Today, I’m sharing parenting advice on succeeding as a single parent. Raising children as a single parent, whether you’re a mother or father, can be exhausting. It takes focus, strength and determination to succeed, but it can be done. I am living proof that it can be done.
Most importantly, I refused to allow myself to fall into the stereotypes that society has set aside for single mothers. Have you noticed that single dads are praised for their endeavors, but women are looked at differently? Unfair maybe, but it is indeed a fact. I refused to depend on the system to take care of me or my child, and I have no regrets about my decision! I believe the system should be a stepping stone if it’s going to be used. But that is simply my belief.
Succeeding As a Single Parent:
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Become Determined – Decide that you’re going to make it and nothing will stop you. You have to be focused and determined.
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When the going gets tough, dig deep within and find the strength. Know the strength is there and your child or children need you to plow on.
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Listen to your intuition – It is usually right. I’ve lost count of the number of times I looked the other way when I should have been paying attention to that little voice inside.
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Decide that you’re going to be a good example for your children – Become the person that you would like them to be. (Think about the characteristics that are important to you, honesty, reliable, etc.)
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Remember, the world doesn’t owe you anything – You need to make your mark and become self sufficient. You’ll feel much better about yourself.
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Develop a plan – You must plan in order to be successful. Decide what you want to do and what you need to do to accomplish your goals.
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Find support either on-line or in your community – You’re not alone.
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Always make your children a priority – You can balance a job and your home. Women do it every day. If you need to enhance your skills before seeking a job, get in a program where you can get assistance. Finding balance is key.
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Don’t neglect yourself – You need to feel good about yourself. When you feel good about yourself you’ll achieve more.
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Find a higher power or church – It’s important that you believe in someone or something other than you. You will be calling on them for strength and support along your journey.