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Friendship

How many friends do you have? I can count mine on one hand. There are people that I socialize with, and there are my true friends. My friends have been just that since childhood. There’s one friend that I did just about everything with in my teen years. She moved when we were in our early 20’s, and we stopped communicating. I’ve thought about her on many occasions. I would inquire about her when I saw relatives, but we never contacted each other.


She lost a son several years ago, her son and my daughter were a few months apart. I sent my condolences, still I never called her. I didn’t know what to say. Not only did she lose him, he was murdered by his girlfriend. More on this insane situation in another post.


I’ve thought about my far and few friendships over the course of the years. I really need to reach out more. This is something that I should have done years ago, but I put my focus on my daughter. Seriously, being a single parent can be an exhausting experience. My life and friendships went by the wayside.
Do you believe in second chances?  I do!  I’ve reconnected with the friend that I’ve been out of touch with for the pass 30 years.  How you ask?  We reconnected on Face Book. I woke up last week to a Friend Request from her.  I was elated.  I confirmed the Friend Request, we chatted on-line and she called me later.  It’s so amazing, we talked just like we did 30 years ago.  We vowed to never lose contact again.  It was a great reunion.  We talked about old times, our children and grandchildren, our failed marriages, and the murder of her son.  We’re planning to take a vacation together sometime in the near future.  I’m thankful for second chances.  I intend to do better with this friendship this time around.  Have you lost a friendship from neglect?  Leave us a comment on how you maintain your friendships. 

Lunch With A Friend

I had lunch this week with friend at one of my favorite restaurants, The Bavarian Inn. I absolutely this place. It’s a local restaurant that specializes in German crusine, but they have the best crab cakes and whipped potatoes. The decor is wonderful and they have a great view of their chalets, which have great paintings.


While having lunch with a friend a question crossed my mind. Have you found that food tastes better when you’re enjoying it with a good friend? I’ve taken a look at my friendships over the last few months, and I have few people that I consider a friend. Now to some that may not be a good thing, but to me it shows that I’ve matured and I’ve learned that you can only have a few friends. I have associates, but I can count my true friends on 1 hand.

The majority of them have been in my life for a long time. They’ve stood by me through marriage, motherhood, divorce and now my current relationship. They were there to hold me and wipe my tears when I lost my father to cancer. They’ve fixed soup when I was sick and vowed to take care of my daughter if anything ever happened to me. They’ve stood by me when I’ve made a complete fool out of myself and said things that I later regretted. They’ve stood by me when I’ve made brilliant decisions and not so brilliant decisions. At every turn of my life, they’ve been there. These people have made my life easier with a kind word, a hug, or a pat on the back. These are the people who I call my friends.

What’s your definition of a friend? Leave us comment and tell us about your friendships.

5 Reasons You Should Not Loan Friends Money

Would you lend a friend $5,000?  How about $3,000? Frankly, I don’t think it’s wise to lend family or friends money. I’ve done it twice in the pass and I was repaid, but it wasn’t thousands of dollars like this request. I once helped a friend out of a bad marriage and another time to help a friend get back on her feet after she put her mother in a nursing home.  The second friend tried to make it a habit, I ended that.     

Why am I leery this time? Could it be because it’s a male or the size of the request? To be honest, I have a hard time with a man asking me for money. Especially large sums of money. So maybe it’s both. When he asked me to lend him the money, I really wanted to ask if he saw a sign that stated The Bank of Rhonda in my front yard. What irritates me is this person lives in a 4,000 square foot house, drives a luxury vehicle but is unable to pay their bills. Did I mention they took a vacation overseas? 


Do you know the quote: “I don’t loan money because it causes amnesia.”  – Unknown  Yes, I love it and here’s a few other reasons why I don’t believe it’s a good idea to loan family or friends money:



1.  It’s rare that family or friends will repay the money –  Friends and relatives believe that they really don’t have to pay you back because of the friendship or the fact that you’re family.  


2.  Help people don’t enable them – Offer to help the person with their finances rather than loaning them money. It may be want they want, but it could be what they need.  


3.  Loaning money can jeopardize your relationship – Many friendships/relationships end because money is not repaid. Assess whether your relationship is more important than the money.  


4.  If the priorities are wrong, it won’t be a priority to repay you –  If a person is not paying bills timely or being financially responsibility, you won’t be a priority either. 


5. Your finances could be harmed –  If the money you loan is not paid back, it could potentially harm you financially. You could use that money for emergencies or to have a saving for future hardships. 


Most people can’t afford to loose money, so assess your relationship and decide whether money is worth ending your relationship over. Nearly 57% percent of friendships or relationships end because money is not repaid.