The Beauty Of Adoption: Celebrity Parents Who Have Chosen To Adopt

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Over the years there have been quite a few famous faces who have adopted their children. Some already have biological children. Others have been unable to have children. And some chose adoption because they have wanted to help other families in a time of difficulty and need. No matter what, adoptive mothers and fathers are a source of inspiration and love. Let’s take a look at some celebrities who have chosen adoption. There is no rulebook on how you create your family, as long as you bring them love, security and comfort.

Katherine Heigl

Adoption has always been a part of Katherine Heigl’s life. Her mom and dad adopted her sister Meg from South Korea. And Heigl has always been open about the fact that she wanted to include adoption in her own journey of parenthood. Heigl and her husband Josh Kelley now have two beautiful adopted daughters, Naleigh and Adalaide. And this year they announced that Heigl is also pregnant!

Viola Davis

‘The Help’ actress Viola Davis and her husband Julius Tennon adopted a little girl called Genesis in 2011. Davis has stated that due to her career she put marriage and motherhood on hold, and in the end, biological time ran out. She has said that she absolutely loves motherhood. She has also said that although being a mom sometimes it makes her feel like the biggest failure in life, but it also makes her feel like the greatest hero alive.

Lionel Richie

Lionel Richie has a rather famous daughter, Nicole Richie. Nicole became a member of the Richie family at the age of three. Lionel and Brenda Richie took legal guardianship of Niche at the age of 3. She was adopted by Richie and his wife at the age of nine years old. Nicole is actually the biological daughter of one of her father’s ex-bandmates. The Richies’ took her in and fell in love. There are many avenues that lead to adoption. If you want to give a child a safe and secure home, you can search online for birth mother’s seeking adoptive parents. You will be able to tell your story, give your reasons and help women who are considering adoption, find a forever home for their biological child.

Mariska Hargitay

Mariska Hargitay is the daughter of bombshell Jayne Mansfield and is also an actress in her own right. She gave birth to her son August in 2006. In April 2011 she adopted her daughter, Amaya and in October of the same year, she adopted a baby boy, Andrew. Her son had always wanted brothers and sisters, and now their happy family unit is complete.

Fertility issues aren’t the only reason that many people adopt. There are plenty of people who want to expand their family and have a lot of extra love to give. Some people want to make a difference in other people’s lives through the power of adoption. If you have a secure family unit or lots of family support, adoption may be for you.  Adoption brings so much joy. If you have an uplifting adoption story you would like to share; I’d love to hear your experience below.

 

 

Disobedient Children Are Hazardous

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Do you have children who are disobedient? Did you know that disobedient children can become hazardous?  Children want things their way, but they have a limited way of expressing their emotions.  As a result, they act out by crying, screaming, hitting, or using other avenues. They go as far as they can by testing our limits. They want results, they want you to give in and allow them to have their way. There’s good news, disobedient behavior should pretty much disappear by the time children reach their teens.   At least the screaming, hitting and crying. Prepare for a new set of behaviors to appear. That is behaviors that are typical of teens.  You should know, if disobedience becomes a habit with your child, you need to take appropriate action.

First of all, teaching your child to obey rules and to be respectful is a part of parenting. Good parenting will require you to teach your children to obey rules. Additionally, children must display respect at home and school, while driving, playing on the beach and every other area of their life.  They must understand that disobedience can lead to:

  • Poor relationships
  • Becoming an underachiever
  • Poor grades
  • Problems with the law
  • Disrespect of others
  • Violence

If your child becomes disobedient and is displaying any of the problems above, you may want to assess what’s happening in your home. Children will also act out if they’re feeling stressed, unloved, or witnessing problems at home. Children may also act out if:

  • A parent is absent or not involved
  • Alcohol or drugs are abused
  • Rules or boundaries are not established
  • Family members yell and scream
  • Lack of money is causing problems
  • Problems are solved using violence
  • Physically abused is being endured

Additionally, children will act out and become rebellious and disobedient if there are problems at home. Most importantly, ignoring your child’s disobedience and problems in your home will not make them go away.  Seeking counseling is a good way to help resolve problems before the child becomes out of control and encounters legal problems. As a result, they must understand the importance of obeying rules and the consequences they will encounter if they choose to disobey.

Years ago, my daughter and I attended counseling sessions. I accepted the fact that I didn’t have all the answers. It helped me tremendously to see things from a teenager’s perspective, and become a better parent during her teenage years.

Although I have parented successfully, I don’t consider myself to be a child expert by any means. I also know that schools, churches and many employers offer family counselors to assist families when they need help. Last, don’t be afraid or ashamed to seek it if you need it.  Once their child becomes hazardous, many parents wish they had reached out.  Don’t be a parent who looks at things in hindsight, deal with the problems when the occur. You and your child will be thankful for your insight.

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6 Character Traits To Teach Your Children

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First, children aren’t born with good character and it isn’t hereditary.  Parents should teach character by being a good example.  Helping to develop your children’s character is essential.  A person’s character is the essence of you are, so children must learn that their character will surface in all areas of their life.

There are 6 areas of our character that parents should focus on. They are:

Be Trustworthy – Teaching children to be honest is a must. Being honest is an important character trait.  And it must be implemented in all areas of life.  Stealing, deceiving, cheating or being unreliable are big elements of becoming trustworthy.  Next, being trustworthy helps to build a good reputation, which is important in life.

Be Fair Teaching children that they must play by the rules is another important character trait.  Their are rules/laws for going to school, driving, and swimming on beaches and in pools. They must be followed are their will be consequences.  Additionally, children must also learn to not take advantage of a situation or another person.  It is not right to do so.

Be Respectful Teaching your children good manners is every parent’s responsibility.  Furthermore, children today are rude and disrespectful. Saying thank you, please, or excuse me seems to a thing of the past?  Why do they interrupt their elders or not hold the doors for people entering or exiting a store or building?  Manners are a part of daily life, however, it seems that they are no longer important.    

Be Responsible – Teach your children the importance of honoring their word.  If they say they’re going to do something they must live up to it.  Teach children to think before they act.  Also, self-control is imperative to good character and they must strive to be an example to others.

Be Caring – Displaying kindness toward other is a big part of developing character. Children should help others  and be forgiving when others upset or hurt them. Because the world is unfair at times, we must forgive and move forward.

Be a Good Citizen – Most importantly, children should learn that obeying the law is essential.  Furthermore, teach children to get involved in their community and neighborhood.  You may like the post Why You Should Teach Your Children To Volunteer.

Finally, helping to develop your child’s character must start at an early age.   Many traits make up a person’s character.  Children should be raised to be good people.  However, they are not expected to be perfect.  Strive to lead by example and help your children to make good decisions.  Loving unconditionally should be something parents do every day.  Telling them that you love them unconditionally is just as important. In conclusion, they will remember the conversations and examples they were shown during their character development.

Guest Post – How to Thrift Shop for Gorgeous Maternity Clothes

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Being pregnant is a great blessing.  For the first few months everything seems fine, and you can get away with no one noticing your condition. Pregnant women in that stage often turn to baggy jeans, sweats and skirts, steering away from maternity clothes.  However, this is only delaying the inevitable.  Once the belly gets huge a different approach is required.

Maternity Clothing Can Be Fashionable

Spending a truckload of money on apparel that is going to be worn for just six months is not the most pleasant notion. A regular wardrobe price makes it quite expensive to be dressed to the nines. Fortunately, the market is filled with great maternity clothing that is buried under mountains of flashy, commercial, and costly stuff. It is time to do  research and find local stores or online retailers that are budget friendly.

Brick and mortar stores such as Goodwill and Once Upon a Child are increasingly popular with many expecting moms. If time is of the essence, a customer may order pieces online.  You can find great maternity clothing in places such as a swap online consignment as well. With just a few clicks of the button women can secure a tailored dress designed for pregnancy, and one that also allows them to look fashionable. Comfort and quality come first, but the design is a close second.

If you’re shopping locally, it is highly recommended to check each piece thoroughly. Most items will probably be  worn just a handful of times, and are likely to be in a great condition. Also with such a variety and volume of clothing available, pregnant women can always discover clothes that fit like a glove and match their taste. There is no need to hide baby bumps anymore or shop for the tent look. Stylish women have proven that tight-fitting clothes are all the rage, accentuating the bump nicely.

Dress for the Occasion

Today, expecting moms pay much more attention to the bliss of the pregnant look.  This was hugely influenced by celebrities.  Blake Lively, Coco Rocha, Jessica Biel and others were spotted showing off their growing bellies while looking fabulous. They now compete over the best second-hand finds, and the reason is not just some desire to display frugality.  Going through piles of clothes in thrift shops enables you to find unique vintage pieces that are virtually impossible to come by in regular stores.

Famous people have paved the way to snatch the inexpensive ticket for the big fashion show. Following the lead of famous moms, it is advisable to stick to dark and solid colors. Bold prints and bright colors are a questionable choice, because they can make you look bigger and are not easy to mix and match.  Opt for pieces that reflect the regular style because repurposing will ensure that they serve well after the child is born.

A classic T-shirt and black dress are a perfect fit for informal as well as fancy occasions.  Finally, keep the eyes open for all things wrap (dresses, tops, sweaters) because their adjustable comfort is a blessing during pregnancy. Make your pregnant self look like a million dollars, even though you spent nowhere near that amount.

Show Your Baby Bump In Style 

Who said that pregnancy and stylishness do not go together? Move past stretchy and knit clothing, and dive into an ocean where opulent secondhand treasures lie. Invest time in finding clothes at a reasonable price, and you will be able to accumulate a beautiful dash without blowing your budget.

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Sophia Smith is an Australian based beauty, fashion and lifestyle blogger. She is also very passionate about DIY projects, latest fashion trends and organic beauty products. Sophia writes mostly in beauty and fashion related topics, mainly through blogs and articles. She is regular contributor at High Style Life.

 

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Help Your Child Reach Their Potential

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Uncovering the true potential in children takes work.  A child being successful at whatever she does is the biggest dream of every parent.  So, help your child reach their potential.  As parents, you should do everything that you can to help in their development. To help bring positive results, you will have to encourage and build a few characteristic traits. Not all children are the same and every child has his or her specialty. Your guidance will help your child identify their strengths and build on them, which in turn will help them reach their full potential.

  1. Recognize Your Child’s Potential:

Instead of asking your child to follow others, find out what is special about your child. There will be some things that your child is good at, but they may excel at others. They may hate math, but love ballet or baseball. They may have problems in language class, but be excellent in grasping the concepts of science. Whatever they show an interest in, make sure you talk to them about it. Ask why they are interested.  At the same time, make sure you help them out with things that they may not be as good at. Never force them into anything.

  1. Teach The Importance Of Practice:

Teach your child the importance of practice. Tell them that while they may have an inherent interest and understand the concepts, it is important to keep practicing. It will help them remember things, and with regular practice they may also be able to look at new details that will help them perform better.

  1. Understand Your Child’s Moods And Be Patient:

Be patient with your child in whatever they want to do. Do not doubt their abilities and don’t allow them to doubt their abilities. Tell them that success is all about being patient and working at it. If your child is not able to understand something, help them go over it again and again. If they feel low about something, inquire. Speak politely, but ask what is bothering them. Sudden outbursts of crying, or irritation are natural. Seek to understand why they are behaving that way.

  1. Making Friends:

While this may not seem related, forming good inter-personal skills with others is very important to be able to function in a stressful environment. As your child grows, they will come in contact with more and more people. They may have to interact with people for networking, which could facilitate their goal development. It will help them get a broader perspective on things.  They will see multiple points of view, instead of just their own. Interacting with others will be a great tool to help them understand their strengths and weaknesses and work on them.

  1. Praise Your Child:

As a parent you should appreciate your child’s efforts and applaud them whenever you see them putting in an effort. When you do, your child will feel confident and also love the fact that you are attentive. It will boost their moral and make them  work harder and do better.

Finally, the tips mentioned here are all very easy to follow.  So, help your child reach their potential.  Don’t allow your busy life keep them from succeeding.  If you have a child at home, how do you help your child work towards his/her goals?  We’d love to know more, so tell us in the comments below.

guest bloggers, guest writersAuthor Bio – Aradhana is from India. She is a veteran writer on topics concerning parenting, child nutrition, wellness, health and lifestyle. As a regular contributor to popular sites like Huffington Post, Natural News, Elephant Journal, Thehealthsite, Naturally  Savvy, Curejoy and MomJunction.com.  Aradhana writes to inspire and motivate people to adopt healthy habits and live a stress-free lifestyle.

 

Help Your Child Defeat Bedtime Monsters

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Is your child afraid of the dark or they have bad dreams?  The scary monsters are real for children.  They hear noises, see shadows on the wall, hear the wind blowing or their imaginations get the best of them and they become frightened.  I used to watch my grandson constantly look at the front door when I’m visiting my daughter, especially when it got dark.  They have a window on one side of the front door so you can see onto the front porch. I could see that he was scared when he looked over.  My grandson is no longer afraid, but my daughter is afraid now.

Both were afraid of the dark in my home and in theirs. They also liked for me to lie down with them until they fall asleep.  Of course I was happy to accommodate my little darlings, but as parents we can’t always do that.  We need every free hour to finish or to do list or just to relax from the  day for a few minutes before we head off to bed.  My goal was to make sure they were able to go to sleep without being afraid before they started school. I believe it is important that children sleep in their own beds and  have a designated bed time during the school year.  If you have the same believe, here’s a plan to help you reach this goal:

1. Use Night Lights – Using night lights takes away the fear of the dark.

2.  Read Bedtime Stories – Reading or telling a story relaxes children and takes their mind off their fear.

3.  Tuck Them In – It’s important that kids feel safe and secure. Put them under the blankets, give them their favorite stuffed animal or night time toy, tell them you love them and whatever else you do to make them feel safe.

4. Take Their Fears Seriously – Don’t tell children that they are being silly or laugh at them.  Fear for all ages is real.

5. Calm and Reassure – Hug them and make them feel safe.  Discuss the wind, shadows or whatever is bothering them and let them know that other children are afraid too.  Tell them that it’s a shadow and explain shadows. Explain how the wind blows and moves tree branches etc. They need to learn what’s happening so they can think about your conversation when things are happening, and that they are not alone .

6.  Monsters Are Temporary – Your child will out grow their fear of monsters, the dark, the wind and anything else that frightens.  My grandchildren stopped being afraid at the age of 5. We still use nightlights.  Big kids still need to be able to see at night. They go upstairs alone at night now. They just turn on the lights and head up. We still haven’t talked them into turning them off when they come back down, but at least they’ve conquered their fear.

How did you help your child get over their fear?  Please leave us a comment, readers may want to use your technique.

Abigail and the Jungle Adventure Book Review

 

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I was given the opportunity to review this book and readily accepted the opportunity.  In return, I was furnished a copy of the Kindle ebook; however, all opinions are my own.

Abigail and the Jungle Adventure is the first book in the Explore the World series.  Abigail is the star in the series.  In the Jungle Adventure she is staying with her grandparents for Christmas while her parents are on a business trip.  While her grandparents are napping, she heads off to the attic to explore.  There are boxes full of all kinds of things, but what catches her eye is a shiny object hiding under a blanket.  To her surprise, a red bicycle is hiding underneath.  The bicycle has a basket with a book.  She dusts off the book and opens it.  There are pictures of the jungle, the North Pole, the Himalayas, the Sahara desert and more.  On the last page was a letter telling the reader to think of the place they want to visit and repeat, “Take me there, let me see, show me where I want to be!”.  She was to repeat this 3 times. 

She did, and to her surprise she was on the bicycle and riding over the Amazon Jungle.  During her adventure she meets an Indian boy named Nuka.  They become friends and she visits his village.  She meets his granddad and his friends, but even in story books all things come to end.  Abigail must return home.  She repeats the magical words and returns to her grandparents just in time for dinner. 

She tells her grandmother about her adventure, but her grandmother just shakes her head.  Her granddad winks and smiles and Abigail winks back.  She was already planning her next adventure. 

I thoroughly enjoyed the book.  The book is appropriate for children ages 2 – 8.  My granddaughter is 4, so she loves for me to read to her.  My grandson is 8, he is able to read to her as well.  It makes a great anytime book.  I love that the authors are involving characters of different cultures into the stories.  I believe that children should see children who look like them, but they should also see those who look different from them.  It allows them to ask questions and understand diversity at an early age. 

The book is easy enough for both preschoolers and older children to understand.  It keeps them interested through the adventure.  The illustrations are bright and fun as well.  I received the ebook; however, it is available in paperback.

I highly recommend this book, and I’m looking forward reading the other 2 books in the collection, Abigail and the Sahara Adventure and Abigail and the North Pole Adventure.  Head over to Amazon and download your purchase of Abigail and the Jungle Adventure

 

Why You Should Teach Your Children To Do Volunteer Work

volunteer work, mentors, role models Are you involving your children in volunteer work?  Why, don’t you think it’s important?   I believe volunteer work is very important to  children for many reasons.  As parents we need to teach children that community is more than a place to live.  It’s a place to give as well.

I taught this value to my daughter. I realized that becoming a volunteer was not only important to the community, it was important in life.  I’m from a small town, giving back and helping others was the norm.  To this day, I’m proud to say that I’m from my hometown.  If there’s a death in the community or someone is having a difficult time, the town comes together.  Those who grow up are so proud. Each generation passes down the trait of giving.

Furthermore, here are other reasons for children to get involved in community service or volunteering:

  1. College Applications –  Administrators like to know that you are not only intelligent, but you also find time to give back to others.
  2. Scholarship Applications – Scholarships helped finance my daughter’s education.  She stood out among students who were competing because of her volunteer work.  Volunteer work is socially and academically acceptable.
  3. Helps Build Leadership Skills – Working with leaders helps teens learn leadership skills. Leadership skills can be used in camps, tutoring, church, college campuses, and many other places.
  4. Networking – Volunteer work allows teens to network with administrators, managers, and other people who can give them a reference for future jobs, scholarships and college applications, and possibly be hired with the company in the future.
  5. Learn To Give To Those In Need –  Volunteering gives teens an opportunity to see that there are people who are less fortunate than them.  Hopefully, seeing others who are less fortunate will help them to appreciate what they have. 
  6. No Pay Learning To Work From The Heart Volunteer work doesn’t pay monetarily, but it teaches the importance of helping others without receiving anything in return. 

Last, it’s important that teens get off of their electronics and learn about how the world works outside the comfort of home. They will learn to work for what they want in this world, and volunteering can help give them skills they will need in the future.

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10 Ideas To Create Mother Daughter Memories

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Children grow up fast.  It seems like only yesterday that we gave birth, sent them off to kindergarten, and read them bed time stories.  Before we know it they’re asking for the car keys and eventually heading out the door to live life on their own.

When I was raising my daughter I decided to create mother daughter memories for us.  You know those special days when it’s just the two of you talking about boys, finding the perfect dress, eating ice cream or doing each other’s nails.  My daughter and I did lots of family activities together, but these are special moments that I’m talking about now.  The days when I left the office early and headed to the school to pick her up for a day of fun.  Those Saturdays when I left the laundry and the cleaning just to spend time with her.  Those days when it’s just the two of us bonding and being friends.  These are a perfect way to create Mother Daughter Memories.  

I created Mother Daughter Memories when my daughter was a teen. That’s when it dawned on me that she was growing up fast, and would soon be heading to college.  She would be meeting new people and doing different things.  I had to make the few years that we had left together count.  I’m so thankful that I did, we still talk about those days.  I’m encouraging you to do the same.

Let me place emphasis on the two of you.  This wasn’t difficult for me because I only had one child, but if you have more than one, spend that quality time with each daughter. It’s important that they get that individual attention.  You want to make them feel special, as if they’re the only person besides you in the world.  It’s an opportunity to share things that happened when you were growing up or maybe they will share an embarrassing time in their life or a secret. It’s unlikely they will do this with others around. There will be times when you will find yourself looking at each other and giggling, because only the two of you know about what was shared.  It’s such a great feeling.

Everything is not for everybody so you will need to create Mother Daughter memories that are meaningful to you. But here’s a few things my daughter and I did together to create Mother Daughter Memories:

  1. Special Occasion Dresses – We would spend the day visiting boutiques to select party dresses, dresses for her junior high school dances, and later her homecoming and prom dresses.  We looked forward to this day every year from junior high to her senior year of high school.
  2. Spa Treatments – Nothing like being seated next to each other at the spa getting our nails done and saying nothing.  Just enjoying each other’s company.
  3. Trips To Dairy Queen –  My daughter loved strawberry sundaes and I loved their chocolate cones. We had some much fun laughing and enjoying our treats.
  4. Looking At The Christmas lights –  This speaks for itself.  We would spend hours just driving through neighborhoods being in awe. To this day, Christmas is a special time for us and lights are included.
  5. Going Out To Lunch or Dinner – Apple Bee’s was my daughter’s favorite place to eat growing up.  She loved their lemonade.  We would sit for hours and talk about everything and everybody.  It’s funny she won’t enter the place now.  Ruth Chris is one of her favorite eating places. So glad she has a husband to pay the bill for that one.
  6. Watching Movies  We would spend the day watching movies on Saturdays.  One of our favorites movies to watch was Gone With The Wind and of course Girl Flicks. When one of our favorites is on now, she calls to let me know.
  7. Sharing A Beach Week-end  – Every year I would take my daughter and 3 of her friends to the beach for a week-end.  Ocean City, MD was the go to at that point in our life. The interesting thing about this trip is that I have a bridge phobia, and I had to drive the girls across the Chesapeake Bay Bridge. The bridge is about 4.5 miles long.  I can drive across bridges, but I’m holding my breath, praying, counting and anything else I can think of.  I drive slow and look straight ahead. It doesn’t matter if the bridge is long or short.  The effect is the same for me. To this day, my daughter doesn’t know what bridges do to me. I never wanted her to know how scared I was, I only wanted her to enjoy the trip.
  8. Spending the Day At a Book Fair We would spend the day at the book fair browsing through isles and isles of books.  We would take our selections home and plan when we would spend the day reading them.
  9. Read Your Favorite Books We would curl up on the sofa and read our favorite book at the time.
  10. See A Show – One of our favorite bonding moments was when we went to see a ballet or Alvin Ailey.  We still look for shows that we can see together.

I hope my bonding moments have inspired you to create Mother Daughter Memories.  You don’t have to spend a fortune, find activities within your budget and they will love you regardless of what’s in your purse.  If you haven’t already, be sure to subscribe to Mother 2 Mother before you leave.  You may also like Making Memories.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are You Making Excuses For Your Child’s Bad Behavior

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Are you making excuses for your child’s bad behavior?  If you are, your children will grow up to make excuses for their behavior too. If excuses are good enough for you it will be good enough for them. Children earn by what they hear as well as what they see, so if you as a parent who is constantly making excuses for their bad behavior they will never accept responsibility for their behavior. They listen and watch you blame the teacher, principal, doctor and eventually the police, lawyer, judge, or probation officer. It’s always somebody else’s fault.  They may get a scolding occasionally, but they know the scolding won’t last long because you will go right back to blaming something or someone.

Along with bad behavior, you can probably find disrespect and a refusal to obey authority.  They don’t respect authority because they have no respect for you and the rules that you establish in your home.  Entitlement is a big part of their life.

My daughter understood that rules were to be followed or their would be consequences.  I refused to repeat myself over and over.  She had to learn that if she couldn’t follow rules or instructions, she was going to have a difficult life. It wasn’t always an easy journey, raising kids is never easy. However, when I told her to step she stepped.

She may have stepped with her arms crossed, mouth poked out or rolling her eyes, but she moved and she did what I asked her to do.  I made it clear that she was to follow the same rules with teachers, police, elders and anyone else in an authority position. There was to be no arguing or talking back.  If she felt that she was being mistreated, she was to inform me and I would handle it adult to adult.

Kids need to understand that the world has rules.  It all starts at home, and if you’re not willing to teach your children that they must obey and that their bad behavior is unacceptable you’re leading them down a path of destruction.  Yes, I said you. As adults if we don’t pay taxes, we’re charged with tax evasion. If we disregard the speed limit we get a ticket. If we don’t pay our bills timely, we get a bad credit rating. Children grow up to be adults and they will take the same excuses for their behavior into adulthood.

Here’s some of the consequences that your child will suffer if excuses for bad behavior are allowed to continue:

  • Your child could be socially inept. They may be uncomfortable in social settings.
  • They will probably end up being violent and aggressive because they don’t know how to deal with their emotions.
  • Decision making skills will probably be poor. 
  • Society’s rules don’t apply to them.
  • They will refuse to respect authority figures such as cops, teachers, the principal or their elders.
  • Completing tasks or holding down a job could be difficult.
  • They will expect you to continue making excuses and bailing them out of problems.
  • Trouble will with the law will become a big part of their life. They will cost you thousands of dollars for lawyers, counseling, mental health consultations, living expense etc.  
  • Success in school will be unlikely.  Furthermore, they will most likely not graduate from high school let alone college. 

This list is not all inclusive, but it should be an eye opener. You can’t wait until your child reaches their teens and than try to establish rules. It needs to start early, so they will understand appropriate behavior when they reach their teens, before entering society socially, getting a job, or doing volunteer work etc.

It is imperative that you stop making excuses and start working to change your child’s bad behavior. If you don’t know where to start, contact your church, school or a local counseling office.  So, if you change excuses into effective parenting, your child’s bad behavior will change into productive and healthy behavior.