Dads Are Winning Custody of Their Children

 

 

winning child custody

Are you going through a custody battle for your children?  You should know that dads are winning child custody. Yes, fathers are obtaining primary or joint physical custody.  Furthermore, they are winning 70 percent of the time.  As a result, more fathers are becoming the primary care giver of their children.

How and why are men achieving this position? Here’s several reasons:

    • They are becoming more involved in their children’s upbringing. They are changing diapers, giving baths, reading books, and fixing meals. Mr. Mom has become a reality.
    • They are educating themselves on how to win.  Instead of convincing the judge that the mother is unfit, they spending their time convincing the judge that they are just as fit. 
    • Women are emotional. Men are proving they are more stable emotionally and they are using intelligence to win.
    • More men are willing to spend the money on attorney fees preparing for the fight. They are taking the time to seek the best representation in court.
    • Not only are they willing to pay the attorney’s fees, they are seeking child support from the mother in certain cases. If they receive joint custody, they are asking that the amount of child support be lowered or they not have to pay support since they are responsible for buying diapers, milk, cloths etc. when they have custody.
    • Men are forming support groups and learning from other fathers who have won custody.

Men are proving they can provide a more stable environment because they have a bigger pay day.  For example, they are willing to give up the two seat vehicle and bachelor pad. They are buying homes with backyards and SUVs to ensure they have room for the children and excursions.  This thinking is leading to dads winning child custody.  

The days of having to prove the mother unfit are over ladies. I know, I watched my brother win custody of his two sons.  I have not only watched my brother win custody of his sons, his son just won full custody of his son.  Men winning child custody is becoming more and more realistic.

After the separation from his wife, my nephew was ordered to pay child support.  Additionally, he had the usual court order which states the visitation rights, and how much he was to pay in child support and when.  He decided to obtained a new attorney and won joint custody and no child support the second time around. What was different the second time? His attorney focused on the fact that he had a better job and medical benefits.  Furthermore, he owned a home and his son’s grandparents were within a mile to assist him with the baby’s care.  Most importantly, they were available to provide child care and there was no better environment for the baby than his grandparents when he was working.  The change occurred within a 3 month timeframe.

He decided to go back to court a few years later to obtain full custody.  Because his son would be entering school full time; it would be impossible to split time between the two homes.  Even though his ex had gotten remarried and had another son, he decided his son would have a more stable home with him.  Most importantly, he wasn’t willing to miss time with his son.   He obtained his lawyer’s assistance and geared up for another fight.  This time he would be fighting for full custody.  He won!  He now has his son in his care 24 x 7.  As a result, his ex has visitation rights.

I’m proud to say that I’ve watched my son-in-law with my grandchildren.  There is no doubt in my mind that he would not fight for joint custody of children. The thinking of young men these days is quite different from my generation. Most men in my generation did not seek custody, they were happy paying child support and having their freedom if there was a divorce.

In conclusion, it seems that if it’s impossible to keep your marriage together mothers may have to gear up for a fight.  Because dads are winning child custody at an unprecedented rate.  

Ideas for Cheap Halloween Costumes

Looking for inexpensive ideas for Halloween or playtime costumes?  Here’s a few ideas that you can start with:

  • Punk Rocker
  • Princess
  • Super Hero
  • Doctor
  • Ghost
  • Cowboy
  • Hippie
  • Farmer


Start with the children’s dress up clearance racks in your local stores or better yet head to the thrift store for items that you can convert or use as part of the costume.  If all else fails, head to yours or your kids closet and see what can be converted.   Buying Halloween costumes at the end of the season for next year’s use is a good idea too as well as from sales. 

You can put a pair of bib overalls and an old plaid shirt together for your son’s Farmer costume.  Can’t find a pair of bibs, what about a pair of jeans with a rope belt.  If you have a old handkerchief around, hang it from his back pocket or an old pair of work gloves from the Dollar Store.  Add a straw hat and a galvanized bucket to collect the treats and you’re good to go.

A Ghost is an easy one.  Buy an old sheet from the thrift store and get to work on the eyes, mouth and nose. 

Go for the mismatched, I don’t care what I’m wearing Punk Rocker look.  You can head to your child’s closet for this one.  Find a sweater, pair of leggings with a skirt, rip a few holes in an old pair of jeans, mix polka dots and stripes, whatever.  Spike her hair in some manner, add some funky earrings and bracelets from a discount store and add tons of make-up, which she will love.  Sneakers will work with this look or a pair of boots. 

Know a Nurse or Nursing assistant?  Seek out old scrubs or a lab coat.  You may be able to find them at your local thrift store.  If you can sew, cut down an old pair of scrubs to fit your child.  Buy a toy doctor’s kit with a stethoscope and use the medical bag to gather treats.  Print out a label to identify your little doctor.  If your child decides to be a surgeon, don’t forget the shower caps to cover their head and shoes.

A Hippie is an easy one.  Rip a pair of old jeans and insert fabric to create bell bottoms.  Tie dye a tee-shirt with your child.  Tie a bandana around his/her head.  If it’s your daughter, create an afro or curly hair effect.  Top off your costume with a poster protesting a cause or just make a colorful peace sign. 

Use your imagination and be creative.  The possibilities are endless.  If you have ideas, please leave us a comment so we can share with other readers.  We would love to hear from you. 

Little Mermaid BluRay & DVD Give Away

One of Disney’s most loved movies, The Little Mermaid, is coming to you on Blu-Ray and DVD October 1, 2013.  Mother 2 Mother is giving away copy just in time for you to use during family time this fall and winter. 

Ariel, the free spirit and courageous mermaid princess, will come to life in your living/family room.  Watch as Ariel, a free-spirited mermaid princess, longs to be
part of the human world. After bravely striking a bargain with Ursula, a sneaky
sea witch, Ariel embarks on the adventure of a lifetime. With Flounder and
Sebastian at her side, Ariel will need all of her courage and determination to
make things right in both her worlds.

You can own this DVD by entering our give away.  Here’s how:  Leave a comment with the name of another Disney Princess.   (Mandatory)

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  • This give away will end October 3, 2013 at mid-night.  Entries are open to US and Canada residents 18 or older only.  The sponsor will provide the winner with the Blu-Ray/DVD combo directly.  Please ensure your email address is valid.  If your email is not valid, I will select another winner for the give away.   

    Disclosure:  I have been provided a copy of the Blu-Ray/DVD as compensation for this post.  I have not been compensated in any other manner.

    How Do You Eat An Oreo?


    How do you eat an Oreo?  My granddaughter takes the cookie apart and eats every bite of the creme and than eats the cookie.  Be warned, this method can be messy, but look at that face.  She wouldn’t look up when I called her name for either of the pictures, but she did let me know that she wanted milk.  Moments like this are priceless!  What’s your child’s favorite cookie? 

    Fireworks Over the Beach

    Hope everyone had a Happy Fourth of July.  Little late getting pictures up, but wanted to share a few fireworks over the beach.  How did you spend the day?  

    New Winner – Oral B Electric Toothbrush

    We have a new winner for the Oral B Professional electric toothbrush.  The new winner is entry 85.  You have 3 days to respond to the email from Mother 2 Mother requesting your mailing address.  If you don’t respond within 3 days, you will be disqualified. 

    Thanks for participating in our give aways and congratulations to our new winner. 

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    SnapBox Review and Give Away



    I was asked to do a review for SnapBox.  I had never heard of the company, and decided to check them out before I committed.  Once I visited the site, I agreed to the review and so glad that I did.  If you’re looking for a unique gift, you should check them out too.  They specialize in canvass prints.  The process is simple, you email your photo to the email address provided.  You will receive a return email with instructions, choose the size of your print, provide a mailing address and they deliver your print within 5 days.  It’s as simple as that. 

    You can choose from 5×5, 5×7, 8×10, 9×9 and 10×13.  Prices range from $13.00 to 37.00, and worth it.  The finished product is on a canvass like material that comes ready to hang.  I decided to order a print of one of my favorite sunsets for my office.  I was thrilled with the end result.    It arrived as promised and packaged wellYou just need to find a spot to hang it!   

    SnapBox allows you to email photos from your smartphone, Instagram or your home computer.  How technically savvy is that?  When I emailed my photo, the return email was almost instant.  You’re not waiting around or checking your emails all day or night to complete your order.  They’ve taken into consideration that we have other things to do.  The craftsmanship is of quality.  As you can see, the frame is nice and thick and the print flawless.  

    I’ll be ordering from this site again.  I’ve decided to give each of my girlfriends a photo for their birthdays this year from SnapBox.  A photo of us at a birthday celebration, a baby shower or a trip that we’ve taken together.  Something that will bring back memories from years ago.  The possibilities are endless, and will make a great gift. 

    SnapBox wants you to experience the beauty of their products too.  They will allow one lucky reader to purchase up to $75.00 in free prints on their site.  Here’s how you can win:

    Visit SnapBox and than come back and leave a comment on what photo you would use and who you would give the print to.  If it’s for you, that’s okay too.  (Mandatory)

    Extra Entries:  

  • Leave a comment on another post – 5 entries
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  • Follow my garden blog:  A Diva’s Garden
  • This give away will end April 20 at mid-night.  Entries are open to US residents 18 or older only.  The sponsor will provide the winner directly with a code to access the site and order your prints.  Please ensure your email address is available and valid.  If your email is not valid, I select another winner for the give away.   

    Note:  This review is my opinion of the services and product provided by SnapBox for review.  I have not been compensated in any other manner. 

    No Dyed Eggs For Me!



    This year I decided to
    not dye eggs.  As a matter of fact, I won’t be dying them ever again.  I will be
    exposing my grandchildren to a variety of naturally colored eggs.  I have been
    blessed with light brown, dark brown, white, green, pink and light blue eggs for
    my edification.  Who needs dye!  The photos don’t do the color of the
    eggs justice.  I’m able to purchase these eggs fresh, and the only date stamped
    on the egg carton is the date that I write on an Avery label.  I even provide
    the egg cartons. 



    I want my
    grandchildren to learn about nature and all its beauty.  I want them to be able
    to share unique experiences with classmates and have special memories when
    they’re visiting me.  I want them to remember grandma cracking colored eggs for
    their omelets and brownies.  I can’t wait to hear the giggles. 


                                                                      Jersey Chicken


                                                                    Black Cochin Chicken

    Speckled
    Sussex Chicken

               
                                                                        Easter Egg Chickens
                                                                         

    I’ve started purchasing fresh eggs a year ago.  Here are some of the chickens that work to produce my order.  I place my order and the next day the eggs are retrieved from the hen house and brought to me.  I’ve never been into chickens, but I think the black Cochin chicken is beautiful.  My grandparents had chickens on their farmette, but they where just your regular chickens that laid white eggs.

    If I could withstand the smell and cleanup, I might invest in a few of these beauties.  Okay, that thought didn’t last long.  I’ll just continue to purchase them when I need them. What do you think about my colorful eggs?  Do you have chickens?  If so, what kind.

    Happy Easter!
     

    Aimee’s Babies – First Year Milestone DVD Review


    I was approached by Aimee’s Babies, a child development company, to review their First Year Milestones DVD.  I was excited and accepted their offer.   The first thing that I noticed when I opened the package was that the cover didn’t have any children of color on it.  My initial thought, this company has limited potential buyers.  There is absolutely nothing on this DVD cover that would make a women of color stop and take notice.  My next thought, would it have ethnic babies in the video.  People are drawn to products that they can relate to.     

    I decided to keep an open mind and see what the video was about.  The DVD is broken down by chapters.  It focuses on various stages of development from the ages of newborn, 3 months,  6 – 9 months, and 12 months.  Each stage focuses on the 5 senses, touch, smell, taste, sight and sound.  The various stages teach you to understand reflexes, color, stimulation, balance, and social development.  It was quite informative throughout all 4 stages. 

    Lets start with newborns – It teaches the importance of music.  It was nice to know that it could be any type of music and not necessarily Mozart.  It also stated that babies see things in black and white up to 3 months.  At that stage red becomes a great stimulus for baby.  It stressed the importance of touching and massaging your baby, swaddling him or her, and allowing them to become familiar with your scent.  The DVD encouraged mothers to alternate sides during feeding so the baby could be stimulated from different directions. 

    The DVD moved on to 3 months – The focus was the same, the senses, tummy time, stimulation, and balance.  At this stage the importance of talking to your baby, using wrist and ankle rattles, and implementing at least 20 minutes of tummy time per day was stressed.  Using mirrors was also emphasized.  The DVD demonstrated an exercise that I would never try.  It required the mom to place their sitting baby in a large blanket while she swings it from side to side.  The exercise was for helping the with baby’s balance.  I personally wouldn’t try it and neither would I suggest it.  I was quite surprised that someone would be encouraged to try it.   

    At 6 – 9 months, the baby’s weight should practically double.  They should be able to see more colors, notice themselves more, crawl or move around while holding on to things.  It still focused on the senses and stimulation.    

    The DVD moved on to the 12 month stage.  Here babies were pulling themselves up, crawling, climbing stairs, walking and in jump ups.  The DVD encouraged moms to allow their babies to walk bare foot, use soft sole shoes or grip socks.  It stated that babies could start walking between 12 and 18 months.     

    My opinion after reviewing the DVD, it contained detailed, educational material with everyday moms and their babies at various stages.  No Hollywood glamor or glitter.  It wasn’t overly long and it keep my attention.  I think it would be a great baby shower gift for a new mother.  Would I buy the DVD for $16.00 plus $4.00 shipping.  No, I think there are  better products on the market for $20.00.  Would I buy it for less, possibly, and I’m not talking about $19.99.  

    For ethnic mothers or mothers to be, there are no mothers or babies of color featured in the DVD.  There is an African American father at the newborn stage with his baby.  It seems than an entire segment of consumers were missed when this video was made and marketed.  If you have no issue with this fact, I recommend that you check it out.  If you don’t believe that you can relate to the DVD, I recommend that you check out Aimee’s Babies site.  They have other DVDs, an adorable onesie and other products that may be of interest.   

    Note:  This review is my opinion and my opinion only.  I received a copy of the DVD for review; however, no additional compensation was received.