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February 5, 2012 by Rhonda Gales

How would you feel if you husband fathered a child outside of your marriage/relationship with one of his close friends and business partner? Oh, lets forget close friend with anyone for that matter. Would the fact that the close friend and business partner was at the hospital sharing in your joy with you and your husband plunge the knife in a littler deeper? Would the fact that the close friend and business partner rode home in the limo with you and your husband after the delivery drive the knife in deeper. Would the fact that the close friend and business partner attended the ballets and school graduations send you over th edge.

A similar story has taken place in Connecticut. Eric Fischer said he saw the red flags when his youngest daughter was born, but for 15 years he loved her and raised her like she was his own. As time went he, he couldn’t ignore the fact that she looked nothing like his oldest daughter. Finally, he decided on a DNA test. As he already knew deep in his heart she was not his, but in fact the close friend and business partner of his wife’s.

When I first read the story, I thought how sad is that. Another case of baby’s daddy. How do you betray another person in that manner? How do you explain to the child that I’m not your father, mommy’s friend is. These are not people who were in a relationship, but a married couple. How do you sleep beside someone for 15 years, knowing what you’ve done? People like this scare me. This is a person who has no conscious. People who have no conscious are capable of anything. Of course the couple divorced. How could a marriage survive after that kind of betrayal.

Let me tell you Eric Fischer didn’t take it lightly. Oh no he didn’t. He decided to sue baby’s daddy for every dime that he spent on the child for the 15 years that he raised her as his own. The court decided that $195,000 would suffice for the reimbursement. Eric Fischer was initially turned down by a lower court for the judgement. The court stated that he “had held himself out to be the younger daughter’s father, that he had caused her to rely on him to meet her financial and emotional needs, and that revealing her true parentage after she had been led to believe for her whole life that [Fisher] was her father, would be detrimental to her emotional well-being.” I wonder about our legal system at times. What true man would want to believe that a child his wife just gave birth to wasn’t his. He didn’t give up the fight and took it to the Supreme Court. They overturned the lower court’s decision and is now allowing Mr. Fischer to return to the lower court with a new judge to fight for the $195,000.

Will money compensate for the betrayal of his wife and her lover? We know the answer to that is no; however, it may set a precedent to others who believe that it’s okay to play with a person’s heart and head. Will this betrayal have a negative effect on the little girl? I’m sure it will. I’m hoping that the court will give his ex-wife this award:

Let her explain the betrayal and the true meaning of marriage to her daughter. I know there are many couples who have children they are raising that don’t biologically belong to one or the other. These decisions are made freely and lovingly. I think Mr. Fischer has a right to know the truth, and he also had the right to decide that he would not raise a child that was not his. I hope that he can find peace and the daughter can recover from the infidelity as well. Leave me a comment, I would love to know your thoughts on this story.

Your Penis Is Mine!

January 9, 2009 by Rhonda Gales

Your penis is mine, your penis is mine, your penis is mine. Do I have your attention? I wanted to share this post with you because I believe the world is becoming more insane each day. I’m thinking that maybe I’m seeing it as insane because I’ve finally matured and gathered my senses, and when people do things out of the ordinary it gets my attention. You ask what’s out of the ordinary? How about setting your husband’s penis on fire.

A 44 year old Australian woman is accused of just that. She saw her husban hug another woman last week and became jealous. She poured an alcohol based substance on him as he slept, set him on fire and he died from the injuries. She wanted to burn his penis to let him know that it was hers. She stated, “I just wanted to burn his penis so it belongs to me and no one else. … I didn’t mean this to happen.”

Now think about that statement. Let it penetrate slowly. Where is it written that you set your husband’s penis on fire to claim it? Couldn’t she have claimed it by whispering “it’s mine” in his ear in a moment of passion? Hell, she could have claimed it over bacon & eggs on the kitchen table, but to rationalize setting her husband on fire is beyond my comprehension.

Well she rationalized it. When her husband realized he was on fire, he jumped out of bed knocking the alcohol based substance over, which caused the fire to spread. It eventually razed their house and their neighbor’s. He later died from his injuries. She has now been charged with his murder.
Becoming insecure when you think your husband may be giving his affection and attention to another would be natural. But wouldn’t you simply ask who the woman was that he was hugging rather than burn his penis. Now, if he didn’t come back with the right answer one of us would have been out the door and his next conversation would have been with an attorney. Some things are not negotiable with me and sharing my man is one of them. I would hope that my husband would introduce me to whoever it was that he was hugging, especially if I was standing there. If he made the mistake of not introducing me, we would have a serious conversation.

On that note, what happened to people engaging in verbal conversations and discussing whatever is happening with each other? Has society lost the ability to converse? The only thing that I can think of that would cause me to become violent is someone trying to hurt my children. You will see the claws come out and a bitch rearing her ugly head. I could loose all sense of right and wrong on that one. But a penis, I’m just not willing to go to jail for.

Between this post and the one where the husband is demanding his kidney back from his ex-wife I’m just beside myself. I pray for the world in which we live. Would love to know your thoughts on this post.