Inspirational Quotes: A Walk In My Shoes

When You’re At A Crossroad – Listen to Your Instinct

Do you know the difference between intellect and
instinct?  I hear you grumbling, who doesn’t know that right.  Our intellect
is information that we have gathered and retained over the course of years;
however, our instinct is what drives us to put that information to use.  Bishop T.D. Jakes says “Your intellect tells you to load the gun, your instinct tells you to pull the trigger”.  

Most of us ignore our
instinct better known as  a “gut feeling”.
 You know that funny feeling that you get
about something or someone.  Sometimes our
instinct tells us when something could possibly be wrong, but it also tells us
when something could be right.  So many
times we end up in bad relationships or miss out on opportunities because we ignored
our gut feeling.  When we look back, we
realize all the signs were there.  We
stomp and get angry because we ignored what saw or heard and tell ourselves
over and over, I should have listed to my gut. 

Your instinct could lead you to your passion or better yet
your destiny.  At this point in my life,
I’m not sure if I have arrived at my destiny, but I have arrived at quite a few
of my passions.  I have arrived in a much
calmer place and I’m able to see things clearer.  I arrived here because I learned to listen to my instinct and than connect to my intellect.  Once I
connected to my intellect and instinct, I learned to sit still and think about
what I’m feeling and why.  Know that
you’re feeling some kind of way for a reason. 
Think about what you may have seen or hear or if you’re happy, sad or
fearful.   

Because I’m now in tune intellectually and emotionally, I
have learned to remove myself from unhealthy relationships.  I have learned to say no, I need to take care
of me and not feel guilty.  Here’s how I
learned to empower myself:  

1. I learned that what someone else is doing may not be my destiny.  I have learned to use my creativity and make things work for me in my way and style.

2. I thought about what I liked and what I wanted to do.  This helped me to develop a map and determine the roads that I needed to take to arrive at my passions.  I am still working on my destiny.  

3. I started asking questions and answering them honestly.   This
will help you decide what direction you should go in.  You may need to leave a relationship, company
or situation and at the very least change some things in your life. 



4.  If you’re not feeling good about your relationship, job or whatever you’re involved in you may need to reassess it.  Don’t second guess yourself, it’s your institution talking to you.  You should be happy or have a feeling of satisfaction about what you’re doing or involved in.  If not, why do it or stay in.     

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Turn It Up Tuesday – Week 33 #turnituptuesday

Welcome to the 33rd week of Turn It Up Tuesday!
Thanks so much to everyone that joins us each week and makes this blog hop the best that it could be!

As you may know, Turn It Up Tuesdays is all about being happy, excited, energetic…and having fun! Link up your favorite posts and meet some awesome bloggers in return! Link up your funny stories, DIY posts, recipes, mommy moments — anything at all, as long as it is family-friendly. We want to laugh, be entertained, be inspired, and have a good time!

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Here are the Featured posts from last week!

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Rhonda chose A Great Day, An Amazing Year – A Journey from Illness to Health and Happiness from Our Little House In the Country. “This post was my favorite this week because it demonstrated how our life can change in a split second. This blogger went from what seemed to be a healthy life, a career outside the home, 2 children and a husband into a fight for her life. As a result of an unforeseen illness, she was put into a position of working for an entire year to regain her health. She has fight her way back and now has a new set of priorities. She is now working to stay healthy and enjoying a career as a stay at home mom. This post demonstrates perseverance and a new outlook on life.”
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Cindy chose 9 Useful Graduation Gifts Under $25 from Earning & Save with Sarah Fuller. “I usually give gift cards for graduation but I am always afraid they will be spent on something frivolous instead of something that is really needed. In her post Sarah gives some great ideas that almost any graduate will need.”
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April chose How to Set Up Advertising on Your Blog Using Pay Pal from Barbie Bieber & Beyond – Raising Girls. “A lot of bloggers are looking to advertise on their site and having an easy option is useful. Did you know you can use Paypal? If not, you should definitely check out this how to!”
This post also received the most clicks this week.
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Carolyn chose 4 Things You Should Know About Living With a 3 year old from Just A Touch of Crazy. “I thought it was really insightful and honest.”
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Angel chose Mother’s Day Curly Paper Hyacinths from Purple Hues and Me. “I love that these flowers were so easy to make and really lovely when completed. My girls and I can make these together.”
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Juanita chose What I Made Yesterday is Wordless Wednesday from Oh My Heartsie Girl. “As a long time knitter, I am always in awe of how versatile crochet is. I have only recently begun to crochet, and these are so super cute. I want to give them a go.”
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Rachel chose Blogging Drives Me Crazy from LadyBlogger. “I love how honest and real this post is!”
Lorna also chose this post. “I completely relate to this post!”
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Jillian chose Blog Monetization from Snippets of Inspiration. “I chose this post because as a mom trying to monetize my blog as much as possible, so that I can eventually be a stay at home mom, this post gave me some great new places to look for that financial support.”
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Stacey chose I Hate you and I don’t even Know you from Living in Mommywood. “When I was growing up, I heard many of the old judgments against others that didn’t sit well with me. I have tried as a mom to leave such things where they belong…in the past. I raise my kids to show care and respect to all people, no matter who they are. I also allow them to blossom in their own thoughts and wants by simply guiding them with honesty and love. Great post!”
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Natasha chose A Rant About TV, and 15 Better Uses of Your Time from My Salt, His Light. “Love this post! I feel the exact same way – television has definitely changed in recent years, and not for the better, but for the worse. I look forward to seeing more positive programming in the years to come. Great post!”
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Is Your Child A Cyber Bully



Why aren’t more parents monitoring what their children are doing on-line?  The answer most parents give is because they are intimidated by the computer.  They lack computer skills, don’t have a smart phone and they really aren’t interested in learning how to use one.  As parents, we must be involved in what’s happening in our child’s life, especially in the age of modern technology.  From one mother to another, I think it’s imperative that we get involved in our children’s activities and stop thinking they’re doing the right thing and don’t need to be monitored.  

As parents we all want to think that we’ve raising angels and our children know right from wrong.  We’re shocked when we get a call to come into the school for inappropriate behavior from our child, when we receive a call from jail to bail them out or the cop knocks on the door to deliver bad news.  We all think that these things couldn’t possibly happen to us, these situations happen in other people’s homes.  So why should we concern ourselves.  How many times have you heard, my child would never do that!

I can give you a few reasons.  Did you hear about the Florida teens, 15 and 16, that were arrested for setting up a phony Facebook page that was X-rated several years ago.  They were charged with pasting the face of a school mate, whom they didn’t like, on a nude body and filled the page with foul language.  They thought it was a joke. They were charged with felony stalking.    


How about the young lady that committed suicide last year because she was bullied.  We must overcome our fears.  A blogger recently experienced cyber bullying with her daughter.  As a matter of fact her blog was down for most of a day because it was hacked. Bullying is real, and it wrecks havoc on families.  A teen in my neighborhood committed suicide a few years ago.  If we as a parents won’t face our fears, how do we encourage our children to face theirs?  


Here are a few suggestions on how to overcome the fear of the computer and how you can get involved to help stop cyber bullying:

  • If you don’t consider yourself to be technically savvy, take a class or better yet get your child to teach you.  They love showing off their computer skills.  
  • Ask questions about your child’s friends and what’s happening in their life.  Follow them on sites popular with teens and make sure you have access to their accounts.  
  • Ask other parents, aunts, uncles, sisters and brothers to stay involved with your children on-line.  We can’t monitor our children 24/7, but you can recruit family and friends to assist.  It takes a village to raise a child.    
  • Computer etiquette starts at home.  Have conversations with your child or children on what’s appropriate or inappropriate to put on-line.  If they’re minors, you’re in control and you need to let them know you’re ruling the roost.  They must follow rules that you have set for on-line activities.   
  • Discuss the consequences of cyber stalking and the legalities of posting inappropriate posts. It’s illegal and the consequences are certainly worth a conversation with your child. 

Do you see the importance of keeping up with your child?  Better yet stay in front of them so you can lead.  If you can’t stay in front of them stay beside them.  Taking a class is cheaper than paying a lawyer to get your child out of a felony for on-line harassment or other effects from bullying.  Would love to know your thoughts on this post and how you monitor your child’s on-line activities.    


You may also like:     15 Tips to Detect If Your Child Is Being Bullied

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Unplug and Play Book Review

Looking for a way to spend family time unplugged?  Check out Unplug and Play by Brad Berger.  The book is filled with 50 games that don’t require electricity.  We have reached the age of modern technology, and we spend most of our free time on the Internet playing games, texting, or on social media.  It is true, we are loosing our connection to family and friends unless it’s on an electrical device.


I was asked to review this book and jumped at the opportunity.  I still play board and card games with my grandchildren, but I thought it would be nice to have access to games other than Candy Land, Trouble, Old Maid etc.  I must admit, I don’t usually play games when I’m hanging out with friends and family.  So I truly thought the book could be beneficial.    


I’ll start with an overview first. The book is filled with 50 games that can be played with various age groups for a variety of events. The book includes games in the matching, memory, puzzles, strategy, bluff, and who can respond the quickest category, which can be played during family time, parties or other social gatherings.  


When I first browsed the book, I found it rather confusing.  Since I was in the comfort of my home I was able to return to it easily and give it a second chance.  I found the content overwhelming.  I didn’t know where to start in deciding why I would purchase the book except for the fact that you didn’t have to be on a computer to play it.  The cover showed various age groups playing together, but the book isn’t broken down by age group.  I had to basically review the entire book to determine which of the 50 games I could use.  I wouldn’t have time for that while shopping.  It would have gone back on the shelf.  I’m just not one to spend my money unless I’m certain of the purchase no matter how big or small.  


I returned to the book a few days later and decided that I would look for games that I could play on Girl’s Night and games that I could play with my grandchildren.   I found 2 games out of 50 that intrigued me.  


Who Am I – Each person lists 20 famous people and you place the names in a hat or bowl, whatever you have handy.  Each person takes turns drawing  a name and than gives a one – three word hint on who the person is.  For example, Vivian Leigh.  The hint would be Scarlett.  If a person gets the correct answer they earn 30 points.  If not, another hint would be Miss Scarlett. They would earn 20 points.  Three hints 10 points.  


Movie Match – In this game you make two columns, Movies and the second column the Actor/Actress.  You match the movie with the actor/actress.  The first person or team who matches all 20 wins.  


My grandchildren are 6 and 2, so playing these games with them was out unless I really manipulated them.  I decided to play both of the games when I hosted Girl’s Night and we had a ball playing them.  Besides the fact that you only need a pen and pencil to play the games, I really can’t find many pros for this book.  I would recommend browsing it if you come across it in a store you may have a different opinion and may have family members that a older and can play the games; however, for me only finding 2 out of 50 games useful, I would not purchase it.  I will play Who Am I and Movie Match again.  I loved them. 


Note:  I was provided a copy of this book for review; however, the opinions are my own.  






Kids Parties: Ladybug Themed Ideas



Planning a Ladybug Party?  Try these adorable ideas that we used for Miss Muffin’s first birthday.   The kids will love them, and you will be the best party planner ever.   We made chicken salad the night before and the yummy ladybug crackers about an hour before the party.  There’s plenty of chicken salad left over from my recipe below to make regular sandwiches for the adults and for you to make sandwich later after an exhausting day. Here’s what you will need:


  • Ritz crackers
  • Grape tomatoes
  • small black olives 
  • chicken salad or cream cheese   

Spread cream cheese or chicken salad on each Ritz cracker.  Place 2 slices of the cherry tomatoes face down to form the wings.  Place a tooth pick through the olive and stick through the chicken salad to form the head.



The bug mobile was a bug hit.  No, the last bug is not a a typo.  It was truly buggy.  We transformed the yellow school bus with ladybug wings from a Halloween costume and eye lashes that were made for Volkswagen. As you can see, the kids couldn’t wait to take a ride.



We had this adorable cake made, and it was a perfect center piece for the food table.  We added ladybug balloons, red and black table clothes and red and black paper products from the dollar store.  Use your imagination, the possibilities are endless.  

You may also like my chicken salad recipe for the crackers:  Creamy Chicken Salad

Cancer Patients Can Fly Free

Cancer patients can fly free to cancer treatment centers around the country free regardless of age.  Corporate Angel Network works directly with patients, family members and corporations to coordinate travel needs for cancer patients. Corporate Angel Network is the only charitable organization in the USA who arranges travel for cancer patients to treatment centers, using the empty seats on corporate aircraft flying on routine business. Patients can fly free aboard corporate jets that have empty seats as well.
My father passed away from cancer years ago, but it still seems like yesterday.  Fortunately, we live a few hours away from two of the best medical centers in the country, John Hopkins University and the University of Virginia. We utilized John Hopkins during his surgery and treatment.  My the grace of God, we were able to cover the medical expense that was not covered by his insurance.      


I know that everyone is not as fortune, so I think it’s important to share information so those who need assistance can have a resource and can seek help.  During my father’s journey, I met so many incredible people from around the world who had traveled to John Hopkins for various reasons. Many would be in debt after their struggle, but they were willing risk everything for their loved one.  


I know the feeling, that’s why I think it’s important to tell you about the Corporate Angel Network. The program is open to all cancer patients, bone marrow donors, and bone marrow recipients who are not in need of medical support while traveling. Finances are not a consideration, and patients may travel as often as necessary.  

Five hundred of America’s top corporations, including 100 in the Fortune 500 have partnered with the Corporate Angel Network.  More than 35,000 flights have been coordinated since it’s founding in 1981. Patients needing air transportation may call (866) 328-1313, a toll free number, to register within three weeks of an appointment at a recognized cancer treatment center. You may also email Corporate Angel Network at info@corpangelnetwork.org. Provide a phone number in your email where you can be reached. The organization can’t guarantee a flight, but they work diligently to assist you.

This service may not be needed by you, but it could be worth a million dollars to someone that’s following you or in your circles.  Please share this post.  We wish all who seek assistance the best in their endeavors.


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Turn It Up Tuesday – Week 32

Welcome to the 32nd week of Turn It Up Tuesday!
Thanks so much to my fellow hosts and our April team and to all of you for making every week so successful!

And thanks so much to all of you for submitting such excellent posts last week! You gave us some hard decisions to make to decide on the Featured posts and Best of the Best!

As you may know, Turn It Up Tuesdays is all about being happy, excited, energetic…and having fun! Link up your favorite posts and meet some awesome bloggers in return! Link up your funny stories, DIY posts, recipes, mommy moments — anything at all, as long as it is family-friendly. We want to laugh, be entertained, be inspired, and have a good time!

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As you can see, there are more ladies joining us this week – Carolyn from A Lavender Life, Rhonda from Mother 2 Mother, Karen from QuintonWench, Jillian from Baby Doodah, Cindy from The Mom Maven, and Shana from Organized Chaos.

And welcome our awesome guest hosts!

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It has been so great working with these ladies in April! And that’s why some of them will be returning for another month. This will be the last week for Katie, Michele, Juanita, and Lorna, but Ann and Debbie will be returning for May. Help us to wish all of these ladies the best and hope to see them all again in the future!
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Here are the Featured posts from last week!

special_education1-254x300 Stacey chose Who is really paying attention? from Living in Mommywood. “While I have to agree that there are some amazing teachers out there, there are also some horrible ones. Unfortunately it really matters little how good the teacher is when the government, school boards, and educational system dumb down the quality of the education and the sad number of children who are not encouraged to care about an education because it is too easy to get what you need for free. All of these reasons are really what prompted us to start homeschooling the two youngest.”
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Debbie chose Printable Social Media Checklist from Mom Maven. “I loved this post because keeping up and staying active with all the different social media areas is one of my hardest areas. The printable checklist is so concise and very doable for anyones busy schedule.”
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Ann chose I Wished My Girl Was a Boy from Courtney Conover on Mamalode. “I really appreciate when a blogger shares their true selves. I read blogs to get to know how others feel, how they cope and Courtney shared with such honesty that I was drawn in and felt like a secret was shared. I look forward to reading more from Courtney.”
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April chose Checklist: after you publish a post from Snippets of Inspiration. “Learning to be successful as a blogger can be hard. Everyone focuses on content, content and content. However, you can write the best content, and none of it will be worth it if no one sees it. Make sure it’s seen with this post!”
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Rachel chose Closet/Laundry Room Makeover!!! from My Love 2 Create. “This is gorgeous! I love the stripes on floor and the nice touches throughout. Overall, she has a beautiful, functional, and quality space for her sister to enjoy!”
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Angel chose Better Than Sex Cake from Marilyn’s Treats. “With this name what else can you say about this awesome cake.”
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Juanita chose Holocaust Remembrance – Dachau from The Coconut Head’s Cancer Survival Guide. “We have just been commemorating ANZAC Day in New Zealand, and our soldiers who fought for our country. Remembering why these wars happen gives pause for thought.”
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Natasha chose Why Silence Makes Me Scream from Surviving and Thriving in the Second Year of My Divorce. “Oh wow – what an experience Kat! But you hit the nail on the head; silence definitely drives us nutty. It is so simple to just reach out with a simple text saying something. Silence goes from worry and concern straight to anger over a period of time. I’m glad that you recognize the reason why this bugged you so much, and I’m glad that you were able to gain some closure with John. Wishing you the best!!!”
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You Are Not The Father

You are not the father!  You are not the father! I lost count of the number of times that I heard this statement while watching daytime TV today.  I know that it was more times than I heard You are the father.  I know I should have been spending my time more productively, but I just didn’t feel like it.  Do you ever have those days that you just want to do nothing?  I’ve been having quite a few lately.  


I digressed back to the show.  One lady had been on the show 14 times for a DNA test, 14 times.  Now I’m not going to sit here and pretend to be all innocent.  I’m not, and I have problems with people who can’t be real and be truthful about who they.  I’ve had a good time throughout the years, but I do wonder how a woman would not know who her baby’s daddy is.    


I watched these young ladies state they are 150% sure they know who the father is, but the DNA test proved otherwise.  Not only were they told the young man who stood accused was not the father, they endured being called out of their name by the young men.  There were young ladies who slept with brothers, fathers and sons, and some who didn’t know who they slept with because they were in a drunken stupor.  Now the party is over, and reality is hitting them hard.  Rather this show is real or not, incidents like this occur everyday.  


I decided to switch channels and found myself in a court room watching a judge determine if the men standing before them were the fathers of children being displayed on a screen.  There were more DNA tests, but there were slight differences from the other show.  Some of the people in the court room were married couples and the wife strayed.  There were men and women some who had hooked up years ago, but never married and the child was now seeking the truth about paternity.  

Between the two shows, I started thinking about all that these young ladies would have to endure as a single mother and all that they would endure through their parenting journey.  I started thinking about the young people who had gone through a part of their life not knowing the truth about who their father really was because of their mother’s poor judgement.  I also started thinking about how important DNA tests had become in today’s society to determine paternity. Have we made a wrong turn in society to the point that we need a test to determine who our children’s fathers are? 

Are we not teaching our children about birth control or waiting until they are married?  I understand women have found a new awakening, and they don’t have a problem getting their freak on. This includes young ladies who aren’t really responsible enough to take on such a huge responsibility.  I can relate to being a single parent and all the struggles as a young mother.  For this reason, I stressed the importance of protecting herself and not becoming a single parent to my daughter.  As mothers, we want support emotionally, financially, and physically, but if a man is not your husband they can’t be depended on to help provide those things for us.   


One thing that I noticed was although the young ladies had sex with these young men, nobody was calling the young men out of their names.  Some things never change, it’s the women who are looked down on.  I also understand why young men want DNA tests, it seems that young ladies give themselves so freely and they do so without thinking of the repercussions.  There’s enough blame to go around.  As a parent, I didn’t preach absenteeism to my daughter.  The chances of your child remaining a virgin until marriage are slim to none.  If you’re successful in achieving that goal, my hat is off to you.  I did preach about the struggle of being a single parent and the importance of protecting herself from disease and an unplanned pregnancy.  I stressed the importance of educating herself, traveling and achieving her goals before she took on the responsibility of parenting.  Having these conversations with you child is so important.  You can’t just have them in passing, it must be a constant so it can take hold in your child’s mind.  


Are you discussing sex with your child?  How are you approaching it or how do you plan to approach it?    


Note:  Photo courtesy of stockvault.net.  




                                                                          



Should Dads Purchase Bras?

Should single dads take their daughters to get bras or should they seek the assistance of a woman in the family? As mothers, we just take on the responsibility when the times arrives, but what about dads?  There are many situations today where moms and dads co-parent.  There are also situations where dads have primary custody of their daughters. When I was growing up, this was basically unheard of. My how times have changed. Today there are gay couples raising daughters, single dads raising daughters, widows raising daughters, grandfathers raising granddaughters, uncles raising nieces and the list goes on.  


Purchasing a bra is no longer the sole responsibility of moms.  At some point our little girls, regardless of who’s raising them, will start growing into young ladies and they will need a bra. When I look back on my childhood, I can’t imagine my father taking me to the store and purchasing a bra for me.  I was raised in a traditional home, bras and feminine products were my mother’s responsibility.  Had he been widowed, I think he would have reached out to one of my aunts or another family member.  


Decades later, I am proud to say that I have nephews who have primary custody of their children and who co-parent.  I think my dad would have been proud and very supportive of them taking on this responsibility.  He would have seen this as a demonstration of character and a demonstration of the morals and values that have been instilled in them.  He probably would wish they would have made wiser choices with the young ladies, but none the less he would have been proud.  I’ll save how this all came to fruition in another post.  


As I’ve watched them help raise their children, I’ve often wondered if the two who are co-parenting daughters are prepared to take the step of purchasing a bra when the time arrives.  The endeavor has been made easier for parents these days.  Young girls are now wearing bralettes.  Yes it seems that our young ladies no longer refer to their first bras as training bras, but bralettes. Bralettes, which resemble undershirts but are cropped can be purchased from Target to Macy’s. They are the rage with young ladies now, they come in a variety of colors and stretch as they develop.  


Their are several benefits to bralettes:  1)  Young ladies no longer have to be measured, 2)  Dads and daughters don’t have to endure the embarrassment of going to the store and asking for assistance or measurements.  Bralettes can purchased in sizes 4 – 6x and 7-14.    


As I thought more about it, I decided that I didn’t need to ask my nephews if they were ready for this step in parenting their daughters.  I decided if they loved their daughters enough to fight for and win joint custody, they certainly love them enough to take on the responsibility of purchasing a bralette, and yes I believe they should purchase them if they so desire


Photo courtesy of Target.