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How to Build Self Esteem After Divorce

Today, I’m sharing empowerment tips on how to build self-esteem after divorce.  First, have you lost your self-esteem after a divorce? I have a little advice for you, “Take yourself off the clearance rack and get behind the glass case”, my friend.  Stop treating yourself like a clearance item rather than a diamond behind a glass case.  If you don’t see yourself as valuable who will.  Being a divorcee doesn’t mean the end of the world.  I’ve been through one, but I learned to place myself in the glass case years ago.   Building self-esteem will empower you.  So, lets get started.
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Women often loose their self-esteem after a divorce.  They become single parents, they take on the responsibilities of the children, upkeep of the house and everything in between.  Their needs often go on the back burner.  As  a result, we become lonely and often loose our way.

So, when we have low self-esteem we have a tendency to look for love in all the wrong places.  And, we settle for less than we deserve because we think we can’t do any better.  I’m here to tell you that you that building self-esteem and self-worth will keep you from many of those mistakes.  When you do, things in your life will change for the best.

Now, find your self-esteem and self-respect before it sinks to the bottom of the ocean.  All that you need is inside of you.  We all come from something, but we can’t go through life blaming everyone else for our demise.   Here’s my story, I came from an alcoholic background and I was a teen mother.  I made bad choices, but those things don’t define who I am.  Those things are simply a part of my journey in this thing called life.  I’ve used the steps below to help in building my self-esteem.

 

How to Build Self-Esteem After Divorce:

 

  • Develop some standards and principles – These are the things that define who you are.
    Learn to distinguish between abuse and constructive criticism – Abuse will tear you down and leave you feeling worthless.  Constructive criticism will help you improve who you are.
  • Become self sufficient – Needy people open themselves up to becoming a doormat.  Become self-sufficient. It helps build confidence and self-worth.
  • Get healthy – When you get healthy physically, it will improve your emotional and mental health as well.
  • Get rid of negativity – This includes negative people and negative thoughts about yourself.
  • Change your circle – Socialize with successful people and those who respect you.

 

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  • Know the difference between respect and confidence – Respect is about what you do, confidence is about how you feel.
  • Show respect for yourself and others – If you want people to respect you, you must respect other people.
  • Learn to remove yourself from destructive situations – If a relationship is not nourishing or helping you to grow, get out and move on.
  • Motivation – Get motivated and stay motivated. Don’t allows others to bring you down.  Read self-help books, attend seminars or get a mentor.  Just stay in your zone and stay on course.
Finally, know that you won’t evolve over night.  However, you can change negative thoughts about yourself and discover your self-worth again.  Raising your self-esteem after divorce will take dedication and hard work, but you can renew you.  Most importantly, underneath the layers you will find a respectful and confident you.  
So, we hope that you have found our tips on how to build self-esteem after your divorce beneficial. You may also like: How to Empower Yourself Emotionally and Improving Self Esteem.


  

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Turn It Up Tuesday – Week 41

                                Welcome to the 41st week of Turn It Up Tuesday!

Can you believe that 4th of July is literally a few days away? Where has this year gone??!! This week, we’d love to see your Independence Day themed posts, your summer posts, and your vacation posts. Don’t feel limited to just these kinds of posts though – share anything you like! We’re just happy to have you all!
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Thanks so much to everyone that joins us each week and makes this blog hop the best that it could be!
As you may know, Turn It Up Tuesdays is all about being happy, excited, energetic…and having fun! Link up your favorite posts and meet some awesome bloggers in return! Link up your funny stories, DIY posts, recipes, mommy moments — anything at all, as long as it is family-friendly. We want to laugh, be entertained, be inspired, and have a good time!

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Ce Ce chose Red, White, & Blue Jello Cookies from Mommy on Demand. “It’s almost 4th of July, everyone needs a good red white and blue dessert for your party!”
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Cindy chose 5 Tips to Keep Social Media Fun from Satisfaction Through Christ. “Candice gives us great reminders of how to behave online.  My new pastor is my Facebook friend so I am more aware than ever about what I post!”
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Jillian chose 32 FREE Pretend Play Printables & a HUGE Cash Giveaway from My Joy-Filled Life. “I chose this post because I remember LOVING pretend play as a child, having these printables would have been awesome. I’m sure loads of kids would have fun with them.”
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Karen chose DIY Recipe Plate from The (mis) Adventures of a “Born Again” Farm Girl.  “I see similar things to this recipe plate on gift websites, so to think you can create it effortlessly in your own home is great. Great tutorial, Mindie – looking forward to having a go at it!”
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Katie chose Personalized Handprint Wall Art from Home. Made. Interest. “I love how Melinda made this! What a great way to capture a moment in time before everyone gets bigger! I love that she included the dogs’ paw prints, too! Just adorable!”
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Shana chose Pinterest: 0 to 1,000 Followers in 151 Days from The Coconut Head’s Survival Guide. “I was a little skeptical when I clicked on the post titled “Pinterest: 0-1,1000 Followers in 151 Days,” thinking it may be some slimy sales pitch, but then I breathed a sigh of relief when my browser took me to ‘The Coconuthead’s Survival Guide” (a trusted Turn it Up Tuesday community member and awesome blogger). Holly does not disappoint, candidly sharing tips that she learned from experience in just a few months. A very helpful read.”
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Jessica chose 4 Things I Want My Kids To See Me Doing. from MacDonald’s Playland. “What a beautiful post! These are things I definitely would love to see my children too. As parents, we are the first teachers in their lives and simple things like these will go a long way.”
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Stacey chose Bacon Wrapped Meatloaf Medallions from Almost Supermom. “The hubby has been wanting to cook a meal together, and looks like something great for us to do together. They look very tasty, too! LOL! Thank you so much for sharing!”
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Natasha chose 8 Tips For Easy Flights With Kids from Living Frugal with Erika. “I was able to take advantage of a few of these tips (before seeing this post of course) on my most recent flight with my son. I wish I had the full list though; it would have made the trip that much easier! Great tips!”
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4 Things I Want My Kids To See Me Doing. from MacDonald’s Playland
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It All Starts With You

Trenton Shelton

Make The World Respect Your Greatness.  That was Trent Shelton’s message this week-end at Dream Chasers in Richmond, VA.  I’m a big fan of Trent Shelton.  I’m a lover of his quotes and I have read several of his books.  He’s a great motivator.  I missed him when he was in my area, so I decided to pack a bag and check him out at a venue several hours away with my sister.  My sister is a Life Coach at Full Steem Ahead.  It was so worth it.  If you’re not familiar with him, check him out here.  If he’s in your area, go see him.  He’s a great motivator and keeps it real. He’s funny, thought provoking, and has a genuine way of getting his message across.  His audience is diverse, but mainly consists of women of all ages and ethnicity.  



I was impressed with this young man’s story.  He was a star football player at Baylor University, which is a private Baptist university in Waco, Texas.  Trent was drafted into the NFL; however, he didn’t excel as he had hoped.  Listening to his story, he didn’t come close to being a star in the NFL although he earned a good paycheck while he was there.  As a matter of fact he stated, “When I was financially stable, I was depressed.”  He spent time partying, running women and just throwing his life away. He was eventually cut from the NFL and had to figure out what he was going to do with  his life.   He finally accepted that he had to turn his life around, and so he did.  


He now shares his story across the country and internationally. What I like about this young man is that there is no glamour, special effects or a big show when he’s speaking.  He just speaks from the heart, shares his story as it happened, and tells you how you can turn your life around too.   Trent stated, “Success was the foundation for my failure.”   Funny, we spend so much time and energy reaching for success.  He’s a perfect example of how quickly you can fall or on another note, how you don’t always reach the destination that you have set for yourself.  Maybe God has another plan for you too.  


He spoke for about an hour, and I didn’t drift away once.  I actually took notes, because I know that God is not done with me yet either.  I’m still learning and growing.  Trent is young enough to be my son, but I learned from him this week-end.  You never know who is being sent to teach lessons that you need in your life.  He is articulate and engaging with the audience.  At one point in my life, I may have judged him with the dreads, tattoos, and the hat turned around backwards, but he is an educated young man who knows his mission in life. Never judge a book by it’s cover.  You must seek to know what’s underneath that cover.  


I mentioned that the majority of his audience was ladies, and his lesson was Make The World Respect Your Greatness, right.  At the end of his speech, his assistant made an announcement that I found shocking.  I had just listened to this wonderful speech and this is a summary of what I heard next: Trent is available to take pictures with you; however, those who wish to take pictures with him are expected to keep your hands to yourself.  Can you believe it?  Yes, ladies show some respect for yourself and show respect for him. If you can’t follow that, we will remove you from the building.  I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.  It seems that his messages were being missed by a few ladies in the audience, and he needed to let them know that he wasn’t interested in being touched or touching them.  If this message was directed toward you, you may have your answer on why you’re disrespected by men and why your life is out of control.  I applaud this young man, he’s focused on his mission.  


My turn – ladies get a grip on yourself and get a grip on your life.   If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t possibly Show The World How Great You Are.  This is the message this young man was sending.  I’m sending it to you now, please grab hold of it and allow it to sink in.  Allow it to permeate every corner of your being.  If you don’t, nothing will ever change for you.  You will remain where you are and you will continue to be disrespected by the people in your life.  I urge you to get a copy of his book, Breaking Your Own Heart.   Why?  Because It All Starts With You. Who’s your favorite motivator, and what lesson have you learned from them?   



How To Freeze Fresh Corn

Today, I’m sharing gardening tips on how to freeze fresh corn.  Fresh corn will be on the market this summer, and you don’t want to miss out.  I love it grilled, in soup, in chowder, boiled, fried you name it.  My favorite corn is Silver Queen. It’s a late corn, but so worth the wait.  Freezing corn is a yearly ritual for me, so I’m going to show you how to freeze fresh corn.  Shucking it is another issue, but I found a solution to that too.  Check out my post on How to shuck corn in the microwave.  It’s one of my best backyard vegetable gardening tips.  

 

 

 

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I shucked, blanched, cut off the cob, and froze about 100 ears last season.  Preparing corn for the freezer is easy and so worth it.  I purchase my corn from a local farmer.  He sells it at a bargain rate. He removes the corn from the stalks the day before you pick it up.  So, it doesn’t get any fresher than this.  Purchasing fresh corn this way saves space in my garden for other goodies too.

 

 

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How to Freeze Fresh Corn: 

 

 

  1. Shuck and remove all silk from the corn on batches of 10 – 15 ears.
  2. Boil them for about a minute or two in a large stock pot.

 

 

 

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3.  Have an ice batch ready for the ears of corn.  I use my sink.  This should be completed before you start the boiling process.  An ice bath is imperative in your preparation of the corn for the freezer.

4.  Remove the cobs from the boiling water after 2 minutes and immediately place them in the ice water bath.  The ice water will stop the cooking process.  This is important because you don’t want to cook it as if you’re preparing it to eat.  Although I do leave a few cobs in the boiling water, because I do want to eat them later, lol.

 

 

 

 


5.  Once the corn has cooled down about 5 – 10 minutes, cut the corn off the cob in a large bowl.  I use an extra large bowl and a chef’s knife to remove the kernels. I also use the corn holders on one end, it makes it easier to handle the corn while removing the kernels.

6.  Once I have the kernels removed from the cob, I pack quart freezer bags.  Buy quality bags and make sure the bags are sealed properly or use a vacuum sealer.  If you have one sitting in a cabinet, now is a perfect time to use.  I don’t bother to date the bags because they will be gone by spring. You can use a permanent marker to date the bags.  However, in my household they will all be gone my spring. 

 

 

 


 

Quart bags are perfect for my household.  I can just pull out a bag for soup, mix with green beans, fry it or however I want to use it.  It’s as fresh as it was the day I purchased it.  Put a few bags in your freezer to use this winter.  You won’t regret it.  Stay tuned for my post on blanching tomatoes and green beans.  


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We hope that you have found our tips on freezing fresh corn beneficial.  You may also like our tips on 10 Benefits of Vegetable Gardening too and how to grow sweet corn.

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