Why You Should Teach Your Children To Do Volunteer Work

volunteer work, mentors, role models Are you involving your children in volunteer work?  Why, don’t you think it’s important?   I believe volunteer work is very important to  children for many reasons.  As parents we need to teach children that community is more than a place to live.  It’s a place to give as well.

I taught this value to my daughter. I realized that becoming a volunteer was not only important to the community, it was important in life.  I’m from a small town, giving back and helping others was the norm.  To this day, I’m proud to say that I’m from my hometown.  If there’s a death in the community or someone is having a difficult time, the town comes together.  Those who grow up are so proud. Each generation passes down the trait of giving.

Furthermore, here are other reasons for children to get involved in community service or volunteering:

  1. College Applications –  Administrators like to know that you are not only intelligent, but you also find time to give back to others.
  2. Scholarship Applications – Scholarships helped finance my daughter’s education.  She stood out among students who were competing because of her volunteer work.  Volunteer work is socially and academically acceptable.
  3. Helps Build Leadership Skills – Working with leaders helps teens learn leadership skills. Leadership skills can be used in camps, tutoring, church, college campuses, and many other places.
  4. Networking – Volunteer work allows teens to network with administrators, managers, and other people who can give them a reference for future jobs, scholarships and college applications, and possibly be hired with the company in the future.
  5. Learn To Give To Those In Need –  Volunteering gives teens an opportunity to see that there are people who are less fortunate than them.  Hopefully, seeing others who are less fortunate will help them to appreciate what they have. 
  6. No Pay Learning To Work From The Heart Volunteer work doesn’t pay monetarily, but it teaches the importance of helping others without receiving anything in return. 

Last, it’s important that teens get off of their electronics and learn about how the world works outside the comfort of home. They will learn to work for what they want in this world, and volunteering can help give them skills they will need in the future.

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10 Ideas To Create Mother Daughter Memories

mother and daughter activities, creating memories with girls

 

Children grow up fast.  It seems like only yesterday that we gave birth, sent them off to kindergarten, and read them bed time stories.  Before we know it they’re asking for the car keys and eventually heading out the door to live life on their own.

When I was raising my daughter I decided to create mother daughter memories for us.  You know those special days when it’s just the two of you talking about boys, finding the perfect dress, eating ice cream or doing each other’s nails.  My daughter and I did lots of family activities together, but these are special moments that I’m talking about now.  The days when I left the office early and headed to the school to pick her up for a day of fun.  Those Saturdays when I left the laundry and the cleaning just to spend time with her.  Those days when it’s just the two of us bonding and being friends.  These are a perfect way to create Mother Daughter Memories.  

I created Mother Daughter Memories when my daughter was a teen. That’s when it dawned on me that she was growing up fast, and would soon be heading to college.  She would be meeting new people and doing different things.  I had to make the few years that we had left together count.  I’m so thankful that I did, we still talk about those days.  I’m encouraging you to do the same.

Let me place emphasis on the two of you.  This wasn’t difficult for me because I only had one child, but if you have more than one, spend that quality time with each daughter. It’s important that they get that individual attention.  You want to make them feel special, as if they’re the only person besides you in the world.  It’s an opportunity to share things that happened when you were growing up or maybe they will share an embarrassing time in their life or a secret. It’s unlikely they will do this with others around. There will be times when you will find yourself looking at each other and giggling, because only the two of you know about what was shared.  It’s such a great feeling.

Everything is not for everybody so you will need to create Mother Daughter memories that are meaningful to you. But here’s a few things my daughter and I did together to create Mother Daughter Memories:

  1. Special Occasion Dresses – We would spend the day visiting boutiques to select party dresses, dresses for her junior high school dances, and later her homecoming and prom dresses.  We looked forward to this day every year from junior high to her senior year of high school.
  2. Spa Treatments – Nothing like being seated next to each other at the spa getting our nails done and saying nothing.  Just enjoying each other’s company.
  3. Trips To Dairy Queen –  My daughter loved strawberry sundaes and I loved their chocolate cones. We had some much fun laughing and enjoying our treats.
  4. Looking At The Christmas lights –  This speaks for itself.  We would spend hours just driving through neighborhoods being in awe. To this day, Christmas is a special time for us and lights are included.
  5. Going Out To Lunch or Dinner – Apple Bee’s was my daughter’s favorite place to eat growing up.  She loved their lemonade.  We would sit for hours and talk about everything and everybody.  It’s funny she won’t enter the place now.  Ruth Chris is one of her favorite eating places. So glad she has a husband to pay the bill for that one.
  6. Watching Movies  We would spend the day watching movies on Saturdays.  One of our favorites movies to watch was Gone With The Wind and of course Girl Flicks. When one of our favorites is on now, she calls to let me know.
  7. Sharing A Beach Week-end  – Every year I would take my daughter and 3 of her friends to the beach for a week-end.  Ocean City, MD was the go to at that point in our life. The interesting thing about this trip is that I have a bridge phobia, and I had to drive the girls across the Chesapeake Bay Bridge. The bridge is about 4.5 miles long.  I can drive across bridges, but I’m holding my breath, praying, counting and anything else I can think of.  I drive slow and look straight ahead. It doesn’t matter if the bridge is long or short.  The effect is the same for me. To this day, my daughter doesn’t know what bridges do to me. I never wanted her to know how scared I was, I only wanted her to enjoy the trip.
  8. Spending the Day At a Book Fair We would spend the day at the book fair browsing through isles and isles of books.  We would take our selections home and plan when we would spend the day reading them.
  9. Read Your Favorite Books We would curl up on the sofa and read our favorite book at the time.
  10. See A Show – One of our favorite bonding moments was when we went to see a ballet or Alvin Ailey.  We still look for shows that we can see together.

I hope my bonding moments have inspired you to create Mother Daughter Memories.  You don’t have to spend a fortune, find activities within your budget and they will love you regardless of what’s in your purse.  If you haven’t already, be sure to subscribe to Mother 2 Mother before you leave.  You may also like Making Memories.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Serving Up Justice

Would you become violent if you thought someone was trying to harm your child or trying to have an inappropriate relationship with them?  I’m not violent, but I will go to the end of the earth, prison or straight to hell if I thought someone was trying to harm my child or my grandchildren. Wondering what brought this thought process on?  I was reading an article where a 42 year old teacher was sending inappropriate text messages to a 15 year old.  The girl’s mother discovered the text messages on her phone and told the father.  They in turn called the police; however, the police didn’t see it as a crime.  Apparently the messages were “described an emotional relationship that seemed inappropriate for a teacher and student,” but they were not deemed a crime.  As a result, no charges were pressed against the teacher.  



How does inappropriate text messages from a 42 year old teacher to a 15 year old student not equate to a crime?  It gets better or freakier.  The teacher decides to show up at the student’s house to talk with the parents.  Dad wasn’t interested in having any conversations with the pervert, so he asked him to leave.  The teacher refused to leave, how bold is this?  Well, he took dad to a new level, dad started swinging on the teacher with a bat.  The teacher decided to leave after being beaten, but not press charges.  


Now lets do a recap.  A perverted 42 year old teacher sends inappropriate texts to a 15 year old student.  Our justice system doesn’t consider that a crime since sex wasn’t involved, so the teacher was not charged.  The pervert decides to show up at the student’s home to talk to mom and dad. They’re not interesting in talking to the pervert, but he refuses to leave their home.  Dad beats him with a bat, but dad’s not charged with assault because the pervert decided to not press charges.  Now if the pervert had decided to press charges, dad would have been arrested for assault.  Sometimes I just don’t understand our justice system.   


Mom, dads please monitor your children.  Teachers nor anyone else for that matter should automatically be trusted with our children just because they’re in our schools teaching our children, wearing a collar and calling themselves a priest or being a nice neighbor.  The world is full of twisted minds and they prey on children.  I wonder how far this educator would have gone if mom hadn’t checked the phone?  It’s important that we stay on top of what our children are doing and know who they’re interacting with.  Although the teacher was clearly in the wrong, the girl had to give him her phone number in order for him to text her.  


We must talk to our sons and daughters about inappropriate relationships with teachers, priests, ministers, neighbors and everyone else who could take advantage of them.  Unfortunately, some teens think the attention from an older man or woman is exciting.  We must make sure they understand the consequences of ending up in inappropriate relationships with those who should be looking out for their best interest and not taking advantage of them.   


I can relate to dad, I would have served up some justice too.  The nerve of him showing up at the parent’s home.  What kind of conversation did he think they would have, and than have the nerve to refuse to leave when asked. Clearly no respect for himself, their child or them.   


I wish the world was full of kind, genuine people.  It pains me to hear about all of the shootings at our schools, inappropriate teacher/student relationships, our children being abused by their parents and all of the other evil that exists in the world.  I pray about it. Unfortunately we can’t protect our children every minute of the day, but lets protect them when we can.  



                                                               



Pull Up Your Pants!


Teen Fashion

Can You Take My Order Challenge

Can you take my order please? It’s an order Rapped by two teens at a McDonald’s. Listen carefully, and test your Rap skills by translating the order. Leave your interpretation of the order on the post. We would love to see what you come up with.

Sister Love

I adore my sister. As I’ve gotten older, I have truly learned to appreciate her. Please allow me to introduce her, Teresa, shown on the right. This picture is of us when I was visiting her in Savannah, GA last month. I wish the photographer had told me that my purse straps were twisted, lol.


When we were growing up, we were vastly different. She was a tomboy. She refused to play with dolls or be a guest at my tea parties. She preferred to jump on a pogo stick, play baseball and beat up the boys in the neighborhood. She hated house cleaning, cooking and doing laundry. As a result, I decided to start a business. I charged her to do her household choirs. It paid off, as a teen I was never broke. Enterprising became a way of life for me, in addition I started charging my brothers to iron their shirts. In the 60’s, ruffled shirts for men were in. They had no clue how to iron them, so they were happy to pay me.

We look back on those days and laugh. She’s visiting this week, and last night she reminded me that I was a tattle tail when we were growing up. When we first started school, we weren’t allowed to wear pants. My mother’s religion forbid it. When we reached Junior High, my sister managed to get someone to purchase jeans for her. She would carry them to school, and change her cloths when we got there. I told on her, yes I did. If she was going to wear pants, I was going to wear them too. She was furious. Eventually my mother changed her outlook and we were allowed to wear pants.

We have become “two peas in a pod” as my mother says. Exchanging recipes, shopping, chatting on Facebook, and discussing our own family problems. It has become a way of life for us. I’m so grateful to have her as a sister, we love each other unconditionally and that is priceless.

When I’m down or stressed, I read a plague that she gave me years ago. It says, “Sister- I see God’s beauty in you. I thank God for you always”. It always makes me feel better. Isn’t that beautiful? I know that I don’t tell her often enough, but I thank God for her too.