I love these pictures of Xavier and Zarriah. They demonstrate the love they have for one another. I can’t say that it’s always been there, but it has grown over the years. When Zarriah arrived at 31 weeks, and the doctor announced it was a girl my grandson immediately told the doctor to take her back. He didn’t realize the severity of her early arrival, he just knew that he wanted a brother to play with not a sissy girl.
We told him that we wanted to keep her, but she was really sick and we needed him to help us get her well. Amazingly, he rose to the occasion. Looking back at Zarriah’s fight for her life still brings me to tears. She was one of the smallest preemies in the NICU, she weighed 2 lbs. 10 ozs., and she was there for 3 months. I have to say, it was the longest 3 months of my life.
My granddaughter has an attitude, and she has had it from the day she arrived. She’s pretty independent and demonstrated her independence in the incubator. The nurses wanted us to touch her and talk to her as much as possible. When I tried to touch her or hold her hand she jerked away. When her brother touched her or held her hand she would grab his finger and hold on. I was amazed that she could make a distinction between us. The nurses placed a step stool beside her so Xavier could reach her when he visited. He made just about every trip to the hospital to visit her and never complained once about the length of time we spent there. He was 4, and we all know that a 4 year old has little patience. He spent hours coloring pictures for her. The nurses placed the pictures around the incubator.
They are now 6 and 2. He’s an excellent big brother, I’m so proud of him. He loves her up, plays with her and protects when he thinks he has to. He said he never wants her to go back to the hospital.
Those 3 months had a major impact on all of us, but it had a major impact on him too. He thinks about her stay, he built a hospital out of his legos. I hope their love for each other never dies. It does my heart good that he is happy she’s here and she’s his baby sister after wanting to return her. Happy Valentine’s Day Xavier and Zarriah.