5 Reasons Why My Blog Is A Must Read

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Have you visited Mother 2 Mother?  I have 5 reasons why you visit and than subscribe.  Lets get to it:  

I Share Parenting Tips and Motivators for Parents –  There are thousands of parent blogs that you can read, but are they complaining about their journey or showing you how you can be successful? As a single mother who has already raised and college educated a daughter, I show you how you can be successful too. There is no booklet on how to parent perfectly. I offer tips on how you can persevere when you think you can’t go on. I share tips on instilling values, getting your child to understand the importance of education, organized sports and arts, ideas for sleep overs and so much more.  

Tips on Kitchen Gardening and Preserving –  There’s nothing better than fresh vegetables and herbs from the garden. I provide tips on to grow organic vegetables from seed, how to care for the plants until they produce fruit (veggies), and how to preserve your harvest. Growing your own vegetables and herbs help save on the grocery bill, allows you to have fresh vegetables year round, and serve healthy meals to your family. I also make jams, can homemade applesauce, and apple/peach filling for cobblers and ice cream toppings. Did I mention that you can garden on a balcony or use containers to produce fresh vegetables? Mother 2 Mother will show you how. 

Great Quotes To Motivate and Inspire We can all use a little motivation and inspiration.  As parents there are days that we will need a double dose of both. You can find great quotes on Mother 2 Mother that are sure to motivate and inspire. Start your day on a positive note.   

Fun Printables for Kids and Budget Friendly CraftsI love creating fun and educational activities for grandchildren. It’s a great way to occupy them while you regroup. I also create budget friendly crafts for my home.

I Share My Thoughts On This Thing Called Life Life can be tough and at times we need a little humor, other times we just need to tell it like it is. My tag line is Real Talk For Real Women. Hold on tight, the road through life can get bumpy especially when things get on my last nerve.  I also love to travel, so I will be sharing my adventures with and without my children.

Because I’m constantly learning and growing, Mother 2 Mother is always evolving.  I hope you will stop by and subscribe. We would love for you to join the conversation.  

5 Reasons Family Is Important To Children

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Family is important to children. We may not like some of our family members and they may not like us at times, but we can’t change who we are or the fact that we’re connected by a bloodline for a lifetime.  Some of our experiences with family have been different. Some of us come from single parent homes, alcoholic homes, or two parent homes that were loving or not so loving.  We can ignore, stay away from or disown our family, but we can’t get away from who we are.  That is a fact.   

When I was growing up family reunions, backyard BBQs, and Sunday gatherings were a given. You never knew how the day would end, but we would all return eventually. As children we spent time with siblings or cousins playing ball, hop scotch, doing cartwheels, or picking walnuts and berries for treats.  Although the event did not always end on a pleasant note for the adults, we still laugh about the good times that we had together as children.  

Here’s 5 reasons why family is important:    

Teaches Children About Who They Are – Learning about your heritage is important to understanding who you are. What better way to learn than from great grandparents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.  Listening to stories from relative’s childhood can help teach children about who they are and who family members are.  

Teaches Children About Trust – Spending time with family builds a bond which can lead to trust. As parents we must teach our children who to trust in the family, because not all family members should be trusted.  We all have drug addicts, alcoholics, thieves, liars and a host of other negative traits whether we want to admit it or not, so it’s important to guide your children in this endeavor. Forming a bond with family members can last a lifetime, it teaches children that they will always have someone to turn to with family.  

Provides Examples For Children – Spending time with family members gives children a first hand example of how other family members live.  Some family members will be doing better than others financially, have bigger and more beautiful homes, and be the most unhappy.  It also gives children an opportunity to see those that are not doing well, but are the happiest.  It allows children to see things from a perspective other than what’s conveyed in their home.  

Helps Develop Self-Esteem – It’s important that children become comfortable with who they are and be accepted for who they are.  What better place to start building a solid foundation than with family. No matter what, family should love and accept your imperfections, strengths and weaknesses.  

Gives Children A Sense of Security – Knowing that you’re loved by family gives children a sense of security.  They feel safe and accepted and free to be who they are.  When they not afraid of being who they are their self-worth soars. 

Family, is the important unit in our society and for good reason.  No matter what happens in life family will remain.  So many children yearn for the love of family, security, a sense of who they are and examples of how life can be.  If you have the opportunity to expose your children to extended family gatherings, I encourage you to do so.  Understanding the family tree is essential to learning who you are.   

15 Must Have Items For A First Aid Kit

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Do you have a first aid kit?  If you have children, it is essential.  There will always be a scrap, cut, rash, and mom will evidently suffer a burn in the kitchen. I always keep my first-aid kit stocked and ensure all ointments have not expired.  You don’t have to buy expensive first aid kits, I purchased a plastic container from the Dollar Store with compartments and added what I believed I would use with the children and for myself.  Here are a few items that my first-aid kit contains:
  1. Band-aids of various sizes
  2. Ointments for rashes, bee stings, and burns
  3. Ace-bandages and clips to hold the bandage together
  4. Gauze 
  5. Medical tape
  6. Medical scissors
  7. Peroxide and Antiseptic wipes
  8. Tweezers 
  9. Disposal gloves
  10. A Tube of Vaseline
  11. Benadryl for allergic reactions
  12. Tylenol or Aleve for adults 
  13. Baby and Bayer Aspirin (heart attacks and children)
  14. Eye Wash/Saline
  15. Cold compress (Made specifically for first aid kits)


If you have allergies, diabetics or other specific medical conditions include items that you will need in an emergency.  

 If you don’t have a first-aid kit, make plans to put one together.  In an emergency, running to the store, a neighbor’s or searching your bathroom cabinet may not be an option.  My car also has a first-aid kit, courtesy of my car maker. What items do you have in your first-aid kit?  
 
 
 
 
 

10 Benefits Of Children’s Organized Sports

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Cool weather means football season in my family. My grandson will be entering his third season of playing flag football.  He loves it.  His dad played football through college, so I guess it’s in his blood. When he first started playing, I was a little leery.  He was so much smaller than the other boys, but he assured me he would be okay.  He said Mawmaw, “They have to catch me.” Since I’m grandma, I have bragging rights so I will.  He is fast, and they do have a hard time catching him.  

It’s actually exciting to watch him and his team members play. His dad is the head coach and his grandfather is the assistant coach.  It truly is a family affair. He has grown and learned so much over the pass 2 years.  There are several benefits to children playing organized sports.  

 

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If you’re considering entering your child into an activity, please do. Xavier has benefited in the following ways:

  1. Physical Activity – He has learned the importance of being physically fit if you want to be involved in sports of any kind. It takes endurance to play an entire game, which is why most athletes do not smoke or do drugs. He has also learned the importance of eating healthy if he’s going to be an athlete.     
  2. Intellectual Stimulation – He has learned that playing ball requires skill and brain power. He must learn to listen to his coaches, think on his feet, remember his position, and put plays together that his coaches have called. 
  3. Confidence – His confidence and self-esteem has soared since he has been playing sports.  He believes in himself as a player and as a growing little boy.  
  4. Team Work – He has learned that a team win games, it is not an individual sport.  He has learned that he must work with his team members whether he likes them or not and he must play fairly against his opponents.
  5. Competition – He has learned that competition is a part of life and can be healthy if the game is played fairly. He has learned that there are players that are better and some that are not as good.  The important thing is to play your best at all times.   
  6. Focus – He has learned to focus on the game while tuning out the crowd shouting, listen for the whistle being blow by the referee, and listen to his coaches giving him instructions.
  7. Winning/Losing – He has learned that he nor his team can win at everything.  I remember the first game that his team lost.  He was so down, he didn’t think he deserved a trip to McDonald’s.  It made me so sad.  One of my life lesson’s came roaring to the surface, there will be times when you can’t sooth your child’s pain.  You must let life run it’s course.  
  8. Team Leaders – He has learned the importance of leading a team as captain and co-captain, and the responsibilities of a leader.  
  9. Friendship – He has made new friends on his and on opponent’s teams.  It has helped with his social skills, he gets invites to sleepovers, birthday parties and other outings. 
  10. Family Time – He spends time watching football and basketball with his dad and grandfathers.  He is getting a better understanding of the game, asks questions and joins in the conversation when they’re together.  

We also have Xavier in swim lessons and basketball.  He refuses to play baseball.  The thought of getting hit with a baseball frightens him.  We have accepted his fear and not pushed him to participate in the sport. If he decides to play down the road fine, if not that’s fine too.

It’s amazing to watch how far he has come from the backyard football games and shooting hoops in the driveway.  I would encourage all parents to place their child in an organized sport whether it be soccer, football, basketball, baseball or martial arts.  Now a  little discipline for the parents, stay tuned for that post.    

Parenting 101 Please

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If I read one more story about a child being abandoned, left in a hot car, neighborhood parks while mom is working or carjacked while mom is paying for gas I’m going to scream. I read these stories, and I’m in disbelieve.  It’s one after the other. People need a licence to have a dog, but anyone can be a parent. There’s no background checks, credit checks, education requirement, income requirement, we can just procreate. Many can’t afford to buy a box of pampers or can of milk for their child, but they have them and with no thought on how they’re going to take care of them. Providing a safe and productive life is an afterthought.   
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15 Celebrity Grandparents

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Being a grandmother is one of the greatest joys of my life.  It’s a role that’s quite different from when I was raising my daughter.  I don’t know how to describe it, only to say that it’s special.  I try hard not to cross lines that have been set by daughter and son-in-law as parents, but I set my own rules when they’re in my care.  

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How To Find Mentors When Mom or Dad Is Absent

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Are you a single parent  who needs to provide male or female influence for your son or daughter?   I’ve bee there, and I also know that parenting is a taxing role.  But one that can be rewarding too.  As single parents, we worry about everything because the majority of the time we do everything.  Furthermore, having daily support from dad is rare.  So, we must become the back bone when it comes to raring our children.  However, finding resources is imperative.

My ex-husband was involved in my daughter’s life after we divorced, but it was on his terms.   His priorities were all wrong.  For example, the responsibility of getting my daughter up, providing clothing, feeding her, educating her, taking her to activities and turning her into a young lady was my responsibility.  For the most part, he thought if he handed over money he had done his part.  As a result, I ended up divorce and making it on my own.

Regardless of whether you have a son or daughter, they will need a male influence in their life.  You can and you must provide a strong male figure.  Speaking from a male perspective is something we as women simply can not do.  However I do have a  a few tips on how I accomplished that goal and provided male role models for my daughter:

  • First, if you have a sister or brother or aunt or uncle who is married, you trust them,  and they have established a home and family please call them.  I’m sure their husband or wife would be willing to spend time talking to and teaching your child how to become a positive person in our society.
  • Next, contact your local Big Brother and Sister organization – They have volunteers who wish to spend time with local children.  Also, one of my male employees was a volunteer for a little girl.  As a matter of fact, he was a huge supporter for most of her life and is still involved now that she is an adult.
  • Also, get your child involved in church activities.  Preferably with someone who is trustworthy.  We hear so much about Catholic Priests and ministers who abuse children.  Take the necessary steps, and ensure your child is around those who can truly be trusted.  Predators choose churches because we as parents make the mistake of thinking that everyone is holy.
  • Furthermore, camps are also a good way for your child to learn about leadership from both a male and female perspective.  This can be a church camp, sports, Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, or whatever organizations you can find locally.
  • Most importantly, if you are blessed and have your father, get him involved.  Grandfathers have great influence on their grandchildren.
  • Recreational centers are another way to provide role models and mentors for your child.
  • Last, if you have positive nieces or nephews, have them spend quality time with your son or daughter. They will share things with each other that most won’t talk about in front of their parents.  This will give your child an opportunity to hear things from a different perspective too.
In conclusion, don’t worry that your son will become a murder, rapist or bank robber because mom is not around. Don’t worry that your daughter may become promiscuous and bring home babies out of wedlock or marry the first man who comes along because dad was absent.  The world is filled with people who fit into these categories who were raised in 2 parent homes.  Most importantly, there are many people in the world who were raised by single parents, and they are successful.
You must talk to your child constantly, so they know what path to take and be honest.  Let them know that being a single parent is not a glamorous job, but in fact hard work and you want more for them.  Lead the way, they’re depending on you.

If you have additional resources or ideas that are not listed, please share.

 

11 Manners You Should Teach Your Child

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Do you believe children today have less respect for elders and using manners is of no importance? I have found that excuse me, thank you, and please don’t seem to be a part of our children’s vocabulary these days. When did we lose this value? Teens have either cut in front of me or reached across me and never uttered a word.

When I was raising my daughter, manners were important. Good manners will take our children a long way.  I have been baffled about some children’s interaction with their parents on various occasions.  I have heard children call their parents by their first name, yell at them, just be downright disrespectful and the parent took no action.

Manners are taught and they should be taught at home. Along with manners comes respect. Instilling manners is a sign of respect for your parents and your upbringing as well as respect for yourself.  Who wants to be around rude and impolite children. These rude and impolite children will grow up to be rude and impolite adults. Here are a few tips to get your child on the road to respect and being polite:

 

  1. Please and Thank You. When you ask your child to pick up their toys, get ready for their bath etc. say please. When your child abides say thank you. Children learn by example.
  2. Yes Ma’am and Yes Sir. This is extremely important, especially when they are responding to seniors.
  3. Say Hello or Hi when you introduce them to friends, co-workers, church members or you have visitors in your home.
  4. Share toys, treats etc. when playing with friends or siblings.
  5. To Not Interrupt adult conversations unless it is an emergency.
  6. Table Manners. This will be important when you’re dining out or invited to a friend’s home or family gathering during the holidays. Your child needs to understand that they can not play with their food, slurp, burp, or create games with their eating utensils. If a burp does arise, teach them to say excuse me.
  7. Excuse Me when they need to pass in front of an adult or get around them.
  8. Be Positive – Say nice things about other people.
  9. Wash Their Hands with soap and water after using the bathroom and before meals. Also, teach them to wipe their hand on a towel and not on their clothes. Teaching them to use hand sanitizer is a good idea when soap and water is not available.
  10. Wipe their nose with a tissue and not their hands. Also, picking their nose is improper.
  11. Respect  – Showing respect toward adults and others.  Demonstrate respect and your children will mimic you.

Using patience with your child is a must while teaching them manners. They won’t learn overnight, so it’s important that you remind them of the importance of manners often. As they get older and they have mastered the basics, you can instill other values.

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Are You Teaching Your Child About Racism

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Do you see the world in black or white?  If so you’re missing mesmerizing colors.  I created this quote several months ago, and tucked it away. Today I pull it out.  I’ve been watching the coverage on Donald Sterling, owner of the LA Clippers, and I’ve had so many things go through my mine.  I debated whether I should do this post.

I wavered because I have diverse followers and I didn’t want to offend anyone with my thoughts and truths.  However, there are times that we need to put on our big girl pants and face reality.  I am known to give things to you straight and I don’t always offer a chaser.  But lets not be afraid to discuss uncomfortable issues on Mother 2 Mother.  After all, it’s Real Talk for Real Women.

As an African American, I’ve encountered my share of racism.  At times blatant and others not so much.  I was profoundly offended when I was listening to Donald Sterling’s words.  It seems that some people’s focus was on his First Amendment rights and other’s focus was on his racist comments. When I was listening to his words, his First Amendment rights was not an issue for me.  First Amendment rights don’t apply when a person is being disrespected.  If you think you’re bold enough to speak it, you have to be bold enough to suffer the consequences of your words.  I applauded the fact that he has been banned from the NBA for life.  NBA= No Bigots Allowed.

Why should his First Amendments rights override another person’s rights to live, play, work and live freely in this country?  Why should other people have to endure his bigoted comments?  Because he has the right to say whatever he wants?  Do we really?  This is a prime case of be careful what you say.

Let me be clear, I’m not saying that a person is not entitled to their opinions.  However, if your opinions are hurtful to another person maybe you should keep it to yourself.  Do you believe people are born racist?  Do you think racism is learned behavior?  I was called the “N” Word for the first time around 11 or 12.  Needless to say, the person who sprouted that word took an ass-whipping.  Before I could respond, my sister gave her a whipping that she will never forget.  I don’t condone violence, so as an adult I would handle things differently.

But at that point, we weren’t about to walk away without leaving her with a memory.  I grow up in a small community, and we were free to roam and be carefree as children.  We played together, we went to school together and some dated outside of their race.  I am happy to say that most of us have remained friends and follow each other on Facebook.  A few of us even worked for the same agency. To me that says a lot of what we truly thought of each other growing up.  I’m proud of my upbringing.

Since I believe racism is taught, I made sure that I educated my daughter on the importance of loving everyone.  I never limited her on who she could play with, socialize with or date unless I believed that person was harmful in some kind of manner.  She had diverse friends growing up and she still has most of them.  She dated outside of  her race in high school.

We must educate our children to not discriminate against another person based on race, religion, sexual preference, gender etc. It may not be how we choose to live, but so be it.  We must have this conversation with our children, so they will know better.  They are the next generation and our future leaders.

You can think what you want; however, your offensive remarks could become public.  Regardless of whether they were supposed to be private or not, there is a price to pay.   It is imperative that each of us think before we speak, period. Being a hateful person is not natural.  There’s a hole in your heart.  On-line posts are no loner private.  So, what you say in another’s presence may not remain private either.   Lesson learned.  Are you teaching your child about racism or turning the other cheek?

Ronald McDonald Gets A Makeover

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Do you remember Ronald McDonald and the cast of characters in McDonald Land?  I loved the Hamburglar and Officer Big Mac.  In recent years Ronald McDonald  and his friends have made few appearances on TV or any of the McDonald’s restaurants.  It seems his character is a thing of the past except for his appearances relating to the Ronald McDonald House.   With all the negative publicity about the fat grams in their food and mothers suing because their children want Happy Meals, and they just can’t tell them no.  It seems that McDonald’s has decided to place their focus on their coffee rather than their burgers.

 

 

It’s rather sad that a cast of characters have been abandoned.  I loved taking my daughter to play in McDonald Land Saturday afternoons when she was growing up.  She ate a happy meal every Saturday, and she’s healthy and happy.  I find it rather disturbing that obesity is being blamed on corporations such as McDonald’s when in fact the parents should take responsibility for their own inability to control their child’s diet.  I guess it’s easier to point the finger at somebody else rather than look in the mirror and say I’m the problem.  My parenting skills need some work.

 

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It also saddens me that you can’t find McDonald’s characters incorporated into their playgrounds anymore.  Children should be allowed to use their imagine and be carefree.  I would love for my grandchildren to see Officer Big Mac, Mayor McCheese, Grimace and the Fry Kids.  Instead McDonald’s is changing their marketing gimmicks to the more sophisticated consumer.  They carry iPads, text, and sip lattes, mochas, cappuccinos and espressos.   The new consumer is sophisticated.  Unfortunately, I guess all good things must come to an end.  I must accept the fact that we’ve entered a new millennium.

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Stop! Wait!  Meet the new Ronald McDonald.  McDonald’s recently gave him a makeover or at least a new outfit. Does he look creepy?  Should the designers left him in his original clothes? Tweeters are debating.  McDonald’s wanted to update Ronald and have him take on a new role on Twitter.  Most importantly, tThis Ronald will be moving into social media.   As a matter of fact, he will be tweeting for the corporation using the hash tag #RonaldMcDonald.   Additionally, McDonald’s plans to bring Ronald into the mainstream later this year.   

However, from my perspective I think Ronald looks handsome in his new outfit.  And I can’t wait for my grandchildren to see him at upcoming events.  Finally, I hope they will bring back the other adorable characters.