How to Teach Your Kids Manners Effectively

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All parents want to know that their children are as polite as possible.  Being polite is a necessary and important part of being a part of society.  And it is best to instill these values in your children at a young age.  This is good for them, for you, and for everyone around them.  However, some parents struggle with the approach from time to time. If you find yourself struggling, consider the following tips on how to teach your kids manners more effectively.

Saying Thank You

This has to be one of the most important manners of all.  But, it is often one that is hardest for children to learn. Why isn’t really clear.  However, saying thank you doesn’t always come naturally for a lot of kids.  As a result, this can make it difficult to instill this particular manner properly.

However, it is vital to ensure that they learn to say thank you when it is required.  The only way to do this is to make it a real priority. Remind them whenever necessary, and gently admonish them if they forget.  It might also be worth encouraging them to take extra steps when they have something to be particularly grateful for.  If you have older children, teach them to send monogrammed thank you notes or a handwritten letter.  Teaching etiquette is a good idea too.  It is good for them to know that there are other ways of saying thank you.

Respecting Others

Teaching children to show respect for others is important.  It will slowly become second nature, when it is demonstrated and taught over and over.  You can’t force it, but you can encourage them and be an example of how to show respect to other.


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Be An Example

Your role as parent is very important when it comes to teaching your child manners.  It is your duty to ensure that they are adopting the right societal behaviors.  The easiest way to do this is to be an example.  Children will imitate what they see and hear.  Therefore do your best to embody the right behaviors.  Demonstrating the right behavior will show your children that you’re not only saying it, you are living it.

We hope our tips on How to Teach Your Kids Manners was inspirational.  You may also like:  11 Manners You Should Teach Children


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  1. Everyone will have an experience teaching their children. Awesome article

    • Rhonda Gales says:

      Hi Jennifer.  Yes, anyone who is raising children will have good and bad experiences.  Thanks for stopping by.

  2. I am convinced that being polite just isn’t as important to parents – our children – as it was to us. I am not sure why that is as I know Jenna was taught good manners yet they don’t seem to have the same expectations for Amara. And I would say that it is that way for most of Amara’s friends and their parents. I don’t understand, They aren’t rude – they just don’t think to be polite.

  3. Observation is so much more clear when you’re a grandparent, rather than a parent embroiled in day to day high volume activity. This is when I see first hand that other parents chose friends for their kids based on how polite they are. Maybe it’s subconscious, but for as long as they can, parents want their kids in the company of those who will be a good influence on them!

    • Rhonda Gales says:

      I agree Joyce, parents do choose friends based on their behavior and manners.  I just had a conversation with my grandson about one of his friends being rude. His mother finished the conversation with “stay away from him.”

  4. Rhonda, this is an excellent article on a very important subject. I like that you pointed out that it’s important to set the example. If mom never says Thank You to the child or to Dad and others, the child isn’t going to think it’s very important. Same with saying I’m Sorry. Does no good to tell Junior to apologize to his sister when Mom is too proud to ever apologize to anyone. And I love when mothers train their children to write Thank You notes!

    • Rhonda Gales says:

      Thanks Jean.  As parents, we are the example for our children.  It all starts at home.  Please visit again.