How To Host A Great Baby Shower

 

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Thinking of hosting a baby shower for a relative or friend and don’t know where to start or proper etiquette on how to host the event? Taking on the responsibility of hostess requires time, energy and creativity. It can become stressful if you’re not organized or plan effectively.  

I’ve hosted several baby showers over the years. Two for my daughter and several for family members.  I sure wish I had a few tips on how and when I should do various steps before I took on the responsibility. I put together a few tips for you on how to host a great baby shower. Here’s my tips:  

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How’s Your Decision Making Skills

 

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Decisions, decisions, decisions. Do you find yourself being indecisive with things in your life, and you don’t know what direction to go in? Does the simplest tasks become monumental?  If going in circles has become a way of life or you find yourself throwing up your hands and dealing with the matter later, you may be suffering from indecisiveness.  

I have found myself in this position more than once. My livelihood is made from managing people. There are times when I have to step away and make a decision at a later time because I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed. I know that I couldn’t continue managing in that way, so I had to reassess my decision making skills.        

I have found that stress plays a major role in my indecisiveness at times, but you may be feeling something different. There are 4 major areas that keep us from being able to make a decision. If you’re finding yourself wavering on things ask yourself if you are feeling:  


1.  Fear – Are you afraid of making the wrong decision?  If you’re not making a major purchase and nobody will get hurt go ahead and make the decision.  I do a pros and cons list.  If the pros outweigh the cons, I have learned to live with my decision.  

2.  Over Analyzing –  Do you spend time gathering information and reviewing it over and over? At some point we have to make a decision. Set a date and time, when it arrives make your decision and stick with it.  It’s okay to reassess your decision later and make adjustments.   

3.  Lack of Confidence – Are you confident with our skill set?  If you know that you have the skills to accomplish your endeavor, believe in yourself.  We’re not perfect beings and we won’t always make the right decisions, but we must learn to make them confidently.  

4.  Stress – Are you stressed out all the time? Take time to relax and breath a little.  A walk with the children, your husband or a friend could be just what the doctor ordered.  Take time to soak in the tub, sip a cup of tea or give yourself  a home manicure.  When you feel good about yourself, you feel good about life.

As leaders in our homes, businesses, and social influencers, decision making is a way of life for today’s woman. We must lead not only with confidence, we must lead with conviction. Especially if we want others to follow. How do you handle indecisiveness?  

21 Must See Girl Flicks

Do you have a stash of girl flicks?  If you don’t have one, you should start a collection. I love watching old  movies either with the girls, family night or on the week-ends while I’m relaxing. While I was dusting off my collection of old DVDs and VHS movies, I thought about the good times I had watching them with my daughter when she was growing up. I love looking back on those days, and I’m so glad I created those memories for her and me. 
 
Watching old movies is good for the soul? They make you laugh, cry and remember the time period when those movies were popular. For me, I remembered where I lived when I watch certain movies. Things were said or done when I watched them with family or friends. The last time I watched a few of the old movies, I remembered the old townhouse that I l lived in before I purchased the home that I live in today. I remember everything about that house and neighborhood so vividly. As you get older, you realize that so many things change. Unfortunately, we can’t stop change but we can always reminisce.  
 
I’m always adding to my collection. I check out the movie boxes in stores like Wal-Mart, Big Lots, Kmart and don’t forget yard sales. I have grabbed quite a few of my favs for $5.00 at these places. I also look for them used on Amazon. There’s a shipping cost of $3.99, but if I can get the movie in good to excellent condition for a few bucks it’s worth it. 
 
Here’s a few of favorite girl flicks from my collection:   

1. The American President – I love any movie Michael Douglas is in. Annette Bening stars in this movie as well as Martin Sheen and Michael J. Fox.  Who says the President of the United States can’t pursue a beautiful woman and run the country at the same time. That is exactly what happens in The American President, but not without hitting a few bumps in the road. My favorite line in the movie is Michael Douglas telling Annette Bening how he manages to give a woman flowers and be  President, “Well it turns out I have a rose garden.”

2. Baby Boom – Diane Keaton another great actress plays her role perfectly in Baby Boom. Diane stars as a Manhattan executive who inherits a baby. She buys a house sight unseen in Vermont and leaves Manhattan to raise Elizabeth, but not without problems. The house has so many issues that it nearly breaks her financially and causes her to have a nervous breakdown. She gets her bearings and decides to come up with a plan to sell the house and move back to Manhattan. In the mean time she makes homemade apple sauce for her little picky eater and decides to try selling a few jar in one of the country stores. It’s a hit. She starts selling the applesauce as all natural gourmet apple sauce and babies across the country love it. She also falls in love. Will she stay in Vermont or will she return to Manhattan? Best line in the movie Diane Keaton, “I can’t have a baby because I have a 12:30 lunch meeting.”
  

 

3. Boomerang – I normally don’t take pleasure in other people’s pain, but I don’t have a problem with a player when he gets played. That’s is exactly what happens when things are reversed and Robin Givens who is Eddie Murphy’s boss in the movie plays him like a fiddle. Yes Robin Givens dishes out the same treatment to Eddie Murphy that he has dished out to women over the years. Murphy finds her treatment humiliating. She leaves him in love and in despair. Halle Berry tries to help Marcus through his pain. They become close. Will he go back to Robin Givens or stay with Halle Berry? The best line in the movie is Halle Berry to Eddie Murphy, “What do you know about love? What could you possibly know about love? You know, I’m sick and tired of men using love as if it’s some disease you just catch. Love should have brought your ass home last night.”  Funny movie.   

 

 

4. Driving Miss Daisy – One of my favorite movies with Morgan Freeman who plays Hoke, an African American chauffeur in the movie. Jessica Tandy is Miss Daisy and Dan Aykroyd plays her son. Morgan Freeman is hired by Dan Aykroyd to drive Miss Daisy’s, Jessica Tandy, after she wrecks her car. Jessica Tandy is not receptive to the idea for various reasons and makes her feelings know in various way. She soon grows fond of Freeman. A wonderful relationship is formed. She teaches Freeman to read and tells him that he is her best friend. The story line also touches on racial tension in the country. You have to get the tissues out a few times for this one. It touches your heart. My favorite line in the movie is Dan Aykroyd telling Jessica Tandy, “You’re a doodle, Mama.”

5.  Fatal Attraction – I have one word to say about this movie, Psycho!  As far as I’m concerned this movie has to be Glenn Close’s best performance. She has an affair with Michael Douglas who is a married lawyer with a child. His wife, Ann Archer, is out of town with the kid for the week-end. Douglas thinks he can return to his normal life, but Close has other plans for them. She wants to take things to another level, and she does. She tells Douglas she’s pregnant. He wants nothing to do with her and tries to that make that clear. She can’t process it and she’s not willing to accept that heart breaking news. She breaks into their home, kidnaps the kid and tries to kill his wife. This movie will have you on the edge of your seat no matter how many times you watch it.  My favorite line in the movie is Douglas to Close, “I’ll pity you… I’ll pity you. I’ll pity you because you’re sick. Close – “Why? Because I won’t allow you treat me like some slut you can just bang a couple of times and throw in the garbage?”

6. The Body Guard – What a team, Whitney Houston and Kevin Costner. Hold on for a second, I need to make the steam off the TV screen.  Great performance and sound track for this movie. Whitney Houston stars as a singer in this movie who is receiving death threats and is being stalked. Her manager hires former CIA Agent Frank Farmer, Kevin Costner, to protect her. Houston and Costner get close and sleep together. Costner finds it hard to protect her because he’s emotionally involved, so he breaks off the relationship. Houston defies his strategies to keep her safe, but learns that she must rely on him to keep her safe. Great performances by both.  My favorite line in the movie is Kevin Costner to Whitney Houston, “I’m here to keep you alive, not help you shop.”









7. Legally BlondeI loved Reese Witherspoon in Legally Blonde. She plays a dizzy blonde who is dumped by her boyfriend. She’s crushed, she expected him to ask her to marry him before he heads off to Harvard Law School. She decides to join him at Harvard, hoping that he will take her seriously and they can rekindle their relationship. She finds out the he is engaged to his old girlfriend. After she comes to term with the fact that he will never take her seriously, Witherspoon decides to complete her journey through law school for her. She gets serious about her grades and lands a position on a team of law students who have been selected to defend one of her rich sorority buddies. Witherspoon ends up being the head lawyer, guided by a senior attorney on the team, and wins the case. She also wins the heart of the senior lawyer who guided her. Funny movie!  My favorite line in the movie, “Don’t stomp your little last season Prada shoes at me, honey.”

 

8. Maid In Manhattan – Jennifer Lopez stars as a maid, Marisa, working in a posh hotel. She is a single mother raising a son, and is working hard to get promoted. Her son often spends time at the hotel until she finishes her shift. A co-worker convinces her to try on a guest’s designer Dolce & Gabbana coat. Mean while her son has met and bonded with senatorial candidate Christopher Marshall, Ralph Fiennes. Her son wants to go for a walk with the candidate and seeks out his mother to obtain permission. She’s wearing the Dolce & Gabbana coat, and is mistaken for the socialite who’s room she is cleaning. She decides join her son and the candidate on their walk, and the candidate quickly falls for her. She continues to hide her identity and tries to avoid him, but he continues to pursue her. She is eventually exposed, but love conquers all and proves that dreams really do come true.  My favorite line in the movie is the candidate telling Caroline, who he mistakenly invites to lunch thinking she was Marisa, “The first lunch was a mistake. A second would be complete torture.”

 

9. Two Can Play That Game –  Vivica Fox, Morris Chestnut, Wendy Racquel Robinson, Monique, Bobby Brown, and Anthony Anderson star in this movie. Vivica Fox, an Executive, and Morris Chestnut, an attorney, are dating. Their relationship is threaten when it seems Morris Chestnut is crossing the line to straying. Vivica Fox considers herself to be a relationship expert and claims to know all of a man’s tricks. She develops a plan to get Morris in line. Let the battle begin. Funny movie with an all star cast. My favorite line in the movie is Anthony Andersonn, ” The CIA ain’t got shit on a woman with a plan!”

 

10. Monster In Law – Jane Fonda makes her return in Monster In Law along with Jennifer Lopez, Wanda Sykes, and Michael Vartan. Jane Fonda is a newscaster that has been replaced with a younger less intelligent girl newscaster. Wanda Sykes is Jane Fonda’s assistance. To put the icing on the cake after she is replaced her son, Michael Vartan, falls in love with Jennifer Lopez. Michael is a doctor, Jennifer is a dog walker, artist, and yoga instructor. Jane Fonda does everything in her power to sabotage their relationship. She fears losing her son to a younger woman. She works to make Jennifer’s life hell and almost succeeds, until Jennifer decides to fight back. Hilarious movie.  My favorite line in the movie is Wanda Sykes to Jane Fonda, “Fix your hair. You look like a damn cockatoo.”

11. An Officer and a Gentleman –  This is where I fell in love with Richard Gere.  Long before Pretty Woman. I do love a man in a uniform. Richard Gere stars with Louis Gossett Jr. and Debra Winger in this movie. Richard Gere plays an Aviation Officer Candidate who doesn’t see eye to eye with his training instructor Louis Gossett Jr. He also engages in a relationship with Debra Winger as he struggles to complete his 13 week training as a candidate. He’s been warned about the local girls who get pregnant or pretend they are pregnant in hopes of marrying a Navy pilot. He keeps his heart guarded, he doesn’t plan on being around longer than his 13 weeks. After graduating from the program, he plans to move on with his life and become a US Navy pilot. His heart won’t let him, he can’t leave without the woman he tried so heart not to fall in love with. Beautiful teary eyed ending.  My favorite line in the movie is Debra Winger talking to Richared Gere, “You know something, you ain’t nothing special. You got no manners, you treat woman like whores and if you ask me you got no chance of being no officer.”

 

12. Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion – Lisa Kudrow and Mira Sorvino star as Romy and Michele in this comedy. They’ve been Besties since high school and they’re heading back to their 10 year reunion, but not before they reinvent themselves. Neither have been ambitious, so they’re not pleased with who they are or what they’ve accomplished in the last 10 years. They borrow a friend’s jaguar and head to Arizona to celebrate with old schoolmates. While in route they decide that they will tell class-mates that they invented Post its. Mira Sorvino wants to take credit on the invention and thinks Lisa Kudrow should take credit for them being yellow. Lisa thinks that is an insult to her intelligence and by the time they arrive at the reunion they aren’t speaking. Making it through the reunion and living up to the Post it scheme proves difficult. Will their friendship survive? My favorite line in the movie, Mira Sorvini mocking the movie Pretty Woman – “Aw, look, poor thing – they won’t let her shop. Yeah – like those salesgirls in Beverly Hills aren’t bigger whores than she is.” 




13. Waiting to Exhale – An all star cast stars in Waiting to Exhale. This includes the late Whitney Houston, Loretta Devine, Angela Bassett, Lela Rochon, Gregory Hines, Michael Beach and Wesley Snipes. This story revolves around 4 African American women who share friendships through divorce, affairs with married men, an unwed pregnancy, and single parenting. They truly demonstrate that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. My favorite line in the movie, Loretta Devine to Gregory Hines, “Would you like to have dinner with us tonight? It’s just leftovers. Collard greens and corn bread, some candied yams, a little potato salad, fried chicken, peach cobbler and a few slices of ham.”

 



14. Sabrina – Harrison Ford just gets sexier with age. Harrison Ford, Julia Ormond and Greg Kinnear star in the remake of Sabrina and do an excellent job. The movie revolves around the Larrabee family and their million dollar business. In the movie Julia Ormond is in love with Greg Kinnear; however, Julia’s father is the Larrabee family’s chauffeur. Although Julia is in love with Greg, Greg likes to play the scene. Sabrina is not on his radar. She decides to accept an internship at Vogue and travels to Paris. Once competed, she returns home a new woman in more ways than one. She attracts the attention of both David Larrabee and his older brother Linus. She also finds out that her father, the chauffeur, is worth $2.5 million dollars. Who will win Sabrina’s heart? My favorite line in the movie is from Julia Ormond to Greg Kinnear, “They say you think morals are pictures on walls and scruples is money in Russia.”

 

15. Steel Magnolias – What do you get when you have Dolly Parton, Sally Fields, Daryl Hannah, Julia Roberts, Olivia Dukakis, and Shirley MacaLaine? Fabulous!  Everyone of these ladies gave a stellar performance in this movie. They will make you laugh and they will make you cry as the prepare for Julia Roberts’ wedding day and all the festivities that go along with it. They also come together for the birth of Robert’s son and her death after her kidney transplant fails. My favorite line in the movie is Dolly Parton, ” Honey, time marches on and eventually you realize it is marchin’ across your face.”   

16. Why Did I Get MarriedAnother great Tyler Perry movie starring Tyler Perry, Janet Jackson, Jill Scott, and Tasha Smith to name a few. The movies revolves around four couples, who are also best friends. The rent a house in the mountains for a week to help work out any marital problems and answer the question “Why did I get married?” It ends up being a bumpy ride, the couples don’t make it a week. Ugly revelations are spewed from one having a sexually transmitted disease and giving it to her husband, a husband having an affair with his wife’s cousin, one wife being called stupid for not have a child seat belted in correctly and the child dying, to another having her tubes tied and her husband not knowing. I loved it. My favorite line in the movie from Tyler Perry, “You women are so used to losing that you don’t even realize when you have won!”





17. Working Girl –  Harrison Ford teams up with Melanie Griffith and Sigourney Weaver in Working Girl. Melanie Griffin is trying to work her way up the corporate ladder. She shares an idea with Sigourney Weaver who plays her boss. Sigourney tells Melanie that she discussed her idea, but the executives didn’t buy it. Melanie Griffith finds out that Sigourney plans to pass the idea off as her own.  She contacts Harrison Ford to hear her idea and help her sell it. He agrees. They also feel an attraction for each other and mix business with pleasure. Things get sticky, Sigourney Weaver has her hooks in Harrison Ford and wants to take things to the next level. He’s not buying, he’s into Melanie Griffith.  Melanie and Sigourney butt heads over Melanie’s idea, but Melanie is able to convince the executives that the idea was hers. Sigourney is fired, and Melanie and Jack continue their relation.  My favorite line in the movie is Melanie Griffith telling Harrison Ford, “I am not steak. You can’t just order me.”



18.  Pretty Woman – Richard Gere and Julia Roberts are magical together.  This movie made Julia Roberts a star. Julia Roberts stars as a prostitute who is picked up by Richard Gere on Hollywood Boulevard driving a Lotus.  He initially asks her to spend the, which turns into a week which turns into a lifetime. I could watch this movie over and over, which I do. Nice soundtrack and also stars Jason Alexander as Gere’s lawyer and Hector Elizondo as the Beverly Wilshire hotel manager. My favorite line in the movie is Julia Roberts to Richard Gere, “I want the fairy tale.”





19.  Something To Talk About  –  Stars Julia Roberts, Robert Duvall, Dennis Quaid, Gena Rowlands, and Kyra Sedgwick. Julia Roberts discovers that her husband, Dennis Quaid, is having an affair. They separate and struggle to keep their marriage together. Robert Duvall and Gena Rowlands play Julia Roberts’ parents who own a horse hunting and jumping farm also have problems. My favorite line in the movie is Julia Roberts asking, “Yeah, I just want to ask how many people here has NOT had sex with my husband?”



20.  Touch & Go – Stars Michael Keaton, Maria Conchita Alonso and Ajay Naidu. Michael Keaton stars as professional hockey player who is mugged by a local gang. He catches gang member Ajay Naidu, and takes him home to his mother, Maria Conchita Alonso.  Alonso offers to take Keaton to lunch for his troubles. He accepts and they become close, but not without a few struggles. Ajay Naidu follows him to an away game as a stow away on the bus and Maria Conchita Alonso is attacked by one of the gang members. Keaton returns to confront the gang member who attacks her. He brings her home from the hospital, sets her up in her own business and takes their relationship to another level.  Nice ending to an unlikely love story, great love story. Favorite line in the movie, Keaton telling Naidu, “I’m going to knock on all of the doors with your head.”  

21.  Gloria –  This movie is more of a drama than a love story. I love Gena Rowlands, so any movie she plays in is a girl flick for me. Rowlands stars as a girlfriend of a mobster in Gloria. She ends up with the son of an accountant and his wife who have a hit placed on them. The accountant is an informant for the feds, but he’s also an accountant for the mob. The wife knows they’re going to die, so she asks Rowlands to take the children so they can live. The daughter won’t go with Rowlands, but the son goes with her. She vows to protect the little boy at all cost. Gena Rowlands to the mob, “You let a WOMAN beat ya, huh?”

These are fun movies to watch no matter your age. It’s nice to see some of the veterans actors at their best. Hope you can find 1 or 2 that peeks your interest or that you already love enough to curl up and watch again. Are any of the movies listed one of your favorites? If not, what’s one of your favorite girl flicks?  Stay tuned for my list of all time favorite movies, which is a series of drama, additional girl flicks, and westerns. Yes, I said westerns. 




Blogging Tips From On The Scene With Mrs. Kathy King


This is the first interview of a series that I will be doing on Mother 2 Mother.  First, my goal is to  provide resources and information that will assist beginner bloggers and others who wish to grow their blog. Hopefully, the tips will help bloggers who are interested in turning their hobby into a professional site.  My interviews will be with Professional Bloggers who have already achieved this  goal, and are willing to share a few tips and tricks to help others succeed.

Today I’m On the Scene with Mrs. Kathy King.  Let’s begin the interview:
Question 1 – Please tell our readers a little about yourself:
 
Mrs. Kathy King – “I’m just me. It’s only by the grace of God I’m even where I’m at.  Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be blogging.  One of the reasons why I blog is so I can be home with my daughter. When I first started blogging I had just changed my job.  I’m a corporate girl, I got laid off.  I was making six figures, so I figured that it would be better for me to learn how to save money now that I had lost my job. This was after 2008, I didn’t know if the market would ever allow me to make six figures again. I made a conscious effort to learn how to save money.”

“My hobby, couponing, turned into an actual site; however, things changed. I started reporting the best deals, anything that was family friendly that moms could enjoy. “It took me about six months to grow my following from 1 follower to 16,000 on Facebook.”

“In 2013, I started going to actual blogger conventions; however, my passion had changed. My true passion is my family, and my daughter.  After going to a couple of amazing blogger conventions which I recommend anyone who wants to be successful blogging, they have to invest time to go to blogger conventions. If they don’t have the money they never know what God can do because in 2013, I didn’t have the budget to afford it, but I noticed where some of the places where giving away scholarships.  I applied to the different scholarships and two of the places I wanted to go I actually received scholarship funds. You never know what God can do.  I was blessed to go.”

“I did something that most bloggers fear, fear. So, I decided to change my site. By this time I had already invested 2 ½ – 3 years into my site, and I decided I don’t want a Deal Blog. I’m going to change my entire name. I went from being a Deal Blogger to actually putting myself in front of my audience.  Because I was in marketing, I think that the more you put yourself in front of your audience and the more you. Brand your blog as yourself, the better of a Brand you get.  I was in marketing for years before starting my site.  So I know that it was important to put yourself in front of your audience because it helps to establish a relationship and build a brand.”The huge risks were:

1.  Would my fans like it?
2. Would they be receptive?
3. Would they think I had an ego?

“By the end of 2014, my fans loved it. My user engagement increased and my fan loyalty increased.  People like seeing a real face, a real woman in front instead of just being behind a blog name.“
Question 2 – Where you already on WordPress? There’s a debate going on as to whether bloggers can be successful on the Blogger platform.
 
Mrs. Kathy King – “In  the beginning of my blog I started off on Blogger. Because of my Marketing
background I wanted to change for these reasons:

1.      You get better SEO
2.     Better capabilities
3.     You own the database
4.     Better opportunities

Most people stay on Blogger for these reasons:

1.  They don’t want to spend the money
2.  Fear
3.  Their blog is a hobby

If you want to make your blog a business, you should move to WordPress.  I started on a VPN server and than as my site grew, I was blessed to move to a Dedicated server.”
 
Question 3 – Share your  experience when you attended the World Premiere of CinderellaI
followed you on Facebook, and my favorite pictures where when you were on the red carpet and the one with you standing beside Cinderella’s ball gown.


Mrs. Kathy King – “Cinderella is every girl’s dream. Everyone wants to see their Fairy God
Mother. It was one of the most amazing experiences that God could have ever
given me. It was a very diverse group of bloggers that attended.  At the end of the day, Cinderella is
universal.  J.C. Penny provided hair
stylists, a makeup artist and light hor d’oeuvres.  They accessorized you; it was the first time
that I was sponsored and Sydney’s Closet, a major dress company, sent me the perfect dress. It was amazing.”
Question 4 – How do you connect with Brands?

Mrs. Kathy King – There are several ways to connect with Brands:

1.   Add yourself to CISION
2.  Send them a letter. Provide your stats. Look  professional from your posts.
3.  Follow Brands on Tweeter. Their social media people live on Twitter.
4. Brands are watching you. Start writing about Brands that you like. Not everything has to be given to you.

“A touchy subject is to charge. Your time is valuable.  Make sure everything you do on your site
benefits your fans and your home. Make sure you value yourself. Do I charge for everything? I do not, but I now have a clear understanding of the time it takes for me to do a social selfie, send out a tweet, write a sponsored post or video. Therefore, I charge and schedule my time accordingly.”Make sure your blog works for you. What does money look like to you?  What does payment look like to you?  I even charge to tweet. I’ve become more of a helpful tips kind of site instead of a product
review site. If you have questions on whom you can charge or not change email me at me@MrsKathyKing.com. “

“Get an editorial calendar and write in series.  For example, I write several Cinderella posts.  I have several Easter posts and I like them. You have to have your own voice before you follow other bloggers because you just end up copying them. That’s not fair to them and that makes people not like you.

Make your theme work for you. With events, Disney is  something I do for fun.  The DVDs are  something I do for my fans and I have a 2 year old.  So of course owning a DVD collection is a  great thing to do.”
Question 5 – What advice would you give bloggers on how to promote their on-line presence on
Facebook and Twitter?


Mrs. Kathy King – “The reason why Facebook and Twitter are my biggest followings is because Facebook
was the number one social media when I first started, so that’s what I focused on building. Twitter was the second venue, so those were the two things I focused on building. Although in the end I should have focused on Twitter
instead of Facebook.”
  • Facebook is about engagement. It’s about sharing other people’s information. Become more of a
    curator.  Share videos and people’s stuff.
  • Twitter is about engagement too. Talk to people and retweet with other bloggers.
  • Pinterest is about being consistent. Pin popular pins. Make sure your pins are being shared
    too. Invest in blogger social media groups. Groups that like to share each other pins and tweets.
  • Instagram is about sharing pictures.
  • Growing your fan base isn’t about getting your fan base
    right out the door. It takes time.
 Question 6 – If you had 2 minutes to give new bloggers advice, what would it be?
Mrs. Kathy King – “Don’t get stressed because you don’t know what your own voice is, because it
takes time. Know your worth and do not sell yourself short. If you want this to be your full time job, have the courage to go in there with a price because you never know if they’re willing to pay.”

Kathy is a Social Media Strategist, Pro Blogger & Influencer. When she is not blogging or promoting Brands On The Scene With Mrs. Kathy King, she enjoys spending time with her husband Matt and their 3 children. Kathy and her family reside in Long Beach, CA.






15 Mother’s Day Gift Ideas For Mom

Mother’s Day is around the corner.  So, everyone will in search of Mother’s Day gift ideas.  It’s so important that we honor our mothers, but are you tired of giving and receiving the same gifts for Mother’s Day?  Do you want to do something unique and memorable, but lack innovation?  Because I have come up with a few great Mother’s Day gift ideas, you have no worries.  These ideas will lead to an unexpected and exciting Mother Day with a little ingenuity. No flowers, chocolates, or dinner at a local restaurant on this list.  Just unique ideas that will be sure to please. Here’s my list of unique Mother’s Day gift ideas:

 

 

mother's day gift ideas

1.  Photo Blanket –  First, I loved this idea and it’s great for any occasion. Gather a few of mom’s favorite photos or yours and have them added to a nice warm blanket for mom to snuggle in. Great for chilly evenings and week-ends or just to display.  Great conversation piece too.  Order two, you may want to keep this one.

 


 
2.  Wine Club Membership – Next, is mom a wine lover?  How about a membership to the Wine of the Month Club or a wine gift basket.  Furthermore, two bottles of wine per month will be shipped to your front door or a fine wine gift basket delivered. This would be a perfect gift for me, as I’m a lover of wines especially red wines. You may also want to check your local winery to inquire about a custom basket for mom or membership.

 

  
3.  Breakfast in Bed – So, how about serving mom breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day?  Fortunately, any week-end will do for this Mother’s Day gift idea.  Serve her breakfast in bed for a month?  For example, serve a bowl of fresh fruit and a croissant.  Also, yogurt with her favorite coffee is good or go ahead and whip up a full fledged breakfast starting with fresh squeezed juice.  Follow that up with bacon, eggs and toast. Print up a few certificates and place them in a gift box. When mom needs a break, let her turn in one of her coupons for breakfast Saturday or Sunday morning.


  4.  Afternoon Tea – Next, invite  a few of mom’s friends or family member over and serve them tea and biscuits or tea sandwiches.  Maybe they would like a sconce or bite size desserts too.  Nothing fancy, just a fun and relaxing day with the girls.

 

 

5.  Latte Machine – About how this, purchase a Latte machine and whip up a few Lattes.  Rather than running out for a special treat, she can brew her own in the comfort of home.

 

 

6.  Massage – Get mom a gift certificate for a massage. I have one every year for my birthday, and I swear by them. The Swedish Massage is my favorite. They rub and roll all my stress away from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet.  Additionally, you may be able to find a masseuse who makes home visits.

 

 
7.  Dinner for Two – Make her favorite meal at home.  One of my best memories of Mother’s Day was a home cooked meal, and I didn’t have to cook it.  I’m not sure if it was truly the taste or the thought that made it so delicious.

 


8.  Happy Hour – Invite a few of mom’s friends over for cocktails and be their bartender.  Also, add a designated driver for the evening.  Offer a buffet of wings or shrimp, cheese and crackers, vegetables with dip and fresh fruit. She will love you for it, and so will her friends.  This is a great Mother’s Day gift idea.


 

9.  Cleaning Service – Another idea, I have cleaning service once a month and it is heavenly.  My house is cleaned from top to bottom, and I lightly maintain it during the rest of the month.  Best gift ever.

 

 

10.  Magazine Subscription I love being able to sit in my favorite chair on Saturday mornings and flip through my favorite magazines, Bird and Blooms and People, while sipping a cup of coffee and watching the news.  Birds and Blooms not mom’s thing, just subscribe to mom’s favorite magazine.  Be sure the first copy is available in time for Mother’s Day.

 

 

11. Coffee Club Membership – Another Mother’s Day gift idea is a membership to a coffee club.  I had membership a few years ago and really enjoyed it.  Most of all, a different flavor of coffee is shipped each month.

 

 
12. Manicure/Pedicure Get mom a gift certificate for a manicure and pedicure at a local nail salon.  Not only is it relaxing, but summer is around the corner.  She will want to have her tootsies ready for sandals.

 

 

13.  Salon Gift Certificate –  Another good idea is a gift certificate. Moms often sacrifice to ensure everyone else has what they need.  So, why not get her a gift certificate to a local salon for a hair cut or color.  I guarantee, it will be welcome.

 

 

14. River Boat Cruise  – Another Mother’s Day gift idea at the top of my list is a day cruise. So, if you live near a riverboat took a dinner cruise.  Also, let mom play the slots for a few hours or just enjoy the cruise and dinner.

 

 
15.  Gift Card – Last, a gift card for a small shopping trip or on-line excursion is always welcome. Fortunately, gift cards can be used by mom to purchase that item she’s been eyeing for a while.  It give her freedom to use it on what she wants when she wants.

Finally, I hope you have been inspired by my Mother’s Day gift ideas.  Most importantly, select an idea or two for your mom or yourself.  In conclusion, I highly recommend them.  Especially,  since I have indulged in the majority of the ideas. What’s your favorite idea on the list?  Please leave a comment.

This Grandma Doesn’t Wear Depends

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Why do people associate grandmas with being old, gray haired, and wearing Depends?  Now I may have a few gray hair, but this grandma doesn’t wear Depends.  I’ve have some issues when I have coughed or sneezed, but when I do reach the point where I need Depends, will Depends define who I  am?  I think not. 

Here’s a picture of me that was taken of me last year during a promotion that I did for JC Penny’s Portraits, and the second picture with my daughter approximately 5 years ago at a family function. Do I look like an old, gray-haired woman who’s peeing on herself in either?

So you’re wondering what prompted this post, right? Another blogger, yes I said another blogger. Long story short, I was complimenting her and the fact that I liked various things about her site. As the conversation progressed, she stated that she had quite a few grandmas who visited her blog and she didn’t know why. She gently invoked Depends in the conversation. My initial response was is she trying to throw shade? I’m so glad that I have matured and handle things much differently than I did in my 20s, 30s even 40s because: 


1.  I’m the queen of reading your ass and it ain’t pretty. Yeah, Bye Felicia! 

2.  I would have left you with your mouth hanging open and words burned so deep into the recesses of your brain, you would be shaking your head for the rest of your life trying to get rid me. 

However, I don’t see a need to go there anymore so I responded by laughing and stating that I have a few creaks and some other things going on, but I wasn’t close to Depends. I also stated that I was on her site because I was looking for the same things that she and other mothers were looking for with their children. Do our positions or the differences in our ages change that?

 


I further stated that my responsibilities with my grandchildren are no different from her raising her children.  When my grandchildren are in my care and custody, I raise them as if I gave birth to them. It is my job to guide and lead them in the right direction just like their parents. The only difference between their parents and me, I have more money.  She seemed to get it after that, but did it really require an explanation?  

Being a grandmother is quite a prestigious position and one that I will wear with honor even when I reach the Depends stage.  As a grandmother I want to tell you a few things that you should not do with me:

1. Assume that I’m old and gray and ready for a rocker.  I have a lot of fire inside of me and I’m not close to throwing in the towel and rocking the rest of my life away just yet.  

2. Assume that I’m technically challenged and not cool. I have a smart phone, text, use a camera phone, have an SLR digital with long range lens, a laptop, a tablet, a GPS in my vehicle, flat screen TVs, and any other electrical gadgets on the market that I feel I want to buy and can use them. 

3.  Assume that I don’t have any obligations to my grandchildren.  I’m just as obligated to my grandchildren as my daughter and son-in-law. I contribute to their upbringing, clothing and shelter too. I would die for those babies, wrap myself around a pole and shake my groove thing if I had to so that I could take care of them. Thank goodness, I don’t have to resort to those tactics. I know you’re as happy about that as I am. 

4.  Assume that I don’t know the likes and dislikes of my grandchildren or the latest on the market. I know their favorite cartoon characters, favorite TV channels, latest clothing fads, what sneakers are cool, up on the movies and games, know the great vacation spots, and can make their favorite foods and treats. More so than my 30 year old children. That’s right, they look to me for the information because they don’t know. They love coming to Mawmaw’s too. My grandchildren don’t want to go home because my house is the bomb.    

5. Assume you can say or do whatever you want to me. No you can’t, so be prepared to get a response that you may not like if you don’t come correctly. I require the same respect that I give you. 

As bloggers networking is important, we can all learn from each other. As bloggers and human beings, we all want to connect, build a following and interact. I really don’t think any of us want to talk to ourselves when we write and publish a post, so isn’t our goal to connect with readers and to share what we’ve written? I believe that we have the same goals as parents and grandparents.    

I understand having a target audience, and  a niche. Quite frankly, I write about what I love which is family, gardening, crafts, quotes and motivating others. My target audience is parents who are in the age range of 20 – 60 who are looking for parenting tips/advice, ways to save on food expense, budgeting, a little motivation and lots of laughs. Not once have I wondered why anyone was on my site because of their perceived age or position in life. I have worked hard to make Mother 2 Mother warm, inviting and inclusive!  Everyone is welcome.   


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Guest Post – 5 Frugal Ways To Update Your Home

 

 
Spring is here – finally! And with all of the new life  and green breaking through the gray of winter, it’s time to celebrate. Spring  brings a fresh perspective, a new beginning. Jump on board by freshening up your  own surroundings. It’s time to update your home for the season. There’s no need to spend a lot of money. Take on a few
simple projects to enjoy a brightened home and a brightened future.
Here are five frugal ways to update your home for spring:
1.  Hit the Yard Sales – There’s nothing like scanning a good yard sale on a crisp Saturday morning in April. Yard sales are the perfect places to score a  big ticket item at a fraction of the price. Be on the lookout for hidden gems among the clutter. Vintage dishes make great wall art, and mirrors add light and depth to any room. Glance at your local paper for upcoming sales and plan your route to get the most bang for your buck. Don’t forget to take cash, and have a vehicle for hauling all of your amazing finds.
2.  Freshen  With Paint – A new color for your front door or your favorite decorative accent can add a little life back into your home. Don’t be afraid to go bold with your choice; you can always repaint it later.  For a more dramatic update, try a new color on the walls or kitchen cabinets. All white is trendy now, but you can spice it up with an unexpected pop of color, like a bold green or fiery red on an accent wall.
3.  Plant Some New Greens – Plants can be an inexpensive way to add color to the  outside (and inside) of your home. Annuals tend to be a little cheaper than perennials, but a combination of both will mean you’ll be investing in your greenspace for years to come.
 
Try hanging a planter from your front porch, and you’ll see an instant boost in your home’s curb appeal. If space is a little more limited and a full garden isn’t your calling, try adding a few flowers to some pots at the front entrance of your home.
4.  Move Things Around – One of the easiest and least expensive ways to get a new look in your home’s décor is to switch some things around. Move artwork to a different room or try a new arrangement of your favorite collection. Swap out pillows on your couch or bed, and weed through your bookcase.

If, through this process, you find that pieces of your décor are in need of replacing, you can make a list of what you need and start to budget accordingly. For extra savings, check out home décor wholesales online for some fresh spring décor. 

5.  Your Pictures – If the pictures on your walls haven’t been changed out in a few months – or a few years – it may be time to display new ones. Break out your digital camera so you can go through pictures of events that happened  in the last year.
 
Ordering prints online is easier than ever now, so you can customize your prints to fit the frames you have on hand. No pictures you’d  like to print? Do an impromptu photoshoot with your family.


Updating your home for spring doesn’t have to wreck your
budget. Try these five frugal ways to boost your home’s décor in no time!


Savannah Hemmings is a personal stylist and lifestyle blogger with a
passion for beautiful spaces and great deals. To read more of her tips on home
decor and fashion, check out her blog SincerelySavannah
!

Time Management Tips for Meal Planning

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First, there never seems to be enough time in the day for everything that we need to do.  Do you agree?  Getting the children up and ready for school, fixing meals, managing our homes and holding down a full time job can stress anyone out.  However, I have found that planning meals can take a big load off my schedule and free up time.

The last thing that I want to do is spend time figuring out what I’m going to fix for dinner.  Especially after a busy day at the office.  I have found that planning my meals out for the week is a big time saver for me. Here’s a few tips that I use to save time during the week:

On Saturday’s I plan my meals for the week  – I focus on casseroles and crockpot meals mostly. I find this is the easiest route for me because I can make the casserole the night before and refrigerate it or put my meals in the crockpot.

Make a list of ingredients and head to the grocery store – Running to the grocery store after work or during the week can take up a chunk of time.  This can become stressful, especially when time is already lacking. Having ingredients accessible can relieve stress.

Include meals for the children while you’re planning – Having to come up with ideas and fix two different meals can be time consuming.  I fix mac & cheese ahead of time when the grandchildren are visiting. They love spaghetti salad, so I will chop the vegetables the night before or early in the morning and toss them into a storage bag. I just boil the noodles in the evening.

Meatloaf is another favorite. I make the meatloaf the night before and just place it in the refrigerator. I just pop it in the oven or microwave to warm while I prepare side dishes.

Wash dishes as you prepare your meals  – I have learned to wash dishes or load the dishwasher as I’m preparing my meals. This cuts down on the number of dinner dishes that need to be washed after dinner.  Most importantly, I always have a clean kitchen. Run your dishwasher through the cycle and unload it before you go to bed.

Use paper plates, cups and plastic utensils – If I’m really pressed for time, I resort to paper products. I can throw them in the trash, and that leaves clearing the table, putting away food and washing the main dishes.

During summer months fix light meals – Sandwiches and fresh fruit make their way to my table frequently during the summer. My family loves chicken and tuna salad. I can make garden and cob salads with fresh vegetables and that’s a meal while serving the grandchildren veggie pizza. Grilling in the summer is a good idea too.

Freeze meals – Preparing meals ahead and freezing them cuts down on time if you have the room. This idea is great for soups, spaghetti, chili, stew, and other cold weather meals.

Prepare snacks and desserts ahead of time – My grandchildren like a snack before bed. During the week, I make pudding or jello.  Apple slices with peanut butter also works. If they want ice cream I have the individual ice cream cups available so I don’t dirty bowls after the dinner dishes have been washed.  Cookies are great too.

Make a planner and place it in your kitchen – Seeing your planned meals helps you stay on track.

These are a few things that have worked for me. The biggest obstacle is figuring out what to fix for the week. Once you have your meals planned, decide if you can fix them ahead and freeze them or if you will preparing the night before. Once you get in the habit, it makes life so much easier.

Please let me know how you handle your meal preparation for the week or if you can add to my tips.









15 Tips To Save Money

 

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Are you wondering how to save money? I look back over my life when I first moved out of my parents house and out on my own, and boy have I come a long way.  For most of my life I have been a single mother.  Budgeting, scraping, and sacrificing was a way of life for me.  However, I’m proud to say things got better as time went on.  I was able to purchase my own home, send my daughter on a international vacation, college educated her,  purchased a new car for her college graduation, travel, and built a significant savings account and retirement nest egg.  This is not a boast, but a blessing.  As a result, I want to share my tips to save money with you.

You ask how I managed, I say discipline and remembering that every penny counts. Here are a few tips on how I saved:

  1. Pay yourself first – First, bank a portion of your check regularly. Put it into an account and forget about it.  I’ve cried broke my entire life, and I act as though the money doesn’t exist. People say they can hear me squeak.
  2. Shop wisely – I shop at thrift stores, yard sales and second hand stores. You can find brand new items, name brand items and gently used items. Don’t by-pass the Dollar Stores either, they’re great for school supplies, coloring books, crafts and snack items.
  3. Use coupons and discounts – You can save tons of money by using coupons and taking advantage of discounts.
  4. Look for free activities – Take advantage of free activities during the summer and holidays for family activities.
  5. Bank a part of your child support – If you’re single parent bank a portion of your child support. If you can’t bank half, bank what you can. I was able to send my daughter to Italy, Switzerland, Germany and Austria on child support that I saved for her.
  6. Drive an inexpensive car with low maintenance – My first car didn’t have an air conditioner and it was a straight stick. At this stage in my life I couldn’t handle either of the two, but I sacrificed when I was younger and able to endure.
  7. Pack your child’s lunch – My daughter was a brown bagger until high school. Packing her lunch relieved me of having to pay another bill.
  8. Limit credit cards – Additional tips to save money is cash and carry.  It was my motto for most things.  Buying budget furniture and refinishing items cut down on household expenses.
  9. Start a Thrift Saving Plan (TSP) or 401-K – I invested my money for the past 25 years, and again acted as if it didn’t exist. When I needed a loan, I borrowed from my TSP at a much lower interest rate. When I retire, I will have a monthly check from my employer as well as everything that I have saved and earned for 25 years in my TSP. I plan to use this money to travel the world.
  10. Purchase clothes off season – I purchase clothes on clearance at the end of each season for the following year. I’m now able to shop where ever I want whenever I want, but I still purchase the majority of my clothes off the clearance rack and the kid’s clothing there as well.
  11. Start a vacation club – I’m able to vacation several times a year. I treat my daughter, son-in-law, 2 grandchildren and my friend each summer to a week at the beach.
  12. Prepare meals for the week – This will eliminate stopping at fast food places and spending money unnecessarily.
  13. Become a DIYer – After I purchased my home, I did my own painting, mowed the lawn, trimmed it and fixed minor things around the house. I saved thousands of dollars by doing my own work and banked it.
  14. Assess your household expenses – Tips to save money can be applied to your household expenses.  Get rid of unnecessary expenses and bank that money. You were spending it initially, so you shouldn’t miss it if you bank it.
  15. Be Creative – When I break a dollar, I throw the money to the bottom of my purse. I empty my purse at the end of the week, and place the money into jars. Once the jars are full I head to the bank and place it into my travel account.
These tips to save money have worked for me over the years and I’m sure they will work for you too. Start out doing 1 or 2 tips and increase the tips as you go. Remember, pennies add up to dollars, dollars turn into hundreds of dollars and eventually thousands. What do you do to save money?

 

Why You Should RSVP

Do you RSVP?  Maybe you heard about the story of the parents who were billed for a portion of a party because they failed to attend a party?  Apparently they sent an RSVP stating they would attend; however, they didn’t show up.  But they failed to contact the hosting parents to let them know of their change of plans.  Since the host parents paid for accommodations for their child, they wanted to be reimbursed for the expense. So they sent the parents a bill and threaten to take them to small claims court if they didn’t pay up. You can read the details here.

I laughed when I read the story.  Because I remembered all the times that I sent invitations and asked guests to RSVP.  And they never bothered to  respond one way or the other.  I have never thought about sending a bill to those who did RSVP, but never showed up.  I most admit, I like the thought.

When I send out an invitation for an informal or formal event, I ask guests to RSVP.  For example, if it’s an informal events I always ask the guests to call me. I give a date that they must call by and my phone number.  Additionally, I expect them to call and say yes they are coming or no they are not coming.

I ask for the RSVP to be mailed to me when I send out a formal invitation.  Furthermore, I include the RSVP card and a stamped return envelop.

I ask guests to RSVP because I need to know how much food to prepare, how much liquor to purchase, or how many party favors to purchase. To me it’s just disrespectful when a guest does neither. RSVP means respond/reply please. I never do Regrets Only, I want to hear yes or no from the invited guests.  I’m not unique, other people who are hosting parties expect the same.

I hosted my grandchildren’s birthday several years ago. It was a huge backyard event with clowns, magicians, a bounce house and everything else that goes along with a carnival themed party. I had 10 people show up with their children and they never bothered to RSVP.

Needless to say, I had not planned for 20 extra people. One of the guests had 5 children. It left me scrambling. I had to purchase and cook more food, put more party favor bags together and accommodate more children and parents. I should have billed the parents for the stress alone. That would teach them the meaning of RSVP.

Proper etiquette requires those who receive an invitation to not ignore it. It is not up to the host to call you to find out if you’re coming or not. If they thought enough of you to send an invitation, you should think enough of them to respond one way or the other.

For those who RSVP and don’t show up, you have cost the host money.  Because they have included you and/or your children in the food, beverage and party favor count.  The cost is even more profound for weddings and other formal events. Those events normally require a cater who charge by the plate.  Additionally, if alcohol is involved it’s per bottle and bartenders must be paid.  

Finally, now that you know the meaning and importance of RSVP, please respond.  In conclusion, you may find that family, friends, co-workers and neighbors are leaving you and your family off the party list. Better yet, you may find an invoice in your mailbox if you end up being a no show.