Look At My Preemie

Hard to believe that my little preemie has turned 6 months, and is doing great.  Zarriah is sporting her new ear piercings in the top picture.  We got her ears pierced yesterday, and she handled it like a trooper.  She’s so amazing.  We’re purchasing 6 month clothing for her now.  She arrived August 28, 2011 at 2lbs. 10 oz. and now weighs a whooping 13 lbs, lol.  She doesn’t believe in missing a meal, so it didn’t take long for her to catch up.     

Zarriah Gabrielle is wearing her Valentine’s Day outfit in the picture above.  She loves her fingers and they go into the mouth as soon as she gets the chance.  She’s rolling now and loves tummy time.  She’s ruling the household, mommy and daddy sleep when she says.  For several months she was sleeping through the night, but she has reverted somewhat.  She wakes up once through the night demanding her yummies. 

We’re going to try giving her fresh peaches within the next few weeks.  I canned fresh peaches last year, so we could make her baby food.  I also froze fresh zucchini, squash, and green beans from my garden.  I’ll be planting sweet peas in the spring so we can make baby food out of those as well.   

Grand parenting is such a blessing.  I am so grateful and blessed that she is thriving and there are  no major problems.  She gets congested quite often, but the doctor is telling us not to worry.  As her lungs get stronger, she will grow out of it.  I’m looking forward to seeing Zarriah sprout and come into her own over the years.   I’ll be working on her 1st year scrapbook soon, lol,   

Blue Ivy

Beyonce has finally decided to take her precious daughter, Blue Ivy Carter, out and about.  She is strolling about New York City with Blue Ivy in a leopard print Baby Bjorn wrap.  

The second picture is Beyonce leaving the restaurant where she and Blue Ivy had lunch with daddy, Jay-Z,  at the Italian eatery Ristorante Sant Ambroeus in the West Village.

Jay-Z and Beyonce own a large portion of this Tribeca, lower Manhattan, apartment building including a Penthouse.  It is rumored that they added a 2,200 square foot nursery for Blue Ivy and her nanny.    

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Beyonce and Blue Ivy Carter




Finally a picture of Beyonce and Blue Ivy Carter and oh what a beautiful baby she is.  Who would expect anything less from the famous mother and now most famous baby in the world.  Beyonce looks like a proud mother, and she looks fabulous just weeks after giving birth to this little bundle of joy.   I love the fact that mom and dad decided to trademark the name Blue Ivy Carter.  So if you had plans to try to duplicate little Blue Ivy, forget about it.  How savvy is that, lol.   

Here’s a picture of Blue Ivy‘s crib.  Daddy, Jay-Z, shelled out $22,00 for the coach at Posh Tots.   That’s a bundle of money for me, but when you’re worth several hundred million it’s a drop in the bucket.  Personally, if I had millions I would purchase this adorable crib for my little princess.  Actually, Jay-Z is quite frugal compared to Mariah Carey.  Check out the coach she purchased for her little princess.  That baby starts at $47,000, lol. 

Oprah sent a trunk full of her favorite children’s books and friend Gwyneth Paltrow has gifted Blue Ivy with a top of the line special edition Bugaboo Cameleon stroller.  The Bugaboo Cameleon is the stroller of choice for the stars.  Friend Kelly Rowland give her BFF a Swarovski-crystal studded Baby Diamond Bathtub worth $5,200.  I love royalty in America, lol.  I wish Beyonce and little Blue Ivy the best, and hope she enjoys being a mother as much as I do. 

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Teen Pregnancy

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Would you put your teen daughter on birth control?  Are we naïve to think that our teen daughters won’t engage in sex?  Statistics state that 3 in 10 teen girls in the US will get pregnant at least once before age 20?  That’s about 745,000 teen pregnancies each year.  The average cost of raising a baby through the age of 18 is approximately $269,520.  Statistics show that the US has the highest birth rate followed by the United Kingdom. 

Sexually active teens prefer the condom.  They also engage in sex using the withdrawal method and the pill is their third choice of birth control.  In March 2011, a study showed that teenage sex had decreased.  There was no explanation as to why, but it was assumed that they were concerned with sexually transmitted diseases.  Wouldn’t it be nice to think our children will remain abstinent until they get married.  I live in the real world, and I know that chances of that happening are slim to none.  As a result, can we have a dialogue about birth control please. 

Students at Shippensburg University in Pennsylvania can get the “morning-after” pill by sliding $25 into a vending machine.  They can purchase a condom from the same machine or a pregnancy test.  Some experts have concerns that making Plan B so readily available isn’t a good idea.  They are equating it to the abortion  pill.  Experts feel that teens should at least have to go to a pharmacy to obtain Plan B, so they can discuss the risk factors.  Now I’m not saying that discussing risk factors isn’t a good idea, but I would venture to say that it won’t be a priority for a teen who didn’t use protection.  As far as being educated on the risks, they will probably see Google as a better alternative than having to drive to a pharmacy to discuss Plan B over the counter.  Lets say they did drive to the pharmacy,  rregardless of what the pharmacist says, they will more than likely take the pill.    

When I read the article, I wondered what the difference was from a teen purchasing the morning after pill out of a vending machine versus them being able to go to a clinic and getting birth control for free.  I don’t want to make this a pro-abortion or pro-choice post.  I try hard to leave my political beliefs out of my posts.  However, twenty-one states allow minors to obtain birth control without parental consent.  Somebody must be coming into the clinics to get them or it wouldn’t be an issue.   

Personally, I preferred to take my daughter to obtain contraception rather than her going on her own, and I did.  Yes, I sure did.  Some may see me as condoning her having sex, but I saw it as a preventive measure.  In my mind, I thought it would be best if she had if and when she decided to become active.  Why, because I didn’t want her to become a teen mom and I wasn’t naive enough to think that she wouldn’t become active once she was out of my control.  As a single mother, I didn’t want to raise another child.  Most importantly, I didn’t want her to be a statistic.  I was a teen mother.  I became pregnant with my daughter at seventeen and gave birth at eighteen.  Although I had a supportive mom and dad, raising her was not easy.   I didn’t pawn her off on my parents, I took responsibility for her. 

I was thankful that I had a good job with potential to move up in the federal government and I did.  I had excellent benefits, and was lucky enough to be able to provide a good life for her.  I never lived off the taxpayer’s dollar, received food stamps or WIC.  She didn’t receive free meals at school and the taxpayer didn’t pay for her medical expense.  I married a year later, and my husband provided well for us.  Most teens are not in a position to be able to provide and they usually don’t marry and have their husbands provide for them.   The taxpayer usually ends up with the expense.  I am so grateful that I wasn’t a welfare statistic nor did I have to go through the trauma of giving my child up for adoption.   

I believe that we can preach to the choir, but will they truly hear the sermon.  We can try our best to be examples, but when hormones are jumping and our teens are influenced should we supply them with protection.  My daughter married after she completed her college degree, and she didn’t have children until after she was married.  I often wonder if that is because of me helping to protect her as a teen.     

For my readers who are currently raising a teenage daughter or will have a teenage daughter in the future, would you take your daughter to get birth control?  Do you think birth control should be dispensed from a vending machine? Do you have experience as a teen mother or as a single mom?  I would love to hear your views on this subject. 

    

Elementary Math – How Many Slaves Picked Oranges?

How many slave’s hands are tied in this photo?  That’s right, how many slaves are tied in this photo?  I could not believe an article that I read this evening about Beaver Ridge Elementary School in Norcross, GA that incorporated slavery into math problems for third graders.  WTH?   Let me give you a preview of an actual problem sent home, “If Frederick got two beatings per day, how many beatings did he get in one week?”  I truly find this hard to believe in 2012. 

The explanation given for this poor judgement is that teachers are encouraged to mix subjects.  I buy that; however, who is teaching students about beatings, picking oranges and cotton and anything else associated with slavery and finds it acceptable.  I know that slavery was a way of life in the south and many still have a slavery mentality, but teaching it in our schools.  As far as I’m concerned, the teachers should have been be fired.  The principal has agreed to sensitivity training, but is that enough?  These teachers are college educated, but obviously have no common sense.  That’s dangerous.  People with no common sense lack judgement and that soon leads to disaster. 

We wonder why the American school system is in the sad state that it is currently in.  We have our answer!  What’s your thoughts on this gross error?  Leave us a comment, we would love to hear from you.

Area Teacher Arrested for Soliciting A Minor

Do you know who’s interacting with your child on-line?  I received a post from one of my friends on Facebook where an area teacher this week was arrested for soliciting a minor for sex, 13 year old, on-line.  This sh** just makes my blood boil.  We simply can not trust our children on-line, in school, in sports or anywhere these days.    It’s so sad, but the reality of the world in which we live. 

The cover-up at Penn State was enough to make me cry, people just turning their heads and looking the other way while someone is abusing a child.  How do you sleep at night?  How do you get up in the morning, dress, go to work and look at someone who you know is abusing children and you do nothing.  Now it’s happening in my own backyard.  Predators!  People who we believe we can trust as role models for our children taking advantage of them.   The teacher in my area was a fourth grade teacher at an Intermediate School about a mile from me, and had been recently named as the assistant boy’s basketball coach at another Middle School in the areal.  I wonder what we could have expected there, another Jerry Sandusky? 

We as parents must see danger when it comes to our children, and our children must understand the danger of on-line predators as well as those that they will encounter in their childhood.  If you’re like me, you’re probably wondering what you should do to keep your child safe on-line.  Here’s a few tips:  

  • Talk to your child about on-line sexual predators.  They’ll probably try to convince you that they’re okay and know what’s going on, but stand firm. 
  • Improve your computer skills. and controll what your child accesses on-line.  There is parental control software on the market, download it on your family computer.  We were all children at some point, so we understand privacy, but this is your child’s life and we must protect them at all costs.    
  • Make sure you can view your child and the screen on the computer when they’re on-line.  
  • Know what sites they’re visiting, and enforce rules. 
  • Looks for gifts, money or other items that where not provided by you or grand parents.
  • Limit the amount of time your child spends on the computer if they are not doing homework or playing games.
  • Check for sexual communication, images etc. 
  • Limit the number of hours your teen/child is home alone. 

What do predators look for when in search of prey:  

  • Most find our children in chat rooms, through instant messages, email or social networking sites.  
  • They befriend and win children’s affection with gifts, being kind and giving them attention.  They are astute at knowing who to solicit.  

Unfortunately, we can’t protect our children around the clock.  Make these stories a part of your dinner conversation, so your child can understand how real predators are and if they aren’t cautious they too can become prey. 

     

    I’ll Get You – Daughter Posts Video of Family Law Judge Beating Her

    Oh modern technology!  You gotta love it.  This beautiful young lady decided to video her father who is a Family Law judge beating her with a belt and posted it on Youtube.  When I watched it, I was stunned to say the least.  It was hard to believe that anyone in this day and age would be using corporeal punishment on their child, especially a family law judge.  What made it worst was the fact that her mother was in on it. 

    This young lady has cerebral palsy, which just makes me cringe.  She was caught downloading music to her computer.  Hello, that’s what teens do.  I disciplined my daughter a hundred times when she was a teen for downloading music and virusus on the computer.  Did I resort to beating her, no. 

    During the beating with a leather belt, the judge said that he was going to beat her into submission.  Her mother told her to lay on her stomach and take it like a woman.  How sick is this?  The young lady was 16 years old.  Not only that, we as woman are suppose to allow some man to beat our ass.  I don’t think so. This is what you want to teach your daughter?

    This brilliant young lady understood abuse, and knew that her father needed help.  She also understood that abuse gets worst not better.  She hold on to the video for 7 years, and finally decided to post it last week so the public could get a glimpse of who he really was.  Why, because she said her father was now harassing her.  The judge when questioned about beating his daughter, stated that it wasn’t as bad as it looked.  He also said that he had apologized.  The mother apologized to her daughter years ago, and left the marriage.  I wonder whay?

    I’m happy to say that Judge William Adams is being investigated.  I can’t image this man making a decision about anyone’s life after seeing the video.  As of yet he hasn’t been removed from the bench, but it has been decided that a visiting judge should hear his cases until the investigation has been completed. 

    I applaud this young lady for having the courage to expose her abusive father.  She now regrets posting the video, but believes that he needs help and exposing him was the best way of pushing him into some kind of therapy.  Applause!  Applause! 

    Pregnant Mother Arrested For Unpaid Chicken Salad Sandwiches

    Shop at Safeway?  Be sure to pay for any items that you or your children have eaten while shopping.  If not, you’ll probably be sent to the slammer and your children turned over to Children Protective Services.  That’s what happened to a famished pregnant mother and her husband at a Safeway in Hawaii. 
    Yep, they slapped the cuffs on her and hubby and hauled them off to the slammer like common criminals.  Here’s the story.  The  30 week pregnant couple had recently moved to Honolulu from California.  They needed groceries and ventured off to Safeway.  While there she started to feel hungry and picked up two chicken salad sandwiches saving the wrappers so she could pay for them when she headed to the register. 
    After walking around the store and finally heading to the register, she paid for the groceries.  However, she forgot to pay for the two sandwiches.  Now any mother who has a 2 year old knows that by the time you get to the register you’re frazzled.  Forgetting to pay for the sandwiches is understandable.  You’re lucky if you can remember how to find your way back to your car in this case the bus stop.  The former Air Force Staff Sergeant paid for the groceries and headed out the store.  They were stopped and questioned about the sandwiches by security.  They were returned to the store and lead to an office.  Rather than allow the couple to pay for the sandwiches, they called the cops stating that store policy did not allow shoplifters to buy for purchases once it left the store. 
    Once the cops arrived, 4 hours later, they were read their rights.  A lady from Child Welfare took their daughter and the rest is history.  They spent the night in jail and away from their 2 year old daughter.  The baby was returned after 18 hours away from mom and dad.  Needless to say, moms across America are livid.  I mean really.  The couple paid for their groceries, so they obviously had money and didn’t need to steal.  The woman was 30 weeks pregnant, hell we’re always hungry when we’re expecting. 
    Safeway has apologized for the way the situation was handled and has promised to review their policy.   They have stated that they understand our rage.  I don’t shop at Safeway, but if I did I would be giving them a piece of my mind. 
    My advice for moms out there is to stick something that you can munch on in your purse for you and the children.  Be sure that it’s in a baggie or container.  I’ve watched moms in grocery stores open chips etc. and allow their children to eat while they’re shopping.  I’ve also watched managers walk up to them, and state that they can’t  open food while in the store.  The policy is they must pay before consuming it.  I think the situation was handled poorly, and she honestly forgot to pay when she went through the check out.  What’s most upsetting is that they hauled that poor little girl off while sending her parents to jail for $5.00 worth of sandwiches.  Do you think the situation was handled poorly?  What advice do you have for pregnant women or moms of tots who may get famished while out shopping?  Leave us a comment, we can’t wait to hear from you.
    
    
    

    Decorating A Nursery On A Budget

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    We’re working on the nursery and I just had to give you a preview of our purchases.  We decided on a Beautiful Butterfly theme.  This is the crib that we selected for Zarriah.  This picture really doesn’t do it justice nor does it show the true color.  The stain that we chose is called Espresso Java and the crib is the Delta 5th Avenue sold by Target.  It’s actually darker than the picture, almost black.  I wasn’t sure how I felt about dark furniture in a nursery, but I’ve fallen in love with it.  We looked at numerous cribs on line, Babies R Us and countless other stores, but my SIL had his heart set on dark wood so the Espresso won out.  

    Since, Xavier’s, my 3 year old grandson’s birthday is around the corner as well as the holidays, we set a budget of $2,500 for the nursery.  We’re just about finished purchasing and so far we’re within budget.  We ordered the crib on-line from Target for about $250.00, which included shipping.  The crib is solid and receiving great reviews, so we’ve chalked this purchase up as a steal.  The crib we were looking at initially was in the $500.00 range.  We liked this one better because of the color.  It turns into a toddler bed, which is a bonus.  For $250.00 if we decide to use it as a toddler bed we really got a great deal, if not we don’t have $500.00 invested in a crib that won’t get more use. 

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    Here’s the matching changing table.  We loved the fact that this piece had 6 cubicles for storage and it was more vertical than horizontal.  The cubicles on the table will be handy for housing toiletries, wipes, blankets etc. when we’re changing the baby, and it doesn’t take up a wall because it’s horizontal.  We grabbed this piece for $170.00.  My SIL is astute at putting things together and enjoys it, so we’re saved on assembly cost for both the crib and changing table.  So far so good, right.  We found these adorable butterfly bins at Babies R Us for $10.00 each.  We purchased 6, which will replace the baskets shown.    

    We found this adorable dresser at Wayfair.  It was originally $400.00, we grabbed it for $200.00 including shipping.  We were actually looking for an armoire, and found one at Babies R Us in the price range, but unfortunately it doesn’t come in Espresso.  We loved the lines on this dresser, and at half price we couldn’t resist.  The lines are perfect with the changing table.  This dresser is actually the true color of the espresso furniture.  We need to find a mirror and a few pictures for the wall and we’ll be done. 

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    We choose Valspar Dusky Lavender satin paint from Lowes at $30.00 a gallon.  With trim paint, rollers, brushes etc,. we spent $150.00 on paint and material.    

    The Butterfly bedding and accessories were $500.00, an exclusive from Babies R Us.  We selected the comforter, 2 lamps, hamper, diaper stacker, 2 valances, butterfly rug, keepsake box, sheets, bumper pad, and wall decals.  We also purchased a rocker and foot stool for $250.00.  Can’t wait to put everything together.  Stay tuned for the final pictures of the nursery.  Would you put dark furniture in your baby’s nursery?  What do you think of our Beautiful Butterfly theme.  Leave us a comment, we would love to hear from you.  

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