Values Help Develop Kids Self-Confidence

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Parents play a vital role in grooming and developing a child’s personality and self-esteem. Do you want to be the proud parents of a child who is full of self-confidence?  Do you want your child to walk with their head held high?  Here are some things you can do to help your child boost their self-confidence.

  • Do Not Let Any Negative Thoughts, Emotions and Limitations Pull you DownNegative thoughts only undermine your confidence. Do not let your true capabilities be overshadowed by inhibitions of the mind and heart.  Furthermore, exercise self-control and learn to maintain your calm and stay composed in panic situations. So keep brainwashing yourself.  Rummage through your brain to filter out the negative thoughts and keep going.
  • Positive Thinking Breeds PositivityBack your positive thoughts by positive actions. Even when you are on the lowest ebb, let the light of positivity shine through.
  • Face your fears and overcome any hurdles that come your way – Feed your self-esteem by challenging yourself and facing your biggest fears. Something which seemed unattainable in the past, if over-come with resoluteness of purpose can contribute significantly in raising your self-confidence. You will observe that automatically you will be able to cross hurdles and obstacles that would normally deter your progress.
  • Keep away from bad habits and inculcate healthy habits –   You need to correct your inner flaws and short comings to feel confident from within. It is very easy to get into wrong habits and very hard to get over them. Hence, inculcate healthy habits from the very beginning, so that they emerge as confident individuals as life progresses. Anything that makes you feel good about yourself, will ultimately lead to higher self-esteem.
  • Be Grateful for Whatever You Have and Live a Meaningful Life – It is very easy to be ungrateful.  You find yourself complaining and cribbing about the imperfections of life. What needs to be understood here is the need to identify happiness and true bliss in the small things in life. This is where our individual perceptions come into play. Our attitude towards life matters a big deal. If you envy other people you will be ungrateful for your blessings.  Therefore, you end up being a victim of inferiority complex. This keeps you in a constant state of restlessness.  As a result, it will make you have uncertain feelings about yourself, because you always feel the other person is better off than you. Until you are truly content and satisfied at heart, without any qualms, you will keep seeking for ways to find meaning in your life. It’s all about being truly happy. Being happy for who you are and where you are can lead to living healthier and more productive lives.
  • Emerge from failure as a stronger, experienced individual –  If at first you don’t succeed; try, try and try again. If you help your children live their life according to this basic principle you will be doing them a great favor. This implies that no matter what, keep your spirits high. Do not let failure get to you and empower and cloud your reasoning and logic such that it impairs practical reasoning, and leaves you confused and demoralized. Gathering your broken pieces and aiming to work with increased enthusiasm and fervor after facing a failure, is where true achievement lies.
  • Raise your intellectual standards – Be honest in analyzing yourself and take the initiative to develop your skills. Be in constant search for general knowledge and awareness. Being knowledgeable makes a person more confident. Personal growth is a continuous process. Stay updated with current national and international events. Become a participant on various topics such as politics, business and sports. Try learning new things on a daily basis and keep your child updated too.
  • Engage in philanthropic activitiesTeach your children to think about society.  They need to learn to empathize with the people who are not a fortunate as them.  Be an asset to the society by being an active part of it. Think about the needs of the people around you. This will help divert your focus to others rather than on yourself.  It will reduce you worrying less about your own imperfections. When you spread happiness around you, you will get to observe positive attitudes.  This will make you forget about the negativities around you  Eventually smoothening your way to enhancing your confidence level.

Be an example for your children. They will follow in your foot steps, and remember you may not see immediate changes in your child/children. Building confidence is a life time endeavor.

I want to thank James Smith for this amazing guest post!  You may also like: Teaching Children Responsibility

About the author: James Smith is a survivalist, who loves to write about survival skills and techniques. Currently, he is working for Teotwawki Supplies, offering a complete range of survival and emergency kits. Follow him on twitter @jamessmith1609.

Fill Your Children’s Self Esteem Bucket

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As parents we are responsible for our children’s self-esteem. We have the ability to make or break our children.  I grow up in an alcoholic home.  Unfortunately, I remember being called names and hearing my mother call my dad names.  Furthermore, I remember those times like yesterday.  The memories and scars never leave. In most homes families look forward to weekends.  In my home they were dreaded. The hell raising started on Thursdays so there would be an excuse for drinking the remainder of the weekend. I vowed that I would never subject my children to this kind of behavior and I didn’t.

Fortunately, I took my responsibility as a parent seriously.  Because I was a single parent, it was doubly important that I ensure my child was well taken care of.  I made sure she had a high sense of self worth.  I worked hard to instill the following characteristics:

 Confidence – First, instill confidence in your children.  Also, help them believe in themselves and their abilities.  And make sure they know they can count on you for whatever goes right or wrong.  Demonstrating a positive attitude is a must too.

Compliments – Well done, you look pretty, handsome, great job, and I’m proud of you are great compliments.  Children should be praised often.  It will stay with them.

Unconditional Love –  Next, let your children know that you love them even when they make mistakes. It’s important that they know your love for them is unconditional.  As a result, they will always be safe.

Encouragement –  Always encourage your children to work through fear.  Always let them know that it’s okay when they fail.  And encourage them to try again.  Be their biggest fan and cheerleader.

Responsibility – Giving children chores and holding them accountable will help with their confidence.

Respect  –  Furthermore, teaching your children about respect is imperative.  Having a high opinion of one’s self will help children have esteem for others.

Finally, fill your children’s self esteem bucket regularly.  It will help define who they are as an adult; therefore, it will become a driving force in their success.  Communicate, compliment and praise often. Success and failure is a normal part of life, and children need to know that both will be experienced throughout their life.  Although they may get down at times, striving for healthy self-esteem should be the goal for all of our children.  So, what can you add to the self-esteem bucket?

 

5 Benefits of Teleworking/Telecommuting Jobs

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I work outside the home, and I am a telecommuting/telework mom.  Allowing employees to telework was implemented into my agency several ago.  By trade, I am an IT Specialist Supervisor.  The ability to work from home is not an option for all employees, especially those who do phone work, but for techies that can log into systems remotely and perform their duties from home it is heaven sent.  Most employees are required to report to the office at least 3 days per week for staff meetings and to sign paper work; however, we make exceptions if we need to.  We offer toll free numbers for them to call into meetings.   

I allow my staff to work from home on days that the kids are sick, deliveries are being made, medical appointments are on the agenda or they just need peace and quiet to complete a project. I take advantage of these liberties as well.

I have several requirements for my employees:  1) No kids interrupting calls, 2) No dogs barking while we’re on the call and 3) they must be signed on to their computer and get their assigned hours in for the day.  It’s a great way to be able to work in sweats and PJs in Corporate America. There are other benefits for employers and employees who implement this concept.  Here a few:


1)  Cuts down on employee’s absences.
2)  Allows employers to cut down on the expense of having a cubicle for each employee.  They can share space according to their schedules. 
3)  Cuts down on gas and parking expense for employees. 
4)  Boosts employee morale.
5)  Reduces employee stress.

For those who are interested in returning to the workforce and still being at home several days a week, this could be the perfect option for you.  Search for companies who offer this option.  You can bring home the bacon and still be a work at home mom, at least part time.

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Dads Are Winning Custody of Their Children

 

 

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Are you going through a custody battle for your children?  Fathers who actively seek custody of their children are obtaining primary or joint physical custody 70 percent of the time.  More and more men are becoming the primary care giver of their children.

How and why are men achieving this position? Here’s several reasons:

    • They are becoming more involved in their children’s upbringing. They are changing diapers, giving baths, reading books, and fixing meals. Mr. Mom has become a reality.

 

    • They are educating themselves on how to win.  Instead of convincing the judge that the mother is unfit, they spending their time convincing the judge that they are just as fit. 

 

    • Women are emotional. Men are proving they are more stable emotionally and they are using intelligence to win.

 

    • More men are willing to spend the money on attorney fees preparing for the fight. They are taking the time to seek the best representation in court.

 

    • Not only are they willing to pay the attorney’s fees, they are seeking child support from the mother in certain cases. If they receive joint custody, they are asking that the amount of child support be lowered or they not have to pay support since they are responsible for buying diapers, milk, cloths etc. when they have custody.

 

    • Men are forming support groups and learning from other fathers who have won custody.

 

Men are proving they can provide a more stable environment because they have a bigger pay day.  For example, they are willing to give up the two seat vehicle and bachelor pad. They are buying homes with backyards and SUVs to ensure they have room for the children and excursions.

The days of having to prove the mother unfit are over ladies. I know, I watched my brother win custody of his two sons.  I have not only watched my brother win custody of his sons, his son just won full custody of his son.

After the separation from his wife, my nephew was ordered to pay child support.  Additionally, he had the usual court order which states the visitation rights, and how much he was to pay in child support and when.  He decided to obtained a new attorney and won joint custody and no child support the second time around. What was different the second time? His attorney focused on the fact that he had a better job and medical benefits.  Furthermore, he owned a home and his son’s grandparents were within a mile to assist him with the baby’s care.  Most importantly, they were available to provide child care and there was no better environment for the baby than his grandparents when he was working.  The change occurred within a 3 month timeframe.

He decided to go back to court a few years later to obtain full custody.  Because his son would be entering school full time; it would be impossible to split time between the two homes.  Even though his ex had gotten remarried and had another son, he decided his son would have a more stable home with him.  Most importantly, he wasn’t willing to miss time with his son.   He obtained his lawyer’s assistance and geared up for another fight.  This time he would be fighting for full custody.  He won!  He now has his son in his care 24 x 7.

I’m proud to say that I’ve watched my son-in-law with my grandchildren.  There is no doubt in my mind that he would not fight for joint custody of children. The thinking of young men these days is quite different from my generation. Most men in my generation did not seek custody, they were happy paying child support and having their freedom if there was a divorce.

In conclusion, it seems that if it’s impossible to keep your marriage together mothers may have to gear up for a fight.  Dads are winning custody of their children.