As parents we are responsible for our children’s self-esteem. We have the ability to make or break our children. I grow up in an alcoholic home. Unfortunately, I remember being called names and hearing my mother call my dad names. Furthermore, I remember those times like yesterday. The memories and scars never leave. In most homes families look forward to weekends. In my home they were dreaded. The hell raising started on Thursdays so there would be an excuse for drinking the remainder of the weekend. I vowed that I would never subject my children to this kind of behavior and I didn’t.
Fortunately, I took my responsibility as a parent seriously. Because I was a single parent, it was doubly important that I ensure my child was well taken care of. I made sure she had a high sense of self worth. I worked hard to instill the following characteristics:
Confidence – First, instill confidence in your children. Also, help them believe in themselves and their abilities. And make sure they know they can count on you for whatever goes right or wrong. Demonstrating a positive attitude is a must too.
Compliments – Well done, you look pretty, handsome, great job, and I’m proud of you are great compliments. Children should be praised often. It will stay with them.
Unconditional Love – Next, let your children know that you love them even when they make mistakes. It’s important that they know your love for them is unconditional. As a result, they will always be safe.
Encouragement – Always encourage your children to work through fear. Always let them know that it’s okay when they fail. And encourage them to try again. Be their biggest fan and cheerleader.
Responsibility – Giving children chores and holding them accountable will help with their confidence.
Respect – Furthermore, teaching your children about respect is imperative. Having a high opinion of one’s self will help children have esteem for others.
Finally, fill your children’s self esteem bucket regularly. It will help define who they are as an adult; therefore, it will become a driving force in their success. Communicate, compliment and praise often. Success and failure is a normal part of life, and children need to know that both will be experienced throughout their life. Although they may get down at times, striving for healthy self-esteem should be the goal for all of our children. So, what can you add to the self-esteem bucket?