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How to Balance Motherhood and a Career

March 19, 2018 by Rhonda Gales Leave a Comment

The idea of a woman being a mom and having a career was looked at as pretty much impossible years ago. Later, the idea of a women working became more accepted. However, it was assumed that you had to make a choice between your career and having a family. This idea was thrust upon women by society. Having a career when you’ve got kids can be challenging. But, isn’t that true for fathers too. Here’s a few tips on empowering yourself on how to balance motherhood and a career:

If you want to start following your dreams you will need a starting point. There will be obstacles and challenges while pursuing your career. Teachers must complete the required college courses and on the job training as well. If you want to become a social worker then you have things like lcsw reciprocity to consider. This can applied to any career path. Looking at your ideal career from a distance can be discouraging. Especially, when you have little ones to look after. But, being able to see beyond the potential steps makes it all seem less daunting. Once you stop feeling intimidated, you will figure out how to balance motherhood and a career.

Get organized

Now that you have a family you must utilize your time wisely. If you don’t have a clear routine as a parent, then you’re going to get overwhelmed. Focus on how to get organized if you want to parent and have a career. Organization is key. Organization helps you to work towards your goals. So, you need to have clear chunks of time mapped out for you to focus on. Perhaps it could be something as simple as “when the baby is napping, you’re working.” Or you have a set period of time where you focus exclusively on work every day.

Figure out your priorities

When you have children, your priorities shift. That is a fact. As a matter of fact, the moment your kids are born your priorities change. Your children become the focus of your world. Of course, that doesn’t mean that you forget about everything else that’s important in your life. It just means that you have to be more selective about where you put your attention. For example, if you want to be able to take care of your kids and have a career; your social life might take a hit. We don’t suggest that you stop talking to your friends altogether, but social time may be limited.

Never stop pushing yourself

If you’re trying to raise a family and pursue a career, you are going to be burning the candle at both ends. If you want to reach your goals you’re going to have to push yourself. This means that you need to embrace being busy. If you want to be a career woman and a mom, you need to be self-motivated. This is your life, and you need to be willing to push yourself every step of the way until you reach your goal.

Ask for help

There are going to be people around who will be able to help you. Your partner, your family, your friends, even your work colleagues will be around to support and help you when you need it. The truth is, no one can get by without some help. Your pride might take a bit of a bruising when you need to ask for help, but it’s better to ask than to take too much.

Be realistic

In life, there are always going to be sacrifices that need to be made. Because of this, you need to be realistic about what you can actually once you’re a mom. The idea of working a job that takes you to all corners of the earth simply isn’t realistic when you have kids. Think carefully about whether or not your career goals are actually achievable.

Plan for the future

Of course, being a parent doesn’t mean the same thing forever. In reality, parenting changes as your kids get older. So, you might not be in a position to pursue your dreams when you’re knee deep in diapers. However, as your kids get older you will be in more of a position to plan and set goals. When your children are at school, you can focus on you. As a matter of fact, the older and more independent your children get, the sooner your can start focusing on your career.

Just remember, there is nothing wrong with wanting to dedicate your life to your family. Remember, it’s your life, live it the way that you want! We hope that you will find our tips on how to balance motherhood and a career useful.

Filed Under: Empowerment, Finances Tagged With: careers, motherhood, working women

Kim Cattrall’s Parenting Advice

September 19, 2015 by Rhonda Gales

How do you define motherhood? I read an article on-line that discussed an interview with Kim Cattrall from Sex and the City week that has me baffled and a little annoyed I may add. I thought I would share this post with you, and maybe you will understand why. For some reason Kim Cattrall believes that she is a parent, but she has no children. How does that work?

In her words, “I am not a biological parent, but I am a parent. I have young actors and actresses that I mentor. I have nieces and nephews that I am very close to.” She goes on to say that there are ways to become a mother and you don’t have to have your name on the birth certificate. She also stated that she didn’t change diapers, but she helped her niece get through medical school and she helped her nephew get through a rough time. She considers those motherly things. Hang tight, I’m picking myself up off the floor. I’m wondering if I got the mothering thing all wrong.

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Filed Under: Life-Thoughts Tagged With: motherhood, parenting tips

I Got Played

August 8, 2010 by Rhonda Gales

Where you surprised when Bristol Palin and Levi Johnston announced their re-engagement? I was. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why she would want to be with a man who betrayed her in so many ways. Love makes us behave in strange ways. It makes us tolerate so much than what we would normally put up with. I guess she was no exception.

I don’t think much of Sara Palin.  I still laugh at her running around the country promoting abstinence-only to teens, and she was unable to persuade her own daughter to abstain.  I don’t believe any parent wants their teenagers involved in any sexual activities, but lets get real it’s more likely than not they will engage. So, why not have the talk and ensure they are protected if it should happen.

I do commend her as parent for standing by her daughter, and ensuring that her daughter didn’t become a target by the media while she was on the campaign trail.  I also commend her for seeing Levi Johnston for the creep that he really is.  I can only imagine her grief as a parent when they announced their second engagement. Unfortunately, as a parent you have to step aside at some point and let your children make their own decisions including mistakes.  You just hope that they don’t make too many mistakes or mistakes that they can’t recover from in the process.

I remember my daughter dating a young man through high school that I did not like.  You don’t know how many times I prayed that she did not end up pregnant.  My prayers were answered, she finally realized that he was not good for her when she went away to college and moved on.  It was literally a mother’s nightmare.

It’s hard to sit back and watch your child be hurt by someone that they love, and there’s nothing that you can do. Hell it’s hard for adults to be hurt in their relationships by someone they love.  When it comes to your child, it creates an even deeper wound.  Being a mother is such a unique experience. You want to protect your children forever. I can truly say that giving birth and raising my daughter has been my most rewarding experience.  There isn’t much that I would change if I had to rewind the past 30 years with her. I can’t say that I did everything right along my journey, but I tried.

I felt so sorry when Bristol Palin said, “She Got Played”.   It’s tough when you want to believe in someone, but they don’t believe in themselves so you can’t. Rumor has it Levi confessed to possibly having another baby’s momma. Baby’s momma is saying he ain’t the baby’s daddy. It seems Levi confessed to the possibility after they made the announcement that they were re-engaged. He just couldn’t be honest upfront so she could make an intelligent decision before announcing to the world they were a couple again.  At that point, she saw him for the man that he really is and the man Sara Palin told her that he was, and called off the engagement.  I say, good for her. She certainly can raise Tripp as a single mother. I did, and I was around her age when I become a mother.   I’ll save that experience for another post. Stay tuned.

The sooner she lets go, the sooner she can move on.  I’m sure her parents will continue to stand by her and support her and the baby in every manner possible. She will look back one day, and ask herself what she saw in that idiot and realize that she made the right decision by moving on.

I would like to wish Bristol and Tripp all the best!

Filed Under: Bristol Palin, Uncategorized Tagged With: Levi Johnston, motherhood, parenting tips, Parenting-Kids, Sara Palin, single moms

Have You Seen A More Pathetic Mother?

July 15, 2009 by Rhonda Gales

I have often wondered how a mother can just walk away from her children. I know there are times when a mother simply can’t care for them and they are better off with someone who can, but Debbie Rowe is one of the most pathetic excuses for a mother that I have witnessed in my lifetime.

Who bargains for their children? What type of woman accepts money to stay out of their children’s life and when they see an opportunity to fill their pockets with money again they resurface? Being a mother has been one if not the greatest achievement in my life. I would literally kill for my daughter and now my daughter and grandson. I can’t imagine giving birth and just handing my child over to her father and saying she’s yours. I also can’t imagine him handing me millions of dollars and telling me bye-bye, don’t come back and I agree. If you’re going to serve as a surrogate, play your role and move on.

When I see this woman flash across the TV screen, I just shake my head. The last time I saw her she was screaming and using profanity on national television because a paparazzi touched her. My first thought was, wow this is a woman who’s going to court to fight for custody of Michael Jackson’s children. She really knows how to carry herself in public, she has a lot of class. What happened to excuse me, but I would appreciate it if you would not touch me. I can only imagine what she would teach those poor children if she’s granted custody. How to kick someone’s butt?

The children have obviously been well taken care of. Besides being adorable, they are highly educated and well-rounded. It has been reported that they speak 4 languages. Most people struggle with English. So whether it was Michael Jackson or the nanny who guided them, they’ve done a great job with the children. I hope that they will continue to be nurtured and lead in the right direction, I just hope it’s not that trashy looking poor excuse for a mother leading them.

It’s doubtful that she will be granted custody, I truly don’t believe she wants them she just looking for a payday once again. How do you go through $8.5 million dollars and a mansion to a rancher on a horse farm. No concept of motherhood and no concept of money.

I pray for the children, and I hope they end up in a comfort home with people who love them and people who will help them perserve loving memories of their father.

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