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Kids Parties: Ladybug Themed Ideas



Planning a Ladybug Party?  Try these adorable ideas that we used for Miss Muffin’s first birthday.   The kids will love them, and you will be the best party planner ever.   We made chicken salad the night before and the yummy ladybug crackers about an hour before the party.  There’s plenty of chicken salad left over from my recipe below to make regular sandwiches for the adults and for you to make sandwich later after an exhausting day. Here’s what you will need:


  • Ritz crackers
  • Grape tomatoes
  • small black olives 
  • chicken salad or cream cheese   

Spread cream cheese or chicken salad on each Ritz cracker.  Place 2 slices of the cherry tomatoes face down to form the wings.  Place a tooth pick through the olive and stick through the chicken salad to form the head.



The bug mobile was a bug hit.  No, the last bug is not a a typo.  It was truly buggy.  We transformed the yellow school bus with ladybug wings from a Halloween costume and eye lashes that were made for Volkswagen. As you can see, the kids couldn’t wait to take a ride.



We had this adorable cake made, and it was a perfect center piece for the food table.  We added ladybug balloons, red and black table clothes and red and black paper products from the dollar store.  Use your imagination, the possibilities are endless.  

You may also like my chicken salad recipe for the crackers:  Creamy Chicken Salad

Cancer Patients Can Fly Free

Cancer patients can fly free to cancer treatment centers around the country free regardless of age.  Corporate Angel Network works directly with patients, family members and corporations to coordinate travel needs for cancer patients. Corporate Angel Network is the only charitable organization in the USA who arranges travel for cancer patients to treatment centers, using the empty seats on corporate aircraft flying on routine business. Patients can fly free aboard corporate jets that have empty seats as well.
My father passed away from cancer years ago, but it still seems like yesterday.  Fortunately, we live a few hours away from two of the best medical centers in the country, John Hopkins University and the University of Virginia. We utilized John Hopkins during his surgery and treatment.  My the grace of God, we were able to cover the medical expense that was not covered by his insurance.      


I know that everyone is not as fortune, so I think it’s important to share information so those who need assistance can have a resource and can seek help.  During my father’s journey, I met so many incredible people from around the world who had traveled to John Hopkins for various reasons. Many would be in debt after their struggle, but they were willing risk everything for their loved one.  


I know the feeling, that’s why I think it’s important to tell you about the Corporate Angel Network. The program is open to all cancer patients, bone marrow donors, and bone marrow recipients who are not in need of medical support while traveling. Finances are not a consideration, and patients may travel as often as necessary.  

Five hundred of America’s top corporations, including 100 in the Fortune 500 have partnered with the Corporate Angel Network.  More than 35,000 flights have been coordinated since it’s founding in 1981. Patients needing air transportation may call (866) 328-1313, a toll free number, to register within three weeks of an appointment at a recognized cancer treatment center. You may also email Corporate Angel Network at info@corpangelnetwork.org. Provide a phone number in your email where you can be reached. The organization can’t guarantee a flight, but they work diligently to assist you.

This service may not be needed by you, but it could be worth a million dollars to someone that’s following you or in your circles.  Please share this post.  We wish all who seek assistance the best in their endeavors.


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Turn It Up Tuesday – Week 32

Welcome to the 32nd week of Turn It Up Tuesday!
Thanks so much to my fellow hosts and our April team and to all of you for making every week so successful!

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Ann chose I Wished My Girl Was a Boy from Courtney Conover on Mamalode. “I really appreciate when a blogger shares their true selves. I read blogs to get to know how others feel, how they cope and Courtney shared with such honesty that I was drawn in and felt like a secret was shared. I look forward to reading more from Courtney.”
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Natasha chose Why Silence Makes Me Scream from Surviving and Thriving in the Second Year of My Divorce. “Oh wow – what an experience Kat! But you hit the nail on the head; silence definitely drives us nutty. It is so simple to just reach out with a simple text saying something. Silence goes from worry and concern straight to anger over a period of time. I’m glad that you recognize the reason why this bugged you so much, and I’m glad that you were able to gain some closure with John. Wishing you the best!!!”
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You Are Not The Father

You are not the father!  You are not the father! I lost count of the number of times that I heard this statement while watching daytime TV today.  I know that it was more times than I heard You are the father.  I know I should have been spending my time more productively, but I just didn’t feel like it.  Do you ever have those days that you just want to do nothing?  I’ve been having quite a few lately.  


I digressed back to the show.  One lady had been on the show 14 times for a DNA test, 14 times.  Now I’m not going to sit here and pretend to be all innocent.  I’m not, and I have problems with people who can’t be real and be truthful about who they.  I’ve had a good time throughout the years, but I do wonder how a woman would not know who her baby’s daddy is.    


I watched these young ladies state they are 150% sure they know who the father is, but the DNA test proved otherwise.  Not only were they told the young man who stood accused was not the father, they endured being called out of their name by the young men.  There were young ladies who slept with brothers, fathers and sons, and some who didn’t know who they slept with because they were in a drunken stupor.  Now the party is over, and reality is hitting them hard.  Rather this show is real or not, incidents like this occur everyday.  


I decided to switch channels and found myself in a court room watching a judge determine if the men standing before them were the fathers of children being displayed on a screen.  There were more DNA tests, but there were slight differences from the other show.  Some of the people in the court room were married couples and the wife strayed.  There were men and women some who had hooked up years ago, but never married and the child was now seeking the truth about paternity.  

Between the two shows, I started thinking about all that these young ladies would have to endure as a single mother and all that they would endure through their parenting journey.  I started thinking about the young people who had gone through a part of their life not knowing the truth about who their father really was because of their mother’s poor judgement.  I also started thinking about how important DNA tests had become in today’s society to determine paternity. Have we made a wrong turn in society to the point that we need a test to determine who our children’s fathers are? 

Are we not teaching our children about birth control or waiting until they are married?  I understand women have found a new awakening, and they don’t have a problem getting their freak on. This includes young ladies who aren’t really responsible enough to take on such a huge responsibility.  I can relate to being a single parent and all the struggles as a young mother.  For this reason, I stressed the importance of protecting herself and not becoming a single parent to my daughter.  As mothers, we want support emotionally, financially, and physically, but if a man is not your husband they can’t be depended on to help provide those things for us.   


One thing that I noticed was although the young ladies had sex with these young men, nobody was calling the young men out of their names.  Some things never change, it’s the women who are looked down on.  I also understand why young men want DNA tests, it seems that young ladies give themselves so freely and they do so without thinking of the repercussions.  There’s enough blame to go around.  As a parent, I didn’t preach absenteeism to my daughter.  The chances of your child remaining a virgin until marriage are slim to none.  If you’re successful in achieving that goal, my hat is off to you.  I did preach about the struggle of being a single parent and the importance of protecting herself from disease and an unplanned pregnancy.  I stressed the importance of educating herself, traveling and achieving her goals before she took on the responsibility of parenting.  Having these conversations with you child is so important.  You can’t just have them in passing, it must be a constant so it can take hold in your child’s mind.  


Are you discussing sex with your child?  How are you approaching it or how do you plan to approach it?    


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Ronald McDonald Gets A Makeover

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Do you remember Ronald McDonald and the cast of characters in McDonald Land?  I loved the Hamburglar and Officer Big Mac.  In recent years Ronald McDonald  and his friends have made few appearances on TV or any of the McDonald’s restaurants.  It seems his character is a thing of the past except for his appearances relating to the Ronald McDonald House.   With all the negative publicity about the fat grams in their food and mothers suing because their children want Happy Meals, and they just can’t tell them no.  It seems that McDonald’s has decided to place their focus on their coffee rather than their burgers.

 

 

It’s rather sad that a cast of characters have been abandoned.  I loved taking my daughter to play in McDonald Land Saturday afternoons when she was growing up.  She ate a happy meal every Saturday, and she’s healthy and happy.  I find it rather disturbing that obesity is being blamed on corporations such as McDonald’s when in fact the parents should take responsibility for their own inability to control their child’s diet.  I guess it’s easier to point the finger at somebody else rather than look in the mirror and say I’m the problem.  My parenting skills need some work.

 

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It also saddens me that you can’t find McDonald’s characters incorporated into their playgrounds anymore.  Children should be allowed to use their imagine and be carefree.  I would love for my grandchildren to see Officer Big Mac, Mayor McCheese, Grimace and the Fry Kids.  Instead McDonald’s is changing their marketing gimmicks to the more sophisticated consumer.  They carry iPads, text, and sip lattes, mochas, cappuccinos and espressos.   The new consumer is sophisticated.  Unfortunately, I guess all good things must come to an end.  I must accept the fact that we’ve entered a new millennium.

                                                                                     Photo courtesy of Daily Mail

Stop! Wait!  Meet the new Ronald McDonald.  McDonald’s recently gave him a makeover or at least a new outfit. Does he look creepy?  Should the designers left him in his original clothes? Tweeters are debating.  McDonald’s wanted to update Ronald and have him take on a new role on Twitter.  Most importantly, tThis Ronald will be moving into social media.   As a matter of fact, he will be tweeting for the corporation using the hash tag #RonaldMcDonald.   Additionally, McDonald’s plans to bring Ronald into the mainstream later this year.   

However, from my perspective I think Ronald looks handsome in his new outfit.  And I can’t wait for my grandchildren to see him at upcoming events.  Finally, I hope they will bring back the other adorable characters.

8 Reasons Dads Are Winning Custody

 

Dads are winning custody.  Times have changed and most courts are no longer awarding child custody to moms just because they’re mom. Many years ago moms getting custody was the standard.  They were given custody in divorces or in relationships that didn’t work out.  This is no longer the standard.  There’s a new generation of men, and along with them comes a new attitude, a new perspective and a battle for their children.  News Flash – they’re winning.  

I’ve watched four of my nephews over the years win custody of their children. Yep, four.  I’m proud to say they’re doing an excellent job of raising their children too.  When the first nephew went to court, I thought his chances of winning were slim. He came ready for the game, hit the ball out of the park and walked away with his son.    

The second, third and fourth nephews followed with custody battles for their children.  They all came out winners. The first nephew that I talked about shares custody with his son’s mother; however, she knows that she better walk a straight and narrow line or on it’s on again and he will win.  As a matter of fact, his son is now old enough to tell the court who he wants to live with.  If he has to choose, it will be his dad.  The second and third nephews have have full custody of their sons and the fourth has shared custody of his daughter as well.      

Here’s a few reasons why dads are winning custody from my perspective:

1)  They established paternity in the hospital, and ensured they were involved in all aspects of their child’s upbringing.  They were involved in feedings, changed diapers, and provided financial, emotional and physical support from day one.  

2)  Women today have outdated thinking.  They still think the man owes them, they don’t realize the importance of being self-sufficient.  Not one of my nephews relies on the system for food stamps, medical care or anything else for their children.  They buy food, clothes, provide insurance, pay for recreational activities etc.  They are not handing money over to mom for child support, they pay for the purchases directly and track the expenses.  Judges are impressed with the bookkeeping, and the majority of the time the money spent exceeds what they would be required to pay in court.     

3)  Men are involved in their children’s recreational activities, attend parent and teachers conferences, assist with homework etc.  There’s no mommy or daddy duties.  They can perform as well as mom.   

4)  They established joint custody early.  They have their children from infancy at least half of the week.  They are smart enough to have established days of custody and times documented.   Because they have joint custody and have the children at least 50% of the time, they are not obligated to pay child support or pay very little.  Their money goes toward the expenses in their own homes for their children.  

5)  They are able to provide a stable environment that is not subsidized by taxpayers/the state. The first nephew owns a home, two have townhouses, and the fourth is working on purchasing a home.  Judges love saving the state money.    

6)  They are involved in community service, coach their children in sports, and strive to set examples.  Their children are taken to shows, professional games, have yearly birthday parties, summer vacations at the beach, involved in other family activities and attend church.  

7)  They consistently strive to improve educationally and professionally.  Two of my nephews have opened a business together while raising their children.  None of them are stay at home dads. They know they have to work in order to provide for their children and themselves.  They’re doing it all, and each of their children are excelling all around.  Judges are impressed with their ability to parent and provide.    

8)  They obtain legal representation who come out swinging.  None of my nephews played dirty in their efforts to seek custody.  They won on their ability to parent, their character and their desire to be in their children’s life.        

It’s a new day, and if we as women don’t change our thinking and get in position to win many may find themselves on the outside looking in.  Not all men are interested in finding out if the grass is greener on the other side when they have children and their marriages and relationships don’t work. Some are making their children a priority, and they don’t need a women to assist them. They have family and community support, and they’re putting it to use in a positive way. 

When I say educate yourself and get in position, it doesn’t have anything to do with being a Welfare Queen or any other stereotype from the 70’s and 80’s.  This type of thinking is what I’m talking about in Reason 2 and why men are winning. There’s nothing wrong with seeking assistance to get on your feet, but it should not become a way of life.  The world has changed and you need to become aware of what’s happening around you.  Society is now seeing things differently, and men are seeing their roles differently.  

Not only have I watched four nephews seek and win custody, 2 of the four were awarded to their father in a custody battle 25 years ago.  I’m not on the outside looking in, I’m on the inside witnessing the battles go down.  So I speak to you from first hand knowledge.    

You must put on your suit of armor and gear up for the fight if you believe you could end up in a custody battle.  It is rare that a storm hits without warning.  These are not men who are involved in drugs, abuse alcohol, beat their partners, or hang out in clubs. I’m talking about real men who are willing and capable of raising their children.  From one mother to another, are you prepared for the fight?  

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Children’s Even Monsters Book

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This post contains affiliate links.  I made be compensated if a purchase is made.   First, a  copy of the book Even Monsters was provided from Source Books for review.  However, the review of the book is my opinion alone.

Children either love monsters for they’re afraid of them. Both of my grandchildren were afraid of the dark.  My grandson had a fear of the front door at night.  Unfortunately, both my daughter and I have front doors that are flanked by a window that allows you to see outside.  So when darkness arrived, my grandson would constantly look at the door.  Additionally, my granddaughter was afraid of the dark too.  Both have gotten better as they have gotten older.  Even so, it’s difficult to watch when your children are afraid.

Even Monsters is a great book. It is adorable and beautifully illustrated.  Most importantly, children who are afraid of monsters learn that little monsters are just like them.  Children learn that there’s no need to be afraid.  It’s a great book for those who aren’t afraid of monsters too.  Children will be able to relate to Glubb, the adorable little monster in the book.

Also, Even Monsters teachers children that little monsters have to change their underwear, eat their meals, and go to school.  Furthermore, Even Monsters like to play video games, play soccer, brush their teeth and go to bed on time.  The concept is creative and is appropriate for ages 2-8.  It’s a great bedtime story and perfect for story time with grandparents.  Add this book to your children’s reading list.  Make it a bedtime favorite when your child is feeling frighten or anxious.  You can purchase the hardback book hereYou may also like Sugar Plum Ballerina Books.

 

About AJ Smith: Illustrator/author AJ Smith  specializes in silly stories and funny drawings.  AJ has illustrated eleven books  for children in the educational market. Previously, he worked as an  animator/designer in NYC on fun shows like Courage the Cowardly Dog and Sheep in  the Big City.  AJ lives in Newburyport, MA.  For more information visit:  Even Monsters

 

Should Dads Purchase Bras?

Should single dads take their daughters to get bras or should they seek the assistance of a woman in the family? As mothers, we just take on the responsibility when the times arrives, but what about dads?  There are many situations today where moms and dads co-parent.  There are also situations where dads have primary custody of their daughters. When I was growing up, this was basically unheard of. My how times have changed. Today there are gay couples raising daughters, single dads raising daughters, widows raising daughters, grandfathers raising granddaughters, uncles raising nieces and the list goes on.  


Purchasing a bra is no longer the sole responsibility of moms.  At some point our little girls, regardless of who’s raising them, will start growing into young ladies and they will need a bra. When I look back on my childhood, I can’t imagine my father taking me to the store and purchasing a bra for me.  I was raised in a traditional home, bras and feminine products were my mother’s responsibility.  Had he been widowed, I think he would have reached out to one of my aunts or another family member.  


Decades later, I am proud to say that I have nephews who have primary custody of their children and who co-parent.  I think my dad would have been proud and very supportive of them taking on this responsibility.  He would have seen this as a demonstration of character and a demonstration of the morals and values that have been instilled in them.  He probably would wish they would have made wiser choices with the young ladies, but none the less he would have been proud.  I’ll save how this all came to fruition in another post.  


As I’ve watched them help raise their children, I’ve often wondered if the two who are co-parenting daughters are prepared to take the step of purchasing a bra when the time arrives.  The endeavor has been made easier for parents these days.  Young girls are now wearing bralettes.  Yes it seems that our young ladies no longer refer to their first bras as training bras, but bralettes. Bralettes, which resemble undershirts but are cropped can be purchased from Target to Macy’s. They are the rage with young ladies now, they come in a variety of colors and stretch as they develop.  


Their are several benefits to bralettes:  1)  Young ladies no longer have to be measured, 2)  Dads and daughters don’t have to endure the embarrassment of going to the store and asking for assistance or measurements.  Bralettes can purchased in sizes 4 – 6x and 7-14.    


As I thought more about it, I decided that I didn’t need to ask my nephews if they were ready for this step in parenting their daughters.  I decided if they loved their daughters enough to fight for and win joint custody, they certainly love them enough to take on the responsibility of purchasing a bralette, and yes I believe they should purchase them if they so desire


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15 Ways To Embarrass Your Children

Are  you embarrassing to your child?  Do you look like this when you drop your child off at school in the morning or pick them up?  Has your child asked you to drop them off a block away from their destination so they won’t have to explain to their friends that you’re their mom or dad?  If they have you may want to rethink how you’re presenting yourself in public.  

A child’s biggest fear is that you will embarrass them in front of friends and school mates. Think about it, didn’t you have the same fears growing up.  I remember looking at my mother and thinking, oh God what is she going to say or do now.  I didn’t have those kind of fears with my father.  That’s probably because he was asleep the majority of the time that he was home and when he was awake, he didn’t say much.  His biggest wish was that we would just be quiet!    


It could also be because he was more sensitive to us as children.  He understood the reality of embarrassing parents.  My mother not so much.  If it hit her mind, it came out of her mouth or she would act on it.  That could have been the stress of raising 7 children, but as a child you don’t understand stress.  You only remember the moments that you wanted to crawl under a rock and hid. Have you wondered if your child is feeling the same way?   

Here are few ways to embarrass your child for sure:    


  1. You argue with the referee and other parents at sporting events.
  2. You show up at their school wearing curlers.
  3. Your at the mall and your pants keep falling down.  Your underwear is showing, but you pretend not to notice and keep walking.   
  4. Your sweat pants are too tight.
  5. Your clothes have holes in them or they’re outdated.  
  6. Your hair looks like you just jumped out of bed, and a hairbrush hasn’t crossed your mind.     
  7. You pick up your child in a car that is backfiring and smoking.  
  8. You show up at an event with a bad make up job.  
  9. You get a gold grill, you want to be cool too.  
  10. A few of your neon green fake nails are missing and you don’t bother to replace them.
  11. You buy matching outfits for you and your teen daughter.  
  12. You show up at events drunk or high. 
  13. You use slang trying to be cool in front of their friends.  
  14. You call them by their nick names in front of friends.  
  15. You jump out the car and kiss them in front of school mates or friends.  
While writing this post I found myself laughing at quite a few of these scenarios, but you can best believe they have happened.  We feel embarrassed by our kids at times, and I just wanted to bring a few things to your attention as parents that may embarrass them.  Hopefully we won’t scar them for life, they will just look at us as another weird parent. 

What are some of the things that you parents did to embarrass you or you’ve done to embarrass your child?  We would love to add it to our list.  
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10 Tips for Single Parents

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Raising children as a single parent, whether you’re a mother or father, can be exhausting.  It takes focus, strength and determination to succeed, but it can be done.  If we accept that each and every one of us are where we are because of decisions that we’ve made, we will be more willing to make better decisions.  Life doesn’t have an eraser, and as long as we continue to make bad choices we will come up short. Life is not perfect, we will all fail from time to time.  Don’t let poor decision making n’t be what’s driving you if you change your attitude and perspective.  

When you decide to change courses, drive will be what takes you from Point A to Point B and beyond.  If you don’t have any drive get some.  You must be willing to dig deep inside of yourself when you feel you can’t go on and you must be willing to make sacrifices.  Life isn’t easy, and the world doesn’t owe you anything because of you’re a single parent.     

I have educated myself, went up the Corporate Ladder, purchased a home, have a savings, take several vacations a year, college educated my daughter, and I’ve done it all as a single mother. This is not a boast, it is a fact.  You have to decide how you want to live and want kind of life style you want to offer your child.  I decided that I would not have others pay for my choices and whoa me would not become a part of my mind set or vocabulary. I wanted to set a great example for my daughter.  I wanted her to have every opportunity available to her in this great country, and I didn’t ever want the words “I didn’t have an opportunity because my mom is a single parent” to come out of her mouth.       

Most importantly, I was determined to not allow my judgement in a relationship to define who I was as a person or as a mother.  I refused to allow myself to fall into the stereotypes that society has set aside for single mothers. Have you noticed that single dads are praised for their endeavors, but women are looked at differently?  Unfair maybe, but it is indeed a fact. I refused to depend on the system to take care of me or my child.  I have no regrets about my decision!  I believe the system should be a stepping stone if it’s going to be used.  Many may disagree, but that is my belief and I’m sticking to it.  

Here  my tips to help you succeed as a single parent: 

  • Start with you.  Decide that you’re going to make it and nothing will stop you. You have to be focused and determined. 
  • When the going gets tough, dig deep within and find the strength.  Know the strength is there and your child or children need you to plow on. 
  • Listen to your intuition.  It is usually right.  I’ve lost count of the number of times I looked the other way when I should have been paying attention to that little voice inside.  
  • Decide that you’re going to be a good example for your children.  –  Become the person that you would like them to be.  (Think about the characteristics that are important to you, honesty, reliable, etc.)  
  • Remember the world doesn’t owe you anything. – You need to make your mark and become self sufficient. You’ll feel much better about yourself.  
  • Come up with a plan –  You must plan in order to be successful.  Decide what you want to do and what you need to do to accomplish your goals.      
  • Find support either on-line or in your community.   – You’re not alone.   
  • Always make your children a priority.   – You can balance a job and your home.  Women do it every day.  If you need to enhance your skills before seeking a job, get in a program where you can get assistance.  Finding balance is key.  
  • Don’t neglect yourself.  – You need to feel good about yourself.  When you feel good about yourself you’ll achieve more.  
  • Find a higher power or church. – It’s important that you believe in someone or something other than you.  You will be calling on them for strength and support along your journey.     
Please share some of your struggles and how you’ve overcome them as a single mother.  There may be someone who can relate and build on your tips.