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Should Parents Be Blamed for Their Obese Child

I heard an interesting question on CNN, and I’ve really been pondering the answer.  The question – Should obese children be removed from the home?  I’ve taken time to really think about the question.  Is the obesity due to a medical problem?   If it is a medical problem no, if it’s because the child is being allowed to eat and eat and eat, maybe.  Good eating habits have to be taught, and of course that is our responsibility as parents.   The American Medical Association believes it is the ethical thing to do.  They believe the child should be removed from the home and taught the proper eating habits and the importance of getting physical activity.  Once this is accomplished, the parents and child can be reunited.  Do you agree?  Why can’t the child remain in the home and they be taught healthy eating as a family?

Because children spend so much time on the computer or playing computer games, they rarely get physical activity these days.  The lack of physical activity along with unhealthy meals has lead to severe obesity in this country.  There are approximately 2 million obese children in the United States.  This is a serious problem wouldn’t you say?  I can count on 1 hand the number of times that I’ve seen kids in my neighborhood out riding a bike or walking.  Do we hold parents accountable and remove the children from the home?  I’ve seen children so obese, doctors have told parents that they are literally killing their child.

Parents complain that they can’t afford the healthier foods.  It’s cheaper to buy soda and other junk than all natural juice,  veggies and better cuts of meat.  I decided to plant a garden this year.  I will be canning fresh veggies and tomatoes for sauces, salsa, soups and chili.  Great meals that can be heated quickly by a child.  Not everyone has room for a garden, but there is container gardening that can be done on a patio or balcony.  The prices in the grocery store are ridiculous and the vegetables taste like cardboard.  I don’t blame the kids for not eating them.  I can barely get them down.  There’s a million recipes for chicken, which is the one meat that is not that expensive and considered healthy.   

I’m not sure about removing the child from the home, but I am sure that we have a child obesity problem in this country and it is leading to high blood pressure, diabetics, and other health problems.  Do you promote healthy eating and physical activity in your home? 

Is 4 Too Old For A Pacifier?

Is 4 too old for a toddler to suck on a pacifier?  Check out little Suri Cruise.  She goes from Little Diva with high heel shoes and a Starbuck drink one day to a toddler needing to suckle the next.  I struggled with my grandson and whether he was too old to continue with his Nip Nip at age 2.  I can’t imagine him walking around at age 5 with a pacifier in his mouth.  Anyway, we decided that we should wean him from the Nip Nip at 2.5 years.  I’m happy that we did.  Most doctors recommend that parents wean their children from the pacifier before they turn 1.  Miss Suri will be turning 5 next month. 

My grandson lived his Nip Nip.  He used it to sooth himself often.  We gradually switched to giving it to him at nap and bedtime only.  We weaned him altogether when we moved him into his big boy bed.  When I see children Suri’s age breastfeeding and still using a pacifier, I wonder what’s up with the parents.  Is it laziness or just not wanting to hear their child cry if they wean them?  Could it be that they can’t tell their children no?  Reminds me of the parents who are suing McDonalds because their children want a Happy Meal and they have to tell them no, lol Not being able to say no to your child is a problem in itself, and the problem is with the adult.   

If Suri was attending public school, she would have to leave her pacifier home.  If not, she would be a target for bullies or the butt of jokes by her schoolmates.  Yes there are 5 year old bullies,  but that’s a conversation for another time.  It’s doubtful that school adminstrators would allow a 5 year old to bring a pacifier to school either.  The fact that she will be privately tutored may be a reason why Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise don’t see a need to wean her at this time.

Regardless of whether you’re a star or not, some parenting skills are universal.   When we lack the ability to tell our children no we aren’t doing them any favors.  Take a look at Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie before she matured and became a mother. Drew Berrymore was another troubled teen and I could go on, but I’m sure you understand where I’m coming from.  Children need limits and guidance.   I wonder what Katie Holmes’ explanation would be if asked why she’s allowing Suri to use a pacifier at age 5. 

Would her explanation be acceptable to me.  No.  Would it be acceptable to you?  Do you believe age 5 is appropriate for a child to still be using a pacifier?  Please leave us a comment.  We would love to know your opinion.   

 

Is Your Child A Member of the Muffin Top Club?

Is your child a member of the muffin top club?  You are familiar with the term muffin top right?  It’s when you wear jeans and the bulge of fat hangs over the waist band of the jeans.  I see a lot of teenage girls with muffin tops, and occasionally adult women. I try hard to cover my stomach, I’m a muffin, biscuit, pancake, crescent roll and whatever other bread product you can think of.   
There’s also the term split muffin top.  Now that’s when your pants are low enough when you bend over to see the top of your butt crack, as if somebody would be interested in seeing that.  Some of us are comfortable enough to let it all hang out.  Normally I would say more power to you, if you think you look good work with it.  However, I’m sick of seeing muffins in every shape size and color imaginable.  Check out this video on YouTube, we are turning into a Muffin Top Nation people we really are.  

Low-rider jeans are the culprit.  We used to call them hip huggers back in the day. When we wore them in the 70’s, they sat low on the hips so the belly button would be exposed.  Their purpose these days are beyond me.  Can somebody explain their purpose in the 2000’s. 


We need to educate our daughters on how to dress appropriately moms.  When we see them heading out the door in this ensemble, we need to stop them.  If you can’t find it in your heart to stop them, damn it, send the fashion police after them.  They need to learn that it is not attractive.  I love seeing our teenage girls with confidence and self-esteem, but this is neither. We must teach them confidence, self-esteem and self-worth.  They must learn that just because a certain type of clothing is on the market doesn’t mean they can wear it, and it doesn’t make them unfashionable or less for it. Fashion etiquette starts at home moms. You don’t have to be a Fashionista be able to determine that this is not acceptable.      
 
 
Leave us a comment on what you think about the insurgence of muffin tops that have invaded us.  Do you agree that fashion etiquette starts at home?  Are you seeing muffin tops in your area?  Is your child a member of the muffin top club?  We would love to hear from you.   

I’m Someone’s Child Too

How do people learn hatred?  I have my beliefs and I’m very passionate about certain things, but I would never intentionally set out to hurt another person as a result of those beliefs.  
Amber, shown, used to be David.  She is now transgender.  In October, she went to a DMV in San Francisco, and changed her name and gender.  I’m sure she was thinking this is the beginning of my new life.  What she got in return is a letter condemning her to hell and telling her that she should be put to death from a DMV employee as well as a pamphlet from a church condemning her sexual orientation.  

It seems the DMV employee accessed the system and used her personal information to send the condemning letter.  Now let me make sure I have this right, this high and mighty employee accesses some one’s confidential information, which is an Ethics and Conduct Violation on most jobs and grounds for an immediate dismissal, to condemn someone to hell.  Hmmmmmmmmm!  

Allegedly, this same employee refused to help another transgender person last year.  He was given sensitivity training, and allowed to keep his job.  He obviously didn’t learn anything from the sensitivity training.  It’s hard to expunge hatred from human beings with a Power Point presentation?  It takes hatred years to fester and really get into the pores of human decency.  After all, we aren’t born full of hate.  
  
The employee has since resigned from the DMV.  I’m sure Amber Yust would have preferred the employee being fired rather than being allowed to resign.  This leaves the door open for him to find another job without a smear on his record.  How fair is this?  Hopefully there will be justice for Amber in the end.  Sending hate mail through the US Postal service is a federal offense.  This man should be prosecuted to the fullest extend of the law; otherwise, there will be another recipient of his hatred.

When I hear these type of stories, I wonder what makes the person so holy.  I wonder why they believe they are the chosen ones who should deliver the condemnation.  I wonder how many hours they spent listening to bigotry and hatred in their homes or church.  I can relate to Amber Yust.  Not because I’m transgender because I have been the recipient of hate mail.  Although it has been years ago, I remember the evening clearly.  I had just walked through my door from a business trip and was going through the mail.  My letter was sent from the coworker from hell.  My response was shock and disbelief.  It’s frightening, it’s funny, and in the end you feel sadness for someone who is that sick and thinks you’re the problem.  My letter contained a grave with a headstone.  On the headstone was RIP.  Another had me hanging from a tree.  My harasser spent a year behind bars in a federal prison.  She had a lot of time to think about her acts.  She apologized at her sentencing.  I didn’t accept it because I don’t believe it was sincere.   She was facing prison time, she was sorry she was sitting exposed as the sick cookie that she is.  What was truly amazing was that she tried to portray  herself as a great mother.  She really set a good example for her children with her acts of hate didn’t she.  I am thankful that the judge saw through her, and gave that bitch exactly what she deserved.  A year and a day and 3 years p robation. 

In time you do forgive, but you never forget.  Who has the right to scar another person for life?  What does a person have inside of them that makes acts of hate seem appropriate?  In my opinion, hatred is like cancer.  It will eat you alive.  I look at Amber and I think that she should be able to live her life the way she wants.  It’s her life, she has to live it and answer for her choices and decisions like we all do.  I feel no hatred toward her, she’s somebody’s child too.  Have you been the recipient of hate mail or discrimination in any manner.  We would love for you to share your story or thoughts on this post.  Please leave us  a comment, we love them.    

Mom Sues McDonalds

Your marketing gimmick is targeting my children!  That’s whats behind a  lawsuit filed by Monet Parham of Sacramento, CA against McDonalds.  Ms. Parham is a mother of two small children, and she’s feed up with McDonalds’ marketing team targeting small children with their Happy Meals.  Ms. Parham has stated that McDonalds marketing team gets into children’s heads, and it makes parenting extremely difficult.  She has to say no to her children repeatedly.     

Happy Meals have been around for at least 30 years.  My daughter used to ask for them constantly when she was growing up.  I certainly didn’t allow her to drive me to the brink of wanting to sue McDonalds, and I won’t allow my grandson to take me there either.  I just regulated when my daughter could have one and when she couldn’t, and I’m taking the same approach with my grandson.  From one mother to another, who’s the parent here?  Are we going to sue Walmart next because they’re selling toys that our children constantly ask for? Are they going to sue Nintendo because they can’t get their child off the couch and nowthey have health problems? There’s no manual for a parent, at times it just requires common sense.  

According to Ms. Parham, her six year old wants the toys from the Happy Meals not necessarily the food.  Okay, she’s a child.  It’s our job as parents to say no and stand our ground.  She’s six, she can’t drive to McDonalds and get a Happy Meal on her own.  Find something else to occupy her, and her desire for a Happy Meal will go away.  You may have to repeat the technique for many years, but it works.  I don’t know of any child who has endured any negative affects from the word no from a loving parent who has their child’s best interest in mind.    

The Center for Science in the Public Interest is assisting Ms. Parham with the class action lawsuit.  They have stated they have tried to meet with McDonald’s representatives; however, they were unsuccessful.  I wonder why, lol.  As a parent I don’t have a problem with the toys, I have a problem with the food.  Since I have a problem with the food, I don’t buy it.  I can exercise my right to purchase or not purchase.  Did you hear that Ms. Parham, exercise your right to purchase or  not purchase.  It’s one of the beautiful things that we have a right to do or not do in this country. 

Many professionals believe that McDonalds is a big contributor to the obesity problem that we are now having with our youth.  I don’t blame McDonalds, I blame the parents for allowing their children to overeat and not exercise.  If a sandwich has 1500 calories, why would you give it to your child and than complain that the food has made your child obese.  If we don’t buy, they will change the products that are offered.  As parents we need to become accountable for our families, and stop blaming everyone and everything.  

Do you agree or disagree with this lawsuit?  Leave us a comment and let us know your thoughts.  We would love to hear from you. 

No More Junk Food For You

It looks like our schools will be required to serve healthier meals to our children.  Lets hear it for the Obama administration, someone stepped up to the plate and said we need to take better care of our children.  Many would disagree with his decision.  We all have an opinion and this post is about mine. I signed on to Michelle Obama’s Lets Move program months ago.  Our children need healthier meals, we truly have a severe obesity problem with our children in this country and we need to teach them to eat healthy now so it becomes a habit. 
I was an advent fan of Maury Povich years ago, that’s before he started focusing on baby’s daddy.  I’ll save my opinion on baby’s daddy for another day.  Anyway, Maury was featuring obese children on his show.  OMG, the images will be ingrained into my memory forever.  The show featured toddlers that weighed 100+ pounds.  Mothers were literally feeding their children to death.  The children would scream and fight until they received their favorite foods and drinks, which consisted of Twinkies, soda, chicken legs, mac & cheese, chips, and the list goes on and on.  It was heart breaking.  These children were huge.  There was no way these children could be lifted to be hugged and kissed.  There was no way these children could run and play.  It still brings tears to my eyes years later just thinking about it. Statistics show that approximately 32 percent of our children are overweight or obese and the numbers are climbing.  Our armed forces are turning away recruits because they are too fat to serve in the military. Can you believe this, the recruits couldn’t climb a flight of steps if their life depended on it.  They surely can’t enter into combat to defend our country.

We must save our youth before it’s too late. They are our future, but if we continue on the path that we’re on they won’t be around to lead.  Health care costs are at an all time high, and much of the debt relates to obesity.  High blood pressure, diabetes, and respiratory issues are serious problems with our youth too.  Here’s a few questions for you:  Do you see children playing in your neighborhood? What happened to riding bikes and taking your children to the park to play on the swings and slide?  What happened to taking your kids roller skating?  We’ve allowed our children to become couch potatoes.  A video game is in one hand and a bag of chips or ice cream is in the other.       

How can we go wrong with the Healthy, Hunger-Free Kids Act of 2010 (S. 3307).  This bill addresses the need for healthier meals for our children.  Let the fight against obesity begin. Many children would go hungry without the Free Lunch program offered in our schools. Many parents who are trying to feed their families are unable to purchase organic or other healthy choices because it’s just too expensive to purchase these types of foods.  They send their children to school, and what’s there?  Vending  machines filled with chips, chocolate, and soda.  When do they get a healthy meal?  Where do they learn to make healthy choices, it’s not an option in the home.  We are sending our children to school to get an education, shouldn’t healthy eating be a part of their education?  

I debated this bill with a mom blogger this morning.  She believed the bill was another communistic act of the Obama Administration to control the country.  She believed she should be able to give her child money to purchase a treat, ice cream, if she choose to do so. She also had a problem with the fundraising being limited.  The children would no longer be able to sell candy bars to raise funds.  People were able to spend a $1.00 on a candy bar versus $30.00 for wrapping paper.  This statement proved my point, junk food is more affordable, which is why children are being feed junk instead of making healthier choices. Why can’t they sell fruit?  I purchase a case of mixed fruit every year around the holidays from the neighborhood children and make gift baskets for my family.  What about candles or a magazine subscription?  There are so many options other than candy that can be sold to raise money. I believe out of sight out of mind.  If we’re banning junk from the schools, why sell it for fundraisers?
      
I participated in the White House Feed A Neighbor Program several weeks ago.  The shelves were bare, and food banks were asking the community for help stocking shelves so families could have a decent meal for Thanksgiving.  It was a rewarding experience for me, but I have to say that fresh fruit and vegetables were not an option among the food brought in.  Food banks are unable to store perishable items.  They must have a self life.           
       
Most importantly, I wish someone had taught me how to eat when I was a kid.  I was not an obese kid, my weight problems started after my divorce.  I’m a stress eater, which is why I am so hell bent on teaching healthy lifestyles early.  I have gotten better with walking and moving as much as possible, and I’ve already signed up for a weight lose program starting 1/4/2011.  Stay tuned for my progress in the new year.  Although my eating habits were not great, my daughter did learn to eat healthy as a result of 12 years of formal dance training.  She has made it a part of her life and she’s passing that mind set on to her son.  To me that’s proof that healthy habits are taught.  

We would love to know your thoughts on this bill.  Do you believe the government should be regulating school menus and the removal of junk food?  Should the government be the initiator of the fight on childhood obesity?  How are you doing with  preparing healthy meals in your home? Leave us a comment, we would love to hear from you.         

Mother Breast Feeding 6 Year Old


When should a mother stop nursing her child?  Is 6 years old beyond the appropriate age limit?
Amanda Hurst in the UK doesn’t see a problem with her 6 year old breast feeding.  As a matter of fact, she’s breast feeding both her 6 year old and her 5 five month old. Amanda said, she nurses both of the children in the morning because it’s cold and she doesn’t want to get up.  I find that to be a rather odd reason for nursing a six year old.  Most people would find that statement to be an indication of laziness.  Does it warm up as the day goes on inside her home or does she have to get up eventually and turn up the heat?  If she has to eventually get up to turn up the heat, why doesn’t she do it and feed the child a bowl of cereal, oatmeal or pancakes?  Better yet, why doesn’t she have her husband turn up the heat before he leaves for work.  The house would be warm by the time she gets up with the children. 
We all know that breastfeeding has been proved to be better for babies, but this post is about a 6 year old.  In addition to still nursing her 6 year old because it’s cold, Amanda said she just couldn’t turn her son away when she tried to wean him at 3 years old.  When her second son, William, was born and she decided to nurse him too, Jonathan wanted to continue as well. It’s rare that she nurses both of them at once because of the difficulty, but yes on occasion she does.

Now Jonathan has a 7 year old girlfriend.  He goes to school, tap dances, swims and attends Beaver Scouts.  He’s your typical 6 year old.  If so, than why in the hell isn’t he drinking milk at the table in the morning?  I never breast feed my daughter.  I developed a relationship with Similac, and my daughter turned out just fine.  I don’t buy breast feed children are more intelligent.  She’s highly educated.  She graduated with honors from both high school and college.  As a matter of fact, I will be hosting a party for her next month to celebrate her new Masters Degree.  She will be moving on to her Ph.D after the new year.  She was quite healthy as well.  Typical colds, ear infections that most kids experience growing up.  Now my grandson was breast feed, and he has had more colds than I care to count.  I don’t knock breastfeeding, I believe it’s a mother’s choice and neither is better or the worst for their decision.

Amanda says, “I do question the decisions I make and wonder whether I’m right or wrong. But it’s parenting, there is no manual, I don’t think there is a “right way”.  I beg to differ on this decision.  From one mother to another, parenting is difficult.  There is no manual, but at times common sense comes into play.  Amanda admits she’s lazy, “I think I’m quite lazy,’ she says. ‘I’d have gone crazy having to sterilise all those bottles. Breast milk is always the right temperature, right consistency and it’s always there, on tap”.

Laziness is not an option in my house.  At 5 months, an infant is still dependent on their mother for nourishment, but a 6 year old is old enough to get nutrients and vitamins from appropriate table foods.  Get with it mom, remove your 6 year old from your breast.  “Lellow”, Jonathan’s made up word for breast milk, is no longer cute. 
  
Do you think it’s appropriate to nurse a 6 year old?  Please leave us a comment, we would love to hear from you. 

Bullying Obese Children


Kathy Griffin is fighting back.  She has dubbed Bristol Palin aka “Pillsbury Dough Girl ” or try the “White Precious” and she’s standing by her comments.  Although she is being seen as a bully per Elizabeth Hasselbeck from The View, Kathy Griffin refuses to apologize for her fat jokes. Is  Kathy Griffin a bully for calling Bristol fat?  That depends on who you ask.  Some are defining bullying as an attack on a defenseless person who has done nothing wrong, and Bristol Palin is fair game.  After all, she is the only contestant who gained weight on Dancing With The Stars.  To add fuel to the fire, she shouldn’t have even been in the final competition.  If the show is truly based on one’s dancing ability, Bristol Palin is a joke according to Kathy Griffin.  
Other people went into a rage over the fact that Bristol beat out Brandy on DWTS.  So enraged one man shot out his TV and had a standoff with a SWAT  Team.  Now that is what we call Pissed Off.   
Now I don’t believe Bristol was a better dancer than Brandy; however, I am against bullying.  My daughter was bullied and I’ve written several blog posts on the subject.   It can devastating to the person who is on the receiving end and could possibly end in tragedy.  Do I see Bristol Palin as a child?  Not really, but she is a child to me.  Is she fair game for comedians?  Aren’t we all. Is she being bullied?  I personally don’t think so.  Although she is a child to me, she is in fact a grown woman who had to know that she would be the topic of discussion at breakfast, lunch and dinner if she participated on the show.  Hell her mother is the brunt of jokes for many comedians, so as far as I’m concerned she stepped into the line of fire.  Should her mother have warned her it could happen?  Was this a selfish opportunity that Sarah Palin used for her own political aspirations?  Is this a reflection of Sarah Palin’s parenting skills or lack thereof?     

        
Take a good look at this picture of Bristol Palin.  Would the medical field consider her fat?  Probably so. Should she be the brunt of a fat joke, no. People have criticized Michelle Obama for promoting healthier life styles for America’s children.  I’ve even seen a post where someone blamed President Obama for removing ice cream from the schools.  Is that really a bad thing?  What’s wrong with replacing ice cream with a piece of fruit?  That’s what a doctor would want us to do.  Kathy Griffin’s remarks about Bristol is a perfect example of why obesity needs to be promoted, discussed and dealt with in this country.  Fat jokes, humiliating comments toward our children, and the struggle in adulthood to loose excessive weight is real.  The truth be told, we do have some of the most obese people in the world right here in the good ole USA.  We come from the land of good and plenty, and we believe in indulgence. 

I think too much emphasis is placed on body images in this country.  It’s ingrained into our heads that thin is in.  When those of us who have weight problems can’t obtain that goal, we are the butt of cruel comments and remarks.  I struggle with my weight, and I have for many years. It can be painful at times.  I’ve lost track of the number of times that I’ve looked into the mirror nude and told myself that I was disgusting.  On the other hand, my self esteem is high enough when I can look in the mirror on other days and say diva, oh yes I am.  Not everyone has the strength to do that, and I am grateful for a healthy dose of self-esteem.  I’m not aiming to be thin, but I am aiming to be healthy.

As for Bristol Palin, she should really think twice about whether or not she wants to be in the lime light.  It’s kinda of like Sarah Palin on the hunt for a kill, if you put yourself out there, you’re fair game. I would love to hear your thoughts on Kathy Griffin’s fat jokes and the obesity problems that we face in this country with our children.  Please leave us a comment, we love them.

Child Care Provider Tells 5 Year Old To Hit The Road

My heart dropped when I read this story.  A 5 year old boy is told to leave when his name was not on a list at the Thurgood Marshall Elementary after-school program in Marrow, GA.  This little boy did as he was told, he walked a mile to his home alone.  Can you believe it?  Here’s the story:  Apparently there had been a mix up.  His mother enrolled him in the program; however, his name was not on the list when he showed up on his first day.  Rather than the child care provider bring him inside and investigate why his name was not on the list, they tell him to leave.  He doesn’t know what else to do, so he heads home.  Fortunately he made it home safely and used a spare key to let himself in.  
The school is currently investigating the incident, and they have offered his mother a free week for the trouble.  How funny is that?  A free week at a reckless child care facility would really ease my fear and discomfort.  

I don’t know what’s happening to our school systems, but they’re justing going to hell along with so many other things in this country.  I’m starting to get very upset about by what seems to be a lack of interest in our children.  I know the country is feeling stress from a poor economy and a lack of jobs, but people just don’t seem to care much about anything or anyone. An adult in that school was getting paid to oversee children.  That’s a scary thought to me.  I have to ask what other poor decisions will they make.  Sending a 5 year old away from a school alone is an indication to me that they are not responsible.  So many horrible things could have happened to that poor child.  The teacher or guardian must not listen to the new when they’re at home.  Every day there’s a child murdered or missing on the news.  As a mother that thas a profound affect on me. It should have an affect on the hands that we place our children in daily too.

I’m assuming this school has to be certified in child care if they are advertising as an after school childcare provider.  I wonder how they achieved this status?  I wonder how many parents pulled their children out when they heard what happened to this 5 year old.  Personally, I would have left skid marks driving my child away.  It’s a sad state when you can’t trust a school with your child.  

The mother stated that she would be pulling her child out of the program.  Who can blame her.  I pray that this school will work to provide a better and safer program for the parents and their childen.  What kind of child care do you have for your child after school?  How would you have handled the situation if your child was told to leave a facility and walked a mile home alone?  We would love to hear your take on this one.