I’m Someone’s Child Too

How do people learn hatred?  I have my beliefs and I’m very passionate about certain things, but I would never intentionally set out to hurt another person as a result of those beliefs.  
Amber, shown, used to be David.  She is now transgender.  In October, she went to a DMV in San Francisco, and changed her name and gender.  I’m sure she was thinking this is the beginning of my new life.  What she got in return is a letter condemning her to hell and telling her that she should be put to death from a DMV employee as well as a pamphlet from a church condemning her sexual orientation.  

It seems the DMV employee accessed the system and used her personal information to send the condemning letter.  Now let me make sure I have this right, this high and mighty employee accesses some one’s confidential information, which is an Ethics and Conduct Violation on most jobs and grounds for an immediate dismissal, to condemn someone to hell.  Hmmmmmmmmm!  

Allegedly, this same employee refused to help another transgender person last year.  He was given sensitivity training, and allowed to keep his job.  He obviously didn’t learn anything from the sensitivity training.  It’s hard to expunge hatred from human beings with a Power Point presentation?  It takes hatred years to fester and really get into the pores of human decency.  After all, we aren’t born full of hate.  
  
The employee has since resigned from the DMV.  I’m sure Amber Yust would have preferred the employee being fired rather than being allowed to resign.  This leaves the door open for him to find another job without a smear on his record.  How fair is this?  Hopefully there will be justice for Amber in the end.  Sending hate mail through the US Postal service is a federal offense.  This man should be prosecuted to the fullest extend of the law; otherwise, there will be another recipient of his hatred.

When I hear these type of stories, I wonder what makes the person so holy.  I wonder why they believe they are the chosen ones who should deliver the condemnation.  I wonder how many hours they spent listening to bigotry and hatred in their homes or church.  I can relate to Amber Yust.  Not because I’m transgender because I have been the recipient of hate mail.  Although it has been years ago, I remember the evening clearly.  I had just walked through my door from a business trip and was going through the mail.  My letter was sent from the coworker from hell.  My response was shock and disbelief.  It’s frightening, it’s funny, and in the end you feel sadness for someone who is that sick and thinks you’re the problem.  My letter contained a grave with a headstone.  On the headstone was RIP.  Another had me hanging from a tree.  My harasser spent a year behind bars in a federal prison.  She had a lot of time to think about her acts.  She apologized at her sentencing.  I didn’t accept it because I don’t believe it was sincere.   She was facing prison time, she was sorry she was sitting exposed as the sick cookie that she is.  What was truly amazing was that she tried to portray  herself as a great mother.  She really set a good example for her children with her acts of hate didn’t she.  I am thankful that the judge saw through her, and gave that bitch exactly what she deserved.  A year and a day and 3 years p robation. 

In time you do forgive, but you never forget.  Who has the right to scar another person for life?  What does a person have inside of them that makes acts of hate seem appropriate?  In my opinion, hatred is like cancer.  It will eat you alive.  I look at Amber and I think that she should be able to live her life the way she wants.  It’s her life, she has to live it and answer for her choices and decisions like we all do.  I feel no hatred toward her, she’s somebody’s child too.  Have you been the recipient of hate mail or discrimination in any manner.  We would love for you to share your story or thoughts on this post.  Please leave us  a comment, we love them.    

No More Junk Food For You

It looks like our schools will be required to serve healthier meals to our children.  Lets hear it for the Obama administration, someone stepped up to the plate and said we need to take better care of our children.  Many would disagree with his decision.  We all have an opinion and this post is about mine. I signed on to Michelle Obama’s Lets Move program months ago.  Our children need healthier meals, we truly have a severe obesity problem with our children in this country and we need to teach them to eat healthy now so it becomes a habit. 
I was an advent fan of Maury Povich years ago, that’s before he started focusing on baby’s daddy.  I’ll save my opinion on baby’s daddy for another day.  Anyway, Maury was featuring obese children on his show.  OMG, the images will be ingrained into my memory forever.  The show featured toddlers that weighed 100+ pounds.  Mothers were literally feeding their children to death.  The children would scream and fight until they received their favorite foods and drinks, which consisted of Twinkies, soda, chicken legs, mac & cheese, chips, and the list goes on and on.  It was heart breaking.  These children were huge.  There was no way these children could be lifted to be hugged and kissed.  There was no way these children could run and play.  It still brings tears to my eyes years later just thinking about it. Statistics show that approximately 32 percent of our children are overweight or obese and the numbers are climbing.  Our armed forces are turning away recruits because they are too fat to serve in the military. Can you believe this, the recruits couldn’t climb a flight of steps if their life depended on it.  They surely can’t enter into combat to defend our country.

We must save our youth before it’s too late. They are our future, but if we continue on the path that we’re on they won’t be around to lead.  Health care costs are at an all time high, and much of the debt relates to obesity.  High blood pressure, diabetes, and respiratory issues are serious problems with our youth too.  Here’s a few questions for you:  Do you see children playing in your neighborhood? What happened to riding bikes and taking your children to the park to play on the swings and slide?  What happened to taking your kids roller skating?  We’ve allowed our children to become couch potatoes.  A video game is in one hand and a bag of chips or ice cream is in the other.       

How can we go wrong with the Healthy, Hunger-Free Kids Act of 2010 (S. 3307).  This bill addresses the need for healthier meals for our children.  Let the fight against obesity begin. Many children would go hungry without the Free Lunch program offered in our schools. Many parents who are trying to feed their families are unable to purchase organic or other healthy choices because it’s just too expensive to purchase these types of foods.  They send their children to school, and what’s there?  Vending  machines filled with chips, chocolate, and soda.  When do they get a healthy meal?  Where do they learn to make healthy choices, it’s not an option in the home.  We are sending our children to school to get an education, shouldn’t healthy eating be a part of their education?  

I debated this bill with a mom blogger this morning.  She believed the bill was another communistic act of the Obama Administration to control the country.  She believed she should be able to give her child money to purchase a treat, ice cream, if she choose to do so. She also had a problem with the fundraising being limited.  The children would no longer be able to sell candy bars to raise funds.  People were able to spend a $1.00 on a candy bar versus $30.00 for wrapping paper.  This statement proved my point, junk food is more affordable, which is why children are being feed junk instead of making healthier choices. Why can’t they sell fruit?  I purchase a case of mixed fruit every year around the holidays from the neighborhood children and make gift baskets for my family.  What about candles or a magazine subscription?  There are so many options other than candy that can be sold to raise money. I believe out of sight out of mind.  If we’re banning junk from the schools, why sell it for fundraisers?
      
I participated in the White House Feed A Neighbor Program several weeks ago.  The shelves were bare, and food banks were asking the community for help stocking shelves so families could have a decent meal for Thanksgiving.  It was a rewarding experience for me, but I have to say that fresh fruit and vegetables were not an option among the food brought in.  Food banks are unable to store perishable items.  They must have a self life.           
       
Most importantly, I wish someone had taught me how to eat when I was a kid.  I was not an obese kid, my weight problems started after my divorce.  I’m a stress eater, which is why I am so hell bent on teaching healthy lifestyles early.  I have gotten better with walking and moving as much as possible, and I’ve already signed up for a weight lose program starting 1/4/2011.  Stay tuned for my progress in the new year.  Although my eating habits were not great, my daughter did learn to eat healthy as a result of 12 years of formal dance training.  She has made it a part of her life and she’s passing that mind set on to her son.  To me that’s proof that healthy habits are taught.  

We would love to know your thoughts on this bill.  Do you believe the government should be regulating school menus and the removal of junk food?  Should the government be the initiator of the fight on childhood obesity?  How are you doing with  preparing healthy meals in your home? Leave us a comment, we would love to hear from you.         

Mother Breast Feeding 6 Year Old


When should a mother stop nursing her child?  Is 6 years old beyond the appropriate age limit?
Amanda Hurst in the UK doesn’t see a problem with her 6 year old breast feeding.  As a matter of fact, she’s breast feeding both her 6 year old and her 5 five month old. Amanda said, she nurses both of the children in the morning because it’s cold and she doesn’t want to get up.  I find that to be a rather odd reason for nursing a six year old.  Most people would find that statement to be an indication of laziness.  Does it warm up as the day goes on inside her home or does she have to get up eventually and turn up the heat?  If she has to eventually get up to turn up the heat, why doesn’t she do it and feed the child a bowl of cereal, oatmeal or pancakes?  Better yet, why doesn’t she have her husband turn up the heat before he leaves for work.  The house would be warm by the time she gets up with the children. 
We all know that breastfeeding has been proved to be better for babies, but this post is about a 6 year old.  In addition to still nursing her 6 year old because it’s cold, Amanda said she just couldn’t turn her son away when she tried to wean him at 3 years old.  When her second son, William, was born and she decided to nurse him too, Jonathan wanted to continue as well. It’s rare that she nurses both of them at once because of the difficulty, but yes on occasion she does.

Now Jonathan has a 7 year old girlfriend.  He goes to school, tap dances, swims and attends Beaver Scouts.  He’s your typical 6 year old.  If so, than why in the hell isn’t he drinking milk at the table in the morning?  I never breast feed my daughter.  I developed a relationship with Similac, and my daughter turned out just fine.  I don’t buy breast feed children are more intelligent.  She’s highly educated.  She graduated with honors from both high school and college.  As a matter of fact, I will be hosting a party for her next month to celebrate her new Masters Degree.  She will be moving on to her Ph.D after the new year.  She was quite healthy as well.  Typical colds, ear infections that most kids experience growing up.  Now my grandson was breast feed, and he has had more colds than I care to count.  I don’t knock breastfeeding, I believe it’s a mother’s choice and neither is better or the worst for their decision.

Amanda says, “I do question the decisions I make and wonder whether I’m right or wrong. But it’s parenting, there is no manual, I don’t think there is a “right way”.  I beg to differ on this decision.  From one mother to another, parenting is difficult.  There is no manual, but at times common sense comes into play.  Amanda admits she’s lazy, “I think I’m quite lazy,’ she says. ‘I’d have gone crazy having to sterilise all those bottles. Breast milk is always the right temperature, right consistency and it’s always there, on tap”.

Laziness is not an option in my house.  At 5 months, an infant is still dependent on their mother for nourishment, but a 6 year old is old enough to get nutrients and vitamins from appropriate table foods.  Get with it mom, remove your 6 year old from your breast.  “Lellow”, Jonathan’s made up word for breast milk, is no longer cute. 
  
Do you think it’s appropriate to nurse a 6 year old?  Please leave us a comment, we would love to hear from you. 

Bullying Obese Children


Kathy Griffin is fighting back.  She has dubbed Bristol Palin aka “Pillsbury Dough Girl ” or try the “White Precious” and she’s standing by her comments.  Although she is being seen as a bully per Elizabeth Hasselbeck from The View, Kathy Griffin refuses to apologize for her fat jokes. Is  Kathy Griffin a bully for calling Bristol fat?  That depends on who you ask.  Some are defining bullying as an attack on a defenseless person who has done nothing wrong, and Bristol Palin is fair game.  After all, she is the only contestant who gained weight on Dancing With The Stars.  To add fuel to the fire, she shouldn’t have even been in the final competition.  If the show is truly based on one’s dancing ability, Bristol Palin is a joke according to Kathy Griffin.  
Other people went into a rage over the fact that Bristol beat out Brandy on DWTS.  So enraged one man shot out his TV and had a standoff with a SWAT  Team.  Now that is what we call Pissed Off.   
Now I don’t believe Bristol was a better dancer than Brandy; however, I am against bullying.  My daughter was bullied and I’ve written several blog posts on the subject.   It can devastating to the person who is on the receiving end and could possibly end in tragedy.  Do I see Bristol Palin as a child?  Not really, but she is a child to me.  Is she fair game for comedians?  Aren’t we all. Is she being bullied?  I personally don’t think so.  Although she is a child to me, she is in fact a grown woman who had to know that she would be the topic of discussion at breakfast, lunch and dinner if she participated on the show.  Hell her mother is the brunt of jokes for many comedians, so as far as I’m concerned she stepped into the line of fire.  Should her mother have warned her it could happen?  Was this a selfish opportunity that Sarah Palin used for her own political aspirations?  Is this a reflection of Sarah Palin’s parenting skills or lack thereof?     

        
Take a good look at this picture of Bristol Palin.  Would the medical field consider her fat?  Probably so. Should she be the brunt of a fat joke, no. People have criticized Michelle Obama for promoting healthier life styles for America’s children.  I’ve even seen a post where someone blamed President Obama for removing ice cream from the schools.  Is that really a bad thing?  What’s wrong with replacing ice cream with a piece of fruit?  That’s what a doctor would want us to do.  Kathy Griffin’s remarks about Bristol is a perfect example of why obesity needs to be promoted, discussed and dealt with in this country.  Fat jokes, humiliating comments toward our children, and the struggle in adulthood to loose excessive weight is real.  The truth be told, we do have some of the most obese people in the world right here in the good ole USA.  We come from the land of good and plenty, and we believe in indulgence. 

I think too much emphasis is placed on body images in this country.  It’s ingrained into our heads that thin is in.  When those of us who have weight problems can’t obtain that goal, we are the butt of cruel comments and remarks.  I struggle with my weight, and I have for many years. It can be painful at times.  I’ve lost track of the number of times that I’ve looked into the mirror nude and told myself that I was disgusting.  On the other hand, my self esteem is high enough when I can look in the mirror on other days and say diva, oh yes I am.  Not everyone has the strength to do that, and I am grateful for a healthy dose of self-esteem.  I’m not aiming to be thin, but I am aiming to be healthy.

As for Bristol Palin, she should really think twice about whether or not she wants to be in the lime light.  It’s kinda of like Sarah Palin on the hunt for a kill, if you put yourself out there, you’re fair game. I would love to hear your thoughts on Kathy Griffin’s fat jokes and the obesity problems that we face in this country with our children.  Please leave us a comment, we love them.

Christmas At The Beach

I love making memories with my grandson.  This past week we visited the Winter Wonderland and the Lights on the Beach in Virginia Beach, VA.  I had hoped to walk along the boardwalk with Xavier, but the setup only allowed you to drive along the boardwalk.  It worked out perfectly, since the evening was quite chilly.  

The light show was fantastic.  The displays arranged from the drummer shown above to fish jumping from the sea.  Ronald McDonald was on hand, Snoopy, a beautiful carousel and a nativity scene.  Dinosaurs, boats, and horses could be found along the beach.  Xavier was quite excited by the lights, and so was I. What a way to start the holiday season. I loved the fact that you could drive the boardwalk at your leisure.  Nobody was honking horns hurrying people along, everyone was enjoying the scenery and just taking their time.  You could place an order for coffee or hot chocolate before you started your journey, which was brought to your car.  You were also given a CD of holiday music to play while you drove the 30 blocks.  It was a great set-up, and I intend to make the Lights on the Beach an annual outting for Xavier and Mama.       

 
My neighbor had seen the show last year with her daughter, and she assured me that I would not be disappointed.  She was right.  Each year the merchants add new displays. I can’t wait to see the show next year.  There was truly alot of time and effort put into the show.      

If you’re in the Virginia Beach area during the holiday it is worth the trip.  Your children will never forget the lights and they will love you for it making a great memory for them.  I can’t wait to make a scrapbook of my week-end with Xavier.  No show is ever the same, so this adventure will certainly go to the top of my list of things to do during the holidays, and I recommend that you add it to your list too.  Leave us a comment and let us know how you’re getting into the Christmas spirit with your children this holiday season.  We would love to know what’s happening in your area.     

A Day At Shenandoah Caverns

Shenandoah Caverns

Have you ever been to the Shenandoah Caverns in VA?  If you’re in the surrounding area, you have to make a trip.  I took my 2 year old grandson to visit, and I couldn’t get him to leaveNot only do they have the caverns, but they have an American Celebration building that houses floats from the Rose bowl parade and props from several Presidential Inaugurations.  They have the Yellow Barn which houses antiques, a play area, a train ride and a huge tree full of squirrels to delight youngsters.  The third attraction is Main Street Yesteryear, which is filled with window displays of delightful characters.  

The caverns are owned by a gentleman whose family has been building floats since  1946.  Not only do they build floats, they have been involved with every Presidential Inaugural Celebration since 1949.  I wondered what props they would have on display from Clinton and Obama’s Inaugurations The Shenandoah Caverns were on my list of things to do with my grandson this summer, so I was really excited to make the trip.  

It didn’t disappoint.  We started in the American Celebration building.  It almost ended there as well.  Xavier was so thrilled by the floats I couldn’t get him to leave.  It was a room filled with bunnies, ducks, elephants, dogs, Barney, Dumbo and the list goes on.  He pushed buttons over and over to make the animals move and stirred at them in awe.  I must admit, I had just as much fun as he did.  The photos will make a great scrap book of our summer adventure.  I finished the tour with my grandson standing on the stage that was used for Reagan, Bush and Clinton’s inaugurations. They also had Obama and Biden’s Seal on display.  My grandson wouldn’t go near it.  I wonder if that’s a sign that he’s going to be a Republican, lol.

They had several picnic tables on the grounds where you could bring lunch and enjoy the outdoors.  Had I known, I would have packed a lunch for Xavier and me.  Not to worry if you don’t want to go through the trouble, they have a cafe where you can purchase fare.

things to do in Virginia

We moved over to the Yellow Barn, which featured a cute display of squirrels and a play area for the children.  You can also put your child on a train ride here for a $1.00.  A buck doesn’t get you much these days, but here you make a memory for you and your child.  That’s priceless.  They don’t have as many displays in this particular area as they do in the American Celebration building, but Xavier found the play area and once again I couldn’t get him to leave.  They have a rocker that he fell in love with and an old fashioned rocking horse.  I’m glad there weren’t any other children around, I may have had a hard time getting him to share.  He made pancakes on the antique stove, peeped into the squirrel’s tree house, and played with an adorable family of wooden bees.

Virginia Caverns

They also have wine tastings in this building if you need a little refreshment.  You can also purchase jams, jellies, mixes and just relax while your child plays.  You don’t feel rushed and everyone is friendly.  Unfortunately we had to end the day here.  Main Street Yesteryear and the caverns are still on our list of things to do, so we will definitely be making another trip to the Shenandoah Caverns.  They are open every day except Christmas.  It’s a world of make believe that generates lots of giggles and amazement.  It’s the things that make us wish we were children again.  It’s a time for the young and the young at heart.  It’s childhood innocence.  They have truly built an environment worthy of my time, energy and money.  

Stay tuned for my post on Main Street Yesterday and the caverns.  Leave us a comment and let us know where your family has ventured off to this summer.     

Kathy Griffin Judges Kids Pageant

Imagine this 4, 5 and 6 year old girls looking like miniature adults with make up, tans, big hair and Kathy Griffin in the mix. Kinda scary isn’t it. I watched Kathy Griffin’s show, My Life on the D-List this morning. Kathy and her mother were judging a kiddie beauty pageant. Now I’m not much on children being in beauty pageants, seeing children made up to look like miniature adults is not something that I as a parent condone. I use the words “miniature adults” lightly, hookers would probably describe that scene a little better.
Kathy Griffin was hilarious. During a segment of the show there was a little girl, maybe 6 or 7, with tons of fake hair and getting a spray tan. She proceeded to tell Kathy that “if you can’t tone it tan it” and “beauty is pain”. What experience would a 6 or 7 year old have with toning or experiencing pain in relations to a beauty routine? Bikini or eyebrow waxing, lol. How sad for a little girl to be thinking that way. During another segment, Kathy stated that she was scared shitless of those little bitches, referring to the girls, because she believed they would cut you. Confirming that kiddie pageants were treacherous business, the kids were out to win. She also brought a few of her Emmys to the pageant, afterall getting a trophy was the goal.

It also showed Kathy asking a group of little girls about make-up tips. They clearly didn’t have a clue about make-up, which tells me these girls can’t possibly be making decisions on what to wear or how to wear it, but they did know about “cupcake hands”. Now for you moms who don’t know, cupcake hands is a position on how to hold your hands.

Can someone explain to me how a 1 – 2 year old can be furious competition? There was a mom who believed her daughter at that age was competition. Is this a mother living through her daughter or what? Kathy advised the mother to not have cosmetic surgery on the child anytime soon. The mother responded not before she was 6. Too funny.

This was the first time that I watched Kathy Griffin’s show, it was great for few laughs this morning. I may tune in again.

Perez Hilton – What An Idiot

What an idiot! You’ve heard the controversy with Perez Hilton and the Miley Cyrus photo, right. If you haven’t, Perez Hilton placed a link on his Twitter Account that opened to a photo of Miley Cyrus getting out of a vehicle in an “unlady like fashion”. I watched him on The Joy Behar show tonight trying to explain himself. His explanation, she knew pictures were being taken of her, she should be careful how she exits a car. Hello, she’s 17 you fool.
I’m not a big fan of Miley Cyrus, but I am a mother. People are in an uproar over his attempt to exploit a 17 year old child in this manner.  Rightfully so, I would be furious if someone posted a photo of my minor child on-line with her skirt or dress a little too high because she was struggling to get out of a vehicle.  Perez went on to say he thought the photo was funny and further reinforced her provocative behavior so to speak. I saw the photo, and it appears that she just didn’t think about what she was wearing, her focus was just on getting out the car. The car appeared to be a low, 2 seater.  Have you tried getting out of one?  Hell, I have a difficult time getting out of an SUV.  My skirt probably would have been around my head if I had to get out of a vehicle that low. 
I don’t know of any responsible adult, that would post a photo of a child on-line and pretty much say she asked for it.  She knew she was being photographed.  She’s no longer a child, and it seems people want her to stay a little girl on the Disney channel.  Yes, she’s been photographed in what some would call provocative photos.  In particular, with a sheet wrapped around her, dancing up against an older man at a party and in her underwear.  Lets face it, there’s a new generation out there with a totally different view and manner of dress.  This young lady is growing up and she’ll make plenty of mistakes as we all have and are still doing. We’re just not in the eyes of the camera. 
There is no acceptable explanation for what is suppose to be a grown man who would post a photo of her in that position.  I wonder how he would feel if that was his daughter? We as adults need to remember that children should not be the objects of ridicule for any reason.  It’s funny, we’re suppose to be the adults and should be examples for our children. Perez Hilton made an attempt to show a 17 year old’s ass, but he ended up being the biggest one.

I Want Candy Mommy

I want candy and I know where to get it. Cohen Stone just couldn’t resist this glass case filled with sweets and teddy bears. He needed to satisfy his sweet tooth, so he managed to climb inside the machine and eat until his heart and tummy was content. You’re saying what, right? Can you believe it. He figured out how to climb inside the machine, unfortunately he couldn’t figure out how to climb out.

This adorable 2 year old toddler was at a party with his mother. She was playing with him in the arcade area, and turned for a few minutes to assist with the food coming to their table, and when she turned around Cohen had disappeared. Thinking that he couldn’t possibly have gone far in that time frame she searched the room. To her surprise, Cohen was in the glass enclosed case filled with candy and teddy bears. Kyra, Cohen’s mother, said she initially thought he had climbed through an opening in the back. When she checked the back there was no opening.  She than searched the top of the machine, to her surprise there was no opening there either.  The only way in was the opening where you collect your candy and/or toys.

When I read the article, I was thinking how that could be possible.  How could a toddler maneuver their way inside that opening.  Well, anyone who has a toddler or has raised one knows that they can end up in the most unbelievable situations.  I remember my nephew getting his head stuck between the banister rails at my house.  I couldn’t for the life of me figure out how he got his head between the railing, but he did. 

Cohen once again proved that a toddler can wiggled their way into anything.  Frightened Kyra called a locksmith to open the hatch door.  While the locksmith was at work, they kept the toddler occupied and cool by opening the chute so they could blow air through it and by having Cohen eat one of the lollipops and throwing the teddy bears down the chute.  Kyra said she phoned her husband to tell him what happened, but he initially thought she was joking.  I think I would have thought the same way.  He finally heard the fear in her voice and realized it wasn’t a joke. 

This brave mom captured the experience on video once she felt confident that her son would be removed safely.  Can you image watching this family video on a Friday or Saturday night.  Thank goodness the toddler was removed safely.  It will be a long time before I will be able to walk by one of those machines and not think of him.  I’ll be holding my grandson’s hands a little tighter when we encounter one as well.

As your child wiggled their way into an unbelievable and heart felt situation?  Tell us about it, we would love to hear from you.

Career Women Make Bad Mothers

Career Women What’s your thoughts now that you’ve read this advertisement? I was offended since I am and have been a career women and mother for the pass 32 years. I take pride in my role as a mother, and I also take pride in my career. I’ve worked hard being the best that I can be at both. It’s pretty sad that in 2010 women have to endure this. 


A company called Outdoor Advertising Association (OAA) used this slogan in England as a part of their campaign to promote outdoor advertising. I’m baffled as to how this slogan received approval and thousands of dollars were set aside to plaster it on the side of buses, buildings and billboards. How could you not think that it would be offensive to working women. Well, it looks like OAA just sent thousands of dollars and their bullshit slogan down the toilet. They are being forced to pull the advertisement, and in my opinion rightfully so. The intent was to spark a debate, and encourage people to voice their opinion on a website. Instead they entered into a war with working mothers. 

Not all women have a choice in being a Stay At Home Mom.  Our economy has forced many women into the work force.  They feel bad enough, they don’t need to see buses and billboards that make them feel worst.  On the other hand, many women have made a conscious decision to enter the work force.  They enjoy having their own pay checks and contributing to the household.  Does this make them a bad mother?  I don’t think so. I choose to have a career.  I have a beautiful daughter who grew up understanding that women have choices today.  I taught her to always stay true to who she is and to do what is best for her.  Many women have made the mistake of losing themselves in their relationships or putting everything and everybody before them and in the end they don’t know who they are.


My daughter watched me progress in my career.  I traveled, continued my education and still managed to keep my house in check.  I also checked her homework, transported her back and forth to ballet lessons, and any other school activity she was involved in.  She received 3 meals a day and quality time with me.  As a matter of fact, we still have mother/daughter day.  She choose to end her career and stay at home with her son.  Did you notice the word “choose”.  He turned 2 recently, so she is now working outside the home part time and working on her Masters Degree. 
I resent anyone calling me a bad mother because I choose to have a career.  Do you see my middle finger OAA?  Yep, it’s for you.  If that’s not enough, I have a big ass that you can kiss.  How do you like me now.  My career afforded my daughter many opportunities that she would not have had otherwise.  My career put her through an out of state college.  It also provided trips to Italy, Germany, Austria and Switzerland.  She still talks about these trips to this day.  She made life time friends as a result of these experiences.  My career contributed to a better life for her as a whole. 
Are you a working mother?  If you are or aren’t, we would love to hear your opinion on this advertisement.  Thank you for the opportunity to vent. 

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