How To Help Victims of Bullies



I received a message from one of nephews for a contribution toward 3 pairs of shoes for 3 of our local school children.  First, he explained that the children were in middle school and they were being bullied simply because they had holes in their shoes.  As a result, he wanted to stop the bullying.  He stated that he wanted to help, but as a single father he needed financial assistance.  Since it was 3 children in need, he would have to take away from his household expense to help all 3.  Of course, my sister and I jumped at the opportunity to help.

Here’s the story:  Two young boys, who happen to be twins, were being made fun of because their shoes were old and full of holes.  The children tried to explain that their parents were poor, and didn’t have money to buy them new shoes.  However, that didn’t stop the bullies from taunting them.   A third boy tried to intervene, but his shoes were full of holes too.  He understood the twins plight, and tried to stand up for them.  Unfortunately, he became a target of the harassment too.


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My heart broke as my nephew told the story.  I felt so sorry for the 3 boys, but I felt sadness for their harassers too. Are you wondering why I felt sorry for the bullies?  They obviously lack home training and most importantly empathy for those who have less than them. It all starts at home.  Obviously, they haven’t been taught to be charitable and to try to help others.  If these boy had been taught properly, they would have gone home and told their parents about their school mates being in need of new shoes rather than tease them.  At middle school age, they certainly should know better.

I taught my daughter early to reach out to others, and to give to the less fortunate. You must bless others if you want to be blessed. We bagged clothes, shoes, toys and anything else that we could find that could possibly help others in need.  To a point, she thought I could help everybody.  She brought a teen mom home and her baby one day.  She was in middle school at the time, I’ll share that story with you in another post.

Getting back to my awesome nephew, he went shopping for the shoes by himself.  While he was shopping, he sent the pictures above.  He found a reasonably priced pair of shoes for each of the children. I’m so proud of him for being a selfless young man.  He could have could have turned his back and walked away like so many do.

Fortunately, the school held an assembly to discuss bullying with the students.  Additionally, I’m hoping that they will contact the parents of those who are guilty of being a bully.  Most importantly, I hope that they have a  Zero Tolerance policy in place.

Teach your children that laughing at another’s misfortune is not acceptable.  Explain that they could possibly end up in the same position one day.  Our financial situation could change anytime.  Teach them to talk about their school mates.  Let them know that the right thing to do is to let you know about school mates in need.  You may be able to help.  If you can’t help financially, here a few tips that you can take to help victims of bullies:

1.  Contact your local church  – Many churches have clothing drives and have items readily available.
2.  Ask family and friends if they can contribute – A dollar from each adds up.
3.  Head up a local drive yourself – Most people are charitable and will be willing to donate.
4.  Ask your children if they would be willing to give up their allowance to help a schoolmate.
5.  Give up a trip to the salon or Starbucks for several weeks –  Donate your savings to your local charity.
6.   Contact your local Wal-Mart or Kmart – They may have a list of children who are in need.
7.  Check your children’s closet for donations – Determine if they have anything to spare.  If they have 5 pair of shoes will they really miss a pair?  If they have 10 pair of jeans, will they be willing to give up a pair?

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  1. I love that your nephew did something so proactive. I will have my 9 year old read this post.

    • Yes, I am so proud of my nephews. They are excellent fathers and active in the community. They are constantly involved in fund raisers, food drives, hair cuts for the children to return to school etc. It all starts at home. Each one teach one.

  2. This is a great story and a great life lesson to instill in children. I intend to take my youngest with me when I start volunteering in the community again.

    • Hi Kori, It all starts at home. We must teach our children to be giving and the importance of helping another.  Glad to hear that you volunteer your time in the community. Great place to start.

  3. Beautiful story! What a culture of goodness you have in your family!
    A friend of mine taught elementary school in a poverty district when my children were young. Another friend and I would give her gently used clothing, shoes and accessories for both boys and girls. Once each month she would conduct a classroom "raffle" – pretending to pull the names of the most deserving children from a box. Only the three of us knew that all those slips of paper were blank!

  4. Great story Rhonda although it is very sad for all involved. I am so glad that my daughter and her husband are raising Amara to know how lucky she is to have all that she has and to share it! She is a very kind and generous little girl — and she learned it at home. (Well and at Grandma and Grandpa's house, too!)

    • Thanks KC.  I'm happy that Amara is being taught how lucky she is and also being taught to give back.  It all starts at home!  I'm happy to say, the shoes were delivered to the children.  They're happy and hopefully will be able to go to school in peace now.