My On-line Dating Experience

on-line dating

Would you join an on-line dating site?  Dating sites are everywhere.  There’s e-Harmony, Black People Meet, Christian Singles, Match.com, Single Parent Love and the list goes on.  Lets face it, so many things have changed.  Social media has changed the way we live our life.  We meet friends on Facebook, Twitter and blogs.  Why not a dating site.  Balancing life as a single parent, maintaining a full time job, maintaining a home, getting the kids to soccer, football, or ballet leaves little time for a social life.  It can actually leave you exhausted. 

Single parents or non-parents are turning to on-line dating.  Mainly singles who aren’t interested in going to bars or clubs or are finding it difficult to meet someone on their level are curling up with a glass of wine and their laptop and experimenting on-line.  There are many who are shy or have been out of the dating scene for some time and they are unsure of how to connect to another person who feel comfortable in the confines of their home.  There are many reasons singles are heading to on-line dating sites.  There have been many successful connections.  One of my co-workers met her now husband on line. 

I decided to experiment with on-line dating.  I’m past the bar and club scenes, I so decided WTH.  When joining, you’re required to set-up a profile. Of course it helps to add a picture, an up to date picture.  I followed the instructions and waited for the fun to begin.  You’re billed monthly for your membership and can access the site whenever you choose.  You can IM with other members and receive emails.  If or when comfortable, you can exchange phone numbers or agree to meet for a date.  I met several men, I’ll take you through my experience with each. 

The first man who expressed interest lived in my town.  We spent time getting to know each other on line, but I gave up on him after a week.   Getting to know him was like pulling teeth.    He revealed little about himself, and most of his conversation revolved around sex or sexual positions.  Now I’m all for good sex, but not while I’m getting to know you the first week.  Good-bye pervert! 



Next, I met someone who seem promising.  He lived about an hour away and we had great conversations via the phone for about a month.  We agreed to meet.  When I arrived it was clear that he had been drinking, I could smell the alcohol when we shook hands. This wasn’t someone who had a few at the bar waiting for my arrival.  I think he soaked in it the night before.  Did I mention he showed up at our meeting with 2 golf buddies.  Two immediate turn offs for me.  At this point in my life, I’m not interested in a grown man who still sucks the bottle.  Secondly, if you’re not man enough to go out on a date without a chaperon, you’re not man enough to be with me.  I left and stopped accepting his calls.   

The third and last man that I met on-line I actually thought there was potential.  The first date went well, and there was a physical attraction.  He actually excited me, and got the juices flowing.  He seemed to have himself together financially, he had helped to raise his 3 daughters, had a beautiful home, and attended church regularly.  We had many things in common.  We both loved wine tastings, antiques, dining out and traveling.  As time went on, he began to show his true colors.  None of which I liked.  He couldn’t make a commitment if his life depended on it.  He lied, asked me for thousands of dollars and became angry when I said no.  I couldn’t believe this fool thought he was that good or I was so stupid or desperate that I would give him my hard earned money.  His love was conditional, if you let me get into your pants pockets, I’ll love you.  He was pathetic.  He even lied about  his age.  Now when you lie about your age, you will lie about anything.   I asked him if he saw stupid tattooed across my forehead or if there was a sign in my yard that said Bank of Rhonda.

My first red flag was the lying.  He couldn’t keep his stories straight.  The second red flag was the fact that his children rarely visited.  Their flights would have taken 2  hours and he lived 20 minutes from the airport.  They didn’t show up for his birthday, Thanksgiving or Christmas.  Not even a visit during the summer.   When a man who you’re not married to or living with asks you for thousands of dollars.  Run as fast as you can.  Needless to say this went nowhere fast.

After 3 strikes, I cancelled my membership.  For you ladies who are interested in on-line dating, don’t let my negative experience discourage you.  There are many ladies who have been successful.  I just didn’t have the endurance to continue meeting losers on-line.  I am thankful to say that I have met someone and not on-line.  I was introduced by a family member and it’s going great. 


As a single mother, I wanted to share my on-line experience with my readers. Not to discourage you, but to let everyone know that modern technology doesn’t always work.  Sometimes the good old fashioned way is the answer.  Have you tried on-line dating?  Let us know your experience or how you feel about the subject.  We would love to hear from.  

Product Review: Powerocks Portable Charger

Powerocks oh yes it does.  When Powerocks USA asked me to review this portable Super Magicstick portable charger I readily agreed.  I thought it would be perfect to test it while I was on the go, so I decided to use it while visiting my daughter.  It’s a 5 hour drive to my daughter’s, that would be plenty of time to charge the device and provide ample opportunity to use it.   

When I’m visiting my grandchildren remembering to charge my phone is not a priority, but I always regret it later.  I love the bold colors of this little device.  I’m loving the pink, blue, purple and red.  I also love that it’s small enough to stick in a pocket in my purse.  I received the hot pink charger to put to the test.  The charger comes with a USB-to-Micro-USB cable and a pouch for travel. 

Using the charger proved to be very simple.  It involves 3 steps:
  • Step 1 – Charge the Magicstick.  I used the charger that I carry in my car to power it up since I was on the go.  You can also charge it using your phone charger, your laptop or notebook.  It took about an hour to charge the Magicstick in my car.  The charger in my car is pretty powerful, so it may take longer if you’re charging it at home.   
  • Step 2 – Push the button on the bottom of the charge to ensure it’s fully charged.  The button should be blue if it’s fully charged, green if it has a 50% charge and pink if  less than 50%.
  • Step 3 – Once the Magicstick is charged, flip the USB cable around and plug into your Apple, Samsung, Blackberry, HTC, Motorola or whatever device you have.  It’s universal!   
 I love that I can charge my grandson’s games when we’re on the go.  I’ve lost track of the number of times he has had to turn off his game to save some juice for the ride home.  Keeping the kids occupied while I’m driving is a must in my car.  If the Magicstick is fully charged, you should be able to fully charge your devices twice.  This little baby packs power.     
This item is hot.  Don’t be caught without power again.  Check out your local or on-line retail stores and grab one.  I highly recommend it. 
Disclosure:  I was provided a Super Magicstick charger for this review by Power Rocks USA.  The opinions are my own.   

How To Get A Good Nights Sleep


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                                sleep tips
Do you know how to purchase a pillow?  Are you a side, back or stomach sleeper?   I’ve been purchasing pillows for years, and I never thought about how I slept while doing so.  For years my pillows have ended up on the floor by morning.  I concluded, I didn’t like them for some reason and sometime during the night I made my dislike known.  Not only where the pillows on the floor, my bed looked like a bomb hit it.  There times when I woke up, looked at the bed and asked WTH.  I obviously tossed and turned all night, which probably has been a big contributor to me waking up feeling like I had never gone to bed.  I decided to trash all of my pillows and make new purchases.  

While researching and trying to decide what kind to buy, I learned that I’ve been buying the wrong pillows.  There are pillows made specifically for side, back and stomach sleepers.  I am a side sleeper.  I’ve always purchased what was the cheapest, the end.  They always ended up as flat as a pancake, basically useless.  I checked out Web MD during my research, and the article confirmed my suspicion.  I had been purchasing the wrong pillows.   


Since I was going to redo my bed, I decided that I wanted it to be as delicious as the beds at the Marriott and Crown Plaza that I’ve stayed in during my travels.  I headed over to Bed, Bath and Beyond to check out their selection.  According to Web MD side sleepers need a firm pillow to fill in the distance between the ear and outside shoulder.  After discussing the pillow selections with the sales representative, I decided on Laura Ashley side sleepers.  I purchased 4 firm at $20.00 bucks each.  I originally went in with the intention of purchasing Down pillows, that’s what Marriott has on their beds.  The Laura Ashley pillows felt just as good.  I do have a Down bed topper and comforter, which adds to the deliciousness of my bed. 
According to Web MD, if you are a back sleeper you need a thin pillows so your head is not thrown forward and stomach sleepers need a very thin almost flat pillow.  Stomach sleepers usually don’t need a pillow for their head, but they should use one under their stomach to avoid lower back pain.  I found the article to be very informative. 
I have a habit of sleeping on one pillow and snuggling with the other. I know you’re thinking I snuggle with my man or my husband.  I may start there, but before the night is over I’m looking for coolness and I’ve drawn a line down the middle of the bed.  Don’t cross I’m hot!  That’s another story.  Stayed tuned for my post on that experience.    

I have 3 days to use the Laura Ashley pillows, and if I’m not satisfied I can return them.  So far so good.  Are you a side, back or stomach sleeper?  Do you buy your pillows accordingly?  If not, you may want to change how you make your selections too.  Buying the right pillow can contribute to a good night’s sleep.  Who knew. 
                                                                          
                              

Plus Size Barbie


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Plus-size... or obese? A mocked-up image of a plus-size Barbie beside a traditional Barbie by Worth100 has sparked a debate about the doll's impact on female body image
Would you buy a plus size Barbie doll for your daughter?  Apparently the idea is being looked at; however, the plus size Barbie shown is drawing controversy.  Facebook group, Plus Size Modeling, generated the question “Should toy companies start making plus-sized dolls?  They have gotten 36,000 likes and 1,600 shares on the idea. 

Personally, I think it’s a great idea.  Most women are not pencil thin.  Most have curves and are proud of them.  The plus-size Barbie shown was produced by artists at Worth1000.com, not Mattel.  Mattel has not stated, to my knowledge, that they are entertaining the idea of a plus-size Barbie.   


This plus size Barbie has come under fire by many.  Many believe the image created is not how plus size women should be portrayed.  In fact, many think the Barbie shown is obese not plus size.  There is a difference.  Not all plus-size women are obese.  Did you notice that the plus-size Barbie has a triple chin and is basically three times the size of the original Barbie.    

When I first saw the doll, my response was WTH.  I am a plus size.  Yep, size 12/14W and I am comfortable in the skin that I’m in.  My goal is to be healthy and if I can accomplish that at a size 12/14, than I’m happy. I don’t have 3 chins and I’m not three times the size of a pencil thin woman.   Most of the women in my family are plus size.  My daughter however is petite.  Imagine that.

I believe in diversity and want to expose my granddaughter to a variety of doll images.  I purchase Black, Hispanic and Caucasian dolls for her.  After all, the world is made up of many people from many backgrounds in a variety of hues.  I want her to see the world for what it is and know that it’s okay to not be pencil thin.  I want her to know that women of color are beautiful, intelligent and successful.  I want her to know that not everyone looks alike, has the same shape or is the same size.  That’s the beauty of the human race.  I don’t know what genetics have in store for her, so I want her to have this knowledge at an early age. 

If a plus size Barbie is to be marketed, plus size women should be on the team while she is being developed.  I wonder who was behind the development of this doll at Worth1000.com, but more importantly who approved the final plan.  They obviously need to return to the drawing the board and take some time to learn about healthy full figure women.         

Don’t Slap My Child

A passenger accused of slapping a 2 year old toddler on a Delta Airlines flight to Atlanta is sentenced to eight months in prison.  According to the mother, Jessica Bennett, Joe Rickey Hundley, 60, former president of an aircraft parts manufacturer based in Idaho was seated next to her and her son on a flight to Atlanta.  Her son became frightened upon decent and started to cry.  Hundley yelled at her to shut the “ni**** baby up.  He than slapped the toddler.  The adorable baby suffered a scratch below his eye after the assault.  

Thankfully, other passengers witnessed the assault and came to her rescue.  Passengers 12 rows up heard the racial slur.  I wonder if people were raised under rocks at times.  Ms. Bennett stated that Mr. Hundley reeked of alcohol during the flight and his speech was slurred.  According to Ms. Bennett, Mr. Hundley had been complaining about her son prior to the incident.  Earlier he had asked the stewardess about the regulations for holding children on laps.  Ms. Bennett also stated that he told her the toddler was too big to be sitting on her lap.  She said she spent most of the flight in the rear with her son, so she could stay away from Mr. Hundley. 

According to Mr. Hundley’s attorney, he was on his way to Atlanta to remove his son from life support and he was distraught.  Although I understand his pain for having to make such a heart wrenching decision, nobody has the right to slap another person,  Especially a child.     

Mr.  Hundley apologized in court for his disgraceful behavior.  He admitted that he had an alcohol problem and was attending AA meetings and had enrolled in an anger management course.  He will be spending the next 8 months behind bars, so he will have plenty of time to reflect on the incident and how he will re-enter society.  Hopefully, he will be rehabilitated and will have made peace with the death of his son . 

Photo courtesy of Daily Mail.  

Remembering Gone With The Wind

                 
                                                                   Alicia Rhett played India Wilkes in "Gone With the Wind." (Everett Collection)

Gone With the Wind (GWTW) is my all time favorite movie.  I used to sit for hours watching it from beginning to end on my VHS tape.  I did step up, and purchase the DVD finally.  I’ve often wondered how Hollywood chooses the actors and actresses for roles.  At times, it seems impossible to have found a better actor or actress for their role they are in.  They couldn’t have picked a better actress than Vivian Leigh to play the starring role of Scarlett O’Hara.  She was a beautiful and talented actress. 

Today, I’m remembering India Wilkes one of Scarlett O’Hara’s enemies.  India Wilkes was played by Alicia Rhett, shown above.  Alicia Rhett passed away yesterday at age 98.  She actually auditioned for the role of Melanie Wilkes, but the role went to Olivia de Havillan. Alicia was offered and accepted the role as India Wilkes instead. In the movie Melanie Wilkes, played by Olivia de Havillan, comes from an inbreeding family. She marries her cousin and India’s brother, Ashley Wilkes, who Scarlett was in love with.  From there, they were intertwined. 

My fondest memory of India was when Scarlett called her an old maid during an argument.  It seems that her role of being an unmarried woman continued after filming.  Off screen, Alicia Rhett never married or had children. She returned to Charleston, SC after (GWTW) and continued to paint and do stage acting.  Much of her art is on display in her home town of Savannah, GA.    

There are 3 cast members who are still living, Olivia de Havilland, 97, who resides in Paris.  Mary Anderson, 93, who played Maybelle Merriweather; and Mickey Kuhn, 81, who played Beau Wilkes, Ashley and Melanie’s son.  
Gone With the Wind earned an Oscar and an Academy Award.  The period dresses and scenes were amazing.  It was a fascinating movie by all accounts.  Alicia Rhett, rest in peace and thanks for helping to make Gone With the Wind one of the best movies in American History.                               

How To Trace Your Ancestry


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how to trace your ancestry

Do you know who you are?  I’ve spent the last few months tracing my ancestry on Ancestry.com, and I must say that it has been quite an endeavor.  One that I’ve enjoyed so much I’ve decided to do a scrapbook.  I’ve traced my mother’s and father’s ancestry back three generations.  I know amazing, right.  I think it’s important to know who we are.  Once we know who we are, we will understand our greatness and our mission in life.  I also think it’s important to share our heritage with our children so they too can understand how great they are.  


I received a 30 day free trial with Ancestry.com.  The site was easy to use.  It asks for basic information like:  first and last names, places where you relatives may have lived, mother and father’s name if know, birthday etc.  You enter as much information that you have on the person and the systems returns information that you can browse and add to your family tree.  What’s cool about the site, is they do some of the tracing for you when you’re off-line.  For example, they return birth, marriage and death records that they think are connected to your family.  When you log back in, it will give you an indicator on the person that they may have information on.  I also liked that other members may be searching the same heritage line and may have pictures or other documentation that you can copy.  You can make your information public for others to view or you can make it private.       

I was able to trace my history back to slavery on my father’s side.  I was able to find the cemetery where my great, great, great grandfather is buried.  On my mother’s side of the family, my ancestors found the first African American community, Johnsontown, in West Virginia.  I’m excited to be able to pass this information on to my children and grandchildren with the hope that they will pass it on to their children. So many times we loose our heritage, and as a result we miss so many opportunities to be proud of who we are and what our ancestors accomplished.            



I was able to find an ancestry scrapbook, below, on Amazon for a good price.  I snatched it up quickly, the company, KCompany, is no longer making the book.   I really like the brown and turquoise colors and the slot on the album where I can add the family name.  For some reason brown and turquoise seem appropriate for ancestry photos. 
                                             
 
Some may see Ancestry.com as somewhat pricey, pricing may vary month to month, but it was worth the time and energy that it took to trace my roots.  I would advise you to try the free 30 day offer, so if you’re diligent you may be able to accomplish tracing a great deal of your heritage during that period.  If you’re interested in digging a little deeper into who you are, check out the site and make some memories for your family. 

Happy New Year

It’s 2014 and I want to wish each of my followers A Happy, Safe and Blessed New Year.  I appreciate each of your visits to Mother 2 Mother, and I hope to make my blog more engaging by posting helpful and interesting content in the new year.  Any suggestions that you have on how I can achieve this goal would be appreciated.  Please leave a comment and a means to contact you so we can discuss your ideas further.   



If you’re interested in guest posting on Mother 2 Mother, please send an email to Rhonda@gigglesnsugarkisses.com and the subject that you would be interested in writing about.  I’ll contact you to discuss a possible post and post date.  We’re picky, so professional writing skills are a must.  Post must be grammatically correct, spelling skills are essential and content must be unique. 


I wish each of you everything that your heart desires in the new year.  Blessings to each of you. 


Shari’s Berries Review

Shari's Berries
Shari's Berries
I decided to splurge this Christmas and order a box of Shari’s Berries.  I’ve seen the advertisement for years and they looked so delicious, I had to try them.  The lowest price was a 1/2 dozen at $19.99.  They offered an additional 1/2 dozen for $4.99 more so I ordered a dozen.  The shipping was quite expensive, $12.99.  Wow!  Because I had my heart set on them, I went the extra mile. 

They arrived packaged nicely.  The original packaging had an ice pack ensuring they arrived fresh and in tact.  The box was nice, it had a white bow which gave it a little class.  I must say, I was disappointed with the assortment.  I was expecting the berries to be colorful and appetizing.  As you can see, colorful was not a part of the package.  Two were dipped in white chocolate, 2 in nuts, and 2 in chocolate chips. 

The berries were fresh, quite delicious none the less and I did enjoy them.  Would I order them again, no.  Not for this price, and for the assortment I received.     


20 Stocking Stuffer Ideas for Teen Girls

stocking stuffer ideas for teen girls

We know that teenage girls can be difficult to purchase for and are usually the last and most difficult to purchase for. I have 2 teenage nieces that I shop for each year, so I’ve put together a list of what has worked for me.  If you’re strapped for time, pick a few items from the list before you head out.  Here’s my list:    

  1. Nail polish in bright colors
  2. Gift certificate for a manicure or pedicure  (Big Hit)
  3. DVD
  4. Movie night gift basket or bag with Popcorn and Candy  
  5. A Journal
  6. CD of their favorite artist
  7. Lip gloss
  8. Gift certificate to their favorite salon 
  9. Bath and Body products
  10. Loofah/sponges 
  11. Hand lotion for her purse
  12. Socks 
  13. Infinity scarf in her favorite color
  14. Perfume
  15. Hat and gloves
  16. Bangles
  17. Nail designs
  18. Gift certificate to a Cosmetic Counter such as Lancome, Mac or Estee Lauder
  19. Pre-made Scrapbooks
  20. Magazine Subscription

Be sure to check out the bargain bins and clearance items.  Use your imagination.