When Cheating Hits Homes

When cheating hits home.  Two women, one man.  General Petraeus, a 4 star General, brought down by a beautiful woman who completely lost control and felt threatened by another woman.  No, not his wife but a friend of the Petraeus family.  It seems that his mistress felt threated by another woman who was a friend of the Petraeus family, so she decided to send her a few communications to the woman who she perceived to be a threat to warn her to stay away from her man.  Did you follow that?  The mistress comes jealous and starts stalking, not the wife of the man she is sleeping with, but another woman.  Could it be karma, the same way you get them will be the same way you will loose them. 


As you can see, these women are completely different in physical appearance.  His wife in the top photo and the mistress in the bottom photo.  I don’t know if it is a conincidence, but the wife looks miserable and the mistress looks happy. 

General David Petraeus, Director, CIA.  You wonder how a man of this kind of power, wealth and prestige could allow his reputation and life to be tarnished forever.  A man that has been married for 37 years and his mistress who is also married with 2 children.

General Petraeus has resigned from the CIA.  His reputation will be forever tarnished.  He has betrayed the trust of the public and his position as the head spy in the United States.  He has also betrayed the trust of his wife of 37 years. 

Relationship Experts give 10 reasons for cheating spouses/partners:

  1. They Had The Option
  2. Ego Boost
  3. Individuals In The Relationship Are Growing Apart
  4. They’ve Fallen Out Of Love
  5. Continuous Arguing
  6. Sex Life Is Boring
  7. To Get Revenge
  8. It’s New, Different, and Exciting
  9. To See If They Can Get Away With It
  10. You Allow It

Read my post You Cheating Bastard  I wonder if Holly Peatreus will forgive her husband or if she will say Get Out You Cheating Bastard!  I’m going to take half of everything you have, and go on with my life.  Will she seek revenge or have an affair of her own?  How do you ever trust someone again who has betrayed you?  I hope Holly Petraeus’ heart heals soon from this painful and public betrayal.  I also hope that her husband’s black heart heals too. 

Have you been on the receiving end of a cheating husband/partner or have you been the cheater?  How do you handle the situation?  Did you forgive?  Leave us a comment, you could help someone who is experiencing this kind of pain. 


Photos courtesy of AP.  

Cheaters Never Win

How would you feel if you husband fathered a child outside of your marriage/relationship with one of his close friends and business partner?  Oh, lets forget close friend with anyone for that matter.  Would the fact that the close friend and business partner was at the hospital sharing in your joy with you and your husband plunge the knife in a littler deeper?  Would the fact that the close friend and business partner rode home in the limo with you and your husband after the delivery drive the knife in deeper.  Would the fact that the close friend and business partner attended the ballets and school graduations send you over th edge. 

A similar story has taken place in Connecticut.  Eric Fischer said he saw the red flags when his youngest daughter was born, but for 15 years he loved her and raised her like she was his own.  As time went he, he couldn’t ignore the fact that she looked nothing like his oldest daughter.  Finally, he decided on a DNA test.  As he already knew deep in his heart she was not his, but in fact the close friend and business partner of his wife’s. 

When I first read the story, I thought how sad is that.  Another case of baby’s daddy.   How do you betray another person in that manner?  How do you explain to the child that I’m not your father, mommy’s friend is.   These are not people who were in a relationship, but a married couple.  How do you sleep beside someone for 15 years, knowing what you’ve done?  People like this scare me.  This is a person who has no conscious.  People who have no conscious are capable of anything.  Of course the couple divorced.  How could a marriage survive after that kind of betrayal.

Let me tell you Eric Fischer didn’t take it lightly.  Oh no he didn’t.  He decided to sue baby’s daddy for every dime that he spent on the child for the 15 years that he raised her as his own.   The court decided that $195,000 would suffice for the reimbursement.  Eric Fischer was initially turned down by a lower court for the judgement.  The court stated that he “had held himself out to be the younger daughter’s father, that he had caused her to rely on him to meet her financial and emotional needs, and that revealing her true parentage after she had been led to believe for her whole life that [Fisher] was her father, would be detrimental to her emotional well-being.”  I wonder about our legal system at times.  What true man would want to believe that a child his wife just gave birth to wasn’t his.  He didn’t give up the fight and took it to the Supreme Court.  They overturned the lower court’s decision and is now allowing Mr. Fischer to return to the lower court with a new judge to fight for the $195,000. 

Will money compensate for the betrayal of his wife and her lover?  We know the answer to that is no; however, it may set a precedent to others who believe that it’s okay to play with a person’s heart and head.  Will this betrayal have a negative effect on the little girl?  I’m sure it will.  I’m hoping that the court will give his ex-wife this award: 

Let her explain the betrayal and the true meaning of marriage to her daughter.  I know there are many couples who have children they are raising that don’t biologically belong to one or the other.  These decisions are made freely and lovingly.  I think Mr. Fischer has a right to know the truth, and he also had the right to decide that he would not raise a child that was not his.  I hope that he can find peace and the daughter can recover from the infidelity as well.  Leave me a comment, I would love to know your thoughts on this story. 

A Mother Loves No Matter What

I’m sure each of you have been following Tiger Woods story. I watched his apology last night, and my reaction was dang another man apologizing for their cheating ass ways. I’ve lost count of the number of men that I’ve watched on TV apologizing for straying. Seriously people, what’s up ?

Several things crossed my mind while watching his apology. First, I was so glad his wife was not standing beside him. Secondly, I noticed his mother sitting front and center. My first reaction was she’s an attractive and classy woman. Most importantly, she’s a mother standing by her son. I applaud her for demonstrating her love no matter how bad her son behaved. That’s what we do as mothers isn’t it? No matter what our role never changes.


As far as Tiger, I’m sure he regrets his actions more than he could express through words yesterday. Watching him reminded me of one of my favorite shows, Cheaters. You’re always sorry when you get caught. In my opinion, that’s what money and power can do to you if you’re not grounded. Hopefully, he will put his life into perspective and get his priorities straight.


For the women who lowered themselves into being his mistress you think you deserve an apology. For what may I ask? You knew you were sleeping with another woman’s husband, why in the hell should anyone apologize to you. Tramps! Yes, I called you a tramp and I have few other adjectives for you. What did you really get out of this? The title slut, mistress, hole, and a few moments of fame while you discussed your affair? If you truly understood the meaning of marriage and family, you wouldn’ have allowed yourself to sleep with him. You must be proud of yourself. My advice is to set some standards and get your own man. Learn how to keep your legs closed to another woman’s husband and you won’t find yourself in an unwanted spotlight.

To his wife Elin I wouldn’t want to be in your shoes, but you’re holding the trump card girlfriend and you get the last laugh. I would suggest that you take Ivanka Trump’s advice, hell don’t get mad get even.

Note:  Photo courtesy of Daily Mail.