17 Ways Moms Can Relax and Refuel

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As moms, nose wipers, chauffeurs, chef, referees and a host of other positions there are times that we need to refuel.    Often, we don’t take the time to regroup emotionally and or physically after our everyday responsibilities.  Being a mother becomes a most important position, and we give it our all.  We usually neglect our health, walk around sleep deprived, eat poorly, and forget that we need to feed our spirit.

Also, there’s nobody to blame, we just don’t make ourselves  a priority.  Our life simply becomes habit.  It’s equivalent to the alarm going off at the same time every morning.  We can learn to make ourselves a priority. Here’s a few ways moms can relax:

  1. Have a Spa Day – Make an appointment to have a facial or pedicure and manicure.  Have a limited budget,  spend afternoon soaking in the tub.  Burn some candles, play some relaxing, and enjoy a cup of tea or your favorite wine.
  2. Take a long walk – Hit the walking trail or take a long walk around the neighborhood, park or other scenic route.
  3. Go for a long drive – Grab your favorite CDs or turn on your favorite radio station.  Enjoy the scenery and just clear your head.
  4. Spend the day watching your favorite movies – I love watching old movies.  Grab your favorite snacks and a box of tissues for those heart wrenching movies, and just enjoy the day.
  5. Order take out  – Curl up with a good book or movie.
  6. Catch up on those free Kindle ebooks or your magazines – Next, curl up in front of the fire, relax on the deck, under a tree and read a good book or flip through your favorite magazines.
  7. Treat yourself – Order your favorite latte, ice cream, sushi bar or whatever it may be.  No sharing, this is for you.
  8. Spend the day at a museum – Check out the art museum or whatever museum is close to you.
  9. Take a bike ride – Pull out the bike and take a ride through the park or on your favorite bike trail.
  10. Do crafts – Crochet that scarf or hat, finish a scrapbook or sew that new dress.
  11. Set up a girls night – Whip up a few appetizers and cocktails, and laugh until your heart is content.
  12. Catch up on the sermons at church that you’ve missed or read the bible – Great way to renew your spirit and relieve some stress.
  13. Hike – Grab you hiking gear and hit the trails.
  14. Sleep – Put your best sheets on your bed and stretch out under your favorite comforter.  Take a long and much needed nap.
  15. Shop – Go shopping for bargains at your favorite stores.
  16. Skype/FaceTime – Fix your favorite beverage and chat with a friend.
  17. Talk a walk on the beach – Clear your head and enjoy the ocean breeze.

So, taking care of yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually is a must.  Because we are committed to our families, we must stay healthy in all areas of our life.  We hope that you found our list of ways moms can relax. Most importantly, being healthy requires us to clear our mind, rest and stay focused.  Pick out one thing off the list each week, and take an a few hours for yourself.  Be sure to tell your friends about our list of ways moms can relax too.  You will start the week relaxed and refueled.

 

 

 

 

Slay Your Dragons With Faith

 

 

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Do you remember the fairy tales when you were growing up that spoke of dragons?  Fairy tales usually included a castle.  They also include a princess, knight, and happily ever after.  Not everyone’s life turns out to be a fairy tale.  Unfortunately, many of us don’t enter adulthood without fears or scars.  Many are afraid of being alone or believe that they can’t make it their own.  Fear causes us to enter adulthood with the desire to be rescued by the knight.

Life has beaten many down.  Due to an ex husband or boyfriend who has abused or left us, someone has convinced us that we are  worthless, daddy abused or left us and the list goes on.  As a result a monster was created, just like the fire breathing dragon  in the fairy tale.  That dragons roars and reminds us of how worthless we are and that we will never amount to anything. It causes us to have low esteem, a lack of self confidence or a lack of direction because we believe it.  The fire breathing dragon haunts us and has us cornered.  Many are afraid to step up and slay him. I’m here to tell you that you can Slay The Dragon no matter what you have gone through, I did.

As a teenage mother, I had to face my fears. Not knowing how I was going to raise my daughter and make a life for us terrified me. Fear will cause you to do many things.  It will cause you to head down a path of destruction.  On the other hand, it can lead to your blessings.  By the grace of God, I headed toward my blessings.

I didn’t know where I would end up, but I did knew that it was  the beginning of my journey.  Stepping on faith became a big part of my life.  Holding on my faith, I realized that being penniless didn’t equate to being broken.  I realized that I wasn’t alone.  I placed my hand in God’s and allowed him to lead me along my journey.  My next step was to realize that I was in control of me and my destiny.  No matter what cards life dealt me, I decided that I would become a card shark and play the hand. Sometimes I would win and sometimes I would lose. I just knew that I would not sit idle and allow life to walk all over me.

Each morning I faced my fears.  I prayed for the tools that I would need to make a life for my child and me.  A knight on a white horse was never in my prayers.  I simply wanted to make a way to provide for us.  Asking God for my blessings was a daily ritual.  All I had to do was ask and I would receive.  The next step was to give him the glory and praise that he deserved.

I ventured from the path that God had planned for me occasionally, but for the most part I stayed the course.  God placed trials in our path for a reason.  He wants us to go them in order for us to be strengthened to do his work.   Regardless of your situation, divorce, having problems with baby’s daddy, death or some other loss you can triumph too.  Face your fears, and you will learn to Slay The Dragons too.

Just know, the fire breathing monster will appear just when you think you have everything under control.  Life is full of twist and turns, but don’t despair.  I have accepted that I will have to spend the rest of my life fighting this monster and putting out his fire, but I know the Victory is mine.  Most of all, step out on faith and victory can be yours too.

25 Ways To Feed Your Soul

 

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Our soul is the essence of who we are.  Feeding the soul is different from feeding the body. We feed our body to live, we feed our soul to connect with who we are and to make us whole.  Are you feeding your soul?  If not, we have a few suggestions on how you can get started.     

Feeding our soul awakes our passions. A few benefits are releasing stress, finding peace, and enjoying life. It requires us to connect on a deeper level and it’s as individual as you. What works for one may not work for another, so it requires you to connect with you. Find inner peace and getting in touch with who you really are will lead you to what you really love.   

For me, I find peace and connect with nature. Its beauty touches my soul.  I could literally spend hours enjoying all of its glory.  In the spring the grass turns green and flowers come to life.  It motivates me to become one with nature and it awakens one of my passions, gardening. In the summer I enjoy the sound of the ocean and fall the beautiful colors.

Just sipping a hot cup of coffee while inhaling the crisp air on a fall morning stirs my soul too. I gather fall leaves for crafts and take nature hunts with the kids. These things illuminate who I am and brightens my spirit. Feeding my soul leads me to my voice. 


Here are a few ideas on how you can feed your soul and awaken your spirit:

  1. Take a long walk/hike.
  2. Have a good old fashioned picnic with your husband/significant other.  
  3. Go to the book store and buy a book. 
  4. Pick a bouquet of flowers from the backyard.
  5. Take a drive through the country. 
  6. Plant a garden or a few flowers. 
  7. Listen to your favorite songs. 
  8. Take a bubble bath.
  9. Curl up with a cup of tea. 
  10. Let go of all things and people that cause you stress.  
  11. Take a yoga or meditation class. 
  12. Light your favorite candle and have a cup of coffee.
  13. Attend/join church.
  14. Take a walk on the beach and listen to the ocean.  
  15. Read daily inspirations. 
  16. Watch the sun rise or set.
  17. Refinish or paint a piece of furniture. 
  18. Have a good cry. 
  19. Go sight seeing. 
  20. Get a manicure and/or pedicure
  21. Bake a batch of cookies and enjoy. 
  22. Clean out a closet, attic, or basement and reminisce.
  23. Revisit one of your favorite childhood places. 
  24. Refresh your bedding.
  25. Spend time with your children/grandchild and laugh. 

Start feeding your soul, it allows your light to shine. You will feel rejuvenated, happy, and find the way to great things in your life.

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6 Tips To Boost Your Self Esteem

 

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Do you need a self-esteem boost?  At one point in my life I saw myself as an attractive, sexual, and vibrant woman.  I looked in the mirror one day and I realized that I had bags under my eyes, more gray hair, and I looked tire. I wondered what had happened. When I looked back over the years I realized that I had lost myself.

I had become a wife, mother, taxi driver, nose wiper, bottom cleaner, chef, CEO, house keeper, medicine dispenser, CFO, and it all led to exhaustion.  Being a mother has been my greatest joy.  But I had forgotten that I was so much more.  As women we can become so entrenched in our roles that we can loose ourselves along the way.  We wake up one morning, and wonder what happen to our self-esteem.

Furthermore, I remembering having my house remodeled several years ago.  My main focus was the master bath. I have a huge garden tub that I wanted to refresh.  Additionally, the shower needed a makeover.  So, I decided to install a rain shower head.  Additionally, I wanted to tile around the vanity, shower and tub.

I stood in stores for hours looking until I found the perfect tile.  I even had a seat constructed in my shower so I could carefully shave my legs, and a heated ceramic floor installed.  After the project was finished, I surrounded my tub with beautiful candles and spa towels.  It was my favorite room in the house.  It’s funny, I can’t remember the last time that I soaked in that tub.  Let alone sip a cup of tea and enjoyed the flicker of the flames on the candles.

You may be wondering what I did to get back on top.  Here’s a few tips on how I boosted my self-esteem and placed myself back on the throne:

1.  Know that you’re important – You’re an entity in your home too, and it’s okay to love yourself. Make time to do the things that you enjoy such as having a glass of wine, scrapbooking, reading, cross-stitching, watching your favorite TV show, or playing a computer game. Whatever you enjoy, take time to enjoy it.

2.  It’s okay to not respond to every need that everyone else has – Trying to please very one will wear you out, lead to stress, and health problems. Remember you need your rest too.

3.  Accept responsibility for where you are now –  Don’t blame your kids or your husband, you have the power to say I’m tired I need to rest, I need help or I need time for myself and take it.

4.  Become determined and self-reliant – Do what you can around your house, rather than sitting around waiting on your husband or significant to do everything for you. Take the stress off yourself because you’re waiting for someone to complete a project for you. It could also take the stress of your husband or significant other too.  This includes painting a room, building those raised garden beds, painting the deck furniture, cleaning out the garage etc. There’s some great bloggers out there that show you how.

5.  Stop trying to take on everything – There are no shortcuts in life, it can be brutal at times.  We must learn to let things go, take a deep breath and exhale. Set priorities and learn to walk away when things get overwhelming. Tomorrow is another day, you can get it done then.

6.  Budget your money and treat yourself  – If you are a SAHM, get a pay check for your work inside the home. Purchase a bouquet of flowers for yourself or treat yourself to a manicure, pedicure or facial. Not your thing, buy a new dress and have a monthly date night with your husband or significant other. It will recharge your batteries!

It’s important to reclaim your self-worth and start treating myself like the queen that your are. I have learned that it’s okay to make myself number one occasionally.  Being mom, wife, and grandmother are wonderful roles, but we should never loose ourselves. They aren’t inclusive of who we are.  We hope that you have found our tips on how to boost your self esteem helpful.

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Become the Best You: How to Empower Yourself

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Each year I work to empower myself.  In years past, I have been exhausted by the time December rolls around.  Furthermore, I normally run off the rails with some of my goals.  So, I’m always happy to see the new year come in.

Besides having the stomach flu and spending Christmas Day in bed this pass year, I felt pretty good about where I was in my life.  As a result of being satisfied with where I was in reaching my goals for the year, I asked what I did to empower myself.  Here’s 4 biggest things:

1.  Believe In Yourself – I’ve learned over the years to stop being so hard on myself.  I have a type-A personality so I strive for perfection and want things to be done right.  I’ve learned that things don’t always go according to planned, but that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world.  Tomorrow is another day, and I just need to continue to believe in myself.

In my past life, I would stress when things didn’t go according to plan.  That behavior took up a lot of energy and left me feeling exhausted.  I would literally sleep through the alarm clock and feel like crap for the remainder of the day.  Since I’ve changed my attitude, I no longer set the alarm clock. I wake up refreshed, and I feel good enough to face the day and myself.

2. Turn Things Over to Higher Power – Because some things are beyond my control, I have learned to give it to my higher power. I am a woman of faith, and grow up in the church.  Most importantly, I do believe in God.  I think it is imperative to believe in someone greater than you and I.  Praying, reading the word and than letting things go works for me.  I have found peace with myself.  Furthermore, I have found peace with the world.  It’s not perfect and neither am I.

3.  Think Positive – I strive hard to keep negative thoughts out of my head.  I’ve learned to surround myself with positive people.  Because I surround myself with people that are positive and that I can learn from, my perspective on things have changed.

4.  Make Yourself A Priority – I’ve learned over the years that I’m a valuable commodity.  And I treat myself as such.  No matter what I have on my List Of Things To Do, I make time for me.  I book an appointment at a salon for a pedicure, read a good book, playing games on the computer, take a vacations or just sleep.  Making myself a priority energizes me and allows me to give freely to others.  When you feel good, you do good things.

We hope that you have found our tips on how to empower yourself helpful.  Download the infographic here, and apply the tips to your life.  You will be glad you did.

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How to Empower Yourself Emotionally

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People use emotional intelligent to achieve their goals and to build businesses.  When I went into management 15 years ago, I learned that my emotional intelligence would be just as important as my technical savvy.  I was expected to lead the organization’s visions whether I agreed with them or not. Your job is to get your employees on board and implement the plan.  I knew that I would need to be physically and emotionally healthy.  At the time I didn’t have a game plan, but self-improvement and self-development became a priority.

Emotional Intelligence is about self-control.  It’s about having absolute control over your emotions and your life.  It’s portraying  confidence and a high level of self-esteem even when you don’t feel it.  I always think of the saying, “Never let them see you sweat” when I think of emotional intelligence.  I read every book that I could find on emotional intelligence and went to work on myself.  Since management was the last rung on the ladder of my career goals, I was determined to be successful.  My job was to manage a team of IT Specialists and help oversee a million dollar computer system.

I empowered myself by incorporating the following tips into my life.  This included on the job and in my personal life:

Learning to Say No – There’s power in that 2 letter word. It’s one of the most powerful words in the English language and has served me well over the course of the years. At one point I didn’t know how to say no. I was the go to person for everybody in the family. It started wearing on my health, so I had to make a major change in my life by deciding what was my problem and what was theirs. I learned to leave them with their problems.  As a result, they had to grow up and take responsibility for their life.  That freedom empowered me.

Learning to Relax – I started focusing on hobbies that I enjoyed, but neglected. I started scrap booking, crocheting and making other crafts. It’s important to found things you enjoy and just unwind.  It empowers you.

Let Go Of GuiltOnce I learned to say no I also learned to let go of guilt. I would feel guilty if I didn’t do what was being asked of me. Now I say what I mean and mean what I say.  Let the door hit you if you don’t like it. It is so freeing and empowering.

Focus on Solutions – I always told my employees to bring a solution when they bring me a problem. Being a part of a solution is empowering.  It’s simple, write down the problem and than write down a solution.  Make changes to your solution when or if it is needed.

Stay Positive – A positive attitude will take you a long way, and you will feel better about yourself.  Who wants to follow someone with a bad attitude?  People want to connect with positive energy.  They find it empowering!

Exercise RegularlyGet some form of exercise everyday.  I had to change my attitude toward exercising.  I hate it and would find any exercise to avoid it.  Previously I thought if I couldn’t get at least 30 minutes in it was unproductive.  So not true, 10, 15, 20 minutes is better than nothing.  I still haven’t mastered this one I’m a work in progress, but I do understand the importance and benefits so I’m striving to get better each day.

The biggest lesson that I learned on my emotional intelligence journey is that our emotions drive our actions. Your emotions can lead to your success or your failure.  Become determined to not allow anybody to move you unless you choose to be moved.  This determination has required me to remain emotionless at times.  I have learned that people look for reactions, and when you don’t give them one they have to rethink their game plan.  The greatest satisfaction is walking away and seeing them with a puzzled look on their face because you didn’t give them what they wanted.  That is empowerment.

Women’s issues still need to be dealt with in the business world. There are still men who think that women are too emotional and shouldn’t be in leadership positions.  On the other side of the spectrum, there are other women who try to press your buttons because they don’t want to see you successful either.  Prepared to endure both if you want to be successful.  

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