If You Want To Be Mentored You Must Show Up

People can be transparent if you’re willing to look hard enough.  Several months ago I was contacted by a young lady to be her mentor.  As a single mother who survived raising my daughter, I reach out and try to help other single mothers on how they can be successful too.  I can relate to being a teen mom, getting married, divorced, and left to raise my daughter and fend for myself.  I don’t post about my mentoring sessions on Mother 2 Mother, because of privacy reasons.  It’s personal for me and personal for the person being mentored, but I do post on my experiences because moving forward is hard work and not for the faint at heart. If I can pull someone else up or help move them forward, it does my heart good.   

Being raised in a dysfunctional/alcoholic home, teen mom and divorced category was enough for me. I knew I had to break the cycle, and so I did. Breaking out of these categories requires a willingness to listen, accept where we come from, and hard work to get out of it.     

Before I accept a position as a mentor for young ladies and not so young I have a test that I give. It lets me know if the person who is requesting to be mentored is serious about growing and moving forward, if they’re willing to do the necessary work to survive as a single mother, and allows me to see where their head is.  I ask 4 questions and I require a written response.  I like for it to be in writing so they can reference it during the course of their journey and it serves as a reminder of where they started when they arrive finally at their destination. Here’s the questions:  

  1. Tell me about your life and how you ended up where you.
  2. Tell me about your children and your relationship with your ex.   
  3. Where do you want to be in 5 years?
  4. Are you willing to work to educate and better yourself?  If so, list 5 goals.    
I never heard from the young lady again.  She must have thought I had a magic wand and all that was required was me waving it in front of her.  If only life was that easy. I saw right through her when I didn’t receive a response.  She wanted an easy way out, unfortunately there is no easy way out.  Ladies, this is why we need to make wise decisions in our life.  People who look for a easy way out don’t realize they are transparent.  I see you!  She really didn’t want a mentor, she just wanted me to give her a solution.  Excuses and why you can’t do this or that will not take you down the road of success.  Excuses are a way for you to stay where you are.  My response, more power to you. If you don’t think that you can do better why should I. If  you can’t answer basic questions, you’re not willing to do the work and you’re not going anywhere anyway.  

Reminds me of this single mom who choose to stay at home with her child, but was asking others for thousands of dollars to help pay her bills.  If you can’t pay your bills, maybe you’re not in a position to be a stay at home mom, hello. Thousands of single mothers go to work everyday, so they can pay bills and their children turn out just fine. Just as important, if you want someone to mentor you, show up and be prepared to do the work. What I’m saying doesn’t have anything to do with me thinking I’m better or not having empathy for another’s position or situation, but sometimes we just need to get real, take a good look at ourselves in the mirror, and realize that we’re where we are because of decisions that we make. If it’s not improving your life and moving your forward, why stay in the situation and continue doing the same things over and over. You must be willing to open your eyes, and take a good look at why you’re where you are. True, there are many who have fallen on hard times or have ended up in a bad situation, but you don’t have to stay there. It’s a choice.  

Over the course of the years I realized that I don’t have to see things your way and you don’t have to see things my way.  That’s the beauty of living in this great country, but this is my blog so I’m writing from the way I see things.  I know that we don’t all have the same situations nor are our experiences the same, but some things are universal.  When you get real, stop making excuses for yourself and what you don’t want to do, you’ll put yourself in a position to do what you need to do.  

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Turn It Up Tuesday – Week 41

                                Welcome to the 41st week of Turn It Up Tuesday!

Can you believe that 4th of July is literally a few days away? Where has this year gone??!! This week, we’d love to see your Independence Day themed posts, your summer posts, and your vacation posts. Don’t feel limited to just these kinds of posts though – share anything you like! We’re just happy to have you all!
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Karen chose DIY Recipe Plate from The (mis) Adventures of a “Born Again” Farm Girl.  “I see similar things to this recipe plate on gift websites, so to think you can create it effortlessly in your own home is great. Great tutorial, Mindie – looking forward to having a go at it!”
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Shana chose Pinterest: 0 to 1,000 Followers in 151 Days from The Coconut Head’s Survival Guide. “I was a little skeptical when I clicked on the post titled “Pinterest: 0-1,1000 Followers in 151 Days,” thinking it may be some slimy sales pitch, but then I breathed a sigh of relief when my browser took me to ‘The Coconuthead’s Survival Guide” (a trusted Turn it Up Tuesday community member and awesome blogger). Holly does not disappoint, candidly sharing tips that she learned from experience in just a few months. A very helpful read.”
Jessica chose 4 Things I Want My Kids To See Me Doing. from MacDonald’s Playland. “What a beautiful post! These are things I definitely would love to see my children too. As parents, we are the first teachers in their lives and simple things like these will go a long way.”
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It All Starts With You

Trenton Shelton

Make The World Respect Your Greatness.  That was Trent Shelton’s message this week-end at Dream Chasers in Richmond, VA.  I’m a big fan of Trent Shelton.  I’m a lover of his quotes and I have read several of his books.  He’s a great motivator.  I missed him when he was in my area, so I decided to pack a bag and check him out at a venue several hours away with my sister.  My sister is a Life Coach at Full Steem Ahead.  It was so worth it.  If you’re not familiar with him, check him out here.  If he’s in your area, go see him.  He’s a great motivator and keeps it real. He’s funny, thought provoking, and has a genuine way of getting his message across.  His audience is diverse, but mainly consists of women of all ages and ethnicity.  

I was impressed with this young man’s story.  He was a star football player at Baylor University, which is a private Baptist university in Waco, Texas.  Trent was drafted into the NFL; however, he didn’t excel as he had hoped.  Listening to his story, he didn’t come close to being a star in the NFL although he earned a good paycheck while he was there.  As a matter of fact he stated, “When I was financially stable, I was depressed.”  He spent time partying, running women and just throwing his life away. He was eventually cut from the NFL and had to figure out what he was going to do with  his life.   He finally accepted that he had to turn his life around, and so he did.  

He now shares his story across the country and internationally. What I like about this young man is that there is no glamour, special effects or a big show when he’s speaking.  He just speaks from the heart, shares his story as it happened, and tells you how you can turn your life around too.   Trent stated, “Success was the foundation for my failure.”   Funny, we spend so much time and energy reaching for success.  He’s a perfect example of how quickly you can fall or on another note, how you don’t always reach the destination that you have set for yourself.  Maybe God has another plan for you too.  

He spoke for about an hour, and I didn’t drift away once.  I actually took notes, because I know that God is not done with me yet either.  I’m still learning and growing.  Trent is young enough to be my son, but I learned from him this week-end.  You never know who is being sent to teach lessons that you need in your life.  He is articulate and engaging with the audience.  At one point in my life, I may have judged him with the dreads, tattoos, and the hat turned around backwards, but he is an educated young man who knows his mission in life. Never judge a book by it’s cover.  You must seek to know what’s underneath that cover.  

I mentioned that the majority of his audience was ladies, and his lesson was Make The World Respect Your Greatness, right.  At the end of his speech, his assistant made an announcement that I found shocking.  I had just listened to this wonderful speech and this is a summary of what I heard next: Trent is available to take pictures with you; however, those who wish to take pictures with him are expected to keep your hands to yourself.  Can you believe it?  Yes, ladies show some respect for yourself and show respect for him. If you can’t follow that, we will remove you from the building.  I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.  It seems that his messages were being missed by a few ladies in the audience, and he needed to let them know that he wasn’t interested in being touched or touching them.  If this message was directed toward you, you may have your answer on why you’re disrespected by men and why your life is out of control.  I applaud this young man, he’s focused on his mission.  

My turn – ladies get a grip on yourself and get a grip on your life.   If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t possibly Show The World How Great You Are.  This is the message this young man was sending.  I’m sending it to you now, please grab hold of it and allow it to sink in.  Allow it to permeate every corner of your being.  If you don’t, nothing will ever change for you.  You will remain where you are and you will continue to be disrespected by the people in your life.  I urge you to get a copy of his book, Breaking Your Own Heart.   Why?  Because It All Starts With You. Who’s your favorite motivator, and what lesson have you learned from them?   

Inspirational Quote: You Must Believe

Printable Summer Scrapbook Page – Part II

Last week I posted the matching page for this beautiful printable scrapbook page.  This is page 2 of the set.  Feel free to print these pages to create beautiful memories from your summer garden or activities.