101 Style Guide For Busy Moms: Wear Flats

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We simply love flats: loafers, espadrilles, slip ons, Mary Janes, gladiators – you name it! Flats are a living proof that you don’t have to be uncomfortable in order to be stylish and they offer a great starting point for coming up with head-turning looks. However, it’s not always easy to decide on what kind of outfit can go with different types of flats.  Read on to find out how you can combine your outfit and accessories with flats to create various looks: from business, casual, and urban, to feminine and edgy.
Casual and On Point
For a daily casual summer look, try espadrilles. They are trending big time and look best with rolled up pants, skirts and shorts. For a simple look, try skinny jeans with a light fabric pastel colored blouse (or floral print) and espadrilles within the same color range. Finish the look with a messenger purse or drawstring bag.  Accessorize with a pair of Wayfarer glasses for a cool look.
Girly and Relaxed Style
Gladiators offer a chance to mix up different looks, but they go best with rompers and shorts. Whether they’re ankle-length or knee length, you can style gladiators perfectly for a girly look. We suggest that you try a soft denim short dress or romper.  A simple shoulder bag will do the trick.  Choose the same color leather as your stylish gladiators. Finish your look with wavy hair or a messy bun and keep your jewelry simple. Consider bracelets in vivid colors to make your look bold and interesting.
Business Look
For a bossy and sleek look, moccasins are a great choice, but you can explore many different styles. Try the timeless black-red-white combination: opt for red moccasins and combine them with the simple nylon black business pants and a white cotton no-sleeve turtleneck. Add a red tote bag and you’re all set for a successful day at work!
Edgy and Sexy
For a night on the town, consider a bolder look that includes leopard print Chelsea boots. If you prefer a more comfortable and edgier look, try wearing ripped black skinny jeans, accompanied with a black top and a leather jacket. If you wish to add more sexiness to your look, replace the jeans with a mini skirt and you’ll definitely be in the spotlight!
Timeless Parisian Chic
Although flats are known as the essential part of business and casual outfits, they are a great option for feminine looks, too. Parisian women have a reputation for their unrivaled glamorous sense for fashion. For a tasteful look follow this simple rule when choosing footwear for your outfits: if the length of the skirt or a dress is above the knee, flats are the way to go. If it’s below the knee, heels make a great choice.  For a perfectly styled feminine look, try out fashionable tight dresses: pick the fabrics that contain elastin since they’ll follow your body line beautifully and enhance your curves. We suggest you try out trendy knitted off the shoulder dress (length above the knee) in the nude color and combine it with the classic black ballerina flats.
Finish up your look with a black cross body purse, or you can opt for a red one and combine it with your lipstick and nail polish. Style your hair in big waves and you can even add a beret. Stick to the nude and tan shades, and of course the timeless B&W for a sleek
Parisian look.
These are our top five ideas on how to wear flats and create different kinds of looks. Feel free to experiment!
Author BIO:
Sophia Smith is Australian based beauty, fashion and lifestyle blogger. Additionally, she is also very passionate about DIY projects, latest fashion trends and organic beauty products. Sophia writes mostly in beauty and fashion related topics, mainly through blogs and articles. She is regular contributor at High Style Life.
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Guest Post – 5 Time Saving Skincare Tips

 

Skincare Tips For Busy Moms

 

Even though motherhood is one of the most beautiful things in the world, it can be very stressful.  Sleepless nights often take their toll on your skin and the area under the eyes.  We all know that a lack of sleep can make you look tired and dehydrated.  There’s good news, you can stay healthy and gorgeous no matter what. Here are five useful tips on how to accomplish that and save your precious time:

 

Tea Bags to the Rescue

Every mom’s worst enemy is puffy dark circles.  Caffeinated green tea bags is the solution.  They do wonders for the under eye area.  Just soak them in hot water for a few minutes, and let them cool to room temperature before squeezing out the liquid.

Next, close your eyes, place the bags on them, and voila!  The caffeine will increase your circulation, and help get rid of the puffiness. Add a touch of concealer later on and you’re good to go!

 

Don’t Forget to Moisturize

Moisturizing should be an essential step in every woman’s skincare routine.  This is true for both young moms and those over 40. As soon as you reach a certain age, you really can’t over moisturize. Keep this in mind, and don’t skip this step at any cost.

Additionally, eye and face cream should be applied every night after cleansing. It’s important that you extend skincare routine to your neck and décolletage. These areas, too, need to be hydrated and well-nourished. In order to save time, get a tinted moisturizer instead of foundation and use it on daily basis.  Lancôme Hydra Zen Anti-Stress Moisturizing Cream  is an excellent moisturizer. 

 

Keep Your Skin Care Products at the Nightstand

The fact that you are a mom now doesn’t mean that you should ditch a skincare routine which works for you. We know that you often feel exhausted, and that using all those cleansers, toners, creams, and masks can be really time-consuming.  Keep moisturizers, toners and creams on your nightstand.

 

DIY Homemade Masks Do Wonders

Depending on your skin type, you can make a perfect face mask using the ingredients you already have in your kitchen! Banana is amazing when it comes to moisturizing, whereas milk provides a fresh and rejuvenated look for your tired skin. Plain yogurt is very handy, too, since it cleanses skin and tightens pores. When it comes to eggs, yolk is fantastic for dry skin, whereas egg whites do wonders for oily type.

However, if you are not keen on mixing all those ingredients all by yourself, you can always choose Natural Clay Face Mask  are fantastic for every skin type. 

 

A Good Self Tanner Will Do the Trick

Sun-kissed skin has always been very attractive, and healthy glow is surely one of the things you want in your life – especially during summer. However, exposing your skin to harmful sun rays is not the best idea, especially if you hate re-applying sunscreen every two hours. You can always choose a moisturizer with self-tanning components, which takes only 5 minutes to apply and provides a gorgeous and vibrant look to your skin. Facial self tanners are also a good idea, since these will give a golden touch to your face.

The role of a mom doesn’t have to take its toll when it comes to your skin – you can take good care of it even when you’re too busy running around. It’s important to establish an effective routine that will save you some precious time, which will allow you to look fabulous even after a baby nightshift.

 

Author BIO:

Sophia Smith is Australian based beauty, fashion and lifestyle blogger. She is also very passionate about DIY projects, latest fashion trends and organic beauty products. Sophia writes mostly in beauty and fashion related topics, mainly through blogs and articles. She is regular contributor at High Style Life.

 

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Inspirational Quote – Be A Lady

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Slay Your Dragons With Faith

 

 

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Do you remember the fairy tales when you were growing up that spoke of dragons?  Fairy tales usually included a castle.  They also include a princess, knight, and happily ever after.  Not everyone’s life turns out to be a fairy tale.  Unfortunately, many of us don’t enter adulthood without fears or scars.  Many are afraid of being alone or believe that they can’t make it their own.  Fear causes us to enter adulthood with the desire to be rescued by the knight.

Life has beaten many down.  Due to an ex husband or boyfriend who has abused or left us, someone has convinced us that we are  worthless, daddy abused or left us and the list goes on.  As a result a monster was created, just like the fire breathing dragon  in the fairy tale.  That dragons roars and reminds us of how worthless we are and that we will never amount to anything. It causes us to have low esteem, a lack of self confidence or a lack of direction because we believe it.  The fire breathing dragon haunts us and has us cornered.  Many are afraid to step up and slay him. I’m here to tell you that you can Slay The Dragon no matter what you have gone through, I did.

As a teenage mother, I had to face my fears. Not knowing how I was going to raise my daughter and make a life for us terrified me. Fear will cause you to do many things.  It will cause you to head down a path of destruction.  On the other hand, it can lead to your blessings.  By the grace of God, I headed toward my blessings.

I didn’t know where I would end up, but I did knew that it was  the beginning of my journey.  Stepping on faith became a big part of my life.  Holding on my faith, I realized that being penniless didn’t equate to being broken.  I realized that I wasn’t alone.  I placed my hand in God’s and allowed him to lead me along my journey.  My next step was to realize that I was in control of me and my destiny.  No matter what cards life dealt me, I decided that I would become a card shark and play the hand. Sometimes I would win and sometimes I would lose. I just knew that I would not sit idle and allow life to walk all over me.

Each morning I faced my fears.  I prayed for the tools that I would need to make a life for my child and me.  A knight on a white horse was never in my prayers.  I simply wanted to make a way to provide for us.  Asking God for my blessings was a daily ritual.  All I had to do was ask and I would receive.  The next step was to give him the glory and praise that he deserved.

I ventured from the path that God had planned for me occasionally, but for the most part I stayed the course.  God placed trials in our path for a reason.  He wants us to go them in order for us to be strengthened to do his work.   Regardless of your situation, divorce, having problems with baby’s daddy, death or some other loss you can triumph too.  Face your fears, and you will learn to Slay The Dragons too.

Just know, the fire breathing monster will appear just when you think you have everything under control.  Life is full of twist and turns, but don’t despair.  I have accepted that I will have to spend the rest of my life fighting this monster and putting out his fire, but I know the Victory is mine.  Most of all, step out on faith and victory can be yours too.

A Working Mom’s Guide On How To Be Happier

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As mothers, we often work hard to make sure everyone around us is happy. We want our kids to be happy, as well as our spouses and our employers.  But, how often do you do things that make you happy? Your happiness and well-being affect the rest of your family.

All mothers need to make sure they take time for themselves. Working mothers need to make an extra effort since they are pulled in multiple directions every day. Whether you work because you really love your job or because you feel like you need to for financial reasons, you should still do the things that make you happy. Here are a few tips on how to be happier:

  1. Schedule Everything

Invest in a daily planner that you love, or just really utilize that smartphone, because planning out your week will really help you be happier in your day-to-day life. Don’t just use your schedule as a way of staying on task, but write down things you want to accomplish each day, like spending time with your kids. It may seem weird to check things like that off your to-do list, but you won’t view it as a chore.

  1. Get in Sync With Your Spouse

Compare schedules with your spouse and make sure you are both taking the time you need for yourselves. Trade off kid-watching duties so you can go grab some caffeine at Starbucks by yourself and he can hang out with his friends. You both need time to do things that are important to you. In the end, you will both be happier.

  1. Make the Most of Your Commute

We are happiest when we are productive, both at work and at home. Don’t waste your commute to work, especially if it’s long. Use it as time to listen to podcasts, audiobooks or even learn a new language. You may find a new hobby that you love and make the most of time that is precious.

You can also use your commute as a way to cool down after a long day at work by going through pros and cons of the day. Also, try getting into the mindset of going home after work. When you get home after working all day, you should be present with your kids. So instead of thinking about all the things you need to get done at your job, think about how you can spend quality time at home with them.

  1. Learn How to Say No

No could become the most important word in your vocabulary. If you feel like you didn’t spend enough time with your spouse and kids this week, feel obligated to drive them to birthday parties or play dates. Don’t feel guilty if you have to tell other no, even if they don’t like it. Your family is what is most important.

  1. Make Time to Exercise

We all know that exercise can boost your mood and make you feel better about yourself. Carve out at least 10 to 15 minutes each day to get some exercise. Take a walk, pop in a workout DVD or just do some pushups and sit ups each night. You will feel happier and your body will thank you for it.

  1. Plan Intentional Time With Your Spouse

If you want to be happier, make sure your spouse is happy, too. Weekly or biweekly date nights are a must for a married couple. Be intentional with your time together. Turn off your cellphones and don’t talk about your kids’ schedules. Have fun!

  1. Don’t Compare Yourself With Other Moms

Most importantly, don’t compare yourself to other moms because it will just drag you down. It isn’t fair to you and it isn’t fair to those moms, either. You may think they have it better because they get to stay home with their kids, but you don’t know the whole story. Instead, know that you are setting a great example of a hardworking parent for your kids. Know that you are helping to provide for them and don’t take the time you get with them for granted.

Your happiness depends on you making time for yourself and for your family.  Learn how to be happier, and you will live a more productive life.  You may also like 6 Tips to Build Your Self-Esteem.

 

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Jennifer  Landis is a hard-working, distance-running, yoga loving mama, health journalist, and blogger. Find more from Jennifer at her blog, Mindfulness Mama or follow her on Twitter @JenniferELandis.

 

 

 

25 Ways To Feed Your Soul

 

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Our soul is the essence of who we are.  Feeding the soul is different from feeding the body. We feed our body to live, we feed our soul to connect with who we are and to make us whole.  Are you feeding your soul?  If not, we have a few suggestions on how you can get started.     

Feeding our soul awakes our passions. A few benefits are releasing stress, finding peace, and enjoying life. It requires us to connect on a deeper level and it’s as individual as you. What works for one may not work for another, so it requires you to connect with you. Find inner peace and getting in touch with who you really are will lead you to what you really love.   

For me, I find peace and connect with nature. Its beauty touches my soul.  I could literally spend hours enjoying all of its glory.  In the spring the grass turns green and flowers come to life.  It motivates me to become one with nature and it awakens one of my passions, gardening. In the summer I enjoy the sound of the ocean and fall the beautiful colors.

Just sipping a hot cup of coffee while inhaling the crisp air on a fall morning stirs my soul too. I gather fall leaves for crafts and take nature hunts with the kids. These things illuminate who I am and brightens my spirit. Feeding my soul leads me to my voice. 


Here are a few ideas on how you can feed your soul and awaken your spirit:

  1. Take a long walk/hike.
  2. Have a good old fashioned picnic with your husband/significant other.  
  3. Go to the book store and buy a book. 
  4. Pick a bouquet of flowers from the backyard.
  5. Take a drive through the country. 
  6. Plant a garden or a few flowers. 
  7. Listen to your favorite songs. 
  8. Take a bubble bath.
  9. Curl up with a cup of tea. 
  10. Let go of all things and people that cause you stress.  
  11. Take a yoga or meditation class. 
  12. Light your favorite candle and have a cup of coffee.
  13. Attend/join church.
  14. Take a walk on the beach and listen to the ocean.  
  15. Read daily inspirations. 
  16. Watch the sun rise or set.
  17. Refinish or paint a piece of furniture. 
  18. Have a good cry. 
  19. Go sight seeing. 
  20. Get a manicure and/or pedicure
  21. Bake a batch of cookies and enjoy. 
  22. Clean out a closet, attic, or basement and reminisce.
  23. Revisit one of your favorite childhood places. 
  24. Refresh your bedding.
  25. Spend time with your children/grandchild and laugh. 

Start feeding your soul, it allows your light to shine. You will feel rejuvenated, happy, and find the way to great things in your life.

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6 Tips To Boost Your Self Esteem

 

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Do you need a self-esteem boost?  At one point in my life I saw myself as an attractive, sexual, and vibrant woman.  I looked in the mirror one day and I realized that I had bags under my eyes, more gray hair, and I looked tire. I wondered what had happened. When I looked back over the years I realized that I had lost myself.

I had become a wife, mother, taxi driver, nose wiper, bottom cleaner, chef, CEO, house keeper, medicine dispenser, CFO, and it all led to exhaustion.  Being a mother has been my greatest joy.  But I had forgotten that I was so much more.  As women we can become so entrenched in our roles that we can loose ourselves along the way.  We wake up one morning, and wonder what happen to our self-esteem.

Furthermore, I remembering having my house remodeled several years ago.  My main focus was the master bath. I have a huge garden tub that I wanted to refresh.  Additionally, the shower needed a makeover.  So, I decided to install a rain shower head.  Additionally, I wanted to tile around the vanity, shower and tub.

I stood in stores for hours looking until I found the perfect tile.  I even had a seat constructed in my shower so I could carefully shave my legs, and a heated ceramic floor installed.  After the project was finished, I surrounded my tub with beautiful candles and spa towels.  It was my favorite room in the house.  It’s funny, I can’t remember the last time that I soaked in that tub.  Let alone sip a cup of tea and enjoyed the flicker of the flames on the candles.

You may be wondering what I did to get back on top.  Here’s a few tips on how I boosted my self-esteem and placed myself back on the throne:

1.  Know that you’re important – You’re an entity in your home too, and it’s okay to love yourself. Make time to do the things that you enjoy such as having a glass of wine, scrapbooking, reading, cross-stitching, watching your favorite TV show, or playing a computer game. Whatever you enjoy, take time to enjoy it.

2.  It’s okay to not respond to every need that everyone else has – Trying to please very one will wear you out, lead to stress, and health problems. Remember you need your rest too.

3.  Accept responsibility for where you are now –  Don’t blame your kids or your husband, you have the power to say I’m tired I need to rest, I need help or I need time for myself and take it.

4.  Become determined and self-reliant – Do what you can around your house, rather than sitting around waiting on your husband or significant to do everything for you. Take the stress off yourself because you’re waiting for someone to complete a project for you. It could also take the stress of your husband or significant other too.  This includes painting a room, building those raised garden beds, painting the deck furniture, cleaning out the garage etc. There’s some great bloggers out there that show you how.

5.  Stop trying to take on everything – There are no shortcuts in life, it can be brutal at times.  We must learn to let things go, take a deep breath and exhale. Set priorities and learn to walk away when things get overwhelming. Tomorrow is another day, you can get it done then.

6.  Budget your money and treat yourself  – If you are a SAHM, get a pay check for your work inside the home. Purchase a bouquet of flowers for yourself or treat yourself to a manicure, pedicure or facial. Not your thing, buy a new dress and have a monthly date night with your husband or significant other. It will recharge your batteries!

It’s important to reclaim your self-worth and start treating myself like the queen that your are. I have learned that it’s okay to make myself number one occasionally.  Being mom, wife, and grandmother are wonderful roles, but we should never loose ourselves. They aren’t inclusive of who we are.  We hope that you have found our tips on how to boost your self esteem helpful.

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Become the Best You: How to Empower Yourself

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Each year I work to empower myself.  In years past, I have been exhausted by the time December rolls around.  Furthermore, I normally run off the rails with some of my goals.  So, I’m always happy to see the new year come in.

Besides having the stomach flu and spending Christmas Day in bed this pass year, I felt pretty good about where I was in my life.  As a result of being satisfied with where I was in reaching my goals for the year, I asked what I did to empower myself.  Here’s 4 biggest things:

1.  Believe In Yourself – I’ve learned over the years to stop being so hard on myself.  I have a type-A personality so I strive for perfection and want things to be done right.  I’ve learned that things don’t always go according to planned, but that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world.  Tomorrow is another day, and I just need to continue to believe in myself.

In my past life, I would stress when things didn’t go according to plan.  That behavior took up a lot of energy and left me feeling exhausted.  I would literally sleep through the alarm clock and feel like crap for the remainder of the day.  Since I’ve changed my attitude, I no longer set the alarm clock. I wake up refreshed, and I feel good enough to face the day and myself.

2. Turn Things Over to Higher Power – Because some things are beyond my control, I have learned to give it to my higher power. I am a woman of faith, and grow up in the church.  Most importantly, I do believe in God.  I think it is imperative to believe in someone greater than you and I.  Praying, reading the word and than letting things go works for me.  I have found peace with myself.  Furthermore, I have found peace with the world.  It’s not perfect and neither am I.

3.  Think Positive – I strive hard to keep negative thoughts out of my head.  I’ve learned to surround myself with positive people.  Because I surround myself with people that are positive and that I can learn from, my perspective on things have changed.

4.  Make Yourself A Priority – I’ve learned over the years that I’m a valuable commodity.  And I treat myself as such.  No matter what I have on my List Of Things To Do, I make time for me.  I book an appointment at a salon for a pedicure, read a good book, playing games on the computer, take a vacations or just sleep.  Making myself a priority energizes me and allows me to give freely to others.  When you feel good, you do good things.

We hope that you have found our tips on how to empower yourself helpful.  Download the infographic here, and apply the tips to your life.  You will be glad you did.

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How to Empower Yourself Emotionally

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People use emotional intelligent to achieve their goals and to build businesses.  When I went into management 15 years ago, I learned that my emotional intelligence would be just as important as my technical savvy.  I was expected to lead the organization’s visions whether I agreed with them or not. Your job is to get your employees on board and implement the plan.  I knew that I would need to be physically and emotionally healthy.  At the time I didn’t have a game plan, but self-improvement and self-development became a priority.

Emotional Intelligence is about self-control.  It’s about having absolute control over your emotions and your life.  It’s portraying  confidence and a high level of self-esteem even when you don’t feel it.  I always think of the saying, “Never let them see you sweat” when I think of emotional intelligence.  I read every book that I could find on emotional intelligence and went to work on myself.  Since management was the last rung on the ladder of my career goals, I was determined to be successful.  My job was to manage a team of IT Specialists and help oversee a million dollar computer system.

I empowered myself by incorporating the following tips into my life.  This included on the job and in my personal life:

Learning to Say No – There’s power in that 2 letter word. It’s one of the most powerful words in the English language and has served me well over the course of the years. At one point I didn’t know how to say no. I was the go to person for everybody in the family. It started wearing on my health, so I had to make a major change in my life by deciding what was my problem and what was theirs. I learned to leave them with their problems.  As a result, they had to grow up and take responsibility for their life.  That freedom empowered me.

Learning to Relax – I started focusing on hobbies that I enjoyed, but neglected. I started scrap booking, crocheting and making other crafts. It’s important to found things you enjoy and just unwind.  It empowers you.

Let Go Of GuiltOnce I learned to say no I also learned to let go of guilt. I would feel guilty if I didn’t do what was being asked of me. Now I say what I mean and mean what I say.  Let the door hit you if you don’t like it. It is so freeing and empowering.

Focus on Solutions – I always told my employees to bring a solution when they bring me a problem. Being a part of a solution is empowering.  It’s simple, write down the problem and than write down a solution.  Make changes to your solution when or if it is needed.

Stay Positive – A positive attitude will take you a long way, and you will feel better about yourself.  Who wants to follow someone with a bad attitude?  People want to connect with positive energy.  They find it empowering!

Exercise RegularlyGet some form of exercise everyday.  I had to change my attitude toward exercising.  I hate it and would find any exercise to avoid it.  Previously I thought if I couldn’t get at least 30 minutes in it was unproductive.  So not true, 10, 15, 20 minutes is better than nothing.  I still haven’t mastered this one I’m a work in progress, but I do understand the importance and benefits so I’m striving to get better each day.

The biggest lesson that I learned on my emotional intelligence journey is that our emotions drive our actions. Your emotions can lead to your success or your failure.  Become determined to not allow anybody to move you unless you choose to be moved.  This determination has required me to remain emotionless at times.  I have learned that people look for reactions, and when you don’t give them one they have to rethink their game plan.  The greatest satisfaction is walking away and seeing them with a puzzled look on their face because you didn’t give them what they wanted.  That is empowerment.

Women’s issues still need to be dealt with in the business world. There are still men who think that women are too emotional and shouldn’t be in leadership positions.  On the other side of the spectrum, there are other women who try to press your buttons because they don’t want to see you successful either.  Prepared to endure both if you want to be successful.  

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How To Deal With Toxic People

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For the past few months, I’ve felt a little down.  I’ve felt heavy, fatigued and at times ready to just throw my hands up in dismay.  Why, a toxic relationship. I have learned over the course of the years to pay attention to my body and how I’m feeling. Once I get in touch with how I’m feeling, I step away and assess why.    

I ask myself, what’s new in my life?  How do I feel after an encounter with a family member or friend? Is there something going on at work that’s bothering me?  I ask these questions so I can pinpoint what’s happening. At times I feel this way because of a stressful situation at work, but the majority of time it’s a toxic person who’s spawning poison my way.  Toxic people will affect your health and pull you down.

Over the years, I have learned that I stayed in relationships or friendships way too long.  I never liked giving up on people or things without giving 100% of myself, but I’ve learned that the other party must be willing to give 100% of themselves too. If not the relationship is one sided and I must walk away. Walking away has gotten easier for me, no relationship is worth me suffering or not getting my needs meet.

I come from a toxic family.  My mother is as toxic as you can get. So, I am quite familiar with toxic people. Toxic people usually come from a dysfunctional background.  They’re usually harboring deep envy, anger or jealousy.  If they don’t get their emotions in check, they manifest in a harmful way.     

Here are 5 toxic behaviors that I look for:  

Dishonesty – People who hid the truth or don’t tell the truth.  In my opinion, one is as bad as the other. When you’re not honest about who you are, what you’re doing or what’s happening in your life you’re depriving the other people of the ability to make judgments that are beneficial to them.

Ignoring You – When a person doesn’t return your calls, respond to your text messages or make time for you it can affect your self-esteem.  My motto is if I’m not a priority, you wont’ be one either.  Nobody is so busy that they can’t find the time to respond in some way.

Blaming Other People -Toxic people always blame others for their issues and problem.  They create drama, but try to turn things around and they become the victim.

Sabotage They underhandedly and sometimes overtly try to sabotage your happiness and goals. Deep down they really don’t want you to succeed and always find something wrong with what you’re trying to achieve.

Toxic people will pull you down – They can and will eventually affect your health and your emotional well being. Their behavior causes drama and/or conflict and whatever the situation is the outcome will be negative.

I have learned to run in the opposite direction from toxic people or limit their presence in my life. I see absolutely no benefit to having them around. They’re like quick sand, they pull you down little by little and eventually you find yourself up to your neck in crap.  Who needs it. Learn to recognize and deal with toxic people before they grab hold of you and pull you down.