Do you have children who are disobedient? Did you know that disobedient children can become hazardous? Children want things their way, but they have a limited way of expressing their emotions. As a result, they act out by crying, screaming, hitting, or using other avenues. They go as far as they can by testing our limits. They want results, they want you to give in and allow them to have their way. There’s good news, disobedient behavior should pretty much disappear by the time children reach their teens. At least the screaming, hitting and crying. Prepare for a new set of behaviors to appear. That is behaviors that are typical of teens. You should know, if disobedience becomes a habit with your child, you need to take appropriate action.
First of all, teaching your child to obey rules and to be respectful is a part of parenting. Good parenting will require you to teach your children to obey rules. Additionally, children must display respect at home and school, while driving, playing on the beach and every other area of their life. They must understand that disobedience can lead to:
- Poor relationships
- Becoming an underachiever
- Poor grades
- Problems with the law
- Disrespect of others
If your child becomes disobedient and is displaying any of the problems above, you may want to assess what’s happening in your home. Children will also act out if they’re feeling stressed, unloved, or witnessing problems at home. Children may also act out if:
- A parent is absent or not involved
- Alcohol or drugs are abused
- Rules or boundaries are not established
- Family members yell and scream
- Lack of money is causing problems
- Problems are solved using violence
- Physically abused is being endured
Additionally, children will act out and become rebellious and disobedient if there are problems at home. Most importantly, ignoring your child’s disobedience and problems in your home will not make them go away. Seeking counseling is a good way to help resolve problems before the child becomes out of control and encounters legal problems. As a result, they must understand the importance of obeying rules and the consequences they will encounter if they choose to disobey.
Years ago, my daughter and I attended counseling sessions. I accepted the fact that I didn’t have all the answers. It helped me tremendously to see things from a teenager’s perspective, and become a better parent during her teenage years.
Although I have parented successfully, I don’t consider myself to be a child expert by any means. I also know that schools, churches and many employers offer family counselors to assist families when they need help. Last, don’t be afraid or ashamed to seek it if you need it. Once their child becomes hazardous, many parents wish they had reached out. Don’t be a parent who looks at things in hindsight, deal with the problems when the occur. You and your child will be thankful for your insight.
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