Advice for New Moms and Dads

July 16, 2021 by Leave a Comment

Today, I’m sharing parenting tips on advice for new moms and dads.  Your job as a parent is not going to be an easy one. While the experience is mostly rewarding and gratifying, there are likely days when you feel defeated and like you’re failing.

There are some parenting tips you should consider that will help you succeed in your role.  Furthermore, they will help you eliminate stress when the days aren’t going as planned. The following parenting advice will help you develop a closer bond and provide a happy and healthy environment for them to learn and grow.

 

 

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Advice for New Moms and Dads

 

Make Time for Your Kids

One of the most important tips you can apply is to make quality time for your kids. Practice work-life balance and give your kids your undivided attention when you’re with them. Put your phone away and eliminate distractions so you can be fully present in the moment. Mix up what you do and the activities you participate in to make your time together more interesting and fun. 

 

 

 

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Comfort Your Children  

Your kids are going to need you for a variety of reasons throughout the years. Be there for them when they reach out and know how to best comfort them in times of need. For instance, they may have an issue at school they need help dealing with and will ask you for advice or support. They might also suddenly become sick with a bad cold of the flu. In this case, it’s wise to invest in supplies such as a Steam Vaporiser that you can turn on and run so they can get a good night’s sleep and wake up feeling better and less congested.

 

Parenting Advice on Being a Role Model

Another parenting tip is to be a good role model. Your kids are always watching you, and have the desire to emulate you and all you do. Therefore, set a proper example and make sure you’re using words and taking actions that you’d want them to repeat. Use mistakes you make as a parent as opportunities to teach your kids a new or different way of handling situations.

 

Be Flexible 

If you’re always stuck in your ways and not willing to budge with your rules then you may create a divide in your relationship with your kids. Kids and their needs are always changing and they’re continuing to learn and take in new information. Therefore, it’s in your best interest to be flexible and willing to adjust your parenting approach and rules. While you want to stick to your overall values and expectations, you also should take each situation as it unfolds and handle it the best way you can at the time with an open mind.

 

These parenting tips will help you succeed in your role and hopefully make your job a little easier on you. Remember your kids are only young once so have some fun and enjoy these years because they will go by fast and soon you’ll be seeing them off to college.

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Mom’s House Dad’s House Co-parenting Together

February 6, 2021 by Leave a Comment

Today, I’m sharing parenting advice on how to co-parent successfully at mom’s house dad’s house.  Going through a divorce or separation is never easy, especially when kids are involved.  Sadly, your feelings towards each other probably aren’t good.  However, finding a way to share parenting responsibilities so you that you can give your children the best childhood is imperative.

Growing up across two happy homes is undoubtedly better than growing up in an unhappy household. However, it will take a conscious and joint effort to make that happen. Focus on the following, and you won’t go far wrong.

 

 

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First, kids need to enjoy a positive relationship with both parents unless there is an extreme circumstance. Child custody can be a difficult subject to resolve, which is why you will need the right expert on your side. However, it’s important to avoid using your child as a weapon to hurt your ex. The goal of co-parenting is to find a fair solution for everyone.

The time-sharing elements will vary from one family to the next. Some children do a four-day/three-day split. Others see one parent on the weekends. There are many contributing factors ranging from geographic distances to your careers. Do what works best for the child.

 

Consistency at Mom’s House Dad’s House

Transitioning from one home to two is tough on a child, but they are resilient. Nonetheless, one thing they will need is a sense of stability and consistency. Otherwise, the whole process of splitting their time across two properties becomes very confusing. So, while the two households needn’t be identical, they should work together.

This can manifest itself in many ways. From implementing the same bedtime routines to giving your child the same responsibilities in both homes. Children benefit from having transparency and clarity in their lives. When co-parents work together to provide it, their behavior and development should thrive.

Comfort

If your child is going to spend their time split across two households, the key is to make them happy homes. Unfortunately, you cannot have much of an impact on your ex-spouse’s property. Therefore, it’s vital that you create a winning environment within your own property, starting with their bedroom.

Having that place to call their own can make a world of difference. At this time, especially with the changes caused by the pandemic, a winning backyard is crucial too. Whether used for burning off energy, enjoying summer BBQs, or relaxing, it can be a very useful space. Most importantly, your child needs to feel the sense of belonging.

 

 

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Civility

There’s a very strong chance that you aren’t going to share a close friendship with your ex. After all, there is a reason you split up. However, co-parenting is a lot easier when you can remain civil. Even if you don’t want to see each other face-to-face, cloud computing allows you to share schedules or files. Embrace it.

 

Most importantly, you must always refrain from bad-mouthing the other parent. Political point scoring will only upset your child, which is the last thing any of you want to do.  As your grandma used to say, if you can’t say anything nice say nothing at all.  Your mission tis to create positive vibes and a good environment for your children to grow up in.

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Helping Children Through Divorce

October 20, 2020 by Leave a Comment

Today, I’m sharing empowerment tips on helping children through divorce.  Divorce can be a stressful time for anyone who is going through one.  I believe everyone enters marriage thinking they will be with their partner for life.  However, things don’t always work out that way.  Marriages end for many reason including infidelity, money problems, lack of communication, or people simply outgrow each other.

Divorce is also a stressful and scary time for children too.  Their comfort zone has been interrupted, their parents are arguing or not speaking or  one may have moved out and now they are separated.  Sadly, the children don’t know what will happen to their life or the comfort they once knew.  It’s the responsibility of the parent to assure them that their life will remain stable.

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Helping Children Through Divorce:

  • Assure your children that the divorce is not their fault.
  • Let them know that mommy and daddy love them and will always be there for them.
  • Explain co-parenting, and let them know that you’re not the only family who goes through divorce.
  • Avoid arguments over child support and/or spousal support in front of the kids.
  • If possible, have some of the above conversations with your soon to be ex-husband or partner.
  • Try to attend school or other functions together to assure the children see that you can get along.  You don’t have to sit beside each other, but in the same vicinity is great.  Your child can see both of you without having to scour the room to find mommy and daddy.
  • If one or the other plans to remarry or becomes involved with another person try to get along with the new people.  It’s important for your children to see that life moves on and it’s okay when it happens.
  • Invite daddy to the birthday parties and other major events.
  • Stick to the visitation schedule.  If their dad gets them at 6:00 pm on Fridays have them ready.
  • Keep dad informed about doctor and dental visits.  He has a right to know what’s happening with his children’s health.
  • Share the football, baseball, ballet schedule or other activities with your ex-husband or partner.

 

 

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Life is full of changes.  If we learn to deal with life as it comes and as mature, responsible and intelligent parents we can overcome the obstacles and live a healthy, healthy life.  Divorce is hard, but it doesn’t have to be the event that breaks you.

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So, I hope that you have found my tips on helping children through divorce beneficial.  Most importantly, I hope you will implement a few.  They worked for me, and I’m confident they will work for you.  You may also like Tips from Divorce Lawyers.

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Tips on Succeeding As a Single Parent

April 20, 2014 by

Today, I’m sharing parenting advice on succeeding as a single parent.  Raising children as a single parent, whether you’re a mother or father, can be exhausting.  It takes focus, strength and determination to succeed, but it can be done.  I am living proof that it can be done.

 

 

 

 

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So, if we accept that each and every one of us are where we are because of decisions that we’ve made, we will be more willing to make better decisions.  Life doesn’t have an eraser, and as long as we continue to make bad choices we will come up short. Life is not perfect, we will all fail from time to time.  But, don’t let poor decision making be what’s driving you.  
You should know that when you decide to change courses, drive will be what takes you from Point A to Point B and beyond.  If you don’t have any drive get some.  You must be willing to dig deep inside of yourself when you feel you can’t go on.  Furthermore,  you must be willing to make sacrifices.  Life isn’t easy, and the world doesn’t owe you anything just because of you’re a single parent.

Most importantly, I refused to allow myself to fall into the stereotypes that society has set aside for single mothers. Have you noticed that single dads are praised for their endeavors, but women are looked at differently?  Unfair maybe, but it is indeed a fact. I refused to depend on the system to take care of me or my child, and I have no regrets about my decision!  I believe the system should be a stepping stone if it’s going to be used.  But that is simply my belief.   

 

Succeeding As a Single Parent: 

 

  • Become Determined –   Decide that you’re going to make it and nothing will stop you. You have to be focused and determined. 
  • When the going gets tough, dig deep within and find the strength.  Know the strength is there and your child or children need you to plow on. 
  • Listen to your intuition –   It is usually right.  I’ve lost count of the number of times I looked the other way when I should have been paying attention to that little voice inside.  
  • Decide that you’re going to be a good example for your children  –  Become the person that you would like them to be.  (Think about the characteristics that are important to you, honesty, reliable, etc.)  

 

 

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  • Remember, the world doesn’t owe you anything – You need to make your mark and become self sufficient. You’ll feel much better about yourself.  
  • Develop a plan –  You must plan in order to be successful.  Decide what you want to do and what you need to do to accomplish your goals.      
  • Find support either on-line or in your community  – You’re not alone.   
  • Always make your children a priority – You can balance a job and your home.  Women do it every day.  If you need to enhance your skills before seeking a job, get in a program where you can get assistance.  Finding balance is key.  
  • Don’t neglect yourself  – You need to feel good about yourself.  When you feel good about yourself you’ll achieve more.  
  • Find a higher power or church – It’s important that you believe in someone or something other than you.  You will be calling on them for strength and support along your journey.     
Succeeding as a single parent has been accomplished by many.  Again, I am speaking from experience. Please share some of your struggles and how you’ve overcome them as a single mother.  There may be someone who can relate and build on your tips.  You may also like Tips for Raising a Child Alone. 

 

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