Leading Your Children By Example

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leading children by example

Do you believe in leading children by example?  Setting a good example for my daughter and grandchildren is important to me.  I have always believed that I needed to be the mother that I wanted my daughter to be.

I never wanted to be the type of mother that says do as I say and not as I do.  How do you teach your children when you aren’t an example of what you want them to be or do?  So many things become generational. We have people who are unable to break the cycle of dysfunctional relationships.  They continue to struggle with dependency on drugs, alcohol, or the system in some manner. Where is it written that you are where you come from? We all come from something, but that doesn’t mean that you have to continue down that path.  We all have the power to change our situation.

I believe that it is imperative to set an example for those whom I wish two inspire or lead.  Here are a few things that I have learned on my journey as a mother.  I have implemented them into my life, because I believe in leading children by example:

  1. You must establish credibility – Seeing is believing. You don’t have to be perfect, but you must be honest and you must know that your children will be looking to you for guidance as well as looking at how you achieve your goals and how you provide for them.
  2. What makes you an authority? Let your children know that you’ve been in their shoes or a similar situation.  Tell them what you did to accomplish the goal or resolve the problem. It’s important that they know they’re not the only person experiencing a particular problem or situation and it can be overcome or the goal reached.
  3. Who wants to follow someone who is still struggling to get themselves together – You can’t lead with A Do As I Say and Not As I Do attitude.  You should be demonstrating how to improve yourself and move forward.
  4. You must be positive – Your child will respond to a positive attitude.  
  5. You must have good decision making skills and you must be disciplined – You need to teach your children how to make decisions and how to stick with the decision.
  6. Show your child that you can be successful personally as well as professionally –  If you’re struggling on a personal level continuously, it will be difficult to lead your children.  When I was raising my daughter I talked to her about my some of my personal struggles, but I did not burden her with my financial situation.  Running my household was my responsibility.  I did explain the importance of holding down a job and being reliable.  Children should understand how money is earned in the home.  My daughter understood that my job paid the mortgage, purchased food, clothing, and afforded her activities and our vacations.  Also, talk about the importance of getting an education and getting promoted on your job.
  7. Demonstrate how to work toward financial goals Explain the importance of saving for a rainy day and the importance of paying yourself first.  Cry broke, but never be broke.
  8. Give your children a spiritual/religious foundation Teach them to say their prayers and bless their food. We all need to believe in someone or something greater than ourselves.
Finally, know that we’re all a work in progress.  However, we hold the future of our children in our hands.  So, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6.  We hope that our tips on leading children by example has been beneficial.

 

10 Tips To Get Your Child Moving


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How Do You Get Your Child Moving? Does your child enjoy playing video games or watching cartoons more than playing outside? Does he or she stomp and pout when you encourage them to get fresh air?  Times have changed.  Gone are the days that you see children riding bikes, pitching balls, climbing trees or playing hide and seek.  Through no fault of their own, the world had become a place for gaming and unhealthy eating.  The United States ranks fifth in the world for childhood obesity.    

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10 Kid’s Birthday Party Ideas



Will you be planning a birthday party this year?  I have planned many birthday parties over the years, but always seem to struggle with the kids on a theme.  Finding kids birthday party ideas can be time consuming too.  Some years we keep the party small, and other years we go all out.  However, I must say the years that when we go all out it takes work.  Bit it is so worth it.

First, I’ve created a roundup of  kids birthday party ideas to inspire you. Hopefully, they will get your creative juices flowing, and you will be planning your child or grandchild’s party this year in no time:

 

1.  Peppa Pig  – So, my granddaughter loves Peppa Pig.  And I loved this cupcake idea.  As a matter of fact, I checked out the directions and they are easy to make.  So cute, and they kids will love them.


 
2.  Tea Party– I love having tea parties with my granddaughter.  My granddaughter is a princess.  And princesses love to dress up and drink tea.  This party suggest having each guest and their parent decorate a hat.  This is a great idea for a birthday party or a day with your daughter/granddaughter and a few friends.
 
 
 
 
3.  Western – Next, check out this photo booth prop.  Actually, The Wanted Sign is made from cardboard.  A stencil could be used to make the letters. Add a few bales of hay,  and a few other decorating ideas.  You’ll make memories forever, and your Lil Buckaroo will love it.
 
 
4.  Art –  Let’s not leave out our little artists.  This beautifully decorated cake will thrill the little artist and their guests.  After all, they will love this cake dripping with paint.  Very pretty and creative.
 
 

 

The Cat In The Hat –  Oh, how I love the 1 Fish, 2 Fish idea.  Especially, in the shape of cookies. Great idea for party favors.
 
 
 
 
8.  Doc McStuffin  – Doc McStuffin was found under my Christmas tree this year. My granddaughter loves to doctor her little patients too. These edible Q-tips are adorable.  Furthermore, they are a great idea for the doctor’s office too.  Most importantly, they are simple to make.  Simply dip a small pretzel sticks dipped into  melted white chocolate.  Simple enough, right.

 

9.  Ballet    I love this party decoration for a ballet party.  The little ballerina in your life will love her too.  What a great way to welcome guests.  Most importantly, it’s a kit that can be ordered from an Etsy shop, check it out.  You can do it.

 



10. Ladybug –  My baker did a great job making my granddaughter’s first birthday cake.  The small cake was used for her smash cake, and the other to serve the guests on Christening Day.  Under the fondant is a butter cream icing and yellow cake.

Finally, I hope these kid’s birthday party ideas will inspire you.  Use your imagination and be creative, the possibilities are endless.  You may also like Children’s Carnival Birthday Party Ideas.

Why You Should RSVP

Do you RSVP?  Maybe you heard about the story of the parents who were billed for a portion of a party because they failed to attend a party?  Apparently they sent an RSVP stating they would attend; however, they didn’t show up.  But they failed to contact the hosting parents to let them know of their change of plans.  Since the host parents paid for accommodations for their child, they wanted to be reimbursed for the expense. So they sent the parents a bill and threaten to take them to small claims court if they didn’t pay up. You can read the details here.

I laughed when I read the story.  Because I remembered all the times that I sent invitations and asked guests to RSVP.  And they never bothered to  respond one way or the other.  I have never thought about sending a bill to those who did RSVP, but never showed up.  I most admit, I like the thought.

When I send out an invitation for an informal or formal event, I ask guests to RSVP.  For example, if it’s an informal events I always ask the guests to call me. I give a date that they must call by and my phone number.  Additionally, I expect them to call and say yes they are coming or no they are not coming.

I ask for the RSVP to be mailed to me when I send out a formal invitation.  Furthermore, I include the RSVP card and a stamped return envelop.

I ask guests to RSVP because I need to know how much food to prepare, how much liquor to purchase, or how many party favors to purchase. To me it’s just disrespectful when a guest does neither. RSVP means respond/reply please. I never do Regrets Only, I want to hear yes or no from the invited guests.  I’m not unique, other people who are hosting parties expect the same.

I hosted my grandchildren’s birthday several years ago. It was a huge backyard event with clowns, magicians, a bounce house and everything else that goes along with a carnival themed party. I had 10 people show up with their children and they never bothered to RSVP.

Needless to say, I had not planned for 20 extra people. One of the guests had 5 children. It left me scrambling. I had to purchase and cook more food, put more party favor bags together and accommodate more children and parents. I should have billed the parents for the stress alone. That would teach them the meaning of RSVP.

Proper etiquette requires those who receive an invitation to not ignore it. It is not up to the host to call you to find out if you’re coming or not. If they thought enough of you to send an invitation, you should think enough of them to respond one way or the other.

For those who RSVP and don’t show up, you have cost the host money.  Because they have included you and/or your children in the food, beverage and party favor count.  The cost is even more profound for weddings and other formal events. Those events normally require a cater who charge by the plate.  Additionally, if alcohol is involved it’s per bottle and bartenders must be paid.  

Finally, now that you know the meaning and importance of RSVP, please respond.  In conclusion, you may find that family, friends, co-workers and neighbors are leaving you and your family off the party list. Better yet, you may find an invoice in your mailbox if you end up being a no show.

15 Stocking Stuffer Ideas for Toddler Girls

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Check out our stocking stuffer ideas for toddler girls. I like stocking stuffer items for my granddaughter that are fun and safe. I had a blast searching for items, and I thought I would share my stocking stuffer ideas with you.  As you know I’m a bargain shopper and a big fan of the Dollar Stores. With the money that’s spent on other items, I don’t want to spend a fortune on stocking stuffers. I will say finding items for little girls is so much easy than boys it seems.  Here’s my list of ideas:

  1. Little Golden Books 
  2. Character drinking cups  
  3. Flavored lip balm
  4. Disney movies 
  5. Fluffy socks (for those barefoot days at home)
  6. Hair accessories or hat and gloves 
  7. Coloring books and crayons  – Doc McStuffin, Minnie Mouse, Disney Princesses etc.
  8. My Pretty Pony 
  9. Blanket for week-end naps  
  10. Stickers
  11. Monster High Dolls   
  12. Nail polish (for those mommy and me days)
  13. Shopkin 
  14. Disney Princesses
  15. Character eating utensils
Head out to your favorite Dollar Store and get to work on your list.  I stuffed my granddaughter’s stocking with quite a few of these items and stayed within my budget.  I found a great selection of Shopkin options at Five and Below.  My granddaughter loves anything Shopkin.  They have lip balm, nail polish, bubble bath, doll accessories and more.  Additionally, you can find items for the Finding Dory fans. 
The Dollar Tree has a great selection of Disney and Sesame Street coloring books, crayons and board booksYou can also find the fluffy, warm socks there too.  My granddaughter hates socks, but on those cold, winter days we insist that she have something on her feet.  I love the warm fluffy socks too.  Because I have hardwood floors, I purchase a few pairs for myself.  I put a pair on when I ask her to wear them when she’s visiting.
My granddaughter loves headbands and flowers for her hair.  I can always find a bargain at Dollar General or Family Dollar. 
Don’t forget Target’s bargain bins.  They have great stocking stuffing ideas too.  Do you have ideas to add to my list. Please leave me a comment.  You may also like:  Stocking Stuffer Ideas for Toddler Boys.

 

13 Stocking Stuffer Ideas for Toddler Boys

 

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Need stocking stuffer ideas for toddler boys?  I have a list of ideas for you that I used for years with my grandson.  I love the holidays. It’s the time of year when I put my creative juices on full throttle.  I set a budget for myself, and I strive hard to stay within it. I came up with a few ideas for stocking stuffers for my grandson when he was a toddler and I thought I would share them.  He loved them:

 

  • Hot Wheels Cars
  • Plastic dinosaurs, army men, animals etc. (Anything that can be used in a fight)
  • Movies
  • Books  
  • Hat and gloves 
  • Coloring books  and crayons
  • Lightning McQueen/Cars
  • Character Drinking Cup
  • T-shirt with their favorite character
  • Character eating utensils 
  • Dinosaur items  
  • Colorful Bendy Soft Pencils  
  • Action Figures

I was able to stuff his stocking with several of the items from this list. Before you head out make a list of your toddler’s favorites or a list of items that they need. This will cut down on your browsing time and help you work within your budget.

You can shop for most items at your local Dollar Stores.  The Dollar Tree has a great selection of Hot Wheels, dinosaur, army men and more.  You can also find coloring books and crayons, board books and more.

Wal-mart and Big Lots have a great selection of Hot Wheels, Lighting McQueen and the other cars as well as plastic figures.  Five and Below has adorable hat and glove sets. Make sure the items you select are age appropriate and don’t have small parts that can come off and become a hazard.

Little boys like bath toys too.  My grandson loved playing with his army men and dinosaurs in the tube.  He also like bath crayons and his hot wheels in the tub.

We would love to hear any ideas you came up with for your stockings. Please leave us a comment.  You may also like Stocking Stuffer Ideas for Toddler Girls.

Fun Kid’s Food Ideas – Donut Snowman

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I’m always looking for fun kid’s food ideas.  So, I made these adorable donut snowmen for my grandchildren.   I originally found the idea at Dukes and Duchesses and decided to give them a try.  Fun kid’s food ideas are usually a big hit.  These were a huge success with my little ones.

Sugar is everywhere during the holidays.  As parents we worry about the sugar content, but these were just too cute to worry about sugar.  They make a perfect snack on Christmas Eve or on a cold snowy day with a cup of hot chocolate.  Print out a snowman coloring page to add to the fun.

Grandmothers are sugar queens, so we’re allowed to fill our grandchildren with sugar.  At least occasionally. These were so cute, my daughter and son-in-law couldn’t resist me offering these goodies to the kids. They’re easy to make and they were devoured with a huge glass of milk.

Here’s what you need:

*Mini Hostess donuts
*Mike and Ike Candies
*Fruit Roll-Ups
*Black Food Pin
*Skewers

Step 1 – Carefully run the skewer through 3 donuts.

Step 2 – Cut an orange or red Mike and Ike in half. Place each half in the first donut for the nose.  Next, cut another Mike and Ike, your choice, in half for the buttons.  Next, place them in the hole of each of the donuts as shown.

Step  3 – Cut a strip of a Fruit Roll-Up and place it between donuts 1 and 2 to make the scarf as shown.

Step 4 – Use the black food pin to make the mouth and eyes.  Your done!

Note: Cut off the pointed end of the skewer with a pair of kitchen scissors just to be on the safe side with the kids.  Fun kid’s food ideas are great, but safety should be a factor too.  These snowman donuts are a great for a school party, snow day snack or sleep overs.  Give it a try, the kids will love them

You may also like:  Christmas White Trash Recipe.

 

Printable Santa Claus Letter

Santa Claus Letters

 

Santa Claus Letter

Is your child on the Naughty or Nice list?  It’s the time of year that children are dreaming.  They are watching commercials and browsing flyers. My grandchildren love to mark the flyers so I can see and remember what they want.  I’m sure other children are also dreaming of a new doll, video game, bike or the latest Jordan shoes too.

Thousands of letters will be written to Santa Claus and mailed to the North Pole.  They will be listing everything that they want under the tree.  Little elves will be checking the list to ensure that the boys and girls on the Nice not Naughty List.  So, making the Nice List is always been an incentive for good behavior this time of year.

My grandchildren are rewarded with this Santa Claus Letter before Christmas. The letter lets them know that they’re on the Nice List.  There’s also a Nice List Certificate.  Good behavior should always be rewarded.  It’s also a great way to keep them motivated to stay on the Nice List.

You can download the letter and certificate here.  Oh, be sure to leave Santa a nice plate of cookies and a big glass of milk too. Santa needs his strength to deliver those gifts.  Ho Ho Ho! Merry Christmas.

 

Kid’s Breakfast Ideas: Snowman Pancakes

 
 

 

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Today I’m featuring my favorite fun kid’s breakfast ideas
.  How about a snowman pancake?  I fix these the morning of Christmas Eve, and the kids love them. They make the kids happy and they put everyone in a festive mood.  So, festive pancakes are a great way to start the Christmas celebration.  Besides, they are quick, easy and fun to make.  To make things more festive, try to find a winter themed plate to place them on.  You should be able to find them on at the Dollar Tree, Big Lots or Dollar General. I found the plates shown at the Dollar Tree.

 The recipe for these snowman pancakes is simple:

Step 1 – Whip up your favorite pancake batter and made 3 pancakes, small, medium and large.

Step 2 – Use a black food pen to make the buttons, mouth and eyes.  If you don’t have a food pen on hand, use chocolate chips.

Step 3 – Cut 2 strips of bacon, 1 for the scarf and 1 for the arms.  You cut out fingers in the bacon with a pair of scissors for the arms.  I was lucky when I made the pancakes this time.  I found snowman paper plates, so I didn’t make the bacon arms. Place the other piece between the small and medium pancakes for the scarf.

These pancakes are fun and easy to make.  They should be placed on your fun kid’s breakfast ideas list. Get out the griddle and get to work. The adults enjoy them as much as the kids.  There’s a child in each of us, and they come roaring to the surface during the holidays. When the children eat everything on their plate, I tell them that they’ve made a happy plate.  I’m sure there will be happy plates in your home too.  Enjoy!

You may also like: Snowman Donuts or my Christmas White Trash recipe.  Try both, they’re fun and delicious.

Teaching Your Children the Meaning of Christmas


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Do you think Christmas has become too commercialized? Have we truly lost the meaning of Christmas, the birth of our Lord and Savior, and giving to others?  I want to share an experience that I had picking a child to sponsor from the Angel Tree in Walmart.  I sponsor a child from either Walmart or Kmart each year, but I choose to walk away last year without purchasing a gift.

Why because the children were asking for expensive game systems and games.  I did a calculation on at least 2 or 3 children’s wish list and they totaled hundred of dollars each. I could have selected a few items from the Angel’s card, but I was left wondering what we’re teaching our children.

You’re asking for charity that equates to hundreds of dollars and obviously feeling no guilt about the list you have submitted. I have sponsored a child for years, and that was the first year that I witnessed these types of items on their wish list. I felt bad that I walked away, but I was so shocked that I felt it was best for me to leave the store.  Can anyone say holiday stress?

I understand that many parents are out of work, and they will be unable to meet their children’s wish list.  But if you’re unable to buy expensive gifts don’t expect others to take up your slack. Our priorities in this country puzzle me.  We act as if someone owes us something, and it seems this type of thinking is being passed on to our children.

I understand the children want the latest toys and gadgets, but my thought is that their parents should try to buy these items used if possible.  My issue is about values, no more and certainly no less. Simply put, don’t pass the financial burden on to your fellow citizens who are trying to be charitable.    

To keep cost down during the holidays I started making many of my gifts.  Also, I buy clearance items at the end of the season for the following year.  I crochet and make scrapbooks and gift baskets for adult members of my family.  Also, I set a budget of $50.00 for each of the teenage children in the form of a mall gift certificate.

I don’t have time to bang my head trying to figure out what the teen would like. Can somebody say holiday stress again!  The siblings in my family stopped exchanging gifts years ago.  We only purchase for the children now.  That really helped eliminate holiday debt.  Furthermore, I have a Christmas Club where I set aside money each week throughout the year for my grandchildren’s gifts.  I host Christmas dinner or a gathering for my siblings, and I’m grateful for their company. That is gift enough for all of us.  I refuse to belong to the debt club. I relinquished my membership years ago, and I surely will not go into debt for someone else.

Parents get real because the world doesn’t owe you or your children anything.  We must learn to make our way in this great country.  If times get a little rough be grateful for any assistance you receive; however, don’t take advantage. Teach your children that the holidays are not only about receiving, but giving and spending time with family and friends.

Focus on keeping your children warm, keeping a roof over their head and food on the table. Coats, shoes, hats, gloves and necessities for school should be at the top of the lists if you’re seeking charity.  If you want a fellow citizen to purchase a toy or electronic item, it should be reasonable.   Just saying!

Finally, what’s your thoughts on the commercialization of Christmas? Do you go into debt on Christmas gifts? I would love to hear your opinion about the Angel Tree I encountered. Please leave us a comment.