Would You Purchase This Kitchen Set For Your Son?

Would you purchase a kitchen set for your son?  My now 4 year old grandson has been asking for a kitchen set for months.  We just celebrated his birthday and purchased this adorable kitchen set for him.  He loves it, but his other set of grandparents believe kitchen sets are for girls.  The picture clearly shows a little boy on the box playing with the set, so it obviously isn’t just for little girls. 

Please tell me why people still think this way.  Some of the best chefs in the world are men.  My grandson loves to cook.  As you can see, he’s been at it since he was 2 years old.  He’s making a spinach dip for his mommy in the picture below, who loved his creation. 

This is Xavier whipping up brownies with grandma several months ago.  He had a great time making them and a better time eating them.  My father was a better cook than my mother when I was growing up.  Have you heard of Bobby Flay and Emeril?  Do you watch the food channel?  Ninety percent of the challengers on Iron Chef are men.  The Cake Boss is a man.  I’m just saying, lol. 

It’s so sad that we have people in the world who still think this way.  What frightens me is what they’re teaching him when he spends time with them.  My daughter spoke up, and make it clear that she will not have her son taught 50’s views and values.  Whether he wants to be a chef or fly jets will be up to him.  If he turns out to be gay, so be it.  He will be loved just the sameI was so proud of her.   It’s this kind of narrow minded thinking that generates prejudice in the world. 

We purchased this set at Toy R Us and it is the bomb.  It is made by Lifestyle Legacy.  A little pricey, but well worth the price.  The colors are fun and features a sink, swivel faucet, 2 burners with clicking knobs and a cutting board.  It even has a cell phone for take out orders or chatting with grandma while fixing dinner, lol.  It also includes an oven, microwave, refrigerator with water dispenser, coffee pot, storage bins, dishes, shakers, pots and pan and the list goes on.  It has everything a little chef needs to cook a great meal including a pot holder, and it will provide opportunity for him to use his imagination.  Isn’t that an important part of development for a child regardless of whether they are boy or girl?  We even received a free 85-piece food set with the purchase.  It was the perfect gift for him. 

We see this set providing hours of entertainment for his little friends who are visiting with mommy and daddy, and we’re sure Zarriah will love using it when she gets older too.  It’s a breeze to clean, and assembled quickly.  Don’t forget the batteries.  The clicking of the burners is a big part of the cooking process.   If you’re in the market, you should add this kitchen set to your list of toys to check out.  You little one would be thrilled if Santa puts one of these babies on his sled.  I highly recommend it. 

Teaching a Preemie How to Nurse From a Bottle

I wanted to let my readers know that my little Zarriah is up to 4 lbs.  2 ozs.  Quite a milestone for us.  My daughter is attempting to bottle feed her for the first time in this picture.  She needs to learn how to suck and keep her milk down.  This is a task that she would have learned during the last month in the womb.  Once she masters this task, we will be well on our way to gaining that last pound needed to go home. 

In addition to learning to nurse from the bottle, she also needs to maintain her body temperature outside the incubator, pass the car seat test and maintain a steady heart rate.  So we still have a few milestones to accomplish. 

The first attempt at bottle feeding was a little overwhelming for her.  We’re hoping she will relate to sucking her pacifier, which she loves, and she will get the hang of things quickly.  The hospital she’s in, is ranked as one of the best in the country for nursing preemies.  They’ve actually had a speech therapist working with my daughter and Zarriah to help with the sucking processing.  Is that not amazing?  You wonder how they can teach a baby this small to do anything, but they can. 

We’re thrilled that Zarriah is allowed to wear her own onesies and tees now, but I’m having a time finding preemie clothes.  If you know a site or store where we can find cute onesies for her, please let me know.  If you have experience with a preemie, I would love to hear from you.  Please leave me a comment. 

We Have A New Baby On The Way

I’m so excited, I have to share my news with you.  We have a new baby on the way!  My daughter is expecting, and Mama will be shopping up a storm over the next months preparing for the new arrival.  The due date is 11/11/11, how cool is that.  My daughter has decided that she doesn’t want to know the sex of the baby this time around.  We’ll be decorating and purchasing everything in neutral colors, yellows, greens, beige etc. 

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Should Parents Be Blamed for Their Obese Child

I heard an interesting question on CNN, and I’ve really been pondering the answer.  The question – Should obese children be removed from the home?  I’ve taken time to really think about the question.  Is the obesity due to a medical problem?   If it is a medical problem no, if it’s because the child is being allowed to eat and eat and eat, maybe.  Good eating habits have to be taught, and of course that is our responsibility as parents.   The American Medical Association believes it is the ethical thing to do.  They believe the child should be removed from the home and taught the proper eating habits and the importance of getting physical activity.  Once this is accomplished, the parents and child can be reunited.  Do you agree?  Why can’t the child remain in the home and they be taught healthy eating as a family?

Because children spend so much time on the computer or playing computer games, they rarely get physical activity these days.  The lack of physical activity along with unhealthy meals has lead to severe obesity in this country.  There are approximately 2 million obese children in the United States.  This is a serious problem wouldn’t you say?  I can count on 1 hand the number of times that I’ve seen kids in my neighborhood out riding a bike or walking.  Do we hold parents accountable and remove the children from the home?  I’ve seen children so obese, doctors have told parents that they are literally killing their child.

Parents complain that they can’t afford the healthier foods.  It’s cheaper to buy soda and other junk than all natural juice,  veggies and better cuts of meat.  I decided to plant a garden this year.  I will be canning fresh veggies and tomatoes for sauces, salsa, soups and chili.  Great meals that can be heated quickly by a child.  Not everyone has room for a garden, but there is container gardening that can be done on a patio or balcony.  The prices in the grocery store are ridiculous and the vegetables taste like cardboard.  I don’t blame the kids for not eating them.  I can barely get them down.  There’s a million recipes for chicken, which is the one meat that is not that expensive and considered healthy.   

I’m not sure about removing the child from the home, but I am sure that we have a child obesity problem in this country and it is leading to high blood pressure, diabetics, and other health problems.  Do you promote healthy eating and physical activity in your home? 

Mariah Carey’s Nursery

I had to share this celebrity nursery.  It’s a picture of Mariah Carey’s nursery for her soon to be twins.  Is it not adorable!  I would have never thought to use this shade of green in a nursery, but it makes the cream pop.  Mariah and Nick are expecting a boy and girl.  I love how she incorporated neutral colors instead of the usual pink and blue that we’re so stuck on.  The small touches of pink and blue are just enough.  Just in case you can’t see it, there are touches of blue in a vase and stuffed animal on the far right.  Most of us wouldn’t be able to duplicate this nursery; however, their may be certain ideas that could be used in the homes of us ordinary folks. 

I love the off white furniture.  Furniture in this tone could be reused if a family decides to have additional children.  If it turns into a toddler bed, that even makes it better.   For more information on Mariah’s nursery, pick up a copy of Life & Style magazaine. 

Tom Hanks Take on Toddlers and Tiaras

As my readers know, I’m not a fan of children being in beauty pageants. I’ve watched several episodes of Toddlers and Tiaras and quite frankly found it appalling.  I have a problem with parents spray painting tans on children,  making them up to look like painted dolls, and than claiming they’re doing it all for the child..  Do I have stupid tattooed on my forehead?  If you can find the tattoo, I’ll accept that it’s all being done for their daughter.  

Anyway, I came across this video with Tom Hanks and his take on parents and the Toddlers and Tiaras show while watching Jimmy Kimmel.  Tom Hanks is one of my favorite actors, so watching his take on pageants just made my day.  He is brilliant in the video.  Also, the little girl shown in the video is an actress, she is not Tom Hank’s daughter.  Hope you enjoy the video. 

Is 4 Too Old For A Pacifier?

Is 4 too old for a toddler to suck on a pacifier?  Check out little Suri Cruise.  She goes from Little Diva with high heel shoes and a Starbuck drink one day to a toddler needing to suckle the next.  I struggled with my grandson and whether he was too old to continue with his Nip Nip at age 2.  I can’t imagine him walking around at age 5 with a pacifier in his mouth.  Anyway, we decided that we should wean him from the Nip Nip at 2.5 years.  I’m happy that we did.  Most doctors recommend that parents wean their children from the pacifier before they turn 1.  Miss Suri will be turning 5 next month. 

My grandson lived his Nip Nip.  He used it to sooth himself often.  We gradually switched to giving it to him at nap and bedtime only.  We weaned him altogether when we moved him into his big boy bed.  When I see children Suri’s age breastfeeding and still using a pacifier, I wonder what’s up with the parents.  Is it laziness or just not wanting to hear their child cry if they wean them?  Could it be that they can’t tell their children no?  Reminds me of the parents who are suing McDonalds because their children want a Happy Meal and they have to tell them no, lol Not being able to say no to your child is a problem in itself, and the problem is with the adult.   

If Suri was attending public school, she would have to leave her pacifier home.  If not, she would be a target for bullies or the butt of jokes by her schoolmates.  Yes there are 5 year old bullies,  but that’s a conversation for another time.  It’s doubtful that school adminstrators would allow a 5 year old to bring a pacifier to school either.  The fact that she will be privately tutored may be a reason why Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise don’t see a need to wean her at this time.

Regardless of whether you’re a star or not, some parenting skills are universal.   When we lack the ability to tell our children no we aren’t doing them any favors.  Take a look at Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie before she matured and became a mother. Drew Berrymore was another troubled teen and I could go on, but I’m sure you understand where I’m coming from.  Children need limits and guidance.   I wonder what Katie Holmes’ explanation would be if asked why she’s allowing Suri to use a pacifier at age 5. 

Would her explanation be acceptable to me.  No.  Would it be acceptable to you?  Do you believe age 5 is appropriate for a child to still be using a pacifier?  Please leave us a comment.  We would love to know your opinion.   

 

Is Your Child A Member of the Muffin Top Club?

Is your child a member of the muffin top club?  You are familiar with the term muffin top right?  It’s when you wear jeans and the bulge of fat hangs over the waist band of the jeans.  I see a lot of teenage girls with muffin tops, and occasionally adult women. I try hard to cover my stomach, I’m a muffin, biscuit, pancake, crescent roll and whatever other bread product you can think of.   
There’s also the term split muffin top.  Now that’s when your pants are low enough when you bend over to see the top of your butt crack, as if somebody would be interested in seeing that.  Some of us are comfortable enough to let it all hang out.  Normally I would say more power to you, if you think you look good work with it.  However, I’m sick of seeing muffins in every shape size and color imaginable.  Check out this video on YouTube, we are turning into a Muffin Top Nation people we really are.  

Low-rider jeans are the culprit.  We used to call them hip huggers back in the day. When we wore them in the 70’s, they sat low on the hips so the belly button would be exposed.  Their purpose these days are beyond me.  Can somebody explain their purpose in the 2000’s. 


We need to educate our daughters on how to dress appropriately moms.  When we see them heading out the door in this ensemble, we need to stop them.  If you can’t find it in your heart to stop them, damn it, send the fashion police after them.  They need to learn that it is not attractive.  I love seeing our teenage girls with confidence and self-esteem, but this is neither. We must teach them confidence, self-esteem and self-worth.  They must learn that just because a certain type of clothing is on the market doesn’t mean they can wear it, and it doesn’t make them unfashionable or less for it. Fashion etiquette starts at home moms. You don’t have to be a Fashionista be able to determine that this is not acceptable.      
 
 
Leave us a comment on what you think about the insurgence of muffin tops that have invaded us.  Do you agree that fashion etiquette starts at home?  Are you seeing muffin tops in your area?  Is your child a member of the muffin top club?  We would love to hear from you.   

Don’t Bring Your Crack To My House

You’re addicted to your laptop mom, you’re forbidden to bring your laptop with you during the Christmas holidays.  Like hell I will leave my laptop behind.  I’ll just stay home.  Mom we’ve taken a vote, and your laptop has been voted off the island.  Yep, this is a tidbit of a conversation between me and my daughter.  I’m a laptop crack addict.  I’ll be the first to admit it.  I love playing the games.  I find it quite relaxing, but it seems a few of my family members have an issue with the amount of time I spend on the computer.  My daughter believes I need to be more interactive with the family instead of being on my computer.   

Excuse me, Ms. I’ll See You At Noon.  I can count on one hand the number of times that my daughter has gotten out of bed before noon when she’s visiting me, but she has an issue with me being on my laptop when she decides to join the family.  Sleep is very important to me her, but do I complain.  No!  Breakfast has been fixed, served, dishes washed, and lunch in the works before she opens one eye.  She’s 32, but she still wants my undivided attention when I’m around.  

I asked what the plan was for me since I was going to be there for 3 or 4 days.  Her response, “We’re going to play games”.  WTH!  I’m forbidden from playing games by myself, but it’s okay to play games with her.  I love being a mother.  It’s one of most rewarding roles.  From one mother to another, no manner how old they get they still want mom.   See what you have to look forward to.    

I’m Someone’s Child Too

How do people learn hatred?  I have my beliefs and I’m very passionate about certain things, but I would never intentionally set out to hurt another person as a result of those beliefs.  
Amber, shown, used to be David.  She is now transgender.  In October, she went to a DMV in San Francisco, and changed her name and gender.  I’m sure she was thinking this is the beginning of my new life.  What she got in return is a letter condemning her to hell and telling her that she should be put to death from a DMV employee as well as a pamphlet from a church condemning her sexual orientation.  

It seems the DMV employee accessed the system and used her personal information to send the condemning letter.  Now let me make sure I have this right, this high and mighty employee accesses some one’s confidential information, which is an Ethics and Conduct Violation on most jobs and grounds for an immediate dismissal, to condemn someone to hell.  Hmmmmmmmmm!  

Allegedly, this same employee refused to help another transgender person last year.  He was given sensitivity training, and allowed to keep his job.  He obviously didn’t learn anything from the sensitivity training.  It’s hard to expunge hatred from human beings with a Power Point presentation?  It takes hatred years to fester and really get into the pores of human decency.  After all, we aren’t born full of hate.  
  
The employee has since resigned from the DMV.  I’m sure Amber Yust would have preferred the employee being fired rather than being allowed to resign.  This leaves the door open for him to find another job without a smear on his record.  How fair is this?  Hopefully there will be justice for Amber in the end.  Sending hate mail through the US Postal service is a federal offense.  This man should be prosecuted to the fullest extend of the law; otherwise, there will be another recipient of his hatred.

When I hear these type of stories, I wonder what makes the person so holy.  I wonder why they believe they are the chosen ones who should deliver the condemnation.  I wonder how many hours they spent listening to bigotry and hatred in their homes or church.  I can relate to Amber Yust.  Not because I’m transgender because I have been the recipient of hate mail.  Although it has been years ago, I remember the evening clearly.  I had just walked through my door from a business trip and was going through the mail.  My letter was sent from the coworker from hell.  My response was shock and disbelief.  It’s frightening, it’s funny, and in the end you feel sadness for someone who is that sick and thinks you’re the problem.  My letter contained a grave with a headstone.  On the headstone was RIP.  Another had me hanging from a tree.  My harasser spent a year behind bars in a federal prison.  She had a lot of time to think about her acts.  She apologized at her sentencing.  I didn’t accept it because I don’t believe it was sincere.   She was facing prison time, she was sorry she was sitting exposed as the sick cookie that she is.  What was truly amazing was that she tried to portray  herself as a great mother.  She really set a good example for her children with her acts of hate didn’t she.  I am thankful that the judge saw through her, and gave that bitch exactly what she deserved.  A year and a day and 3 years p robation. 

In time you do forgive, but you never forget.  Who has the right to scar another person for life?  What does a person have inside of them that makes acts of hate seem appropriate?  In my opinion, hatred is like cancer.  It will eat you alive.  I look at Amber and I think that she should be able to live her life the way she wants.  It’s her life, she has to live it and answer for her choices and decisions like we all do.  I feel no hatred toward her, she’s somebody’s child too.  Have you been the recipient of hate mail or discrimination in any manner.  We would love for you to share your story or thoughts on this post.  Please leave us  a comment, we love them.