesn’t have to take its toll when it comes to your skin – you can take good care of it even when you’re too busy running around. It’s important to establish an effective routine that will save you some precious time, which will allow you to look fabulous even after a baby nightshift.

 

Author BIO:

Sophia Smith is Australian based beauty, fashion and lifestyle blogger. She is also very passionate about DIY projects, latest fashion trends and organic beauty products. Sophia writes mostly in beauty and fashion related topics, mainly through blogs and articles. She is regular contributor at High Style Life.

 

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Slay Your Dragons With Faith

 

 

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Do you remember the fairy tales when you were growing up that spoke of dragons?  Fairy tales usually included a castle.  They also include a princess, knight, and happily ever after.  Not everyone’s life turns out to be a fairy tale.  Unfortunately, many of us don’t enter adulthood without fears or scars.  Many are afraid of being alone or believe that they can’t make it their own.  Fear causes us to enter adulthood with the desire to be rescued by the knight.

Life has beaten many down.  Due to an ex husband or boyfriend who has abused or left us, someone has convinced us that we are  worthless, daddy abused or left us and the list goes on.  As a result a monster was created, just like the fire breathing dragon  in the fairy tale.  That dragons roars and reminds us of how worthless we are and that we will never amount to anything. It causes us to have low esteem, a lack of self confidence or a lack of direction because we believe it.  The fire breathing dragon haunts us and has us cornered.  Many are afraid to step up and slay him. I’m here to tell you that you can Slay The Dragon no matter what you have gone through, I did.

As a teenage mother, I had to face my fears. Not knowing how I was going to raise my daughter and make a life for us terrified me. Fear will cause you to do many things.  It will cause you to head down a path of destruction.  On the other hand, it can lead to your blessings.  By the grace of God, I headed toward my blessings.

I didn’t know where I would end up, but I did knew that it was  the beginning of my journey.  Stepping on faith became a big part of my life.  Holding on my faith, I realized that being penniless didn’t equate to being broken.  I realized that I wasn’t alone.  I placed my hand in God’s and allowed him to lead me along my journey.  My next step was to realize that I was in control of me and my destiny.  No matter what cards life dealt me, I decided that I would become a card shark and play the hand. Sometimes I would win and sometimes I would lose. I just knew that I would not sit idle and allow life to walk all over me.

Each morning I faced my fears.  I prayed for the tools that I would need to make a life for my child and me.  A knight on a white horse was never in my prayers.  I simply wanted to make a way to provide for us.  Asking God for my blessings was a daily ritual.  All I had to do was ask and I would receive.  The next step was to give him the glory and praise that he deserved.

I ventured from the path that God had planned for me occasionally, but for the most part I stayed the course.  God placed trials in our path for a reason.  He wants us to go them in order for us to be strengthened to do his work.   Regardless of your situation, divorce, having problems with baby’s daddy, death or some other loss you can triumph too.  Face your fears, and you will learn to Slay The Dragons too.

Just know, the fire breathing monster will appear just when you think you have everything under control.  Life is full of twist and turns, but don’t despair.  I have accepted that I will have to spend the rest of my life fighting this monster and putting out his fire, but I know the Victory is mine.  Most of all, step out on faith and victory can be yours too.

25 Ways To Feed Your Soul

 

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Our soul is the essence of who we are.  Feeding the soul is different from feeding the body. We feed our body to live, we feed our soul to connect with who we are and to make us whole.  Are you feeding your soul?  If not, we have a few suggestions on how you can get started.     

Feeding our soul awakes our passions. A few benefits are releasing stress, finding peace, and enjoying life. It requires us to connect on a deeper level and it’s as individual as you. What works for one may not work for another, so it requires you to connect with you. Find inner peace and getting in touch with who you really are will lead you to what you really love.   

For me, I find peace and connect with nature. Its beauty touches my soul.  I could literally spend hours enjoying all of its glory.  In the spring the grass turns green and flowers come to life.  It motivates me to become one with nature and it awakens one of my passions, gardening. In the summer I enjoy the sound of the ocean and fall the beautiful colors.

Just sipping a hot cup of coffee while inhaling the crisp air on a fall morning stirs my soul too. I gather fall leaves for crafts and take nature hunts with the kids. These things illuminate who I am and brightens my spirit. Feeding my soul leads me to my voice. 


Here are a few ideas on how you can feed your soul and awaken your spirit:

  1. Take a long walk/hike.
  2. Have a good old fashioned picnic with your husband/significant other.  
  3. Go to the book store and buy a book. 
  4. Pick a bouquet of flowers from the backyard.
  5. Take a drive through the country. 
  6. Plant a garden or a few flowers. 
  7. Listen to your favorite songs. 
  8. Take a bubble bath.
  9. Curl up with a cup of tea. 
  10. Let go of all things and people that cause you stress.  
  11. Take a yoga or meditation class. 
  12. Light your favorite candle and have a cup of coffee.
  13. Attend/join church.
  14. Take a walk on the beach and listen to the ocean.  
  15. Read daily inspirations. 
  16. Watch the sun rise or set.
  17. Refinish or paint a piece of furniture. 
  18. Have a good cry. 
  19. Go sight seeing. 
  20. Get a manicure and/or pedicure
  21. Bake a batch of cookies and enjoy. 
  22. Clean out a closet, attic, or basement and reminisce.
  23. Revisit one of your favorite childhood places. 
  24. Refresh your bedding.
  25. Spend time with your children/grandchild and laugh. 

Start feeding your soul, it allows your light to shine. You will feel rejuvenated, happy, and find the way to great things in your life.

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5 Full Body Massages To Try

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Do you find yourself tied in knots, stressed out, joints and muscles aching at some point through out the year?  I can relate, life can be stressful and stress can wreck havoc on our minds and bodies. Stress can manifest itself in many ways, which is why we need to pay attention to our bodies and deal with it when it appears.  .

For the past few years, I have treated myself to a full body massage for my birthday. I swear by it. They relieve stress and work out the kinks. I literally leave the spa like a wet noodle. You are so relaxed, it is advised that you not drive after your session. If you have never had a full body massage, you must add this pleasure to your list. Ask your husband or significant other for a gift certificate for your birthday, Christmas or just because. Every woman deserves to be pampered at least once in their lifetime, but be warned once you start you will want to continue the service.  

Here are the massages offered at the spa that I use.  I have had 3 of the 5 listed, the Swedish, Hot Stone and Deep Tissue. I love the Swedish and Hot Stone, but I encourage you to research and make a decision on what you think you would enjoy:   


1.  Swedish –  It’s the most sought after and is used to relax the entire body. The massage therapist uses long strokes to increase the level of oxygen in the blood while decreasing toxins and improving circulation. It eases tension as well. 

2.  Prenatal –  These are great for the mother to be. The massage therapists focuses on decreasing swelling in the arms and legs, and relieve aches and pains in muscles and joints.

3.  Hot Stone – It is amazing what hot stones can do. They literally melt the stress away, eliminates stiff muscles, increases circulation and your metabolism. Because the hot stones relax muscles, the masseuse is able to do a deep muscle massage. 

4.  Deep Tissue – The Deep tissue massage is similar to the Swedish massage. It focuses on deeper pressure with the goal to be the release of chronic muscle tension. This massage is known to drop the blood pressure and boosts your mood and relaxation. 

5  Reflexology – The massage therapist will use the traditional Swedish and sports massage techniques starting with the hands and than moving to the feet, calf, and upper leg area. This is great for athletics or those who have problems with foot or ankle pain.  It also reduces stress. 

The spa that I use also offers packages for couples, girlfriends, mom and daughter/son or mom and granddaughter/grandson. Make it a family affair or  a day of intimacy, you won’t regret it. It will leave you wanting more and more.

How’s Your Decision Making Skills

 

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Decisions, decisions, decisions. Do you find yourself being indecisive with things in your life, and you don’t know what direction to go in? Does the simplest tasks become monumental?  If going in circles has become a way of life or you find yourself throwing up your hands and dealing with the matter later, you may be suffering from indecisiveness.  

I have found myself in this position more than once. My livelihood is made from managing people. There are times when I have to step away and make a decision at a later time because I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed. I know that I couldn’t continue managing in that way, so I had to reassess my decision making skills.        

I have found that stress plays a major role in my indecisiveness at times, but you may be feeling something different. There are 4 major areas that keep us from being able to make a decision. If you’re finding yourself wavering on things ask yourself if you are feeling:  


1.  Fear – Are you afraid of making the wrong decision?  If you’re not making a major purchase and nobody will get hurt go ahead and make the decision.  I do a pros and cons list.  If the pros outweigh the cons, I have learned to live with my decision.  

2.  Over Analyzing –  Do you spend time gathering information and reviewing it over and over? At some point we have to make a decision. Set a date and time, when it arrives make your decision and stick with it.  It’s okay to reassess your decision later and make adjustments.   

3.  Lack of Confidence – Are you confident with our skill set?  If you know that you have the skills to accomplish your endeavor, believe in yourself.  We’re not perfect beings and we won’t always make the right decisions, but we must learn to make them confidently.  

4.  Stress – Are you stressed out all the time? Take time to relax and breath a little.  A walk with the children, your husband or a friend could be just what the doctor ordered.  Take time to soak in the tub, sip a cup of tea or give yourself  a home manicure.  When you feel good about yourself, you feel good about life.

As leaders in our homes, businesses, and social influencers, decision making is a way of life for today’s woman. We must lead not only with confidence, we must lead with conviction. Especially if we want others to follow. How do you handle indecisiveness?