My ex-husband was involved in my daughter’s life after we divorced, but it was on his terms. His priorities were all wrong. For example, the responsibility of getting my daughter up, providing clothing, feeding her, educating her, taking her to activities and turning her into a young lady was my responsibility. For the most part, he thought if he handed over money he had done his part. As a result, I ended up divorce and making it on my own.
Regardless of whether you have a son or daughter, they will need a male influence in their life. You can and you must provide a strong male figure. Speaking from a male perspective is something we as women simply can not do. However I do have a a few tips on how I accomplished that goal and provided male role models for my daughter. Here’s a few tips on how to find mentors:
- First, call a trusted family member. A sister, brother, cousin aunt or uncle who has an established a home can make great mentors. I’m sure their husband or wife would be willing to spend time talking to and teaching your child how to become a positive person in our society.
- Next, contact your local Big Brother and Sister organization – They have volunteers who wish to spend time with local children. Also, one of my male employees was a volunteer for a little girl. As a matter of fact, he was a huge supporter for most of her life and is still involved now that she is an adult.
- Also, church activities are great. Preferably with someone who is trustworthy. We hear so much about Catholic Priests and ministers who abuse children. Take the necessary steps, and ensure your child is around those who can truly be trusted. Predators choose churches because we as parents make the mistake of thinking that everyone is holy.
- Furthermore, camps are also a good way for your child to learn about leadership from both a male and female perspective. This can be a church camp, sports, Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, or whatever organizations you can find locally.
- Fathers and grandfathers have great influence on their grandchildren.
- Recreational centers are another way to provide role models and mentors for your child.
- Last, if you have positive nieces or nephews, have them spend quality time with your son or daughter. They will share things with each other that most won’t talk about in front of their parents. This will give your child an opportunity to hear things from a different perspective too.
